2018 Non Scale Commitments (New Years Resolutions)
HellYeahItsKriss
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So all of us have had quite a year. 2017 is almost over. At the end of the year around this time i like to think back and reflect on who i was this time last year and who i am now. Some people may find there isn't a whole lot different about them, some people may find like myself that a lot has changed. Good or bad.
I don't like the normal NYR's.. You know... Go to the gym more.. Lose X amount of weight.. Etc
I thought this year I would make some commitments that should be do-able regardless of the circumstances and changes through the year. Something i could honestly commit to. I would like to hear some of yours, so please share them!
1. On January 1 2018 I am going to start a thread, probably in the motivation board and each day at the end of the day i am going to post 1 thing I am thankful for or see as positive even if i am having a cluster *kitten* of a day for the entire year.
2. I am going to make it more of a habit of telling my loved ones that I love them. I feel like time just seems to fly by and years pass sometimes before i can see some of my family. Since tomorrow is never promised I should make use of the days i am given.
3. I am going to work on forgiveness. I spend a lot of time being upset and jealous and resentful that the life I have is not the same as others. I am allowing people to rob me of my own joy by comparing and wanting what they have. I need to forgive myself for my past transgressions and I also need to learn that my life isn't terrible i am just making it look that way by only focusing on what i don't have. I can't love the life i have if im always finding flaws in it.
Anyway.. those are my top three, with these i am hoping that with more positive thoughts comes less stress and weight on my mind and more room to focus on being where i was last year physically.
Who wants to share next?
I don't like the normal NYR's.. You know... Go to the gym more.. Lose X amount of weight.. Etc
I thought this year I would make some commitments that should be do-able regardless of the circumstances and changes through the year. Something i could honestly commit to. I would like to hear some of yours, so please share them!
1. On January 1 2018 I am going to start a thread, probably in the motivation board and each day at the end of the day i am going to post 1 thing I am thankful for or see as positive even if i am having a cluster *kitten* of a day for the entire year.
2. I am going to make it more of a habit of telling my loved ones that I love them. I feel like time just seems to fly by and years pass sometimes before i can see some of my family. Since tomorrow is never promised I should make use of the days i am given.
3. I am going to work on forgiveness. I spend a lot of time being upset and jealous and resentful that the life I have is not the same as others. I am allowing people to rob me of my own joy by comparing and wanting what they have. I need to forgive myself for my past transgressions and I also need to learn that my life isn't terrible i am just making it look that way by only focusing on what i don't have. I can't love the life i have if im always finding flaws in it.
Anyway.. those are my top three, with these i am hoping that with more positive thoughts comes less stress and weight on my mind and more room to focus on being where i was last year physically.
Who wants to share next?
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1. I'm gonna go back to school and finish my degree, I let crazy situations in my life get in the way but I'm in a better place now and I don't want to let anymore time pass me by.
2. I'm gonna explore new places with my son even if it's just in my home state, I want to visit new places, meet new people, and just expand our horizons.
3. I'm going to work on making new friends and growing a better support system, I've been sheltered for so long in my life that I grew up with really bad social skills. I want to be more outgoing, so I can teach my son to be the same. He's autistic but I don't want that to hold him back from having healthy relationships with other people. I feel like if I can learn myself after being socially stunted maybe I can teach him as well.
I know it's probably not much but if I can accomplish those things, I'd consider 2018 a freaking win.
Edit: Thanks for making this thread Kriss it's really cool.12 -
Appreciate how precious time is and not waste it lounging around doing nothing!
1) Go travelling this summer (as much as my wallet allows haha)
2) Start saying 'yes' more and not shying away from new opportunities. I'm too prone to being scared of new situations and curling up in bed with Netflix instead.
3) Work hard(er) this term and smash my end of year uni exams!5 -
I'm going to try to be more social and spend less time in front of a screen. I'm pretty anti-social and only see friends once a week and family maybe once a month... time to work on that!
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1. I'm going to complete the 2 mile swimming race in Lake Superior that I signed up for next summer and not have to be pulled from the water. This really should be doable as I've been able to swim over 1.5 miles already.
2. I'm going to be more loving and forgiving towards myself. I have a tendency to be hard on myself and my body and I really want to appreciate myself and love my body more of time.
3. I want to make more home cooked food. I enjoy cooking and already cook a decent amount of time (and there is nothing inherently wrong with eating out or premade food), but I personally enjoy my food more and it often saves a bit on money and calories so I would like to make a bit more of an effort on this front.
Hopefully 2018 will be a great year for us all!!3 -
Nice commitments guys!
Sorry for the delay.. I was trying to catch my bus to PEI to see my dad for the first time in 4 years.. left the house at 2:30 cause the bus leaves at 4.. and between the bus transit app giving me the wrong departure times.. missed the bus and had to wait 20 min.. then of course the bus I got on had to stop at every stop.. mothers letting their small kids pay in change one coin at a time.. and people with awkward strollers.. then the clogged roads at the mall of last min shoppers.. People ringing for stops they weren't even getting off at.. missed my connecting bus.. had to wait 10 min.. then of course stopped at every stop.. traffic again downtown from last min shoppers.. and then I had to walk the rest of the way cause the bus doesn't stop there... I got to my bus at 3:57..
I had called and pleaded with them to please ask them to wait but the bus took off at 4:01.. so if one more thing had of happened I would of missed spending Christmas with my dad.
I seriously wanted to cry out of frustration for the last 90 min.11 -
God that sucks, did you make your bus? I hope things go well with your dad.1
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Yep I did. With 4 min to spare.
Incredibly frustrating tho.. considering how much I sacrificed to go this year like not having a job and leaving myself so short on money I can't buy food my meds or a bus pass in January.. missing that bus would of been like a huge end of this year slap in the face. Lol3 -
Great idea, and great goals. Still thinking about mine (so these aren't as deep), but one is going to be to get rid of clutter, things I have that I don't really use/love. Also do daily the little daily things that I tend to procrastinate and become big things (not getting into the details as some of this is work-related). Take a real vacation (I meant to this year and never did, so I am going to make concrete plans and schedule it in at the beginning of the year).3
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I love this!
I've had some health issues this past year and I'm mostly over the hump now. I've started already but making sure I am taking care of myself. Mentally and physically.
I want to live in the present more. I'm a planner and sometimes I find that I spend so much time thinking about what's next that I don't enjoy what is right in front of me.
Never stop learning! I want to go to the library more and learn about different things that interest me. Bonus: my 4 year old loves books so she will benefit as much, if not more, that I will.
Shoot, I need to write these down somewhere so that I see them daily lol.3 -
Less tv for sure. Stop what I’m doing and see my kids when they are talking to me instead of half listening.3
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Meal planning and home cooking. It's time.2
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Love your goals, Kriss.
My 2018 fitness goal: To run a 50 km run. Any other running achievements will be cherries on top.
My 2018 learning goal: To complete iPhone Photo Academy, a photography course I've started recently. This will help me with my recent achievement of being accepted to sell my photography at a local gallery.
My 2018 personal goal: To stay as happy as I am.2 -
My winter 2018 fitness goal: walk every non-pouring rain day at lunchtime. Two days a week I have meetings at 2 PM and have a bad habit of procrastinating taking lunch until there's not enough time to go for a walk so I'm going to work hard on that. If I don't exercise at lunch I have much less energy in the afternoon and throughout the evening.1
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Nice ones guys
I dumped my boyfriend today so I'm adding to my commitments list today.
4) I am putting my own interests first. I will value being single and by myself now and focusing on my own personal well being. I refuse to be responsible for someone else's happiness at the cost of my own happiness.14 -
Love your goals, Kriss.
My 2018 fitness goal: To run a 50 km run. Any other running achievements will be cherries on top.
My 2018 learning goal: To complete iPhone Photo Academy, a photography course I've started recently. This will help me with my recent achievement of being accepted to sell my photography at a local gallery.
My 2018 personal goal: To stay as happy as I am.
Good luck in your photography class! I'm sure you will do awesome1 -
kshama2001 wrote: »My winter 2018 fitness goal: walk every non-pouring rain day at lunchtime. Two days a week I have meetings at 2 PM and have a bad habit of procrastinating taking lunch until there's not enough time to go for a walk so I'm going to work hard on that. If I don't exercise at lunch I have much less energy in the afternoon and throughout the evening.
Any non fitness commitments this year? 1 -
HellYeahItsKriss wrote: »Nice ones guys
I dumped my boyfriend today so I'm adding to my commitments list today.
4) I am putting my own interests first. I will value being single and by myself now and focusing on my own personal well being. I refuse to be responsible for someone else's happiness at the cost of my own happiness.
I'm sorry, Kriss. I really really hope 2018 is the complete opposite of 2017 for you.1 -
eyyyyy krissy mine are all internal me focused and i happen to always be single. twins n *kitten*. Lets do this we got this
Mines focused on minimizing things i dont need and maximizing experiences. I want to say no to stuff i dont need, And yes to things i have no real reason not to do. Focus on keeping my house a calm clean space (and get rid of all the stuff i hoard >.> ) and sort of feel out the scary outer world and stuff. Get some hobbies. Make some friends. Focus on health and nutrition vs just weight loss. Its my year
edit: i made a full google doc of it earlier it seems todays the day to think of this stuff hah. I have year goals and month goals seperated into weeks. I have all year to focus on me why rush. January im having a 2 week challenge of strictly clean (dont gimme the whole what is clean thing we all know what i mean ) for the first 2 weeks of the year. possibly the full month who knows, And 4 parts of sorting and cleaning my house seperated into weekly goals.
Gona be a good month focused on relaxing myself and my space and sort of resetting in health mode after christmas 3 -
Yeah I'm with putting my interests first. I'm over and done with putting my goals on the back burner for everyone else's interests. Time to teach independence to reach independence.
Hugs to you Kris. Wishing you, and everyone else, much peace, contentment, and light.1 -
HellYeahItsKriss wrote: »Nice ones guys
I dumped my boyfriend today so I'm adding to my commitments list today.
4) I am putting my own interests first. I will value being single and by myself now and focusing on my own personal well being. I refuse to be responsible for someone else's happiness at the cost of my own happiness.
I'm sorry, Kriss. I really really hope 2018 is the complete opposite of 2017 for you.
I think there was a lot of people questioning on if I knew the difference between comments made out of complete ignorance and ones made to be intentionally hurtful.
Lol.. a big sigh of relief around the world. I do.
I am fairly tolerant of people opinions to a point.. even if I find them enraging I will take them in and process it logically.
However the boyfriends last words to me were that my father is scared to talk to me because I am skitzo-*kitten*-phranic. Every time I tried to explain that my dad isn't much of a talker over the phone so he says "uhm" or "uhh" a lot in the process he cut me off and told me to shut up and *kitten* off.
He has a problem with alcohol.. and the reason why I walked out of his life once was because he gets really obnoxious. He is egotistical and can say some hurtful things. He got drunk a few days ago because I shut my phone off and wanted to be alone and canceled our plans.
He told me while I was on the bus to see my dad that he was trying not to commit suicide because he was sad lately and that I was gone. then the next day he was drunk all day again and messaged me and said he was sad and lonely. I called 15 times and he wouldn't answer. I'm 4 hours away.. how would I know if something happened?
When he finally answered.. while I was relieved he was fine.. he was using me being at my father's as a reason to drink cause he had no one to keep him company.
I felt mad cause how can I enjoy spending time with my family while I'm worrying if he's gonna do something? (He had unsuccessfully tried twice years before I met him so it wasn't an over reaction)
But then that whole belittling conversation started. He blamed me for getting him started on the alcohol again.. but just a few days before he told me my binge eating disorder was imaginary and no one was forcing me to eat. So I should just stop paying for placebo pills that don't work and just put some effort in and just not eat.
However this same logic does not apply to him and alcohol and when I asked him about that I got silenced with more shut ups and *kitten* offs.
He told me that he often sneaks into my building and sits outside my apt door and listens but never knocks or tells me he is there. He claims this is to make sure I am still alive. I am his everything. His world. His life.
But he said he loves me and he doesn't know why anymore. I'm never happy. Doesn't understand why he stays in the relationship. He says I'm just staying in it cause I'm scared to be Alone. Then he went on the rant about how losing everything this year is my fault so I should just accept it. And then the stuff about my dad.
So I told him that he is free and it's over. He will probably drink all Christmas.. and won't sober up til his next shift. It won't be until then that he realizes what has happened.
Last time he really regretted it when I walked out.. but I gave him one more chance. There will not be another. I'm not a doormat lol.
The difference is.. I am not existing within the paradigm of his existence.. I don't need to see him every day to avoid feeling alone and depressed. He clearly did. He is going to have a hard time unfortunately.. but I can't keep putting him above myself. I've put on a lot of weight since meeting him and letting him really wear me down mentally. That changes now. I'm not going to be responsible for trying to maintain balance for his alcoholism.14 -
MJaydedMiss wrote: »eyyyyy krissy mine are all internal me focused and i happen to always be single. twins n *kitten*. Lets do this we got this
Mines focused on minimizing things i dont need and maximizing experiences. I want to say no to stuff i dont need, And yes to things i have no real reason not to do. Focus on keeping my house a calm clean space (and get rid of all the stuff i hoard >.> ) and sort of feel out the scary outer world and stuff. Get some hobbies. Make some friends. Focus on health and nutrition vs just weight loss. Its my year
edit: i made a full google doc of it earlier it seems todays the day to think of this stuff hah. I have year goals and month goals seperated into weeks. I have all year to focus on me why rush. January im having a 2 week challenge of strictly clean (dont gimme the whole what is clean thing we all know what i mean ) for the first 2 weeks of the year. possibly the full month who knows, And 4 parts of sorting and cleaning my house seperated into weekly goals.
Gona be a good month focused on relaxing myself and my space and sort of resetting in health mode after christmas
Maybe we can do some challenges together. I really want January to be a start on the right foot now1 -
HellYeahItsKriss wrote: »MJaydedMiss wrote: »eyyyyy krissy mine are all internal me focused and i happen to always be single. twins n *kitten*. Lets do this we got this
Mines focused on minimizing things i dont need and maximizing experiences. I want to say no to stuff i dont need, And yes to things i have no real reason not to do. Focus on keeping my house a calm clean space (and get rid of all the stuff i hoard >.> ) and sort of feel out the scary outer world and stuff. Get some hobbies. Make some friends. Focus on health and nutrition vs just weight loss. Its my year
edit: i made a full google doc of it earlier it seems todays the day to think of this stuff hah. I have year goals and month goals seperated into weeks. I have all year to focus on me why rush. January im having a 2 week challenge of strictly clean (dont gimme the whole what is clean thing we all know what i mean ) for the first 2 weeks of the year. possibly the full month who knows, And 4 parts of sorting and cleaning my house seperated into weekly goals.
Gona be a good month focused on relaxing myself and my space and sort of resetting in health mode after christmas
Maybe we can do some challenges together. I really want January to be a start on the right foot now
super down I already set a few up for me, We can make some for we None of us are overly social in our journeys (were both very self motivated lol) but we do well together anyway
Edit: seems like as good a place as any to wish you a merry christmas im forever around to slide into PM with if you need some support, ever 0 -
Good commitment list!! I would like to travel more, not be tempted to cut my hair, and spend less time trying to stress about wedding planning. I'm getting married in 2018 ^_^2
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My commitment for 2018 is to be involved/participate in as many activities as I can that interest me. Officially retired as of January 5 - now on vacation - and the plan is to live every moment. I have been quite active to this point but see retirement as a whole new opportunity.
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My sincere respect, Kriss, for leaving your boyfriend. Sounds like he was trying to make you stay with him out of guilt. That's yet another reason to leave him, on top of his nasty and creepy behaviour.
Bravo yet again for your courage! You've shown it in your wins against BED and obesity, and yet again here.
So proud to know you and see your emergence as a happier person.2 -
In 2018, I’m going to wear sunscreen every day, rain or shine. I would encourage everyone to do the same. Skin cancer is ugly, painful and mostly avoidable.4
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Hm, wow I’m going to start wearing sunscreen as well!
Other resolutions include:
1.) Have a structured life to be able to do things I love. I waste so much time doing nothing or waiting to do the next task and not taking advantage of 20 minutes here and there and then the rest are things that need to get done and leaves me no time for hobbies,
2.) Study for GRE at least 4 hours a week.
3.) Go to Orange Theory at least 5 times a month.
Overall I’m excited for 2018. I feel a lot more in control of my life now than I ever have, even if things aren’t perfect.1 -
HellYeahItsKriss wrote: »Nice ones guys
I dumped my boyfriend today so I'm adding to my commitments list today.
4) I am putting my own interests first. I will value being single and by myself now and focusing on my own personal well being. I refuse to be responsible for someone else's happiness at the cost of my own happiness.
So happy for you!! The best thing I ever did for myself was stop prioritizing my boyfriends schedule over my own. He got to do all his errands and hobbies and I didn’t. That’s not a way to live and I’m happy you’re taking control again
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- I am going to go visit my grandma at least once a week
- I am gonna make new friends that can be a positive influence in my life and me in theirs
- I am gonna save money for a short vacation
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