Motivation, Success and Frustration Sharing!

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  • Evamutt
    Evamutt Posts: 2,628 Member
    rayzerwolf, keep at it, don't give up You'll get there. one day at a time & try a few different things to get moving again. You probably want to share your starting weight, goal weight, height & calories to get some input. at one point, the scale didn't more for nearly 3 months. I upped my exercise & eventually i started losing again.
    Today is one of my grad dtrs 4th birthday party, so I'm not counting calories today, tho I'm so used to not eating much I'll probably not eat much. They're having sandwiches & cake. It's a halloween/b day party so I bought some cat ears & going to try to put on make up to look like a cat. Pics to follow...
  • memegirl77
    memegirl77 Posts: 18 Member
    I am needing motivational people to help me on my journey. I am on week 2 and have lost 6lbs. My goal is to lose 50. So far it is going good.
  • Evamutt
    Evamutt Posts: 2,628 Member
    good for you memegirl77 & welcome. I have 7 more lbs to go go from my original goal but making it 10 for wiggle room. My grand dtr's 4th B day party was very nice. It was halloween theme, so I went as a cat. Im rather an introvert so I feel uncomfortable in crowds, but I did talk to the lady I sat next to & she lost over 100 lbs so far. Her friend sat down soon after so we didn't talk any more. I decided to eat all I want, so I had 3 slices of sandwhich. They were about an inch thick each, pasta salad, beans, potato salad & rice crispy treats with top dipped in chocolate & eyes on them, like little ghosts & one cookie. I left at 5 when they were doing the pinata & cake after so no cake. I was SO exhausted when I got home. this morning I felt like i have a bad hangover. No I don't drink but it felt like I did along with the headache, messed up stomach & hard to be in the light. I also had to leave to feed some cats asap after getting up, we still have a few pet sitting clients from when I had my business. Hubby didn't come, he was not feeling well. Today's a day of recovery, a little dog walking & cleaning & cooking. I bought some ground chicken instead of ground turkey so will be making patties & having veggies with them.
  • Rachel0778
    Rachel0778 Posts: 1,701 Member
    @Evamutt Thanks for the infographic, that's definitely helpful! How did your recovery day go?

    @memegirl77 Welcome! Congrats on the initial loss!

    @rayzerwolf Welcome! How are your clothes fitting/feeling? Especially since your focus sounds like recomp and not weight loss, the scale probably isn't the best tool so I hope you don't get discouraged by the numbers!

    So I literally spent the entire weekend packing boxes in preparation for this move. And now it's Monday and I've got 5 days of work ahead of me before I have to pack...you guessed it...more boxes. How did I end up owning so much crap? Why do I even own so much stuff???

    We did have a fun date night on Saturday where we escaped to go to the orchestra gala. It was beautiful, the food was wonderful, and there was a wine pairing with every course from the local winery. I took a few sips of each before handing them off to my SO. Needless to say I drove home and he had quite the headache the next day! We even won the raffle so we have tickets to a bunch of fun local places so that we can go on future dates too! It gives me something to look forward to once this move is over with...and helps the checkbook for cheap date nights while our savings accounts re-establish themselves.

    On the bright side, I was so busy with moving and packing that I didn't overeat this weekend. I made sure to take the time to cook up some healthy food for this week so I don't have to worry about what to eat on top of everything else I have to do. My slow cooker will be the last thing I pack! I'm really looking forward to my shepherd's pie lunches <3
  • jessicalifford
    jessicalifford Posts: 1 Member
    Hi all -

    I have struggled with weight for pretty much my entire life (I can remember being teased about it as early as 2nd grade and going on a diet), and I feel like I'm finally ready to make the changes needed to make this stick.

    I'm hoping that joining a support group will be helpful for me. : )

    So often, I find that it's in my nature to retreat and not talk about my struggles, so I'm trying the opposite now!

    Some info about me: I'm 30 years old, live in Indianapolis (I will be relocated to Colorado Springs in a few months), am married with no kids and am vegan.

    I figure skate competitively (I started taking lessons at the ripe age of 27!), which is one of the reasons I would like to lose weight. I want to be able to do jump higher and get to higher level jumps (and maybe get a chance to do jumps with 2 revolutions!). And as you know, the costumes in figure skating leave little to the imagination.

    I also enjoy mountain biking, hiking, kayaking, traveling and I do a lot of active volunteering with animals. All of these activities would be more enjoyable with less weight to carry around.

    If I had to guess, I probably have about 60 pounds to lose, but I'm curious to see how things go.

    I don't LOVE the idea of tracking my food, especially since I can't imagine doing it for the rest of my life, so I'd love other thoughts on how to make weight loss work without tracking.
  • rachelcalsbeek
    rachelcalsbeek Posts: 185 Member
    @Rachel0778 That gala sounds wonderful! I'm glad you guys got the chance to get away from all the packing and even won something too! The moving process is the worst, but hopefully you'll have some fun setting stuff up in the new place. :smile: The last time I moved, I got rid of SO much stuff. It's always nice to have the chance to purge your house of unnecessary clutter.

    @jessicalifford Welcome! It is definitely helpful to have a group to share your struggles with. It's really cool that you figure skate! I am 26, and I have always wanted to take dance lessons. Thanks for the encouragement that it's never too late. :smile:

    Well, I made it to the gym once last week, and I really ate badly this weekend. I also had a lot to drink. It's been really hard to get back to tracking and being active since getting back from my honeymoon. I guess the big motivator (the wedding) is out of the way, so that's probably why. When my husband and I first started at our gym, we did a 10 week challenge and had perfect attendance (6 days/week). We are challenging ourselves to do that again for 10 weeks (minus one day when we'll be out of town). We will be rewarding ourselves with something- either a massage, tattoo, or new work-out clothes. I'm hoping this will get us back in the swing of things! The scale is still up, and I am feeling pretty frumpy lately.
  • memegirl77
    memegirl77 Posts: 18 Member
    edited October 2017
    I have a new trigger... Being sleepy. I am tired now and want to eat everything in sight. I am only 230 calories to my goal and it is not even 5pm. Looks like I will be doing some exercising after I watch these 2 kids. I did eat a snack sized bag of Doritos... Make that 90 calories left.
  • Rachel0778
    Rachel0778 Posts: 1,701 Member
    @gemwolf110 Your summer sounds amazing. A travel trailer is such a great investment, especially if you have a lot of national parks and camp grounds around you. And I was shredding papers yesterday from 2012 so you are not along with putting off organization! As far as the wedding party goes, it might be worth asking the friend in question if she feels she has time for it. She'll be flattered you asked her first and that way if she doesn't feel up to it you can still ask another friend.

    @memegirl77 Being sleepy is the worst! I make terrible food decisions when I'm tired too. I hope you got more rest last night

    @rachelbachel32 Don't be too hard on yourself, it's always hard to get back in the routine after vacation. Starting a new gym challenge sounds like a great way to get back into things!

    @jessicalifford Welcome! Glad to have you in the group! I'm a food tracker so I have no tips on not using it. I can say that food tracking gets easier with time and I usually takes me no more than 5 minutes a day.

    So last night we got derby photos taken and I was told they would just be headshots so I didn't wear cute clothes and then found out when I got there we were doing full body photos as well...grrrr..... I also didn't get a workout in since between the photo shoot and going through our files/old paperwork to pack my evening was shot :( Today I'm going to hit up the gym.

    I'm a bit miffed at my SO since he's barely lifting a finger to pack so far. I've been doing the lions share of the work. I know that he's super busy at work, but I coordinated the new utilities, reserved the moving truck, scheduled my family to help us move, and have packed up our kitchen and bookshelves. I feel like I'm drowning and he's like "Oh I'll just throw everything in boxes and sort it out when I get there"....NO! I'm not having my family move *kitten* unnecessarily or wait for him to finish up his "last minute packing" when he should be helping moving. Okay, rant over. Can you tell I'm in a bit of a mood today?


  • Momofthree224
    Momofthree224 Posts: 11 Member
    Hi, everyone! I'm new to MFP. In a nut shell, I'm a 42 year old, married mother of 3 awesome human kids, 3 crazy dogs and 4 cool cats. My husband and I just celebrated our 16 year anniversary. I recently resigned as a director of a dog rescue after 4 years of dedicated service and am now a SAHM.

    I am about 85 lbs overweight. I have been contemplating weight loss for a long time, but after my second child it was really a struggle and I lost all motivation to try. I'm chock full of excuses...I'm genetically predisposed to being heavy. I love to cook and to eat. I like to exercise but find it hard to make time and get going. It's a challenge to prepare healthy meals that will make everyone happy. I loathe tracking food and counting calories. It's October and I'm already thinking that I don't want to "diet" during the holidays so I'll just wait for the new year to start...wash, rinse, repeat.

    But I read an article this morning that the CDC has found evidence that obesity increases risks of cancer. This came as absolutely no surprise to me, but the article had a link to MFP. It looked easy to use and had an app for my phone so I decided to give it a try. I got set up and entered what I'd eaten so far this morning. I had consumed more than 75% of the daily calories I'd need to maintain my weight before 10am. Yikes! I guess it's time I start counting those dreaded calories!

    After my first child, I successfully came within 15 lbs of my "ideal" weight. I followed the South Beach diet very strictly instead of counting calories, got up at 4am every day to exercise and joined an online support community. I hated the food I ate and I was exhausted, but I looked fantastic. The support community was probably the only thing that got me through. I'm not torturing myself this time, but sharing support and motivation with others is a must!

    @Rachel0778 - the SIMS meme is what caught my eye. SO TRUE! Your mood today is completely understandable. Moving is stressful in itself, not having the support of your SO is crushing. I had a similar situation with mine. He also did not help unpack anything and two months later is still complaining that he can't find anything. I wish I had words of wisdom to impart, but the best I can offer is that you are NOT ALONE!

    @Evamutt - your info re: doggie OTCs was great!

    Did someone say Shepherd's Pie??? Next up...researching recipes!!!
  • AshEvelynn
    AshEvelynn Posts: 205 Member
    Hello!!

    I need people like you in my life! I feel like I'm standing still and bashing my head into a brick wall. Over and over again. I feel like everyone has their plan in the bag and I'm the one who can't get her stuff together for longer than 2 days. I am inspired by motivating other people and seeing success but my lack of success discourages me...it's a very rocky road.

    Please add me if you need the motivation and I will be right there with you! I could use some too :)
  • gymprincess1234
    gymprincess1234 Posts: 493 Member
    Hi, everyone!

    I'm back. 2 consecutive days of feeling healthy after more than a month!

    Life is a lot at the moment. Uni is a handful, exams start soon, trying to organize the move to Canada which is in 11 weeks already, struggling with not liking living in France and missing UK, missing family is starting to creep up on me as I realize I'll see them only in May 2018.
    With being sick and not working out, I didn't track food or logged just bits here and there for 18 days!! Now back on tracking and cut out dairy, all the French cheese and not working out got me +1cm in all places! Did a cardio workout today, planned to fit in workouts on Tuesdays, Thursdays and Saturdays in October. Starting slow, cause I feel the sickness hit my fitness levels hard. :|

    Basically, I'm struggling with life at the moment, bit of a Bridget Jones phase :| , but I'll get through it. I'm still motivated, fighting all the setbacks. If I got through the summer one, I can get that 1cm off, get in a fitness routine again and finish what I started. 11 months of battling the extra pounds this Sunday!

    I'll read what everyone else is up to when I get my head above the water! Best of luck!
  • Evamutt
    Evamutt Posts: 2,628 Member
    welcome momofthree224. This is a great group, I'm a voluneer at a dog rescue, why'd you resign? I know it can get to you. I've lost 44 lbs since june 2016, I do fluctuate tho, this morning I was up 3 lbs but the only time I over ate was last saurday at my grand dtr's B day party. I'll post more later, hubby wants me to hand him tools while he's fixing different things in my car so it'll pass smog.
  • cayladebra
    cayladebra Posts: 33 Member
    I am going to be completely honest with everyone, I am way too lazy to read all these books! I will say that after grazing through I am hoping everyone can find that kick in the *kitten* they are searching for. I am desperately trying to get off mine. I am still losing, officially 18lbs down! I have only exercised twice since starting this journey, and I am losing in all the wrong places. My booty is shrinking, but I want my tummy and arms gone more than anything. The only way to do that, exercise. and like I said, I am lazy. Watching what I eat is easier, unless I am down. Thanks for reading my book ;)
  • Momofthree224
    Momofthree224 Posts: 11 Member
    Evamutt wrote: »
    welcome momofthree224. This is a great group, I'm a voluneer at a dog rescue, why'd you resign? I know it can get to you. I've lost 44 lbs since june 2016, I do fluctuate tho, this morning I was up 3 lbs but the only time I over ate was last saurday at my grand dtr's B day party. I'll post more later, hubby wants me to hand him tools while he's fixing different things in my car so it'll pass smog.

    I'm taking a break from rescue to get my priorities straight. Rescue 24/7 leaves nothing for husband, kids, pets, friends or myself!
  • Rachel0778
    Rachel0778 Posts: 1,701 Member
    @cayladebra You hit the nail on the head. If you're not doing any exercises to enhance your "*kitten*"ets, they will shrink with weight loss :) I highly recommend weight lifting, especially weighted squats for booty preservation. Congrats on 18lbs down!

    @Evamutt

    Welcome @Momofthree224! Glad to have you in the group! It sounds like you have a much more manageable long term plan this time around.

    Welcome @AshEvelynn ! I definitely don't have a plan in the bag, but I've made a lot of progress on habit changes so that I'm much closer to a healthy lifestyle now than I used to be. Don't get upset if you can't do everything perfectly from the get go. Small sustainable habit changes over time is key. There is no finish line in a weight loss journey so you have to do things you're okay doing for the next 60+ years if you want to be successful.

    Welcome back @gymprincess1234! Grad school and moving are both stressful and being sick on top of it definitely doesn't help! You'll get that 1cm off in no time!

    Happy Wednesday! I have literally no ambition right now, both the SO and I are feeling really burned out. On the bright side, I had a great workout yesterday and am feeling really body positive today so I'm hoping to keep that ball rolling! My healthy lunch is packed and I have a big *kitten* salad at home waiting for me :) I'm currently on the 2 days per week plan with Crossfit so I feel like I need something else in my workout queue to fill up the rest of the week since I'm sick of workout DVDs and it's about to get very VERY cold where I live. But with just buying a house the budget is a bit tight. I might just have to suck it up with online workouts this year and find something great for next year.
  • Rachel0778
    Rachel0778 Posts: 1,701 Member
    Whoops! @Evamutt- How's your car doing, were you able to get it fixed?
  • PhedraJD
    PhedraJD Posts: 1,392 Member
    @rachel0778 Great job on the packing and healthy meals. Sounds like your emotions are settling down. I would be irritated with my SO as well. My ex was like that, and I have moved friends who weren’t packed yet. I told her after that, to not ask me to help her move unless everything was in a box. My current guy is super organized, so our last move was smooth. We moved in 3 hours’ time.

    @jessicalifford. You can do this, don’t worry if you mess up some. Just keep trying and you will eventually get there. I live in CO, just NW of Denver. About a 2 hour drive from the Springs. You will love it, it is so beautiful down there. I have a friend in the Springs area that works at a dog rescue place if you are looking for a place to volunteer when you are down here.

    @rachelbachel32 I know how you are feeling. I am struggling too. It is hard to stay positive when the scale is going up, and you know it is because you haven’t been doing what you are supposed to be doing. I love your 10 week challenge.

    @memegirl77 Hang in there. Look to some low calorie snacks to help out. Usually you have between a 250-750 calorie deficit that MFP gives you to lose weight. So even if you go over by that much you will still be within maintenance. If you aren’t sure what I am talking about feel free to PM me and I will explain.

    @gemwolf110 SO good to see you back. Sounds like your life is hectic as usual. Wish I knew you were in CO, You could have met up for a hike/dog walk.

    @momofthree224 Welcome! You can do this. One thing you will see stressed on MFP is that this isn’t a diet. It is a life style change. So start out small. Spend your first week logging everything you eat. You will be amazed at all those calories. The next week look at some of the easiest things to change. Maybe one less pop (140-180 calories per can.) 1 less piece of pizza. A walk (pacing the living room) during a commercial break, walking while you’re cooking. Check out the recipe section. There are some great crock pot threads over there.

    @ashevelyn Welcome to MFP, this thread and a new road.

    @gymprincess123 So glad to hear you are feeling better. Sounds like you have a plan in place. You can do this.

    @cayladebra Hang in there. Watching your food is the most important part anyways.


    Well this week I fell off the wagon head first. I think I have finally been able to roll over and sit up. Trying to find the motivation to stand up and chase after the wagon. In 10 days I have gained 2.5 pounds. I am really hoping it is water weight. I ate a lot of salty food this week, and forgot my meds last night. One of them helps get rid of the water in my body.
    Happy Thursday all my friends.
  • janetay01
    janetay01 Posts: 1,299 Member
    Jen - I'll help you chase that wagon, we might find mine while we are at it! I've allegedly gained 2lbs in about 10 days - like you, I suspect it is water weight but I'm not happy.

    @rachel0778 - I'm with you on the burnout. I have no ambition or motivation whatsoever - I think it's the time of year and the weather. Tired and feeling like I need a break. Well done with the healthy meals though - that's one area I've just lost a grip of. Hope all is going well for the move. You could always just not pack all his stuff and see how he deals with that :)

    Welcome @mumofthree224 and @AshEvelynn - this is a good place!

    @cayladebra - I'm with you, motivation is zero. Jen is right - watching our food is the key, I need to get a hold of that again and then think about what else I need to do.

    @gymprincess1234 - hang in there, it sounds like you are going in the right direction, even though things are tough.

    @gemwolf110 - welcome back, good to see you!

    Well, what else can I say - blah! At least it's friday and I've prelogged my meals for the day. Not much planned for the weekend - swimming with Alistair sunday morning and seeing family in the afternoon. Hope Friday treats you all well and that you enjoy your weekends.
  • Momofthree224
    Momofthree224 Posts: 11 Member
    Thanks for the warm welcome! You're all amazing!

    I'm diggin' the mobility of this app...before I put something horrendous in my mouth, I can check to see how bad it will hurt first. Talked myself down from a venti mocha with whipped cream to a tall almond milk latte yesterday. It was still delicious and, even better, guilt free.

    I'm off to water aerobics - for those of you needing motivation and feeling frustrated, I'm sending you good vibes and hopes you'll have an easier day today!
  • Rachel0778
    Rachel0778 Posts: 1,701 Member
    @Momofthree224 Way to go on choosing the almond milk latte and hitting up water aerobics! You're doing a great job!

    @janetay01 Great job pre-logging for the day! I'm tempted to leave my SO to his own devices, but I don't want to frustrate the people helping us move when his crap isn't done in time for the moving truck.

    @gemwolf110 I can't believe your wedding is so close, congrats!!!!

    @jdelaroy I'm sure a good portion of that is salt, good job starting to get yourself back on track. Turning the car around is never easy, but it sounds like you're doing a great job!

    Thank goodness it's Friday. I'm just done with this week. Moving stress and work stress and relationship stress. My SO and I looked at each other last night and both said, "why is this process so hard?!" Please tell me it gets better after we move in and housing stress won't become my new normal!

    I was originally supposed to go to a friend's housewarming party, but it's 90 minutes away and the guest list is primarily people I haven't seen since high school and honestly have no desire to see. I think I might skip this one and make it up to her a different time. I think a night on the couch with a good book and the dog is much, much needed!