"You're tall. You don't want to get too skinny."
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happyheart15
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Have any other tall women been told that since you're tall, you shouldn't try for a lower weight? I'm 5'9, and I've been told that I "shouldn't lose too much weight" or should "stop at a size 12" and that I "shouldn't get too skinny" since I'm so tall. But I don't see what's wrong with wanting to be around 150 or size 6. I don't think that's "too skinny" at all. Just because I'm tall, I have to stay slightly chubby? It's not like I'm trying to be 110 pounds or a size 0. But I think a size 6 is pretty reasonable. I want to be healthy, fit, strong, and slim, and be in the single digits in clothing sizes for the first time in my adult life. Well honestly, I wasn't even in the single digits in middle school. I see no reason to stop at a higher size.
Can any other tall women relate?
Can any other tall women relate?
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I'm 5'9" and hover around 155lbs and slowly have been trying to get down to the 140s. I've been accused and questioned of eating disorders despite being a healthy BMI. When people do this, I shrug and change the subject. There's no point in engaging with them because I know that I eat around 2,000 calories daily and don't need unwarranted input on something that's none of their business.
Because society as a whole is generally overweight, most people don't even know what a healthy weight looks like. So I pay no heed to their comments because I'm doing what I am doing for me and no one else.21 -
I've had a friend in the past who said the same things to me; I'm almost 5'8". I'm sure when my friend said it it wasn't intending to be discouraging; however, it's frustrating when you are trying to make positive changes for yourself and your body that others seem to attempt to slow you before you've really begun!
Do what's right for you and your body! Exercise, eat healthy, and don't worry about naysayers - once they see that you're happy and that you're not dropping to unhealthy weights, they will see they were wrong2 -
I think people lose track of what healthy actually looks like because so many people are overweight to some degree. So far this has worked in my favor because I'm 6' and everyone thinks I'm a liar when I state my body weight.18
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I'm 5'10" and 130lbs, 150lbs certainly did not look "too thin" on me (though the low 120's were getting there) when I was there. I honestly think a lot of these "tall women must be much heavier comparatively than their shorter counterparts" arguments spring from how normalized overweight and obesity is now.7
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erienneb66 wrote: »I think people lose track of what healthy actually looks like because so many people are overweight to some degree....everyone thinks I'm a liar when I state my body weight.
Exactly! I've had similar experiences and its mind blowing to see that people are really unaware of this epidemic we have going on.
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Yes, yes, yes. I'm 5'8" but still when I hit 150 (in the past...) people started telling me to stop3
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Maybe because the slimmer you are, the taller you seem? I'm 5'11'' and when I was obese I seemed shorter, once I lost the weight I looked so much taller people were asking me if I'd grown, I'm like dude I'm 40, no growth spurt happening here People can be weird commenting about height/weight but as long as you are a healthy bmi, it's your choice what to have as your goal14
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I think your goals are perfectly reasonable. I haven't had too many people comment negatively on my goals or weight (my dad is the only one), but I don't share them with many.4
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Those comments usually come from people who are same height and with your weight loss you are closing in on them. It has nothing to do with you, just about their insecurities.11
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JessicaMcB wrote: »I honestly think a lot of these "tall women must be much heavier comparatively than their shorter counterparts" arguments spring from how normalized overweight and obesity is now.
Agreed. People at healthy weights look so much thinner by comparison to the average person in the US, so the assumption is they're too thin because they're below average weight. Overweight is our new norm.
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Color me the confused guy.
I guess 5'9" is considered tall in female circles.
Growing up, I knew some tall girls... 6'4"... and higher.10 -
stanmann571 wrote: »Color me the confused guy.
I guess 5'9" is considered tall in female circles.
Growing up, I knew some tall girls... 6'4"... and higher.
5'4" is average women's height.14 -
Thank you everyone!3
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Haters... Don't listen to them4
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stanmann571 wrote: »Color me the confused guy.
I guess 5'9" is considered tall in female circles.
Growing up, I knew some tall girls... 6'4"... and higher.
Where in the world did you live?
There were a couple women I knew in high school taller than me, but at 5'10" I was one of the taller ones.
I am still around a size 10-12 at 150 lbs. currently a 12-14 at 158.5 -
stanmann571 wrote: »Color me the confused guy.
I guess 5'9" is considered tall in female circles.
Growing up, I knew some tall girls... 6'4"... and higher.
Where in the world did you live?
There were a couple women I knew in high school taller than me, but at 5'10" I was one of the taller ones.
I am still around a size 10-12 at 150 lbs.
One of my nicknames in school was f'n Amazon. And I didn't even hit 6 foot. So yes, 5'8" and above for females is generally seen as tall.
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Even we short folk get told not to lose too much or you'll look skinny. For some reason, people seem to think that when you start losing weight you'll be so thrilled you'll go hog-wild and end up underweight.
While I know that happens occasionally, given the stats on weight loss, I'm thinking that isn't the highest probability outcome.
I wouldn't read too much into it.7 -
stanmann571 wrote: »Color me the confused guy.
I guess 5'9" is considered tall in female circles.
Growing up, I knew some tall girls... 6'4"... and higher.
Where do you live because I want to go to there. I'm a 6' woman and got ridiculed constantly for my height. My husband is 5 inches shorter than me and you'd think I'd have slapped someone's kid people get so upset when they see us together.16 -
I'm 5'8" and at 170/size 12 my mother would tell me I was "getting too big"
At 155/size 10 she wanted to know if I had a problem because I was getting too skinny.
Some people are just never happy22 -
stanmann571 wrote: »Color me the confused guy.
I guess 5'9" is considered tall in female circles.
Growing up, I knew some tall girls... 6'4"... and higher.
Where did you grow up?
At 5'8" I was the tallest girl all throughout school. I was so happy in high school when the boys finally started catching up5
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