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i dont dish up anyone other than my son (cause hes 11) and my fiance. everyone else is on their own. how the *kitten* am i supposed to know what or how much they want? grown *kitten* people. dish yourself up.
so glad i dont eat at peoples houses lolololol
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MoveitlikeManda wrote: »why is it so odd that the person cooking would dish up her meal?
when I cook, no matter who it is for I dish up the meal, I do ask them what they want and usually show them what's going on and say is that enough/how much but its normal for the cooker to plate up ??
im 31 and have never been to a family dinner and dished up my own meal.
and frankly if I was cooking and everyone came in and started to dish up their own Id tell them to F**k off out the kitchen
OP as said above you dont have to eat everything you are given, and I am sure from logging your own food you can have a guestimate of what you do actually eat.
I LOVE a good Sunday roast so when Im making one I tend not to eat during the day knowing I can have a massive dinner and enjoy it without worrying that its gonna wreck my count for the day.
#SundaydinnerisnotjustforSundays
It is not normal at homes where I have eaten for the cook to plate everyone's food especially if there are a lot of people. Either the food is in the kitchen and everyone fills their own plate there or the food is on the table and you fill your own plate unless you are a young child or something is too heavy to pass. That is how it has always been.3 -
Is this a traditional thing to have someone plate your food for you on Sundays? I am not sure I could really handle someone else putting food on my own plate.
I don't know if it's a UK thing but generally whoever is cooking dishes up everyone's food. Sometimes they might put a dish of something on the table for people to serve themselves, but not usually the whole meal. The sauces/gravy are also left on the table for people to take what they want. It would be really unusual to go to someone's house for dinner and ask them if you could put your food on your plate yourself. If you explained why then reasonable people would be fine with it, but i could imagine some would get offended.
When I got to my dad's for dinner, I just over estimate. But I don't go very often.
Yes, it's the usual way in the UK & plus we kinda live upstairs so we eat all our meals in our room, there's no sitting at the table in this house!1 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »i dont dish up anyone other than my son (cause hes 11) and my fiance. everyone else is on their own. how the *kitten* am i supposed to know what or how much they want? grown *kitten* people. dish yourself up.
so glad i dont eat at peoples houses lolololol
Here part of cooking for other people is planning enough for everyone to eat but not so much that there's lots of waste/leftovers. So if you let everyone take what they want then some people will take too much and others might not get enough.
It's just cultural differences. No need for people to get on their high horse about it.7 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »she dishes up your plate for you?
yeah. no.
but then, i also dont eat other peoples food. its always been an OCD thing of mine, not a calorie thing. though it comes in useful for that too.
Then maybe you don't go to restaurants. But, with the exception of buffets, every restaurant plates the guest's food. I don't understand why this is so odd.3 -
MoveitlikeManda wrote: »why is it so odd that the person cooking would dish up her meal?
when I cook, no matter who it is for I dish up the meal, I do ask them what they want and usually show them what's going on and say is that enough/how much but its normal for the cooker to plate up ??
im 31 and have never been to a family dinner and dished up my own meal.
and frankly if I was cooking and everyone came in and started to dish up their own Id tell them to F**k off out the kitchen
OP as said above you dont have to eat everything you are given, and I am sure from logging your own food you can have a guestimate of what you do actually eat.
I LOVE a good Sunday roast so when Im making one I tend not to eat during the day knowing I can have a massive dinner and enjoy it without worrying that its gonna wreck my count for the day.
#SundaydinnerisnotjustforSundays
It is not normal at homes where I have eaten for the cook to plate everyone's food especially if there are a lot of people. Either the food is in the kitchen and everyone fills their own plate there or the food is on the table and you fill your own plate unless you are a young child or something is too heavy to pass. That is how it has always been.
Now that I think of it, I only fill everyone's plate if it is just our family. When we have guests, I do have them fill their own plate. We don't have guests often, so that is why I didn't think of it.1 -
kommodevaran wrote: »Clean your plate - when you serve yourself. The rule does not apply when someone else does it. I too was late to figure this out
This is my approach. When I serve myself I tend to serve myself exactly what I want to eat and no more (and I don't get seconds). When someone else does, well, I use judgment (and this is a restaurant thing, mostly).
When we have dinners usually you get some say over how much goes on your plate or, ideally, you dish up yourself from plates and bowls on the table or counter.
Anyway roasted chicken, potatoes, and veg are something I ate frequently when losing. (Not instant gravy, I'd skip it, and better if you know how much fat she added.)1 -
lemurcat12 wrote: »kommodevaran wrote: »Clean your plate - when you serve yourself. The rule does not apply when someone else does it. I too was late to figure this out
This is my approach. When I serve myself I tend to serve myself exactly what I want to eat and no more (and I don't get seconds). When someone else does, well, I use judgment (and this is a restaurant thing, mostly).
When we have dinners usually you get some say over how much goes on your plate or, ideally, you dish up yourself from plates and bowls on the table or counter.
Anyway roasted chicken, potatoes, and veg are something I ate frequently when losing. (Not instant gravy, I'd skip it, and better if you know how much fat she added.)
Thank you,
Well I left most of the gravy & the only fat used was a thin brushing of oil on the roast potatoes/carrots/parsnips ...
I just couldn't enjoy a roast meal without gravy so my compromise was to only eat what landed on my food & not soak up what was on the plate ..
Next week I'll ask for less potatoes & more greens
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callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »she dishes up your plate for you?
yeah. no.
but then, i also dont eat other peoples food. its always been an OCD thing of mine, not a calorie thing. though it comes in useful for that too.
Then maybe you don't go to restaurants. But, with the exception of buffets, every restaurant plates the guest's food. I don't understand why this is so odd.
restaurants are different. and i go to those very very rarely. and i do not ever EVER go to buffets. They violate every single one of my food rules.
I have OCD. i dont give a *kitten* if no one understands it. Theyre my rules, and serve me well.1 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »she dishes up your plate for you?
yeah. no.
but then, i also dont eat other peoples food. its always been an OCD thing of mine, not a calorie thing. though it comes in useful for that too.
Then maybe you don't go to restaurants. But, with the exception of buffets, every restaurant plates the guest's food. I don't understand why this is so odd.
restaurants are different. and i go to those very very rarely. and i do not ever EVER go to buffets. They violate every single one of my food rules.
I have OCD. i dont give a *kitten* if no one understands it. Theyre my rules, and serve me well.
I get you. You have to deal with your OCD as you see fit.
I am a retired chef. When we have guests for dinner, it depends on what I've prepared as to whether I will plate or let others serve themselves. Sometimes with some things, like say rack of lamb with roasted potatoes and a veggie, it makes more sense to plate and sauce. There is also a certain art to the presentation. A comfort meal like Chili, I'll put out the chili and the garnishes and let people help themselves.2 -
MoveitlikeManda wrote: »I don't think it has anything to do with rationing it or making sure everyone gets a fair amount, its just normal to cook and dish up dinner.
I understand some people put all food out on the table for people to take what they want or put serving spoons in the pots/pans/dishes etc but this is not a "usual" thing. Well not in the UK anyway.
when you go out for a meal do you go in the kitchen and dish up yourself too? because god forbid somebody dish up your meal
Dining out is different then eating in someones home. So that argument doesn't fly.
I do not dish out grown folks food....children yes...adults no
I do not know what they like or don't like.
I would not like someone making my plate either....find it odd. Different strokes for different folks.3 -
trawillcy2018 wrote: »Is this a traditional thing to have someone plate your food for you on Sundays? I am not sure I could really handle someone else putting food on my own plate.
I don't know if it's a UK thing but generally whoever is cooking dishes up everyone's food. Sometimes they might put a dish of something on the table for people to serve themselves, but not usually the whole meal. The sauces/gravy are also left on the table for people to take what they want. It would be really unusual to go to someone's house for dinner and ask them if you could put your food on your plate yourself. If you explained why then reasonable people would be fine with it, but i could imagine some would get offended.
When I got to my dad's for dinner, I just over estimate. But I don't go very often.
Yes, it's the usual way in the UK & plus we kinda live upstairs so we eat all our meals in our room, there's no sitting at the table in this house!
Whaaat? You don't eat together? I thought meals were a social gathering.1 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »she dishes up your plate for you?
yeah. no.
but then, i also dont eat other peoples food. its always been an OCD thing of mine, not a calorie thing. though it comes in useful for that too.
Then maybe you don't go to restaurants. But, with the exception of buffets, every restaurant plates the guest's food. I don't understand why this is so odd.
restaurants are different. and i go to those very very rarely. and i do not ever EVER go to buffets. They violate every single one of my food rules.
I have OCD. i dont give a *kitten* if no one understands it. Theyre my rules, and serve me well.
I totally understand your OCD as I suffer with it too! Not exactly the same as yours but I can relate 1 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »she dishes up your plate for you?
yeah. no.
but then, i also dont eat other peoples food. its always been an OCD thing of mine, not a calorie thing. though it comes in useful for that too.
Then maybe you don't go to restaurants. But, with the exception of buffets, every restaurant plates the guest's food. I don't understand why this is so odd.
restaurants are different. and i go to those very very rarely. and i do not ever EVER go to buffets. They violate every single one of my food rules.
I have OCD. i dont give a *kitten* if no one understands it. Theyre my rules, and serve me well.
I get you. You have to deal with your OCD as you see fit.
I am a retired chef. When we have guests for dinner, it depends on what I've prepared as to whether I will plate or let others serve themselves. Sometimes with some things, like say rack of lamb with roasted potatoes and a veggie, it makes more sense to plate and sauce. There is also a certain art to the presentation. A comfort meal like Chili, I'll put out the chili and the garnishes and let people help themselves.
A Chefs meal is like enjoying a work of art this is an exception where plating is concerned.3 -
trawillcy2018 wrote: »Is this a traditional thing to have someone plate your food for you on Sundays? I am not sure I could really handle someone else putting food on my own plate.
I don't know if it's a UK thing but generally whoever is cooking dishes up everyone's food. Sometimes they might put a dish of something on the table for people to serve themselves, but not usually the whole meal. The sauces/gravy are also left on the table for people to take what they want. It would be really unusual to go to someone's house for dinner and ask them if you could put your food on your plate yourself. If you explained why then reasonable people would be fine with it, but i could imagine some would get offended.
When I got to my dad's for dinner, I just over estimate. But I don't go very often.
Yes, it's the usual way in the UK & plus we kinda live upstairs so we eat all our meals in our room, there's no sitting at the table in this house!
Whaaat? You don't eat together? I thought meals were a social gathering.
I suffer anxiety & self consciousness so it's easier to just sit with my other half ... the family understand so it's not an issue 0 -
please don't assume your like the only person here with OCD or that understand0
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MoveitlikeManda wrote: »please don't assume your like the only person here with OCD or that understand
Oh I didn't & I'm truly sorry if I came across that way!0 -
Interesting thread, and I assume the setting is English. Took me by surprise on my first trip to England. The "plating" was always done at the table though, and they asked me how much.
Where I live now, we help ourselves when we come together for social meals, but again it's from dishes on the table. You take what you need from the nearest dish and pass the dish around to other persons. So of course you get to choose how much or how little, or skip a particular dish if you prefer.
When it's just our family at home, we do whatever is convenient. A fresh meal would be in dishes on the table for everyone to help themselves. A meal from leftovers would be plated out from whatever is available and popped into the microwave.1 -
trawillcy2018 wrote: »MoveitlikeManda wrote: »please don't assume your like the only person here with OCD or that understand
Oh I didn't & I'm truly sorry if I came across that way!
not you chick.
callsitlikeiseeit said
I have OCD. i dont give a *kitten* if no one understands it. Theyre my rules, and serve me well.
many people understand! and I dont give a *kitten* how anyone dishes up the dinner either, I only commented saying its not as odd as some were saying that the cook dishes up.
grown *kitten* people need to get a grip3 -
The issue seems to be the weigh in.
The solution is called trending weight app or web site.
Weekly weigh ins (which I personally consider inferior to daily due to less data points and a higher perceived importance) are also best done before an indulgent day, so for most people Thursday or Friday morning....1
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