WTF Dude.

BeautifulMe322
BeautifulMe322 Posts: 110 Member
edited September 30 in Health and Weight Loss
I know when walking to kitchen I am going to ruin my calories and my work out from this morning. I know when eating the ice cream that it is happening yet I can't stop myself. WTF is wrong with me? Anyone else have this problem? How do you convince yourself? Any tricks? I allow myself whatever I want in moderation... however most of the time I forget the moderation part :(
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  • barbarajean3
    barbarajean3 Posts: 132 Member
    Honestly you have to learn to tell yourself no and mean it. Moderation doesnt seem to be working right now, so you may have to go cold turkey and gradualy add in stuff.
  • rosalee87
    rosalee87 Posts: 221 Member
    if I have a whole icecream sandwich in front of me and I said I was only going to have half - I eat half and I know if I put it in the freezer I will want to go back and pick at it again until I finish it so I normally just ruin it by adding things like mustad or ketchup etc to sweets then throwing them out...I know it's wasteful but it helps me.
  • lutzsher
    lutzsher Posts: 1,153 Member
    My trick is to ALWAYS bring out my little bowls or small cup and have what I want but portion out a small serving only. Never eat out of the container or have more than a small portion at a time.
  • abraam
    abraam Posts: 25
    I like to buy frozen yogurt or healthier comfort foods so that I don't feel as bad if I do splurge. Don't beat yourself up about it, just push yourself and try not to do it next time. Good luck on your weight loss journey!
  • dorisbrockman
    dorisbrockman Posts: 1 Member
    Watch your carb intake.. When you eat carbs it turns into sugar.. Always eat a protein with the carb so it balances out. That will help with the craving of wanting more.. The more carbs you eat, the more you want..
  • skinnymeinaz
    skinnymeinaz Posts: 384 Member
    I am not sure how to answer your questions because the answer is different for everyone. I also allow myself to eat whatever I want in moderation....I cut or take a portion and walk away from the area. If I feel like going back for more I ask myself if having more will help me get to where I want to be?

    Here is a quote that helps me ~ "Giving up something today for something better in the future is not a sacrafice, it's an investment"
  • JMun
    JMun Posts: 409
    It's so hard to offer advice because it's such a mental game. Comfort eating is crazy. You have to completely change how you make yourself feel good without using food.

    I tank water and then wait 10 minutes when I find myself peering thru the kitchen cupboards. Drink 2 full glasses of water and then go sit down and think about what I want to eat and why. Sometimes I eat... sometimes I don't.

    I often pre-count my calories for most of the day first thing in the morning. Then I can stay focused on numbers and it helps me avoid eating my feelings when I have calorie numbers bouncing around my head.



    Hope that helps :heart:
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    Keep the ice cream out of your house. Whenever you want to allow some in moderation, go buy an ice cream cone from McDonalds (150 calories). Go through the drive thru so you can't go back for more.
  • Derameth
    Derameth Posts: 58 Member
    I know when walking to kitchen I am going to ruin my calories and my work out from this morning. I know when eating the ice cream that it is happening yet I can't stop myself. WTF is wrong with me? Anyone else have this problem? How do you convince yourself? Any tricks? I allow myself whatever I want in moderation... however most of the time I forget the moderation part :(


    If you are writing everything down and you don't mind putting down all that extra food, then moderation is NOT working for you. STOP doing it. Until you can control your behavior then you have to say no. Sometimes (like me with some foods) I will never be able to control my behavior so I don't buy them/make them. Then Viola, I don't eat them. You can do this..
  • Helice
    Helice Posts: 1,075 Member
    Im exactly the same. You just need some one to grab the tub and ****ing run with it!
  • bmmadden
    bmmadden Posts: 499 Member
    this is what helps me because I know if I have lots of ice cream in the freezer which is my weakness I willl probably eat a big bowl (or two)until you start learning to be more in control start buying single serving snacks like ice cream bars instead of like a whole gallon
  • Cold_Steel
    Cold_Steel Posts: 897 Member
    I had some similiar problems when I started this (31 days ago 25 lbs ago) but what I did was I just wrote down small goals after I created a meal plan.

    My meal plan was :

    Breakfast - 1 Cup of Kashi Go Lean Cereal with either a banana or half cup of strawberries in it with 1 % milk

    Snacks - Apple, Banana, Steamed Brocolli - etc

    Lunch - Chicken Breast - Spinach Salad mix

    Dinner - My wife got hooked on low calorie stuff so she made some good dinners.

    Anyways- my technique was to eliminate the sodas, the fast food etc and just give myself small periodic goals. My first goal was to go a whole day with eating this way. Once I could do that, it was three days then a week then two weeks then it just became normal.

    I also eliminated activities that motivated me to eat like sitting in front of my computer all day playing World of Warcraft, now Im forced to be distracted because I was a bored eater.

    Conclusion: Create small goals, then make them bigger as you go and you will feel good about yourself. If you do a solid 2 weeks on nothing but healthy food you will detox and feel a lot better later and it will seem normal too you.
  • JeffGDDG
    JeffGDDG Posts: 252 Member
    I don't keep stuff like that in the house usually. Also, I will allow myself anything too just sometimes I'll convince myself to wait for an hour or two and see if I still want it. Or get someone to split it with you. Or find some sort of suitable substitute.
  • Bsp120167
    Bsp120167 Posts: 68 Member
    I try to not have anything in the house that I will feel bad about eating. Go to the store and figure out what would be a treat you can live with. I have a 2.5 yr old daughter so have to have some sweets around for her but I try to get her things that i don't like so I won't be tempted.
  • BeautifulMe322
    BeautifulMe322 Posts: 110 Member
    Thank you all, and you are right. I can do this. I need to keep it out of my house. Out of sight, out of mind. Self control.

    xayekim- Exactly that is EXACTLY what I am doing. Flying around mining. Bored out of my mind.
  • kim_mc
    kim_mc Posts: 321 Member
    At home, I'm fine because I don't keep that kind of stuff in the house very often. When I do, it's bad.. But when we are out of town and then go eat out I just can't seem to control myself. then I end up getting a treat (usually ice cream) knowing full well that I am ruining several days of hard work! I don't know how to stop either!!

    Happens at work too because there's always treats there that I don't get at home. I feel like I'm deprieved if I don't get to enjoy that stuff like others do......

    Last night and last weekend were AWFUL! There's no making it up either. I guess we have to learn to move on and try not to do it again. Easier said than done.....

    If you get it figured out be sure to let me know! LOL
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I buy ice cream sandwiches that are 160 calories each. Just regular store-brand, non-diet ones. I can have ONE and feel satisfied. If I scoop out a half cup of ice cream (one serving), it just looks so tiny and pathetic and small, I don't feel satisfied... I feel cheated. :laugh:
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    I've found it helpful to log it before I eat it so I can "see" the damage I'm going to do. If I log in a small amount that keeps me in my range for the day, okay I'll have that amount. But I am very careful that I don't cheat myself by squeezing in extra (I weigh my food for this reason.) If I go over then I do it with my eyes wide open and knowing fully what it's going to do to my day. Sometimes just logging it is enough to keep me from indulging because I can see what I'm doing before I've done it.
  • AutoIronic
    AutoIronic Posts: 4 Member
    I don't think anything is "wrong" with you. We all have our crazy food issues, or we wouldn't be here. If you're eating for emotional reasons, maybe you could try to find other treats and rewards--a bubble bath, a half-hour of meditation, or even a shopping trip--that can replace the comfort and satisfaction you're getting from food. If you're eating from boredom, maybe you could change up your schedule with a workout class, walks with friends, art or crafts, or other activities you can't eat during. If you have a hard time controlling your snacking (me too!) try not to shop when you're hungry, and don't buy stuff you don't want to eat.

    I've been in the habit of eating from boredom and stress, and these things have helped me a lot. But by far the most important thing was changing the way I thought about food. I started noticing how I thought of junk food as a reward. So whenever I saw that pattern, I would mentally correct myself. The crucial moment came when I looked into a vending machine after a long day and thought, "wait, how would I be rewarding myself by putting trash into my body?" Not long after that realization, I was able to start dieting steadily and successfully. Because I changed my thought patterns, I was better able to resist the temptation for junk foods or overeating, because I started to associate them with punishing my body rather than rewarding it.
  • MiladyMetal
    MiladyMetal Posts: 184 Member
    With me I'd rather not have it in my cupboards and only have healthier options at arms length! If I had Nutella for instance I know I would spoon it out of the jar till it is gone! I had to decide healthy or nutella. It actually just came down to that and me looking at all the various sized clothing in my drawers and closet. You gotta get fed up, and unfortunately no one can do that for anybody but we all gotta reach that point sometimes. Sorry hun I wish I HAD BETTER ADVICE FOR YA. I KNOW HOW HARD IT IS ESPECIALLY THE EMOTIONAL EATING IS THE WORST. I USE TO USE THAT EXCUSE and pack on the pounds every time I got my monthly. Oh I got my period so I NEED something sweet etc. etc. Like someone before me stated it truly is a mind game! Remember mind over matter, it don't matter if you don't mind, and it won't mind itself till it matters to YOU!! You HAVE the will and you CAN do it! Just little day by day change your pantry foods to healthier options and hold yourself accountable by getting a food scale and make it a daily routine if need be so you learn portions and portion control! Good luck and add me if ya need help! WE are all in the same boat and none of us HAVE to do it alone!! <3
  • BeautifulMe322
    BeautifulMe322 Posts: 110 Member
    This place really brings tears to eyes. If I went to my husband (who is supportive but is fit and just doesn't get it) He would just say "well you only had a little" or "so don't eat it if it makes you feel this way" Where as you guys understand. You totally understand. Thank you.
  • MiladyMetal
    MiladyMetal Posts: 184 Member
    I had some similiar problems when I started this (31 days ago 25 lbs ago) but what I did was I just wrote down small goals after I created a meal plan.

    My meal plan was :

    Breakfast - 1 Cup of Kashi Go Lean Cereal with either a banana or half cup of strawberries in it with 1 % milk

    Snacks - Apple, Banana, Steamed Brocolli - etc

    Lunch - Chicken Breast - Spinach Salad mix

    Dinner - My wife got hooked on low calorie stuff so she made some good dinners.

    Anyways- my technique was to eliminate the sodas, the fast food etc and just give myself small periodic goals. My first goal was to go a whole day with eating this way. Once I could do that, it was three days then a week then two weeks then it just became normal.

    I also eliminated activities that motivated me to eat like sitting in front of my computer all day playing World of Warcraft, now Im forced to be distracted because I was a bored eater.

    Conclusion: Create small goals, then make them bigger as you go and you will feel good about yourself. If you do a solid 2 weeks on nothing but healthy food you will detox and feel a lot better later and it will seem normal too you.
    Great post my friend! Love it and it is so true!! ;)
  • sevencallmemom
    sevencallmemom Posts: 505 Member
    There's a time to work on moderation and a time to not let it within a mile of you. It may be a season in your life where you just can't have the bad stuff around. (((hug)))

    Wanted to add that I myself am not in a place yet where I can really do moderation. I just have to say no and mean no.
  • tigersword
    tigersword Posts: 8,059 Member
    I buy ice cream sandwiches that are 160 calories each. Just regular store-brand, non-diet ones. I can have ONE and feel satisfied. If I scoop out a half cup of ice cream (one serving), it just looks so tiny and pathetic and small, I don't feel satisfied... I feel cheated. :laugh:
    That's why I buy small bowls. It's a mental trick, but when you put servings in small bowls or small plates, they look bigger. I have a few half-cup sized bowls, so when I portion out the ice cream (with a scale) it's still a full bowl, and I feel good with that. :happy:
  • imlosing
    imlosing Posts: 3 Member
    I found a diet book at a thrift store that had some great advice about right thinking towards the junk foods that blow our diets. It is called "Thin Tastes Better: Control your food triggers and Lose Weight without feeling Deprived" by Stephen Gullo, PH.D.

    Part One is Why we eat the way we do:
    Few of us overeat because of excessive appetite.
    Easily abused foods are so readily available.
    The threat that in partaking of the food is destroying our health often isn't strong enough to offset the immediate gratification of
    satisfying the whim of the moment.

    Part Two Steps to Food Control:
    Know what my tirgger foods are.
    Know what my trigger situations are.
    For those foods that result in extreme overeating (not a single serving), abstinence is better than moderation.
    The fact that my "favorite" food has made me fat, unhealthy, and miserable is a thought we need to repeat over and over.
    We must change our thinking about food, instead of putting all the focus on a few minutes of taste, how it feels now, and
    completely deny the cost. Only kids live in a dream world thinking they can have it all without any cost.
    In accepting the true cost of junk food, we begin to stop resenting what we have to do to keep our body healthy. It takes work.
    Winners at weight loss KNOW they have eaten it all and it did not bring happiness but misery. They are happier for having
    NOT had the junk that destroys their health. They see
    Make your food choicess KNOWING you either walk away and gain a better happiness, or eat the food with the full knowledge
    that if you eat it you'll have to wear it. Take responsibility for your choices. With each "No" you gain a little more control.
    Time and avoidance can change our desire for a trigger food.
    Think of the food choice as a business-person: am I making a good deal if I eat this?
    With certain foods, it is easier to pass them up entirely than say "just a little", which leads to binge eating in cycles.
    Having alittle is much harder than having none. Make sure those foods are not available.
    There are entire societies that live without the "benefit" of chips, dips, fries, cookies, candy, etc. We don't need them to survive.

    He says a lot more, and gives healthy recipes too. He also gives charts of suggested reminders to use: "A treat? Losing weight is a better treat"; "I don't reward myself with things that cause me pain."; "What is so good about it? It has made me obese."; "Cravings last only a few minutes. Thin is worth that."; "Not fair I can't have dessert? Desserts made me fat and miserable."; "Vacation time so I can go off my diet? I've had a longer vacation from good judegment with bad eating for years, I don't need another 7 days."

    Good stuff. We really just have to stop lieing to ourselves!
  • You are not alone and NOTHING is wrong with you. Often we eat as a response to triggers other than hunger, especially if we sit there eating, knowing we don't need to be. So, ask yourself what happened just prior to the walk to the kitchen? Did you have an argument? get some bad news? Feel guilty? Bored? Start to feel skinny and thought you could "handle" it? There are many reasons to have a binge, and it's usuallly emotional. That's a good place to start.
  • MiladyMetal
    MiladyMetal Posts: 184 Member
    This place really brings tears to eyes. If I went to my husband (who is supportive but is fit and just doesn't get it) He would just say "well you only had a little" or "so don't eat it if it makes you feel this way" Where as you guys understand. You totally understand. Thank you.
    It is like many things in life as the old saying goes,"... you do not know what ppl go through unless you walk a mile in their shoes"! Your hubby may not be able to truly understand but that is okay that is why you are here like the rest of us! What support you can't get from him allow the good ppl here to help. There are so many awesome ppl here that do understand, don't give up okay? You'll be fine!! ;)
  • Shalimarmandy
    Shalimarmandy Posts: 409 Member
    We all have the same issue to some degree or another... you mentioned Ice Cream... mine is potato chips and soda. I just can NOT keep those 2 things in the house because I cant stop eating them if I start. I have not had even one chip in well over a month and the only soda I had was a coke zero when I was out to dinner with a friend (a preplanned indulgence)

    Other than that I have to use portion control. For example when I buy a box of cheeze its (reduced fat of course) I take the entire box, get out my scale and snack baggies and go to town! That way when I'm hungry and want a salty treat I grab a baggie and know that I am not breaking the calorie bank for the day. I don't have the same problem with sweet things and I can scoop out a 1/2 cup of frozen yogurt and be content. I recommend portioned controled single serves of those trigger items!

    Sorry to hear that your husband doesn't understand. I'm actually quite lucky because all I have to do is look at my boyfriend (who is an athlete and eats 3 times what I do in a day) and he knows I am about to drown myself in calories and he talks me through it! Maybe if you explain to him that you need help and not excuses ("well you only had a little) or quick fixes that never work ("so don't eat it..."). My BF had permission to literally take a plate out from in front of me, especially at restuarants, when he can tell I am no longer hunger eating and just picking or clean the plate eating (if that makes sense) and it REALLY helps! Of course it took us a while to get to this place I have been battling weight for quite a while but when I'm trying hard he's right there with me.
  • cocoanicky
    cocoanicky Posts: 9 Member
    IM THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT IF IM FULL I JUST DONT IT. I HAVE CHILDREN AND WE HAVE A LOT OF SNACKS IN MY HOUSE, BUT WHAT I DO I JUST DRINK A LOT OF WATER. BUT THE GOOD THING ABOUT MYSELF IM NOT REALLY A SWEETS PERSON. BUT ITS OK TO TREAT YOUSELF ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK JUST DONT OVER DO IT.:happy:
  • LeCitron
    LeCitron Posts: 71
    I have problems like this too. Like last night, in fact. If you're like me then your brain just goes on autopilot and no amount of ice cream is enough to satisfy this... I don't know, desire to eat, I guess. Last night I ended up eating so much my stomach was painfully full. I just couldn't seem to stop.

    I guess I can be thankful that days like this don't happen often. Don't give up hope on getting this under control. You and I might have a long way to go but it's just getting there that's the hard part! :)
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