I was FINALLY gonna talk to Hot Cafe Guy...
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happimess1 wrote: »
Hey now...we need love too.Ironandwine69 wrote: »Christen850 wrote: »I often go to a particular local cafe to grade papers and lesson-plan. This one guy, henceforth known as Hot Cafe Guy, is *always* here. I never have the guts to talk to him for 2 reasons:
1) He looks perpetually focused/angry.
2) I am shy and insecure.
Today was going to be the day! Feeling confident, good hair-day, etc. I packed up my laptop and headed for the cafe. I knew in my gut that HCG would be there.
And he is here, of course!
However...
He is currently being chatted up by a lovely young brunette.
This is literally the first time in a year that I’ve seen HCG smile.
Guess I can focus on getting work done...
Looks can be deceiving. I fell in love with a tall handsome man once. He was also funny and popular. What I didn't know was that he was mentally unstable and a stalker.
So now you go for the short and ugly ones?
beat me to it hahah0 -
Christen850 wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »Christen850 wrote: »I often go to a particular local cafe to grade papers and lesson-plan. This one guy, henceforth known as Hot Cafe Guy, is *always* here. I never have the guts to talk to him for 2 reasons:
1) He looks perpetually focused/angry.
2) I am shy and insecure.
Today was going to be the day! Feeling confident, good hair-day, etc. I packed up my laptop and headed for the cafe. I knew in my gut that HCG would be there.
And he is here, of course!
However...
He is currently being chatted up by a lovely young brunette.
This is literally the first time in a year that I’ve seen HCG smile.
Guess I can focus on getting work done...
Looks can be deceiving. I fell in love with a tall handsome man once. He was also funny and popular. What I didn't know was that he was mentally unstable and a stalker.
so op is an unstable stalker?
No the hot guy is an unstable stalker
but in the story op is the one who comes to his workplace and knows his work schedule
I’m stalking him?
Dude... the Hot Guy hangs out in this cafe literally *every evening*. I could go there any night of the week and dude is ALWAYS there. (I average 2 visits a week, on random days) So it’s more like I can’t avoid him!!
Also, he doesn’t work there, he *does his work* there - like I sometimes do. I’m grading papers; no idea what he’s doing. Usually staring sternly at his computer screen.
OP! I’m disappointed you didn’t talk to him yet
Listen to him OP2 -
I'm inclined to agree with @hellvee . Confidence is easier said than done for some people and that's ok but honestly you LITERALLY don't have anything to lose?
Worst case if he says no is that you now know that he's not worth thinking about, you gained confidence and self worth and you can move on to someone who can appreciate you for everything you have to offer!
Knock it out the park! GO FOR IT!0 -
happimess1 wrote: »
Hey now...we need love too.Ironandwine69 wrote: »Christen850 wrote: »I often go to a particular local cafe to grade papers and lesson-plan. This one guy, henceforth known as Hot Cafe Guy, is *always* here. I never have the guts to talk to him for 2 reasons:
1) He looks perpetually focused/angry.
2) I am shy and insecure.
Today was going to be the day! Feeling confident, good hair-day, etc. I packed up my laptop and headed for the cafe. I knew in my gut that HCG would be there.
And he is here, of course!
However...
He is currently being chatted up by a lovely young brunette.
This is literally the first time in a year that I’ve seen HCG smile.
Guess I can focus on getting work done...
Looks can be deceiving. I fell in love with a tall handsome man once. He was also funny and popular. What I didn't know was that he was mentally unstable and a stalker.
So now you go for the short and ugly ones?
beat me to it hahah
You have to be nice guys though, amirite?1 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »happimess1 wrote: »
Hey now...we need love too.Ironandwine69 wrote: »Christen850 wrote: »I often go to a particular local cafe to grade papers and lesson-plan. This one guy, henceforth known as Hot Cafe Guy, is *always* here. I never have the guts to talk to him for 2 reasons:
1) He looks perpetually focused/angry.
2) I am shy and insecure.
Today was going to be the day! Feeling confident, good hair-day, etc. I packed up my laptop and headed for the cafe. I knew in my gut that HCG would be there.
And he is here, of course!
However...
He is currently being chatted up by a lovely young brunette.
This is literally the first time in a year that I’ve seen HCG smile.
Guess I can focus on getting work done...
Looks can be deceiving. I fell in love with a tall handsome man once. He was also funny and popular. What I didn't know was that he was mentally unstable and a stalker.
So now you go for the short and ugly ones?
beat me to it hahah
You have to be nice guys though, amirite?
hahah jk of course I'm nice
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I was just reading thru some of the comments. I agree with some, disagree with others.
It's the 21st century. There's is nothing wrong with a woman approaching the guy. OP, I understand you're shy. Maybe make the first interaction casual. A smile as you pass by him. Use something from your surroundings to find a topic to talk to him about. Make a comment about the weather, anything really.
And if he ends up having a girlfriend, or whatever reason why he doesn't return the feelings, don't let that scare you away from the shop. Keep going. Let him see his rejection doesn't bother you. Still casually smile at him if/when your eyes meet.1 -
Bend and snap
Bend and snap
Ah Haaah!
Have you ever wondered if this really works?
https://youtu.be/MqUQQPz9vFo 1 -
OP - If you want something you go for it, the worst he can say is no. In fact, he won't say no. He'll probably be courteous and chat you up a bit. Be friendly and see where it goes, at the very worst you've gained a friend.
Regardless of the outcome you've gained experience + you'll never have the feeling of regret of not knowing 'what if' you hadn't drummed up the courage.
Personal development is never a wasted cause.
I agree. Don't wait and if you get turned down? Don't worry about it. You're hot, you'll find someone easily. On the other hand, he may be married and is trying to stay loyal to his lover, but keeps getting hit on by all these hotties. lol Did he have a ring?
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browneyedgirl749 wrote: »I was just reading thru some of the comments. I agree with some, disagree with others.
It's the 21st century. There's is nothing wrong with a woman approaching the guy. OP, I understand you're shy. Maybe make the first interaction casual. A smile as you pass by him. Use something from your surroundings to find a topic to talk to him about. Make a comment about the weather, anything really.
And if he ends up having a girlfriend, or whatever reason why he doesn't return the feelings, don't let that scare you away from the shop. Keep going. Let him see his rejection doesn't bother you. Still casually smile at him if/when your eyes meet.
Agree, there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man. But there are men out there, that like the chase and like to be the hunters rather than the prey. Old fashion or not, it's still their preference.
In my opinion, if a man is into you, and is available, smiling at him a couple of times is enough for him to approach you. If he doesn't, he either is not available or is not into you. Or he doesn't have the balls, which also puts him in the no no category.
And there are still women that like to be chased. Confidence has nothing to do with it.4 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »browneyedgirl749 wrote: »I was just reading thru some of the comments. I agree with some, disagree with others.
It's the 21st century. There's is nothing wrong with a woman approaching the guy. OP, I understand you're shy. Maybe make the first interaction casual. A smile as you pass by him. Use something from your surroundings to find a topic to talk to him about. Make a comment about the weather, anything really.
And if he ends up having a girlfriend, or whatever reason why he doesn't return the feelings, don't let that scare you away from the shop. Keep going. Let him see his rejection doesn't bother you. Still casually smile at him if/when your eyes meet.
Agree, there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man. But there are men out there, that like the chase and like to be the hunters rather than the prey. Old fashion or not, it's still their preference.
In my opinion, if a man is into you, and is available, smiling at him a couple of times is enough for him to approach you. If he doesn't, he either is not available or is not into you. Or he doesn't have the balls, which also puts him in the no no category.
i agree. for some, the thrill is in the chase. 15th century, 20th century or 30th century wont change that.0 -
Ironandwine69 wrote: »browneyedgirl749 wrote: »I was just reading thru some of the comments. I agree with some, disagree with others.
It's the 21st century. There's is nothing wrong with a woman approaching the guy. OP, I understand you're shy. Maybe make the first interaction casual. A smile as you pass by him. Use something from your surroundings to find a topic to talk to him about. Make a comment about the weather, anything really.
And if he ends up having a girlfriend, or whatever reason why he doesn't return the feelings, don't let that scare you away from the shop. Keep going. Let him see his rejection doesn't bother you. Still casually smile at him if/when your eyes meet.
Agree, there's nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man. But there are men out there, that like the chase and like to be the hunters rather than the prey. Old fashion or not, it's still their preference.
In my opinion, if a man is into you, and is available, smiling at him a couple of times is enough for him to approach you. If he doesn't, he either is not available or is not into you. Or he doesn't have the balls, which also puts him in the no no category.
Very true, man. xD
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Christen850 wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »Christen850 wrote: »I often go to a particular local cafe to grade papers and lesson-plan. This one guy, henceforth known as Hot Cafe Guy, is *always* here. I never have the guts to talk to him for 2 reasons:
1) He looks perpetually focused/angry.
2) I am shy and insecure.
Today was going to be the day! Feeling confident, good hair-day, etc. I packed up my laptop and headed for the cafe. I knew in my gut that HCG would be there.
And he is here, of course!
However...
He is currently being chatted up by a lovely young brunette.
This is literally the first time in a year that I’ve seen HCG smile.
Guess I can focus on getting work done...
Looks can be deceiving. I fell in love with a tall handsome man once. He was also funny and popular. What I didn't know was that he was mentally unstable and a stalker.
so op is an unstable stalker?
No the hot guy is an unstable stalker
but in the story op is the one who comes to his workplace and knows his work schedule
I’m stalking him?
Dude... the Hot Guy hangs out in this cafe literally *every evening*. I could go there any night of the week and dude is ALWAYS there. (I average 2 visits a week, on random days) So it’s more like I can’t avoid him!!
Also, he doesn’t work there, he *does his work* there - like I sometimes do. I’m grading papers; no idea what he’s doing. Usually staring sternly at his computer screen.
OP! I’m disappointed you didn’t talk to him yet
And I... am disappointed in myself. Sigh!
The cafe is closed on Sunday, but he’ll undoubtedly be there tomorrow evening. I always have papers to grade... (If I try to do work at home, I end up just watching reruns of The Office.) This gives me time to think of a good icebreaker! I can make sexy faces in the mirror and practice saying, “Come here often?”
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Christen850 wrote: »Christen850 wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »Christen850 wrote: »I often go to a particular local cafe to grade papers and lesson-plan. This one guy, henceforth known as Hot Cafe Guy, is *always* here. I never have the guts to talk to him for 2 reasons:
1) He looks perpetually focused/angry.
2) I am shy and insecure.
Today was going to be the day! Feeling confident, good hair-day, etc. I packed up my laptop and headed for the cafe. I knew in my gut that HCG would be there.
And he is here, of course!
However...
He is currently being chatted up by a lovely young brunette.
This is literally the first time in a year that I’ve seen HCG smile.
Guess I can focus on getting work done...
Looks can be deceiving. I fell in love with a tall handsome man once. He was also funny and popular. What I didn't know was that he was mentally unstable and a stalker.
so op is an unstable stalker?
No the hot guy is an unstable stalker
but in the story op is the one who comes to his workplace and knows his work schedule
I’m stalking him?
Dude... the Hot Guy hangs out in this cafe literally *every evening*. I could go there any night of the week and dude is ALWAYS there. (I average 2 visits a week, on random days) So it’s more like I can’t avoid him!!
Also, he doesn’t work there, he *does his work* there - like I sometimes do. I’m grading papers; no idea what he’s doing. Usually staring sternly at his computer screen.
OP! I’m disappointed you didn’t talk to him yet
And I... am disappointed in myself. Sigh!
The cafe is closed on Sunday, but he’ll undoubtedly be there tomorrow evening. I always have papers to grade... (If I try to do work at home, I end up just watching reruns of The Office.) This gives me time to think of a good icebreaker! I can make sexy faces in the mirror and practice saying, “Come here often?”
Spill hot coffee onto his lap and then ride with him all the way to the hospital. It will be a bonding experience and then you can offer to pay which makes it a date.
But seriously, Just give him a compliment. That's an easy opener.1 -
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you sound desperate. (jokes) there are a lot more men in this world grow some or move on
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OutOfUserName wrote: »
Its an england saying ( grow some balls ) i.e go up to him. i.e stop flapping i.e time waits for no one.0 -
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MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »
Its an england saying ( grow some balls ) i.e go up to him. i.e stop flapping i.e time waits for no one.
I think growing some balls may increase his chance of saying no but I don't know the guy 0 -
TOP DEFINITION
grow some balls
to act more mature to be a man
I told him that he should grow some balls and tell me the truth/ he should ask her on a date.
#mature#grow up#grow a backbone#be a man#act mature0 -
MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »OutOfUserName wrote: »
Its an england saying ( grow some balls ) i.e go up to him. i.e stop flapping i.e time waits for no one.
I think growing some balls may increase his chance of saying no but I don't know the guy
Eh it's one of those things you don't mention until the 2nd or 3rd date.3 -
TeacupsAndToning wrote: »_barefoot_ wrote: »If he is hot looking , then I am pretty sure he gets hit on a lot ...
Not someone you would want to get involved with , especially if you are insecure .
save you're self from a heart break .
A lot of good looking people rarely get hit on because of people assuming that they must get hit on all the time, or because their looks make people feel intimidated.
At least 10 of us liked this because this is now our go-to theory as to why we’re never hit on.3 -
TeacupsAndToning wrote: »Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Men do not like those who approach them. Well, most men. Men are chasers. The best you can do is offer mystery and be aloof.
It's 2017.
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