What nobody tells you about losing weight
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pennoxford wrote: »pennoxford wrote: »gymprincess1234 wrote: »kbivins1031 wrote: »How jealous people get who are overweight but don’t want to make changes. They shoot your happiness down.
Literally experienced this the other day. It's like you lost the weight and put it on them or something and should be blamed for their struggle.
Isn’t that strange?? People who are supportive generally and love me will look at me and not say a word. Some will say something mean about my clothes or shoes, and skip over the 80 pound loss. My favorite is the diet lecture from people who are fatter than I am—my diet is unsustainable or unhealthy, etc.. Why aren’t they just happy for me? I asked one family member how much weight she had lost, and when she told me I told her how good she looked, how great it was that she had gotten so far, etc. and she said NOTHING about me. I never would have expected that.
WTH?!?! You must look really good!!!! They just refuse to recognize it!
What mean things could they say about shoes and your clothes?
I had a very good friend and coworker and she had told me I am angry at you! I asked her Why?
She proceeded to tell me that now that you are losing all this weight and are changing it makes me feel like I should too!
Not many people can step back and verbalize those feelings.
I guess that’s it, because it doesn’t make sense in any other way. It’s just so strange to see people unhappy about my happiness—I don’t get it and yet I guess it’s a natural reaction.
No its not a natural reaction! It's a self absorbed reaction.4 -
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Umm.... no one tells you that your brain eventually DOES catch up with your body, and that's not always a good thing. I've been stalled at 40-44 lbs down for about two months (had fun over Halloween and Thanksgiving ) so I've had time to get adjusted to what I look like.
At first, I thought I was hot stuff!
Now? I can't believe how fat I am. I can't believe I ever thought I looked good at this weight. And I REALLY can't believe I was ever okay being 40 lbs heavier!29 -
pennoxford wrote: »pennoxford wrote: »gymprincess1234 wrote: »kbivins1031 wrote: »How jealous people get who are overweight but don’t want to make changes. They shoot your happiness down.
Literally experienced this the other day. It's like you lost the weight and put it on them or something and should be blamed for their struggle.
Isn’t that strange?? People who are supportive generally and love me will look at me and not say a word. Some will say something mean about my clothes or shoes, and skip over the 80 pound loss. My favorite is the diet lecture from people who are fatter than I am—my diet is unsustainable or unhealthy, etc.. Why aren’t they just happy for me? I asked one family member how much weight she had lost, and when she told me I told her how good she looked, how great it was that she had gotten so far, etc. and she said NOTHING about me. I never would have expected that.
WTH?!?! You must look really good!!!! They just refuse to recognize it!
What mean things could they say about shoes and your clothes?
I had a very good friend and coworker and she had told me I am angry at you! I asked her Why?
She proceeded to tell me that now that you are losing all this weight and are changing it makes me feel like I should too!
Not many people can step back and verbalize those feelings.
I guess that’s it, because it doesn’t make sense in any other way. It’s just so strange to see people unhappy about my happiness—I don’t get it and yet I guess it’s a natural reaction.
Well, us humans tend to be herd animals. Generay, we hang around similar ppl to us, we're aghast at different people etc. When you change people get all selfish-one less person in the group, she's turned her back on us. They act as if youve slighted them and abandoned them.
People tend not to like having a light shone on their own weaknesses/insecurities, even if its unintentional. A lot of people fail to realise it is their problem and choose to take it out on everyone else (who doesn't conform).9 -
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Umm.... no one tells you that your brain eventually DOES catch up with your body, and that's not always a good thing. I've been stalled at 40-44 lbs down for about two months (had fun over Halloween and Thanksgiving ) so I've had time to get adjusted to what I look like.
At first, I thought I was hot stuff!
Now? I can't believe how fat I am. I can't believe I ever thought I looked good at this weight. And I REALLY can't believe I was ever okay being 40 lbs heavier!
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I have days where I think I'm the bees' knees, and others where I am just revolted by how fat I am - it's INSANE!! And thinking back to when I was 80bs heavier? Lord have mercy. It's incredible how your brain can flip on you, even after doing this and understanding this.26 -
Whoops, wrong thread!
Umm.... no one tells you that your brain eventually DOES catch up with your body, and that's not always a good thing. I've been stalled at 40-44 lbs down for about two months (had fun over Halloween and Thanksgiving ) so I've had time to get adjusted to what I look like.
At first, I thought I was hot stuff!
Now? I can't believe how fat I am. I can't believe I ever thought I looked good at this weight. And I REALLY can't believe I was ever okay being 40 lbs heavier!
It's utterly amazing how we can not only adapt to, but actually become "proud" of our yuck--WOW! That "wake-up call, those "scales falling off our eyes" is truly disheartening and at the exact same time powerful (FULL of power) to change. I LOVE (and wholehearted EMBRACE) change now, I LOVE (and wholehearted EMBRACE) "seeing AND living" in the truth now. Makes me so grateful and thankful to be ready, willing and able to go thru the FIRE of change and day by day get stronger and stronger for more positive change (in my thinking, seeing, believing and living)--BOOM!
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Whoops, wrong thread!
Umm.... no one tells you that your brain eventually DOES catch up with your body, and that's not always a good thing. I've been stalled at 40-44 lbs down for about two months (had fun over Halloween and Thanksgiving ) so I've had time to get adjusted to what I look like.
At first, I thought I was hot stuff!
Now? I can't believe how fat I am. I can't believe I ever thought I looked good at this weight. And I REALLY can't believe I was ever okay being 40 lbs heavier!
This is so true! When I was obese, I knew that, but now looking back - I had no perception of HOW big I was. Then when I lost the majority, I could finally see how fat I used to be and then I felt as fat as in the 'before' pictures.
Now I'm 7kg overweight, and my brain has caught up and I think (I hope at least) I see myself as fat as 7kg of extra fat is, not more or less, exactly that.
Sometimes I look at myself and can see - There's 2kg on left thigh, 2kg on right, 1kg belly, 1kg hips, 1kg arms and back to lose .9 -
mommarnurse wrote: »I'm cranky and depressed when I don't work out.
YES, THAT!!!!!!4 -
For all of us who are cold all the time, an ad for this shirt just popped up on my computer screen earlier today, haha
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Being consistent with hitting the gym and tracking food everyday sense October... the weight just flew off. After a couple of months goes by, 34 pounds lighter, yet I feel like it was just yesterday I was leaving to the gym for the "Day 1" of my journey.16
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Sigh. Nobody tells you that when you finally weigh in at a "normal" weight, that your hubby will get grumpy at you because his weight loss hasn't been as successful.23
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I know I just posted but just had another moment.
That moment when you can reach the bottom of your blender bottle when hand washing and your hand isn't stuck lol.29 -
All the "I'm cold" comments make me laugh. I was reading this thread from the start, and I thought "oh that's silly". I was down 65 lbs at the time. Well, - 115 lbs now and I'M FREEZING.
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I used to be hot all the time so now I'm not cold I'm just fine. But I'm canadian so the idea of being cold indoors is just silly to me.13
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All the "I'm cold" comments make me laugh. I was reading this thread from the start, and I thought "oh that's silly". I was down 65 lbs at the time. Well, - 115 lbs now and I'M FREEZING.
Lol. Yea that was me but I’ve definitely hit the I’m freezing all the time phase. My mom is wandering around today in a short sleeve shirt and is fine I’m in long sleeves and a heavy sweater and still cold. I try keep reminding myself that summer is much less uncomfortable now but cold me doesn’t care :P8 -
I'm sitting at my desk with wool socks, covered in a blanket, typing with gloves on. I used to make fun of my sister for being cold all the time. Now that I'm getting close to her size, I have been apologizing.14
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wateryphoenix wrote: »-You will discover bones you forgot (or never knew) you had.
Muscles and tendons too.
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Going to the gym can replace some bad habits. Some times, I still slip up and turn to food (and other things) without realizing it. On my way home from the drive through last night, I realized that I hadn't been to the gym in almost two weeks and was relieving my stress in less than constructive ways.
Working out and eating healthy are such positive, empowering changes. I didn't realize how *kitten* awful some of my old habits used to make me feel.20 -
Non-Scale Non-Victory?
I lost my ring. It was a ring I bought when I rode the Rocky Mountain National Park on my Harley and completed it. It was silver with a buffalo in turquoise. I was really upset.
I had moved it from my ring finger to my middle finger to my index finger in the process of my weight loss and obviously it was too big on my index finger because it was lost after a day out of town in a large populated environment. No chance I will get it back even thought the lost and found lady said she would call if someone turned it in, she prefaced it with "Most of the good stuff never gets brought in - sorry hun".2 -
MandyLou517 wrote: »I know it's been said before...by my oh my does "adult time" get better! There is something to be said for improved cardio, flexibility, and less stuff in the way!
It's called sex.20 -
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