What diet???

sammyj19902015 wrote: »

kommodevaran wrote: »

Do you have trouble focusing in other areas as well? School, work, hobbies, getting places on time? Too many experiences with trust being broken, for instance in relationships? Weightloss is just about buckling down and stop overeating, but not starving or depriving yourself. Day in, day out, taking each meal, each day as a challenge as well as a wonderful opportunity to learn and enjoy. Blame this or that and cry and believe in magic, DOES NOT WORK.

Relationships definitely.. mainly cheated on which is where my insecurity comes from and my personal view on my body image. I’m also 28 years of age not 3 so do u really think I believe magic will work... I just get frustrated on here of people thinking they know everything when people are different. I’ve been doing mfp for 3 years now and still not working for me so yeah frustrated that I can’t stick to it but I would kill to be slim.. figure that one out lol

People are different in the foods they enjoy eating, what satiates them, what stresses they have in life and how they respond to them, etc. they aren’t different in how they lose weight - everyone is the same there, we lose weight from creating a sustained calorie deficit over time.

Your frustration comes through loud and clear, but so does your impatience and your desperation to find a singular solution to your challenge of not being able to lose weight. People have explained to you time and again on this thread and your other - you only need to consistently eat less than you burn, and you must be patient. I’ve asked you questions about your triggers for your situational overeating in an an attempt to help you come up with some coping strategies , you’ve ignored all my questions. You say you’d kill to be slim - but yet you are lashing out at all the people who are truly trying to help you. You’ve referenced a couple times a new baby - is this the kind of healthy attitude you want to model for your child? What about learning to be healthy and happy because you don’t look for a quick fix, you aren’t focused on the end result of being slim but the process of learning about nutrition and satiety and fitness. And insulting people that try to help you - is that what you want to teach your little one? Lastly, gaining back some weight after you have a baby? Completely normal. I don’t know how recent this is but it took me 3 years after my youngest was born to get serious about weight loss, and to be in a good frame of mind - enough sleep, enough mental focus, enough desire - to make a lifestyle change and not just want to lose baby weight.

Take a deep breath and start over at the beginning of this thread, reread the responses and try to take the emotion out of it. Read those stickied helpful posts that people have posted links for. Read lots of them. Then think about what you really think the issue is and how you can solve it. If you truly believe the root cause is your inability to stick to the diet, then again, stop looking at it as a diet and stop restricting so heavily. If your issue truly is that you believe you have some addictive behaviors around food - then work on identifying those triggers. You aren’t addicted to food. No one is. You might have emotional triggers that cause you to overeat, but those are emotional and behavioral related and not an addiction. There are lots of people who have struggled with similar situations and overcome them - again, read the stickies!

Good luck.