Introverts Unite!!!

baconslave wrote: »

bmeadows380 wrote: »

Yeah, I score differently each time I take it. Over the last 10 years, I've been an ISTJ, INFP, and most recently an ISFP... I think it depends on the phase of the moon or alien rays? Each time it agreed on the 90% introversion though. Whatever.

They needed an option to answer "yes, I do that shizz when it's required or when no one else will, but otherwise I'd rather sit on a chair of rusty nails in a thong bikini..."

*laughs*

that's my answer in some cases. For example: in the above, they asked a question "Which is more important: winning a debate or preserving someone's feelings?" or something like that. But my answer is: I don't tend to get into debates!

The funny thing is I've taken that test 4 times, tweaking my answers each time, and yet every single time, I get the same result: INFP, which I just can't see as me!

baconslave wrote: »

bmeadows380 wrote: »

Yeah, I score differently each time I take it. Over the last 10 years, I've been an ISTJ, INFP, and most recently an ISFP... I think it depends on the phase of the moon or alien rays? Each time it agreed on the 90% introversion though. Whatever.

They needed an option to answer "yes, I do that shizz when it's required or when no one else will, but otherwise I'd rather sit on a chair of rusty nails in a thong bikini..."

*laughs*

that's my answer in some cases. For example: in the above, they asked a question "Which is more important: winning a debate or preserving someone's feelings?" or something like that. But my answer is: I don't tend to get into debates!

The funny thing is I've taken that test 4 times, tweaking my answers each time, and yet every single time, I get the same result: INFP, which I just can't see as me!

Fixed the quoting.
Exactly! So many times I thought: "What now? In what universe is that going to happen? "
They ought not to try to stuff us too neatly into boxes...we're way more wily than we look. I do what I want! Unobtrusively. When I'm sure no one is staring at me.

Anyway, I think that site is just over analyzing things. I know I have changed some over time. So I'm not too surprised that my results are a bit all over the place. I think the particular letters after that "I" reflects where I am in my life right then. I'm certain that at some point as a child I was a solid E. But then life smacked me down in various ways and I decided "why in the hades am I beating my head against this crappy wall" when I don't have to.
The "I" side is better. We have cookies...that we make and enjoy by ourselves.

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I'm an ISTJ, and really very clearly so...

But I think what's important to remember about Myers Briggs is that the type you get is kind of your "comfort zone" or your preference for communication etc, but that you are still absolutely able to operate in other ways too. You can find yourself operating as other types quite often, but your underlying type is kind of your natural fall back underneath it all, if you stripped away all your learned rather than inate behaviours.
And it can depend if you answer the questions with a work angle or a personal angle. I mean, I come out as ISTJ both ways, but in real life I act more ISTJ at work than I do in my social life, where I find it easy to put aside my desire to organise etc. I guess some people who are more borderline on the categories might have one type for work and another outside work.

When I first did it on a work training course 8 or 9 years ago, the most valuable thing for me to learn was that the reason I sometimes clashed with other people was simply that there are these four key variables, and that my natural approach obviously won't work with someone who is opposite to me in several of them. It's not a failure of who I am, and no personality type is better or worse than any other, but I am quite an extreme ISTJ so I can be quite far off the wavelength of other people. (Equally, I can be entirely on the same wavelength with people who are similar to me!)
I generally just make sure I'm aware of how other people are communicating so I know how to tailor my response, and I think it's helped me get a lot further professionally than people who've never gone through the exercise of learning about their Myers Briggs type and how that might come across to other people...

cs2thecox wrote: »

I'm an ISTJ, and really very clearly so...

But I think what's important to remember about Myers Briggs is that the type you get is kind of your "comfort zone" or your preference for communication etc, but that you are still absolutely able to operate in other ways too. You can find yourself operating as other types quite often, but your underlying type is kind of your natural fall back underneath it all, if you stripped away all your learned rather than inate behaviours.
And it can depend if you answer the questions with a work angle or a personal angle. I mean, I come out as ISTJ both ways, but in real life I act more ISTJ at work than I do in my social life, where I find it easy to put aside my desire to organise etc. I guess some people who are more borderline on the categories might have one type for work and another outside work.

When I first did it on a work training course 8 or 9 years ago, the most valuable thing for me to learn was that the reason I sometimes clashed with other people was simply that there are these four key variables, and that my natural approach obviously won't work with someone who is opposite to me in several of them. It's not a failure of who I am, and no personality type is better or worse than any other, but I am quite an extreme ISTJ so I can be quite far off the wavelength of other people. (Equally, I can be entirely on the same wavelength with people who are similar to me!)
I generally just make sure I'm aware of how other people are communicating so I know how to tailor my response, and I think it's helped me get a lot further professionally than people who've never gone through the exercise of learning about their Myers Briggs type and how that might come across to other people...

Interesting observation about clashing at work. I'm also an ISTJ. My former boss and mentor (a man I felt privileged to work with for 5 years) was the exact opposite - ENFP. Yet our working relationship was always brilliant! We even joked about how we should hate working together.

baconslave wrote: »

jenna_mikewolf wrote: »

We're still here, not talking to one another...

Good to know!!!

If we did try to converse, it would just be awkward anyway.

I don't know what you're talking about. I have so much to discuss.

For instance, I made baked beans today. Also on Sunday. And that's like my whole week so far.

Adamanda5 wrote: »

I mostly identify as an introvert because my personality and participation shrink with strangers in the room. But when I'm with a small group of friends or family I'm a completely different person. I'm downright hilarious, but you are all just going to have to take my word for it.

I'm sort of the same way, minus the hilarious part. The more people involved, the quieter I am, but if you put me one on one with someone I'm comfortable around, I'll jabber for hours!

Hi fellow introverts!

I’ve always been shy and I get so frustrated with myself. I’ve been going to my current gym for just over a year and the staff there are absolutely lovely but I still struggle to talk to them. Same with all the regulars I see in there too. If I manage to say hi to them it almost feels like a victory. They probably just think I’m really anti social

Sometimes I am so insecure or peopled out I have a hard time actually going and working out in the gym. I'll have a work out planned and I get there and it's busy so I panic and hide in the corner on one of the bikes. It often throws my work out schedule offend I miss days it's honestly hard! I used to have a 24hr gym and it was great cause I was in school and I went at 1am after a long day of studying and the gym was totally empty. But now I had to switch to a cheaper gym that doesn't have the 24hr feature. Any suggestions?

michael1976_ca wrote: »

lol that's exactly how I would answer the call. I like my home time and I never have any one over because I like my space

I think I like the IDEA of having people over more than the reality. I always want to plan little get togethers and stuff, and my husband says 'You know you are going to wish you hadn't decided to do this the day of, so let's just not, k?'

pinuplove wrote: »

Interesting observation about clashing at work. I'm also an ISTJ. My former boss and mentor (a man I felt privileged to work with for 5 years) was the exact opposite - ENFP. Yet our working relationship was always brilliant! We even joked about how we should hate working together.

I tested so strongly as INTJ that my roommates couldn't understand how I was surviving waiting tables. Then I put on my "work" persona and resulted in ENFP. Even having moved on to an engineering job (hallelujah) I never want to see another living being after work.

Yikes..it's an uprising

Kadoober wrote: »

michael1976_ca wrote: »

lol that's exactly how I would answer the call. I like my home time and I never have any one over because I like my space

I think I like the IDEA of having people over more than the reality. I always want to plan little get togethers and stuff, and my husband says 'You know you are going to wish you hadn't decided to do this the day of, so let's just not, k?'

I'm so there with you. My extrovert husband from a big family LOVES to have big get togethers. We've settled into a nice routine where we throw big shindigs about 4 times a year, and he's in charge of inviting guests (we move a ton, and I'm always impressed that he can get 40 people together 4 months after a move to a new state, while I make 1 or 2 very close friends in 2 years) and offering drinks and mingling, and I get to plan and buy and cook all the food then take the next day or two off to recover.

I will always accept friends.
I'm low-carbish... moderate, not ultra-low though, but I have non-LC friends, too. "Whatever works" is how I feel about anyone's plan/approach.
If I "like" your updates, I DID actually read it and care enough to click. Sometimes I'm feeling more E and will actually comment.

PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »

baconslave wrote: »

jenna_mikewolf wrote: »

We're still here, not talking to one another...

Good to know!!!

If we did try to converse, it would just be awkward anyway.

I don't know what you're talking about. I have so much to discuss.

For instance, I made baked beans today. Also on Sunday. And that's like my whole week so far.

You should hear my sis and I try to talk on the phone to keep in touch...