What nobody tells you about losing weight
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NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »That I can eat whatever I want to--just more modestly (smaller portions). Also, as I eat in smaller portions, how my stomach literally become smaller and smaller and the next thing you know--sooner or later, I'm in a smaller clothes size--that is SUPER FUN to experience and see!!! The freedom of being able to say "no and/or not right now or not today" to myself to eating or drinking something and to walk in the FREEDOM of PURPOSELY eating or not eating a particular thing and being in control of oneself is so much FUN!!!
How wonderful it is to, when you know you're on a mission of becoming more and more slimmer and healthier, how you're no longer "frantic" or impulsive about eating a particular thing or NOT eating a particular thing and more often than not, purposely choosing something different (better/healthier?) OR simply saying "no" not now to yourself instead OR that you don't HAVE to eat the entire thing, just a portion the food or drink now and the rest perhaps later or even tomorrow (or perhaps not eat the rest at all--no pressure, no impulse)...THAT IS SO MUCH FUN! Eating and food no longer becomes the "main thought" of your entire waking hours. The knowledge of "If I have room for it, I have it--if not, maybe tomorrow, no big deal anymore", is totally COOL and FUN. That basically you go from living to eat to eating to live sounds like it's the same thing--but it's so NOT and it's absolutely fabulous and such a FUN way of living/thinking/walking daily in too!!
^this. so much this.
My outlook on food has changed so much. I still enjoy food a lot, but I don't need to eat loads to enjoy myself.6 -
Don't know if this will in any way help but I used to have a yoga teacher who would have us shift right and left until we got onto our 'sit bones' every time we began a seated series of moves. The idea was to actually separate the left from right butt cheek, so she'd also tell us (though I realise this was yoga class not the middle of a busy restaurant or something) that if we couldn't get our cheeks in the right position with this shifting around then to literally reach under and manually move our cheeks apart a bit. I have to admit I did find it more comfortable ...pennoxford wrote: »I never knew how hard chairs are—my butt hurts all the time, and I keep somehow sitting on my own buttcheeks wrong? I keep having to stand up and sit down again to keep it from hurting. Gross!!!
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No one told me that when you're tall and have a decent amount of weight to lose, your clothing size won't change much. I had lost 45 lbs last year and only went down one pant size. Probably didn't help that I had been stuffing myself into clothes too small for me to begin with. Needless to say it crushed me. How can you lose so much weight but still fit the same clothing? It kinda defeated me and I gained it all back. I am back on the wagon, 24 lbs down (1/4ish the way there) and not going to let that stop me now that I know it'll take a bit more for me to see a difference.
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How great it is to be able to sleep on my stomach without feeling like a pufferfish.17
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pennoxford wrote: »
Don't know if this will in any way help but I used to have a yoga teacher who would have us shift right and left until we got onto our 'sit bones' every time we began a seated series of moves. The idea was to actually separate the left from right butt cheek, so she'd also tell us (though I realise this was yoga class not the middle of a busy restaurant or something) that if we couldn't get our cheeks in the right position with this shifting around then to literally reach under and manually move our cheeks apart a bit. I have to admit I did find it more comfortable ...pennoxford wrote: »I never knew how hard chairs are—my butt hurts all the time, and I keep somehow sitting on my own buttcheeks wrong? I keep having to stand up and sit down again to keep it from hurting. Gross!!!
That sounds exactly like it!! I hate it!
Haha according to her it was better for our spines too, so knowing that, whenever nobody's looking maybe just reach down there as you're about to sit and 'manually spread' so that you don't have to get back up and sit back down, at least until such time as things realign themselves to the correct position on their own?
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No one told me that when you're tall and have a decent amount of weight to lose, your clothing size won't change much. I had lost 45 lbs last year and only went down one pant size. Probably didn't help that I had been stuffing myself into clothes too small for me to begin with. Needless to say it crushed me. How can you lose so much weight but still fit the same clothing? It kinda defeated me and I gained it all back. I am back on the wagon, 24 lbs down (1/4ish the way there) and not going to let that stop me now that I know it'll take a bit more for me to see a difference.
As a fellow tall person (6'1" heyyy) I hear you! It takes a while to go down the first few sizes but then it gets faster. I started at a 22 but I was an 18/20 for most of my weight loss journey. Then I quickly went to 16 and then 14 and suddenly the 14s are too big. Makes it a pain to buy pants, lol.10 -
For those of you who are cold all the time, it seems to sort itself out after a while. At least it did for me. It took me three years to lose 90 pounds and I was sooooo cold all the time. But this winter I'm finding it better. My office is divided.....the "skinny" girls all have little heaters under their desks. The "fullfigured" ones don't. I now have a heater. Is that an nsv? LOL38
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Haha according to her it was better for our spines too, so knowing that, whenever nobody's looking maybe just reach down there as you're about to sit and 'manually spread' so that you don't have to get back up and sit back down, at least until such time as things realign themselves to the correct position on their own?
The things I learn on here .....
I will squirrel away that tip for the happy day when that part of my anatomy is no longer padded out. 
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kingleahnidas wrote: »No one told me that when you're tall and have a decent amount of weight to lose, your clothing size won't change much. I had lost 45 lbs last year and only went down one pant size. Probably didn't help that I had been stuffing myself into clothes too small for me to begin with. Needless to say it crushed me. How can you lose so much weight but still fit the same clothing? It kinda defeated me and I gained it all back. I am back on the wagon, 24 lbs down (1/4ish the way there) and not going to let that stop me now that I know it'll take a bit more for me to see a difference.
As a fellow tall person (6'1" heyyy) I hear you! It takes a while to go down the first few sizes but then it gets faster. I started at a 22 but I was an 18/20 for most of my weight loss journey. Then I quickly went to 16 and then 14 and suddenly the 14s are too big. Makes it a pain to buy pants, lol.
That was pretty much me! Started at a size 20 but squeezed my butt into 18's. I fit those 18's until I hit 45lbs and went down to a 16.
I think I'll stick to the tights I've been wearing, at least until I hit the half way mark.4 -
Patience:&Time...are my new BEST FRIENDS in this weight loss adventure!
I didn't get this size overnight, it took YEARS of my eating, drinking and neglecting/over indulging in all kinds of stuff for me to get the place of being obese and unhealthy, being patient with myself is soooo freeing and actually FUN. It took TIME to get to the size I was (obese) and am (overweight), and it's going to take TIME to get down to size and stay there (healthier and so-called "normal BMI" for my age and height).
That slowing down in many areas of my life is helping me to not only embrace patience in weight loss, but to see it (patience) have it's way in me is actually really FUN...example: slowing down when I eat--actually putting the fork or spoon down between bites on PURPOSE, to SLOWLY AND WITH PATIENCE to chew my food thoroughly and to thoughtfully savor and appreciate my each bite food and each sip of my drink is amazingly enjoyable and powerful too. The more I do this, I find myself getting fuller faster somehow and am AMAZED at how I no longer feel "obliged" to finish every bite when I am full/content with eating my meals as I purposely and patiently eat and drink this way.
Being more patience with myself and others--no longer allowing "negative" self-talk to dominate my thoughts--but instead to take each thought and purposely and patiently address each and every negative thought and cast them down and replace with with thoughts of Life and Peace... WAITING for results in the change of thinking and on the scale too--it's FANTASTIC how fewer and fewer negative thoughts come across my mind now--it's FUN doing this and living this way. Also, even though this may not sound like it has ANYTHING to do with weight loss, for me it does. As I patiently wait for others (in traffic, in lines, with family, friends and people in general in daily life situations) instead of getting all out of sorts about stuff and being all impatient and yucky--being patient is giving me a peace and calm that is nothing less than POWERFUL. It's TREMENDOUS how annoyances and anxiety becomes a thing of the past as I PURPOSELY choose to walk in patience, no matter what.
Time:
Being focused on time and how I'm using it. How I handle my time can help or hinder my progress.
Seeing time as my friend and on my side and taking the time to appreciate people, places and things more and more, again...no more "hurrying" but purposely taking the time to think before I speak, eat and live. Taking the time to notice and APPRECIATE everything around me more and more is really really REALLY cool and FUN. Taking the time to purposely do things slower and more watchfully--including shopping, spending money and just in general is truly wonderful and FUN!!!30 -
That other people would recognize the weight loss before I do.
Today at work we got promotional T-shirts for the holiday season. A co-worker put a size M t-shirt aside for me. I almost changed it for the L T-shirt I always get but another co-worker said no, it looked the right size - so I tried it on tho it looked pretty small to me. It fit with room to spare.
I definitely don’t know what size I’m at right now, but other people seem to. Odd feeling that.32 -
No one told me that when you're tall and have a decent amount of weight to lose, your clothing size won't change much. I had lost 45 lbs last year and only went down one pant size. Probably didn't help that I had been stuffing myself into clothes too small for me to begin with. Needless to say it crushed me. How can you lose so much weight but still fit the same clothing? It kinda defeated me and I gained it all back. I am back on the wagon, 24 lbs down (1/4ish the way there) and not going to let that stop me now that I know it'll take a bit more for me to see a difference.
I'm 5'8" and I experienced this too! I must have been stuffing myself into my 14s because I lost 40 pounds and I'm still only in 12s lol. Oh well! My mom is 5"3" and she always said "Every ten pounds is a size" Uh, nope!13 -
how good I feel sliding my legs into smaller waist slacks.. and how nice they look.9
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Hah, it happens to us shorties too. I was wearing size 14 pants at 195 when I started and am wearing size 12 now about 35 lb lighter. I can squeeze into size 10 pants but they are not comfortable.LizinLowell wrote: »No one told me that when you're tall and have a decent amount of weight to lose, your clothing size won't change much. I had lost 45 lbs last year and only went down one pant size. Probably didn't help that I had been stuffing myself into clothes too small for me to begin with. Needless to say it crushed me. How can you lose so much weight but still fit the same clothing? It kinda defeated me and I gained it all back. I am back on the wagon, 24 lbs down (1/4ish the way there) and not going to let that stop me now that I know it'll take a bit more for me to see a difference.
I'm 5'8" and I experienced this too! I must have been stuffing myself into my 14s because I lost 40 pounds and I'm still only in 12s lol. Oh well! My mom is 5"3" and she always said "Every ten pounds is a size" Uh, nope!
I keep thinking I have to be going down in pant size soon, don’t I?
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Hah, it happens to us shorties too. I was wearing size 14 pants at 195 when I started and am wearing size 12 now about 35 lb lighter. I can squeeze into size 10 pants but they are not comfortable.LizinLowell wrote: »No one told me that when you're tall and have a decent amount of weight to lose, your clothing size won't change much. I had lost 45 lbs last year and only went down one pant size. Probably didn't help that I had been stuffing myself into clothes too small for me to begin with. Needless to say it crushed me. How can you lose so much weight but still fit the same clothing? It kinda defeated me and I gained it all back. I am back on the wagon, 24 lbs down (1/4ish the way there) and not going to let that stop me now that I know it'll take a bit more for me to see a difference.
I'm 5'8" and I experienced this too! I must have been stuffing myself into my 14s because I lost 40 pounds and I'm still only in 12s lol. Oh well! My mom is 5"3" and she always said "Every ten pounds is a size" Uh, nope!
I keep thinking I have to be going down in pant size soon, don’t I?
I'm still wearing the size 12s I've been wearing for the last 30lbs but I can also fit into a pair of jeans I couldn't fit before. Jeans are weird.5 -
Nobody told me what it can do to the rest of my life.
When I started this journey about 5 years ago I was not in a good place;
I was in a job i liked in many ways and was not happy with in many others. On top of that 5 years ago my work was going through a restructuring phase and many well loved co-workers lost their jobs. I know I was safe as my charge-ability was well above average, but still it shook me to my cor. i felt very much out of control of my life/career and unhappy with the situation. this showed in my weight and meant a downward spiral.
I decided that what was happening to me required me to take charge of the one thing I could control and that was me. The first year went reasonably well Just taking a little more care, starting to walk to work, it did the trick for a little while.
Just under 4 years ago I started logging on MFP. I had noticed before that logging always had helped me, but had never been able to find an easy way. I decided on a 3 month no added sugar break. Just to rid myself of some bad habits of over indulging and the’h it is only 1 (or 4) cookie.
I increased my walking and went on my journey.
It brought me what I wanted; weightless and with it self-confidence that there was something I was in control of and that started to spill over in other parts of me. I allowed myself to consider that what was happening at work had been earth shattering for me and that the result of the restructuring was simply a very bad fit for me. I needed something else., but what.
Let year with the help of external work related contacts and talking with them I found the confidence to start a 6 month post grad course (at 48!) OMG did I love that course the subject had a vague relationship to my job but really in showed me that I was capable of more than I could show at work and that I craved new things and learning. At the time I was not only studying I also held my job, though reduced to 4 days a week. It was a very hard course (involved a lot of advanced physics) and with my over the top workload and an under staffed department I have had my I need to cry moments.
Six months later I graduated and I felt exhilarated. Not only had I achieved a new diploma, but in the process I still had maintained my logging and lost a few kgs to boot.
While I was still waiting for my results I saw a job that just too perfect for words and a major step up in my career. Just one problem; I only met about half of the requirements.
My newfound confidence made that instead of saying “I don’t qualify”, send in y application strongly focussing in my letter on what I could offer and I felt they needed. Much to my amazement I was invited to an interview.
Yesterday I had my going away party for the ill fitting job. On december 1st I am starting that incredible job.
This summer I met my maintenance goal and I know that taking control of me, finding MFP as a tool, the support that I found here, plus my sports and lots and lots of walking has helped me to get there.My first step was finding my confidence back and that is what the weightless did.
So what nobody tells you really is that the weightless journey is part of a bigger journey and if you are willing to open up to that journey more amazing things can happen.84 -
dutchandkiwi wrote: »Nobody told me what it can do to the rest of my life.
When I started this journey about 5 years ago I was not in a good place;
I was in a job i liked in many ways and was not happy with in many others. On top of that 5 years ago my work was going through a restructuring phase and many well loved co-workers lost their jobs. I know I was safe as my charge-ability was well above average, but still it shook me to my cor. i felt very much out of control of my life/career and unhappy with the situation. this showed in my weight and meant a downward spiral.
I decided that what was happening to me required me to take charge of the one thing I could control and that was me. The first year went reasonably well Just taking a little more care, starting to walk to work, it did the trick for a little while.
Just under 4 years ago I started logging on MFP. I had noticed before that logging always had helped me, but had never been able to find an easy way. I decided on a 3 month no added sugar break. Just to rid myself of some bad habits of over indulging and the’h it is only 1 (or 4) cookie.
I increased my walking and went on my journey.
It brought me what I wanted; weightless and with it self-confidence that there was something I was in control of and that started to spill over in other parts of me. I allowed myself to consider that what was happening at work had been earth shattering for me and that the result of the restructuring was simply a very bad fit for me. I needed something else., but what.
Let year with the help of external work related contacts and talking with them I found the confidence to start a 6 month post grad course (at 48!) OMG did I love that course the subject had a vague relationship to my job but really in showed me that I was capable of more than I could show at work and that I craved new things and learning. At the time I was not only studying I also held my job, though reduced to 4 days a week. It was a very hard course (involved a lot of advanced physics) and with my over the top workload and an under staffed department I have had my I need to cry moments.
Six months later I graduated and I felt exhilarated. Not only had I achieved a new diploma, but in the process I still had maintained my logging and lost a few kgs to boot.
While I was still waiting for my results I saw a job that just too perfect for words and a major step up in my career. Just one problem; I only met about half of the requirements.
My newfound confidence made that instead of saying “I don’t qualify”, send in y application strongly focussing in my letter on what I could offer and I felt they needed. Much to my amazement I was invited to an interview.
Yesterday I had my going away party for the ill fitting job. On december 1st I am starting that incredible job.
This summer I met my maintenance goal and I know that taking control of me, finding MFP as a tool, the support that I found here, plus my sports and lots and lots of walking has helped me to get there.My first step was finding my confidence back and that is what the weightless did.
So what nobody tells you really is that the weightless journey is part of a bigger journey and if you are willing to open up to that journey more amazing things can happen.
@dutchandkiwi That is an absolutely beautiful post - so inspiring.
Congratulations on your accomplishments and especially on the new job!6 -
Buying new pant sizes that end up fitting only a few weeks cause you've lost just enough so they get lose around the waist...again! 11
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1)All the mixed feeling when you meet new people, who have no idea how big you used to be and everything else that comes with being bigger(how your style/confidence,etc. have changed.
Sometimes I feel like it's a dirty secret, a skeleton in the past. Other times - by biggest success and proudest moment.
2)Also that I'm still going to be ashamed to show new friends the comparison photos.
3) That it's way harder and tiring mentally than physically.
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How jealous people get who are overweight but don’t want to make changes. They shoot your happiness down.13
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dutchandkiwi wrote: »Nobody told me what it can do to the rest of my life.
When I started this journey about 5 years ago I was not in a good place;
I was in a job i liked in many ways and was not happy with in many others. On top of that 5 years ago my work was going through a restructuring phase and many well loved co-workers lost their jobs. I know I was safe as my charge-ability was well above average, but still it shook me to my cor. i felt very much out of control of my life/career and unhappy with the situation. this showed in my weight and meant a downward spiral.
I decided that what was happening to me required me to take charge of the one thing I could control and that was me. The first year went reasonably well Just taking a little more care, starting to walk to work, it did the trick for a little while.
Just under 4 years ago I started logging on MFP. I had noticed before that logging always had helped me, but had never been able to find an easy way. I decided on a 3 month no added sugar break. Just to rid myself of some bad habits of over indulging and the’h it is only 1 (or 4) cookie.
I increased my walking and went on my journey.
It brought me what I wanted; weightless and with it self-confidence that there was something I was in control of and that started to spill over in other parts of me. I allowed myself to consider that what was happening at work had been earth shattering for me and that the result of the restructuring was simply a very bad fit for me. I needed something else., but what.
Let year with the help of external work related contacts and talking with them I found the confidence to start a 6 month post grad course (at 48!) OMG did I love that course the subject had a vague relationship to my job but really in showed me that I was capable of more than I could show at work and that I craved new things and learning. At the time I was not only studying I also held my job, though reduced to 4 days a week. It was a very hard course (involved a lot of advanced physics) and with my over the top workload and an under staffed department I have had my I need to cry moments.
Six months later I graduated and I felt exhilarated. Not only had I achieved a new diploma, but in the process I still had maintained my logging and lost a few kgs to boot.
While I was still waiting for my results I saw a job that just too perfect for words and a major step up in my career. Just one problem; I only met about half of the requirements.
My newfound confidence made that instead of saying “I don’t qualify”, send in y application strongly focussing in my letter on what I could offer and I felt they needed. Much to my amazement I was invited to an interview.
Yesterday I had my going away party for the ill fitting job. On december 1st I am starting that incredible job.
This summer I met my maintenance goal and I know that taking control of me, finding MFP as a tool, the support that I found here, plus my sports and lots and lots of walking has helped me to get there.My first step was finding my confidence back and that is what the weightless did.
So what nobody tells you really is that the weightless journey is part of a bigger journey and if you are willing to open up to that journey more amazing things can happen.
Wow! What an incredible and inspiring story. Thanks for sharing and congratulations,
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kbivins1031 wrote: »How jealous people get who are overweight but don’t want to make changes. They shoot your happiness down.
Literally experienced this the other day. It's like you lost the weight and put it on them or something and should be blamed for their struggle.14 -
No one told me that when you're tall and have a decent amount of weight to lose, your clothing size won't change much. I had lost 45 lbs last year and only went down one pant size. Probably didn't help that I had been stuffing myself into clothes too small for me to begin with. Needless to say it crushed me. How can you lose so much weight but still fit the same clothing?
This exactly...I have lost 42lbs and have gone down 1 UK size from 18 to 16!!!! Have 25lbs more to go til middle of healthy BMI...will I ever be small????
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LizinLowell wrote: »No one told me that when you're tall and have a decent amount of weight to lose, your clothing size won't change much. I had lost 45 lbs last year and only went down one pant size. Probably didn't help that I had been stuffing myself into clothes too small for me to begin with. Needless to say it crushed me. How can you lose so much weight but still fit the same clothing? It kinda defeated me and I gained it all back. I am back on the wagon, 24 lbs down (1/4ish the way there) and not going to let that stop me now that I know it'll take a bit more for me to see a difference.
I'm 5'8" and I experienced this too! I must have been stuffing myself into my 14s because I lost 40 pounds and I'm still only in 12s lol. Oh well! My mom is 5"3" and she always said "Every ten pounds is a size" Uh, nope!
Yep, no way is 10 pounds one size down- I'm 5'3"- have lost 18 lb. from a 40lb. goal- started in a snug 16-now in a snug 14- So 18 pounds to get down a size. I honestly think it will take another 20lbs. more to get down to a 12-
But some of us ladies just need more room for our voluptuous lower halves.
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I think my face is going to look older once it deflates more- I'm 60 and had decent skin and few wrinkles- now I'm seriously starting to see lots of them-bummer- but at least I'll have good cheekbones! And yes, I already use really good skin care products so I guess I'll get what I get!7
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Jancandoit7 wrote: »I think my face is going to look older once it deflates more- I'm 60 and had decent skin and few wrinkles- now I'm seriously starting to see lots of them-bummer- but at least I'll have good cheekbones! And yes, I already use really good skin care products so I guess I'll get what I get!
Haha same here! Now I have circles under my eyes, before I suppose there were fat cushions! Thank god for concealers But I'm very happy my eyelids god 'skinny', so my eyes look bigger ! 4 -
gymprincess1234 wrote: »Jancandoit7 wrote: »I think my face is going to look older once it deflates more- I'm 60 and had decent skin and few wrinkles- now I'm seriously starting to see lots of them-bummer- but at least I'll have good cheekbones! And yes, I already use really good skin care products so I guess I'll get what I get!
Haha same here! Now I have circles under my eyes, before I suppose there were fat cushions! Thank god for concealers But I'm very happy my eyelids god 'skinny', so my eyes look bigger !
Yeah I hear ya. My body looks great but my face looks really gaunt. All that fat on my face before gave me a bit more of a youthish look...
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Jancandoit7 wrote: »I think my face is going to look older once it deflates more- I'm 60 and had decent skin and few wrinkles- now I'm seriously starting to see lots of them-bummer- but at least I'll have good cheekbones! And yes, I already use really good skin care products so I guess I'll get what I get!
Same here 72 look ok with makeup but I'm glad I'm a healthy weight, no BP meds now and stronger thanks to cardio and weights exercise
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