I want to be a success story!
billyeann90
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Guys I'm new here! I have about 80 pounds I really want to lose! Really hoping to lose at least 60 in the next 3 months! I am looking to meet friends as I have no one on this journey with me and could use the motivation! I am 110% committed and will be a success story! I'm looking for friends with a mindset in the same. I'm 27 and 2 kiddos. I have a very busy lifestyle and ready to feel great about myself again!
Please feel free to add me!
Let me also add that before you judge my unrealistic goal and criticize for setting such high standards for MYSELF please move on. I am making a lifestyle change not just doing something to lose weight fast then return to old ways. I've been actively dieting watching carbs and calories for over a week now cutting out everything I use to eat only drink water nothing else. I may have set an unrealistic goal but even if its unachievable I will not be ANY LESS HAPPY if I lose 10 pounds in 3 months or even 5 pounds in 3 months because what I'm doing is healthy and it will eventually come off.
I'd love support from a friend to share recipes with, motivate on days we just are wanting to give in, push each other to work out harder than the day before!!
You do not have to support my goal!! I ask you support ME!
Please feel free to add me!
Let me also add that before you judge my unrealistic goal and criticize for setting such high standards for MYSELF please move on. I am making a lifestyle change not just doing something to lose weight fast then return to old ways. I've been actively dieting watching carbs and calories for over a week now cutting out everything I use to eat only drink water nothing else. I may have set an unrealistic goal but even if its unachievable I will not be ANY LESS HAPPY if I lose 10 pounds in 3 months or even 5 pounds in 3 months because what I'm doing is healthy and it will eventually come off.
I'd love support from a friend to share recipes with, motivate on days we just are wanting to give in, push each other to work out harder than the day before!!
You do not have to support my goal!! I ask you support ME!
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Please feel free to share what you do that truly works in dropping the maximum amount of weight! My family says I have turned into a monster with calories and carbs.1
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I am with you please add me. We can do this together2
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60 lbs in 3 months? 3 months = 12 weeks. That's losing 5 lbs per week, every week. You might see 1.5 lbs/week if you're super diligent, then taper off to 1 lb a week. So...
Oct: lose 1.5 lbs/week. 6 lbs loss in Oct.
Nov: lose 1 lb /week. 4 lbs loss in Nov. 10 lbs total.
Dec: lose 1 lb /week. 4 lbs loss in Dec. 14 lbs total.
So.. if you could be 14-15 lbs lighter on Jan 1, would it still be worth it?4 -
billyeann90 wrote: »Guys I'm new to working out I have about 80 pounds I really want to lose! Really hoping to lose at least 60 in the next 3 months!
Without harming yourself, or using cosmetic surgery, losing 60 lbs in 3 months is not possible. The average maximum safe weight loss rate is 2lbs/week. 3 months generally = 12 weeks or 24 maximum pounds lost. It's really tough to maintain a 2lb/week loss rate without getting weak and injuring yourself (assuming you also use exercise to increase your deficit). Anyway, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your goals are unrealistic. Do yourself a favor, set your sights on 1.5lbs/week loss rate, work hard at it, be consistent and accurate in your logging, and be happy with it. Otherwise you'll likely fail at it, and go back to your old habits, happens to a lot of people. Or.. there's the other extreme, you starve yourself, do possible permanent damage to your body and your organs in the process, and hit your 60lb goal in 3 months. I suggest talking to a doctor about any extreme weight loss goals.
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5lbs a week? If you want to be a success story (which to me means losing weight and then maintaining), I would seriously reassess your goal.
You have a busy lifestyle - you need energy to maintain this. Take weight loss slowly, have sufficient energy to sustain your lifestyle and health. Restricting too much will lead to health issues, and more than likely cause you to binge and "fall off the wagon".1 -
I actually am working with my doctor. I was going to do the rny gastric bypass surgery but decided I would try and do it myself first. I may not lose 60 pounds in 3 months but I want my goal high so I keep myself working hard at it. I was prescribed phentermine and its helped dramatically. I haven't ate over 100 carbs a day or 1300 calories since I started. I completely cut out sugar. I drink 100 oz of water or more daily. I also been working out minimum 20 minutes a day 4 days a week. I haven't touched a scale but the weight loss isn't my biggest factor its burning all the fat off.0
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60 lb a in 3 months is unrealistic particular as only 80 to lose. You are setting yourself up for failure.
Aim for max 2 lbs a week and then slowly move that down to 1 lb a week.
20lbs in 3 months would be great progress.
Look at the success board. People who do this successfully know this is a persistence over time thing.
Fyi I am down 56 lbs since February so 8 months. Another 10 or 15 to go.2 -
In my opinion its okay to have high goals. The way I am I push myself harder when I have an unrealistic goal.3
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You want to lose 20 lbs a month for 3 months?! Not gonna happen.billyeann90 wrote: »Guys I'm new to working out I have about 80 pounds I really want to lose! Really hoping to lose at least 60 in the next 3 months! I am looking to meet friends as I have no one on this journey with me and could use the motivation! I am 110% committed and will be a success story! I'm looking for friends with a mindset in the same. I'm 27 and 2 kiddos. I have a very busy lifestyle and ready to feel great about myself again!
Please feel free to add me!
Set realistic expectations so you will not be disappointed.
Read "Thinner Leaner Stronger" and apply it.
https://www.amazon.com/Thinner-Leaner-Stronger-Building-Ultimate/dp/1938895312
Also, you are going to need Discipline. "Motivation" is not going to cut it.1 -
Your "opinion" has no bearing on whether or not something is achievable.billyeann90 wrote: »In my opinion its okay to have high goals. The way I am I push myself harder when I have an unrealistic goal.
That is not my "opinion", that is a fact.
"High goals" and "unrealistic goals" are not interchangeable terms.
I thought you wanted to be a "success story"?
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Thank you all for your opinions. I would also like to add and make clear that even though I would like to lose 60 pounds in 3 months doesn't mean I would be any less disappointed if I only lost 20 pounds in 3 months. I am making a LIFESTYLE change and its something I'm going to continue for the rest of my life. I am just ready to feel better about myself. So the sooner and faster I can lose weight the better but even if I don't even come close to my goal I'm not going back.1
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billyeann90 wrote: »In my opinion its okay to have high goals. The way I am I push myself harder when I have an unrealistic goal.
If you want to feel great about yourself, during and after weight loss, do yourself a favour and realise this is a longer term project. I'm sure your kids would appreciate having a mum with energy to look after them and play with them!2 -
Thanks guys... Looking for friends and get criticized. I have 100% discipline so yes I need the motivation. Telling me my goals are unrealistic is something I already know. I hear it daily. Doesn't mean I'm going to work any less hard.1
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So why not set realistic goals so you can be succesful at them. You are setting yourself up for unhealthy actions and failure. Set yourself up for success.2
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billyeann90 wrote: »Thank you all for your opinions. I would also like to add and make clear that even though I would like to lose 60 pounds in 3 months doesn't mean I would be any less disappointed if I only lost 20 pounds in 3 months. I am making a LIFESTYLE change and its something I'm going to continue for the rest of my life. I am just ready to feel better about myself. So the sooner and faster I can lose weight the better but even if I don't even come close to my goal I'm not going back.
But even 20 lbs is super aggressive. Why say something impossible? And if you're saying something impossible, why not say fully impossible. 80 lbs in 1 month!2 -
livingleanlivingclean wrote: »billyeann90 wrote: »In my opinion its okay to have high goals. The way I am I push myself harder when I have an unrealistic goal.
If you want to feel great about yourself, during and after weight loss, do yourself a favour and realise this is a longer term project. I'm sure your kids would appreciate having a mum with energy to look after them and play with them!
This isn't just a longterm project for me its a complete lifestyle change. Like I said my GOAL is 60 pounds If I lose 20 that is still a success. My mindset maybe set different than others but its what works for me. Again its a lifestyle change I do not ever plan on going back. I'm not doing this to lose 80 pounds then turn around and go back to my old ways.3 -
I'm not here to argue or defend myself. If you would like to be friends and help motivate each other on the bad days, share awesome recipes, push each other to work out on the days you really arent feeling it, GREAT! if not I do not want to hear any more criticism sorry.3
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Nobody sensible will motivate you to do something so unhealthy and bound to fail.
When you quit next week and come back in 2 months looking to lose 85 lbs and are ready to be successful please we will help you. We are trying to help you now.
But you have already failed by refusing to aim for an achievable goal.
See you in 2 or 3 months.1 -
Nobody sensible will motivate you to do something so unhealthy and bound to fail.
When you quit next week and come back in 2 months looking to lose 85 lbs and are ready to be successful please we will help you. We are trying to help you now.
But you have already failed by refusing to aim for an achievable goal.
See you in 2 or 3 months.
Have you even read any of my posts? Or just the first one. Yes you will see me in 2 or 3 months and it won't be starting over it will be after I've consistently lost weight by following exactly what I'm suppose to do and not cheating one time. Call me a failure before I start but I promise you I will prove you wrong. Lucky for me I'm doing everything under doctor supervision so if I do anything unhealthy he will let me know. After a week I feel GREAT better than I have in years.2 -
I lost 52 pounds in 3 months. I wouldn't encourage anyone to try and do that but my situation is different.
I used to be in shape so I knew what did and didn't work for my body. One day I got so sick of being fat I decided to go back to my old healthy ways. I kept track of everything I ate and exercised 4 times per week. The weight started flying off and I just kept at it. I didn't starve and I did have cheat days in those 3 months.
I am happy it came off that fast since maintaining (to me) is easier than losing. I continue to exercise 4 times per week but eat to maintain my weight vs. lose. So, anything is possible but if a person is just getting in to a healthier lifestyle it will probably be hard to lose 60 pounds in 3 months.3 -
BobPulaski wrote: »I lost 52 pounds in 3 months. I wouldn't encourage anyone to try and do that but my situation is different.
I used to be in shape so I knew what did and didn't work for my body. One day I got so sick of being fat I decided to go back to my old healthy ways. I kept track of everything I ate and exercised 4 times per week. The weight started flying off and I just kept at it. I didn't starve and I did have cheat days in those 3 months.
I am happy it came off that fast since maintaining (to me) is easier than losing. I continue to exercise 4 times per week but eat to maintain my weight vs. lose. So, anything is possible but if a person is just getting in to a healthier lifestyle it will probably be hard to lose 60 pounds in 3 months.
Congrats!!! Actually my husband does mma and lost 100 pounds in 7 months by just that and eating right. I know what our bodies can do and know it is possible. I also know it will not be easy. I'm blessed with someone harder on me than I am myself but sometimes he can be too hard on me. Lol0 -
billyeann90 wrote: »Congrats!!! Actually my husband does mma and lost 100 pounds in 7 months by just that and eating right. I know what our bodies can do and know it is possible. I also know it will not be easy. I'm blessed with someone harder on me than I am myself but sometimes he can be too hard on me. Lol
So your husband -presuming this is true- lost an average of 14 lbs a month by "doing mma" and eating right...
I will stop wondering what "doing mma" is even supposed to mean and move on from there.
I have coached fighters for about 25 years -NAGA gold medalists, SFC heavyweight champs, K-1 division champs, more- so you are now speaking directly to my area of expertise.
Consider this question: YOU aim to lose 6 lbs more a month than he allegedly did by doing what, exactly?
An "I did it!" post from someone who lost less than your goal on average and only had one post previously is not helping your position.
Especially when he clarified that he already knew how to train effectively for his goals and said he didn't recommend trying it.
Several experienced people here have offered you reasonable and realistic advice but you refuse to listen to them.
I'm done here.4 -
billyeann90 wrote: »Congrats!!! Actually my husband does mma and lost 100 pounds in 7 months by just that and eating right. I know what our bodies can do and know it is possible. I also know it will not be easy. I'm blessed with someone harder on me than I am myself but sometimes he can be too hard on me. Lol
So your husband -presuming this is true- lost an average of 14 lbs a month by "doing mma" and eating right...
I will ignore what "doing mma" is even supposed to mean and move on from there.
I have coached fighters for about 25 years -NAGA gold medalists, SFC heavyweight champs, K-1 division champs, more- so you are now speaking directly to my area of expertise.
Consider this question: YOU aim to lose 6 lbs more a month than he allegedly did by doing what, exactly?
An "I did it!" post from someone who lost less than your goal on average and only had one post previously is not helping your position.
Especially when he clarified that he already knew how to train effectively for his goals.
Several experienced people here have offered you reasonable and realistic advice but you refuse to listen to them.
I'm done here.
This is completely off topic but how do I look up which threads I've posted in? I admit I am normally a lurker.0 -
BobPulaski wrote: »This is completely off topic but how do I look up which threads I've posted in? I admit I am normally a lurker.
I use "Community" > Search [ Drop down ] > Author to find posts by people, including my own.
Now I'm done here
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billyeann90 wrote: »I'm not here to argue or defend myself. If you would like to be friends and help motivate each other on the bad days, share awesome recipes, push each other to work out on the days you really arent feeling it, GREAT! if not I do not want to hear any more criticism sorry.
Tough. If you want to really be a success story, you should be willing to receive any criticism that may come your way from reasonable people who live this stuff out.
Do you want to be healthy? If not, why are you trying to lose weight in the first place? Reacting like you are to solid recommendations against a goal like that proves you have a lot to learn about how this process works.
If you are happy with 24-26 pounds over 3 months, which is healthy (marginally though because with 80 pounds to lose, it's going to be borderline anyway), why would you be happy for 60 pounds over 3 months, which is NOT?
You really need to learn more about what happens when your deficits are too high. Have you figured out what your deficit needs to be to do what you want to? Do you know what happens to your body after prolonged periods of high deficits and the corresponding lack of necessary nutrients?
If you don't know that stuff, perhaps you can ask. What's your height? Current Weight? Age? Provide those and people here will give you even more solid advice. And they'll be better friends for you than those who jump on your bandwagon of making risky unhealthy choices.
But.....no matter what those stats are, you are not going to find any scenarios where both the numbers will add up and you will stay healthy in the process of trying to lose the amount of weight you are talking about in the short time frame you are talking about (i.e. chase a scale number without regard to health).
Don't chase a scale number....chase health. If you are 80 pounds overweight, the scale number will follow if you eat at a reasonable deficit and it will be much better for you.6 -
You do you, good luck! As long as you can continue being healthy and exercising the weight will come off. I know I personally find small goals a bit more motivating for me. I have a goal to lose 10lbs from the beginning of the week to the end of October. This is my first week of using MFP and my first week eating healthier and exercising and in just 4 days I am down 7lbs.
My goal weight loss is about 120lbs. I want to lose 30lbs by the end of the year and then I want to be down to 180lbs by August next year, which is when my wedding is and that would be 90lbs loss in a little under a year. I am hoping for the best! We shall see. Good luck on your journey!2 -
billyeann90 wrote: »Guys I'm new here! I have about 80 pounds I really want to lose! Really hoping to lose at least 60 in the next 3 months! I am looking to meet friends as I have no one on this journey with me and could use the motivation! I am 110% committed and will be a success story! I'm looking for friends with a mindset in the same. I'm 27 and 2 kiddos. I have a very busy lifestyle and ready to feel great about myself again!
Please feel free to add me!
Let me also add that before you judge my unrealistic goal and criticize for setting such high standards for MYSELF please move on. I am making a lifestyle change not just doing something to lose weight fast then return to old ways. I've been actively dieting watching carbs and calories for over a week now cutting out everything I use to eat only drink water nothing else. I may have set an unrealistic goal but even if its unachievable I will not be ANY LESS HAPPY if I lose 10 pounds in 3 months or even 5 pounds in 3 months because what I'm doing is healthy and it will eventually come off.
I'd love support from a friend to share recipes with, motivate on days we just are wanting to give in, push each other to work out harder than the day before!!
You do not have to support my goal!! I ask you support ME!
I'm going to make some assumptions here...since you have not given any stats. I am first going to assume that you're average height, and I'll guess that since you want to lose 80 pounds, your current weight I'll put at 230 - just for the following illustration:
You would have to eat an average of a 2500 calorie per day deficit. If I assume you are a professional athlete, you would have to consume about 900 calories per day to do this. You would not have near enough to fuel that kind of activity EVERY SINGLE DAY.
If you took your activity level down to "moderately active", which is more active than at least half of those who are successful here, your calorie intake would be a whopping 250 calories.
But....that's not all.....
As you start to lose weight, your caloric requirements decrease, meaning that halfway toward your goal, if you were moderately active, your caloric intake target to lose those 5 pounds per week is ZERO!
Let's look at this another way. Say you eat your 1300 calories and "never cheat". Working backwards from this intake, you would have to burn 3800 calories every single day to do this. If you were a professional/olympic athlete, you might be in that range, but you wouldn't be in the situation of needing to lose 80 pounds in the first place.
I played with the starting height and weight numbers. Your goal is not possible. I can't see how a doctor would be supervising something like this at all.
Lastly, I'll say again: read more about the effects of an extreme deficit. You don't want those results.3 -
So I'm seeing a lot of people telling her that her goal is unrealistic and impossible. While it maybe true, she has mentioned multiple times that this is an idealistic goal, she is striving for a high number to motivate her better. She even said that it would be fine if she only lost 5 or 10 lbs only because at least it is progress and she is being healthier. Let her have her high goal, let her strive to work out more and eat healthier. As long as she is healthily trying to lose weight and not starving herself or overworking herself, it should be fine. We know she most likely will not hit the 60lbs but if that is what is motivating her, let her have it.
OP, do the best you can and make sure you are doing it the healthy way. Don't over extend and you will reach your 80lb goal overall. Good luck to you!4 -
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RainbowLube wrote: »So I'm seeing a lot of people telling her that her goal is unrealistic and impossible. While it maybe true, she has mentioned multiple times that this is an idealistic goal, she is striving for a high number to motivate her better. She even said that it would be fine if she only lost 5 or 10 lbs only because at least it is progress and she is being healthier. Let her have her high goal, let her strive to work out more and eat healthier. As long as she is healthily trying to lose weight and not starving herself or overworking herself, it should be fine. We know she most likely will not hit the 60lbs but if that is what is motivating her, let her have it.
OP, do the best you can and make sure you are doing it the healthy way. Don't over extend and you will reach your 80lb goal overall. Good luck to you!
At first glance that seems like a reasonable position to take.
But here's the problem: underneath the unrealistic goal is an implied assumption about weight loss that is demonstrably unhealthy. That assumption that many people take is that "faster is better". In weight loss that is absolutely NOT the case - unless there is an immediate life-threatening health danger to carrying the extra weight.
Hitting the reasonable target - in this particular arena - is, by far the best goal you can make. An extremely large deficit in an attempt to "do better" often results in unintended bad health consequences. That's why I'm imploring the OP to reconsider the position. Lofty goals are great in many cases. In this case, it's not only impossible, but if taken to an extreme, could cause serious harm.
If you were to take pictures of two people who started out in the same place and lost the same amount of weight, the one who does it slower is more likely to be healthier - in general. Isn't that the purpose for losing weight in the first place?3
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