Feeling guilty after small slip ups
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tdavis1994
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Does anyone else feel so guilty after going over there calories? Yesterday I went over by 100 calories and felt extremely guilty when laying in bed last night. Couldn't stop worrying that I had ruined my progress and would fall back into old habits. How do other people deal with this kind of thing?
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Self compassion
Welcome to the human experience where no one is 100% perfect all the time8 -
Nope. And unless you're set to maintenance, you were still in a deficit.9
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None of us are perfect, and we all experience life. Don't beat yourself up; start afresh with your next meal. You can do it.2
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Yes! I feel like I've fallen off the wagon these past 3 days due to celebrations that I attended. We are human and our own worst critic. We just need to stop feeling the guilt and keep moving forward. ...with maybe one less glass of wine! Haha. Wine calories are killing me!3
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If you normally run a 500 deficit and go 100 over your goal one day, that means you have a 400 cal deficit. This is not a disaster. Focus on the facts!10
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I used to. Then I realized one day that beating myself was doing nothing positive for me. As already said, you still had a deficit, just smaller, so no, it won't ruin anything here and there. It's consistency over time.
The stuff you were saying to yourself last night while thinking about it... would you say those things to me, if I told you I had gone over by 100 calories? If the answer is no, then you need to show yourself more compassion.5 -
I am over by 1,670 calories today. The 1,300 Dairy Queen Blizzard didn't help. My daily calorie goal is set to only 750 under maintenance. That means I am about 1000 calories over maintenance. It may slow my progress a little, but is just a blip in the grans scheme of things. As long as it isn't an every day thing, I will be just fine.9
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I've found fretting about small slipups just makes things worse. It's a lifestyle, not a race or marathon. We won't be perfect all through life, so we can't expect to be perfect now. Just calmly take mistakes in stride and if you're like me, forgiving yourself will make you better, not worse, at this. 1
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I acknowledge that I screwed up, acknowledge that I don't feel good about screwing up, acknowledge any negativity that comes with it, have an outlet to vent, and then let bygones be bygones. We are humans and we make mistakes. It is ok.
The key for me (as is taught by vipassana meditation) is embracing whatever negative emotions which might surface, accepting them as they are and knowing that they have their place in your mind for a reason. By learning how to universally accept whatever emotions you feel, you learn how to be loving with yourself and your thoughts, even at times of negativity. Slowly, not only will these negative emotions decrease in intensity, but you will also be able to let go of them and move on a lot quicker. Good luck to your journey! Metta!9 -
No. I struggle in different ways. Not over 100 calories. Maybe over 1000 calories I might get a bit...fidgety.4
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We are human... we will make mistakes, weather it's done deliberately or not... as long as you got back on track... pay yourself on the back!!!2
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One hundred calories is not going to cause any harm. Obsessing about it will cause harm. Always being over is not good, but it's perfectly reasonable to go over by small amounts (like 100 calories) every once in awhile, and to go under by small amounts occasionally too. It's what you do over and over again that causes problems.2
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We are human... we will make mistakes, weather it's done deliberately or not... as long as you got back on track... pay yourself on the back!!!
100 calories isn't even a mistake. Heck, calorie counting is a guesstimate anyway. Statistically, 100 calories is nothing even if one's calorie goal is at maintenance.4 -
Here's what I tell my kid and what my Mom used to say to me. "Don't waste time being sorry. Fix it, get over it or start over."
(Only applies to normal mistakes. Being a dick you should feel sorry about first. THEN fix it, and move on. You can't start over with other prople, just yourself.)3 -
If you normally run a 500 deficit and go 100 over your goal one day, that means you have a 400 cal deficit. This is not a disaster. Focus on the facts!
This.
Understanding the weight loss arithmetic is hugely empowering.
If you've been losing a pound a week, then eat a thousand calories over goal, you've delayed reaching your final weight goal by two whole days. As long as it doesn't happen often, big whoop-tee-doo.
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I know a hundred calories isn't a big deal. It's more about the huge amount of guilt and how upset I get at myself when I have a slightly off day. I am trying to learn how to not be so hard on myself. And I have so much fear I will fail because I need to change so badly.2
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I feel for you but you do need to be hard on yourself 100 can soon be 200 !and then 300. You need to get a grip and not make such basic mistakes. There is no progress without pain and commitment6
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I feel for you but you do need to be hard on yourself 100 can soon be 200 !and then 300. You need to get a grip and not make such basic mistakes. There is no progress without pain and commitment
Going 100 calories over for one day would barely cause any damage. It's less than half an ounce for the entire week, and it can easily be averaged out by someone who follows a weekly goal.4 -
I feel for you but you do need to be hard on yourself 100 can soon be 200 !and then 300. You need to get a grip and not make such basic mistakes. There is no progress without pain and commitment
Pain? I strongly disagree. It's not that we sinned, thus got fat, so need to suffer in penance - LOL.
I lost 50+ pounds in less than a year, by setting a reasonable, achievable calorie deficit, learning what/when I personally needed to eat to get adequate nutrition and feel satiated most of the time, then stuck to that the overwhelming majority of the time, letting myself go over goal once in a while for special occasions.
It's about learning how to eat in a healthy, satisfying way permanently. Yes, we have to have guidelines, but they need to be sustainable, too.
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I feel for you but you do need to be hard on yourself 100 can soon be 200 !and then 300. You need to get a grip and not make such basic mistakes. There is no progress without pain and commitment
I don't see this as being helpful or productive in any way shape or form. I'm all for tough love when it's appropriate, and will dole it out, but kicking someone who is down and already kicking themselves is unnecessary. 100 calories over the deficit, still leaves a deficit. She's still in an overall negative net, so doing just fine.4
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