What nobody tells you about losing weight
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Nobody told me it would feel weird not having my thighs rub together when I walk. Or that my knees angle in slightly and I'm suddenly self-conscious in my old standby leggings. I can't imagine how I never noticed that before (or why nobody mentioned it)!9
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Nobody told me it would feel weird not having my thighs rub together when I walk. Or that my knees angle in slightly and I'm suddenly self-conscious in my old standby leggings. I can't imagine how I never noticed that before (or why nobody mentioned it)!
Haha yes! I remember when that started (stopped) happening. Now, when I wear heels, I feel like a foal stalking around on legs, but it's also helpful regarding the wear of trousers - they don't get "those" tears anymore!8 -
Nobody told me that regardless of how much I lost, it would not be enough to please everybody.
I'm tall, western, and live in Asia. I also happen to speak the local language, which the lady behind me at the supermarket checkout obviously didn't imagine as she chatted up the checkout girl with phrases like: "Look at this fat foreigner. And she's buying so much chicken! No wonder she's huge".
So many things went through my head. The main one was: "Lady, you think I'm huge now, you should have seen me 50 lbs ago!" But the truth is I'm at a healthy BMI, I'm lighter, more toned, fitter than I've ever been in my entire life. And yet it was still not enough to make the random stranger not look down on me and my food choices.
I know it shouldn't bother me, but really, I felt gutted.53 -
@Hungry_Shopgirl I am so sorry you experienced such rudeness/thoughtlessness. You're weight loss is a wonderful schievement!15
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Hungry_Shopgirl wrote: »Nobody told me that regardless of how much I lost, it would not be enough to please everybody.
I'm tall, western, and live in Asia. I also happen to speak the local language, which the lady behind me at the supermarket checkout obviously didn't imagine as she chatted up the checkout girl with phrases like: "Look at this fat foreigner. And she's buying so much chicken! No wonder she's huge".
So many things went through my head. The main one was: "Lady, you think I'm huge now, you should have seen me 50 lbs ago!" But the truth is I'm at a healthy BMI, I'm lighter, more toned, fitter than I've ever been in my entire life. And yet it was still not enough to make the random stranger not look down on me and my food choices.
I know it shouldn't bother me, but really, I felt gutted.
There is a lot of truth to this - you'll never be able to please everyone. Look at it from another angle - everyone, celebrities, models, politicians, there is always plenty of material out there trashing them and judging them, if it's not their looks, it's their choices, their lifestyle, their fashion - bottom line is that the only person you have to please is yourself. Try to ignore "random strangers" even though they don't make it easy (obviously) and focus on if you are happy with yourself. You probably already know this though, I just wanted to maybe make you feel a bit better
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@Hungry_Shopgirl I have a sister in law that is from Japan. Right after giving birth to my son the only thing she could focus on was how fat I still was. Doesn't matter what size I am - I'm fat and she has taught my nephew that his American family is fat. It's frustrating and sad that she puts so much emphasis on that. How about we are good people? How about we are smart and kind? Nope. We are somehow less because we are not built like Japanese women. My mom is 5'2" and probably not more than 125 pounds, but that's far too fat... @Piqueaboo and @shakenbake57 are right - be positive about yourself and feel good about your achievements.13
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It's great in the beginning when you are losing most weight in your midsection. It sucks however when your breasts deflate and they're more skin than fat.14
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bellaesprita wrote: »It's great in the beginning when you are losing most weight in your midsection. It sucks however when your breasts deflate and they're more skin than fat.
I maintained cute perky DDs through 100 lbs of loss...But then they flattened out in the 10 pounds since. I pushed my luck to far LOL Now they are sad
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stormyview wrote: »How irritating it would be to see overweight and obese people insist that being overweight has nothing to do with food choices, CICO, and activity levels. It drives me nuts to see folks online or in person insist that CICO isn't true because they're overweight despite not eating too much.
Before I lost wt with CICO, I never knew about it. I used to get very irritated with my Dr when she said I need to loose wt because I believed I couldn't. I didn't drink any soda, no fast food, ate twice a day, didn't snack, ate mainly chicken, veggies & rice & went to the gym AND had a job where I was mostly on my feet walking around all day. I believed it was hormones. No one told me about calories, so don't be too hard on ppl, some just need info23 -
Thanks @Piqueaboo and @shakenbake57 for your encouraging words! I needed them.
@Lucy1752, wow, I feel for you. It's bad enough for it to be random strangers judging one but it's probably so much harder to have that within your family! Thanks for giving me some perspective on this.2 -
How delicious and refreshing drinking ice cold water thru-out the day is.
How fabulous it feels to not only fit comfortably into the soaking tub is, but to be able to submerge into completely is so wonderful.
How much fun shopping is again.
How much fun/delightful it is to no longer be/feel compelled to hold onto "stuff" around the house and closets and as you're permanently ridding your body of fat, your desire to rid your home of the old "nice" clutter/junk that was once considered invaluable to you and impossible to throw (or give away), now becomes a joy to be free from/unattached to feels and looks.
That cleaning and decluttering is not only a super good way to see "results" quickly in and around your home, but it's burning calories too. That cleaning and cooking is no longer a druggery or chore, but a joy and delight!
How much younger you look and feel as the pounds are blasted forever away.
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No one told me how much more aware of the negative impact of excess weight on daily life I'd be. In my own life, and in other's lives. Not in a judgey-better-than-you way, but in kind of a sad, "I wish you would have this revelation too" sort of way; the way you see someone doing something self-destructive and know you can't say anything and know there's avoidable tragedy going on. It's actually heart-breaking.
So much this with my husband, who is T2D and more than 100 pounds overweight. Every time I watch him overeat, I feel this way. And scared, because with his Type A personality, family history, T2D, and high stress career, he is a waliking heartattack waiting to happen. I'm scared to lose him, but he is not ready to do anything about his weight.
You know I told my wife that I was going on a weight loss journey and I needed a buddy and would she go along with me and we'd keep each other motivated until we reached our goals together. She went along and lost 35 lbs and I lost 37. Talk to him. Tell him your concerns and ask if he would journey with you. The first day is the hardest and it gets easier each day after.8 -
I never knew how hard chairs are—my butt hurts all the time, and I keep somehow sitting on my own buttcheeks wrong? I keep having to stand up and sit down again to keep it from hurting. Gross!!!10
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pennoxford wrote: »I never knew how hard chairs are—my butt hurts all the time, and I keep somehow sitting on my own buttcheeks wrong? I keep having to stand up and sit down again to keep it from hurting. Gross!!!
one time i wore a kilt for a wedding and every time i sat down i freaked out bc my butt hit a cold seat. gave me new respect for girls who wear skirts.16 -
How well-meaning people will tell you that you've lost enough and should stop losing, even after you've explained that you're not even at a healthy BMI or anywhere near your goal weight....
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That id gain cellulite o_O Iv never had ANY and i was hella grateful for that but the last 5 or so pounds iv been noticing some dimpling under my booty. Sadness2
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That one day your "modest cleavage" shirts become very.... NOT modest because there isn't as much holding the material up
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@aeloine - I was thinking the same thing recently. I look at myself in the mirror and think, "ew."
And then I put my clothes on and think, "wow!" 
So, good thing other people see my fully clothed.
And good thing that people who see me NOT fully clothed are LOVING my new, candley body
Update on the candley body from last month: things are *slowly* starting to tighten up! You hear this on the forums sometimes but it doesn't always sink in that it WILL happen.33 -
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NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »
How much fun/delightful it is to no longer be/feel compelled to hold onto "stuff" around the house and closets and as you're permanently ridding your body of fat, your desire to rid your home of the old "nice" clutter/junk that was once considered invaluable to you and impossible to throw (or give away), now becomes a joy to be free from/unattached to feels and looks.
That cleaning and decluttering is not only a super good way to see "results" quickly in and around your home, but it's burning calories too. That cleaning and cooking is no longer a druggery or chore, but a joy and delight!
Yes Yes Yes!!!!7 -
NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »
How much fun/delightful it is to no longer be/feel compelled to hold onto "stuff" around the house and closets and as you're permanently ridding your body of fat, your desire to rid your home of the old "nice" clutter/junk that was once considered invaluable to you and impossible to throw (or give away), now becomes a joy to be free from/unattached to feels and looks.
That cleaning and decluttering is not only a super good way to see "results" quickly in and around your home, but it's burning calories too. That cleaning and cooking is no longer a druggery or chore, but a joy and delight!
Yes Yes Yes!!!!
I second that! Literally have become so OCD and minimalistic it's unbelievable.7 -
No one told me how much tracking calories would become such a big part of my life. Before I never bothered to check how many calories/what nutrients were in my food, now its something i do regularly. I do it so much that when I see a tag on a pair of socks and I have an instinct to check the back to see how many calories the socks are
This - My Hubby used to give me a raft of "stuff" every time I mentioned calories or fat or anything diet related - because I had been on thousands during the first 18 years of our marriage and never had any success - so he just didn't want to hear it, again.... but now, after finally getting the whole CICO thing down, not only is he keeping wrappers and labels for me when he cooks - but he is with me at the gym every day.31 -
bellaesprita000 wrote: »It's great in the beginning when you are losing most weight in your midsection. It sucks however when your breasts deflate and they're more skin than fat.
Sorry Girls, but, unless you have been wearing a bra 24/7 since puberty, this is going to happen, anyway. You are just getting a bit earlier than most. Roll them up, or get them lifted and move on.
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bellaesprita000 wrote: »It's great in the beginning when you are losing most weight in your midsection. It sucks however when your breasts deflate and they're more skin than fat.
Sorry Girls, but, unless you have been wearing a bra 24/7 since puberty, this is going to happen, anyway. You are just getting a bit earlier than most. Roll them up, or get them lifted and move on.
Actually studies show that wearing a bra doesn't prevent sagging. Use oils, moisturize, take care of your skin.8 -
Don't know if this will in any way help but I used to have a yoga teacher who would have us shift right and left until we got onto our 'sit bones' every time we began a seated series of moves. The idea was to actually separate the left from right butt cheek, so she'd also tell us (though I realise this was yoga class not the middle of a busy restaurant or something) that if we couldn't get our cheeks in the right position with this shifting around then to literally reach under and manually move our cheeks apart a bit. I have to admit I did find it more comfortable ...pennoxford wrote: »I never knew how hard chairs are—my butt hurts all the time, and I keep somehow sitting on my own buttcheeks wrong? I keep having to stand up and sit down again to keep it from hurting. Gross!!!
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gymprincess1234 wrote: »bellaesprita000 wrote: »It's great in the beginning when you are losing most weight in your midsection. It sucks however when your breasts deflate and they're more skin than fat.
Sorry Girls, but, unless you have been wearing a bra 24/7 since puberty, this is going to happen, anyway. You are just getting a bit earlier than most. Roll them up, or get them lifted and move on.
Actually studies show that wearing a bra doesn't prevent sagging. Use oils, moisturize, take care of your skin.
I think maybe bras wouldn't help in the sense of strengthening the gravity-defying muscles but they would still mitigate sagging in the sense of not putting the girls in a position to try to hold themselves up in the first place. End result would still be less sagging over the years, or so the logic goes among those for whom it's the convention, like among French women.
ETA: I wish I'd had any kind of strategy starting from adolescence, or at least my early twenties. I saw a picture of myself on uni grad day recently (which was about 20 years ago) and I swear mine are like a foot lower now.2 -
@HDBKLM I live in France and disagree, but each to their own, hope our boobs stay as high as possible whatever the strategy we use
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No one told me how much more aware of the negative impact of excess weight on daily life I'd be. In my own life, and in other's lives. Not in a judgey-better-than-you way, but in kind of a sad, "I wish you would have this revelation too" sort of way; the way you see someone doing something self-destructive and know you can't say anything and know there's avoidable tragedy going on. It's actually heart-breaking.
So much this with my husband, who is T2D and more than 100 pounds overweight. Every time I watch him overeat, I feel this way. And scared, because with his Type A personality, family history, T2D, and high stress career, he is a waliking heartattack waiting to happen. I'm scared to lose him, but he is not ready to do anything about his weight.
You know I told my wife that I was going on a weight loss journey and I needed a buddy and would she go along with me and we'd keep each other motivated until we reached our goals together. She went along and lost 35 lbs and I lost 37. Talk to him. Tell him your concerns and ask if he would journey with you. The first day is the hardest and it gets easier each day after.
I have asked him, have begged him, but he is not ready. I am more than willing to work out with him, but he just isn't there.5 -
I think maybe bras wouldn't help in the sense of strengthening the gravity-defying muscles but they would still mitigate sagging in the sense of not putting the girls in a position to try to hold themselves up in the first place. End result would still be less sagging over the years, or so the logic goes among those for whom it's the convention, like among French women.
Bras do not mitigate anything.
Breast ptosis (aka, sagging) is going to happen no matter how large or small ones breasts are. Even A cups will sag with age, barring the occurrence/presence of other causes like nursing/weight loss/etc./etc./etc. before then.
There are no muscles that keep ones breasts "in place"/defy gravity; it is all ligaments (Cooper's Suspensory Ligament). But just like muscles, if you do not weight-load ligaments as intended, they can and will atrophy. So by wearing a bra and taking the normal loading off those ligaments, you can cause them to atrophy over time more than they would have otherwise, making the sag worse. "Can" ≠ every woman, every breast size and shape, every time. There will always be exceptions to the rule.
What bras are good at doing is putting sagging breasts back on thoracic cavity wall where they were when you were sixteen.
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How annoying you might become - I putter around ALL THE TIME now. I can't sit still for nearly as long as I used to.14
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