How do you date in 2018?
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Wow, how did racism get cought up in comments about the opposite sex?
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Expectation kills so much in our society anymore, because reality has been perversely distorted by the media and too many people focus on what's in it for them...constantly.3
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Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Its hard
I feel as I’ve gotten older dating has become more difficult
Well ...not difficult ,just less quality men
I feel like everyone wants to play around and not really get to know someone.
Less quality women. Want to know where all the good men gave gone. Too many women looking to trade up the second they think a better option comes along. Men are tired of it. Tired of paying child support. Tired of losing half our assets when we get divorced. Tired of dying earlier. Tired of working longer hours only to be publicly flogged as "less quality" ...plenty of good men out here. Many are just opting out.
I blame the slogan..."I won't settle." Which is fine for those with desirable traits, but don't expect 6'2" six pack and making 200k Prince charming to come along and date 100% of the single population. Here's a clue. Those men have the women they want. Those men represent less than 1% of the male population. So be very careful with how you define "quality men". Women were once very angry about having to live up to a "Barbie standard" (and rightfully so to be angry...thats unrealistic)...but we need to start having some realistic expectations and conversations about what makes a quality man.
The end.
I agree & disagree, you're correct pertaining to the unfair expectations of women; as you mention! However even though I saw "The Red Pill", the main misrepresentation concerning men blaming women; for legal matters' that until women and/or men of color were permitted to even vote, most of these views/laws; were orchestrated by Caucasian men & you still dominate, the political landscape to change this as you always've; yet don't choose to but just complain/blame!
Your expectations of Caucasian men seems awfully high.
Then whom, was within control of the government; when men of color & women, weren't permitted; to vote/be a candidate? Heck even for decades when women had the right to vote, they still weren't allowed to've access to credit; without a man's permission!0 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Its hard
I feel as I’ve gotten older dating has become more difficult
Well ...not difficult ,just less quality men
I feel like everyone wants to play around and not really get to know someone.
Less quality women. Want to know where all the good men gave gone. Too many women looking to trade up the second they think a better option comes along. Men are tired of it. Tired of paying child support. Tired of losing half our assets when we get divorced. Tired of dying earlier. Tired of working longer hours only to be publicly flogged as "less quality" ...plenty of good men out here. Many are just opting out.
I blame the slogan..."I won't settle." Which is fine for those with desirable traits, but don't expect 6'2" six pack and making 200k Prince charming to come along and date 100% of the single population. Here's a clue. Those men have the women they want. Those men represent less than 1% of the male population. So be very careful with how you define "quality men". Women were once very angry about having to live up to a "Barbie standard" (and rightfully so to be angry...thats unrealistic)...but we need to start having some realistic expectations and conversations about what makes a quality man.
The end.
I agree & disagree, you're correct pertaining to the unfair expectations of women; as you mention! However even though I saw "The Red Pill", the main misrepresentation concerning men blaming women; for legal matters' that until women and/or men of color were permitted to even vote, most of these views/laws; were orchestrated by Caucasian men & you still dominate, the political landscape to change this as you always've; yet don't choose to but just complain/blame!
Your expectations of Caucasian men seems awfully high.
Then whom, was within control of the government; when men of color & women, weren't permitted; to vote/be a candidate? Heck even for decades when women had the right to vote, they still weren't allowed to've access to credit; without a man's permission!
This question has been asked and answered 1000 times in other forums on other sites. Let's just agree to disagree.1 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Its hard
I feel as I’ve gotten older dating has become more difficult
Well ...not difficult ,just less quality men
I feel like everyone wants to play around and not really get to know someone.
Less quality women. Want to know where all the good men gave gone. Too many women looking to trade up the second they think a better option comes along. Men are tired of it. Tired of paying child support. Tired of losing half our assets when we get divorced. Tired of dying earlier. Tired of working longer hours only to be publicly flogged as "less quality" ...plenty of good men out here. Many are just opting out.
I blame the slogan..."I won't settle." Which is fine for those with desirable traits, but don't expect 6'2" six pack and making 200k Prince charming to come along and date 100% of the single population. Here's a clue. Those men have the women they want. Those men represent less than 1% of the male population. So be very careful with how you define "quality men". Women were once very angry about having to live up to a "Barbie standard" (and rightfully so to be angry...thats unrealistic)...but we need to start having some realistic expectations and conversations about what makes a quality man.
The end.
I agree & disagree, you're correct pertaining to the unfair expectations of women; as you mention! However even though I saw "The Red Pill", the main misrepresentation concerning men blaming women; for legal matters' that until women and/or men of color were permitted to even vote, most of these views/laws; were orchestrated by Caucasian men & you still dominate, the political landscape to change this as you always've; yet don't choose to but just complain/blame!
Your expectations of Caucasian men seems awfully high.
Historically, perhaps. But we are dissecting dating in 2018.
And those Caucasian men who control the political landscape today. They don't have dating apps. You realize not all caucasian men are political power weilders? Demographics are changing year to year. And we all deal with that a it comes. But the Red Pill outlines some very true and stark problems men face, yet to most its classified as misogynistic Nazi right wing propaganda.
I don't really want to delve into politics here. We can agree to disagree and be friendly. MFP has some strict policies about politics in the forums.
I just want to reiterate I was giving one point of view that is representative of a lot of MEN...not just Caucasian men...as it pertains to dating these days.
Which's why, I said "legal matters" separately; via women's expectations!0 -
Expectation kills so much in our society anymore, because reality has been perversely distorted by the media and too many people focus on what's in it for them...constantly.
Agree. As well as social media portraying 100% perfect life.
We've lost our way and it's disrupting our thought process.0 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Its hard
I feel as I’ve gotten older dating has become more difficult
Well ...not difficult ,just less quality men
I feel like everyone wants to play around and not really get to know someone.
Less quality women. Want to know where all the good men gave gone. Too many women looking to trade up the second they think a better option comes along. Men are tired of it. Tired of paying child support. Tired of losing half our assets when we get divorced. Tired of dying earlier. Tired of working longer hours only to be publicly flogged as "less quality" ...plenty of good men out here. Many are just opting out.
I blame the slogan..."I won't settle." Which is fine for those with desirable traits, but don't expect 6'2" six pack and making 200k Prince charming to come along and date 100% of the single population. Here's a clue. Those men have the women they want. Those men represent less than 1% of the male population. So be very careful with how you define "quality men". Women were once very angry about having to live up to a "Barbie standard" (and rightfully so to be angry...thats unrealistic)...but we need to start having some realistic expectations and conversations about what makes a quality man.
The end.
I agree & disagree, you're correct pertaining to the unfair expectations of women; as you mention! However even though I saw "The Red Pill", the main misrepresentation concerning men blaming women; for legal matters' that until women and/or men of color were permitted to even vote, most of these views/laws; were orchestrated by Caucasian men & you still dominate, the political landscape to change this as you always've; yet don't choose to but just complain/blame!
Your expectations of Caucasian men seems awfully high.
Then whom, was within control of the government; when men of color & women, weren't permitted; to vote/be a candidate? Heck even for decades when women had the right to vote, they still weren't allowed to've access to credit; without a man's permission!
This question has been asked and answered 1000 times in other forums on other sites. Let's just agree to disagree.
I am wondering, how's it plausible to disagree; with the facts but I digress!0 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Its hard
I feel as I’ve gotten older dating has become more difficult
Well ...not difficult ,just less quality men
I feel like everyone wants to play around and not really get to know someone.
Less quality women. Want to know where all the good men gave gone. Too many women looking to trade up the second they think a better option comes along. Men are tired of it. Tired of paying child support. Tired of losing half our assets when we get divorced. Tired of dying earlier. Tired of working longer hours only to be publicly flogged as "less quality" ...plenty of good men out here. Many are just opting out.
I blame the slogan..."I won't settle." Which is fine for those with desirable traits, but don't expect 6'2" six pack and making 200k Prince charming to come along and date 100% of the single population. Here's a clue. Those men have the women they want. Those men represent less than 1% of the male population. So be very careful with how you define "quality men". Women were once very angry about having to live up to a "Barbie standard" (and rightfully so to be angry...thats unrealistic)...but we need to start having some realistic expectations and conversations about what makes a quality man.
The end.
Well to be fair I was speaking for myself, someone who isn’t married and has no children has a career takes care of herself. I think I deserve and won’t settle for less. So yes there are not enough quality men in the world! Not saying there isn’t but just less and less.
But I also agree with you, I look for someone that can bring what I bring to the table and men should too... but y’all love to fall in love with looks before all5 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Its hard
I feel as I’ve gotten older dating has become more difficult
Well ...not difficult ,just less quality men
I feel like everyone wants to play around and not really get to know someone.
Less quality women. Want to know where all the good men gave gone. Too many women looking to trade up the second they think a better option comes along. Men are tired of it. Tired of paying child support. Tired of losing half our assets when we get divorced. Tired of dying earlier. Tired of working longer hours only to be publicly flogged as "less quality" ...plenty of good men out here. Many are just opting out.
I blame the slogan..."I won't settle." Which is fine for those with desirable traits, but don't expect 6'2" six pack and making 200k Prince charming to come along and date 100% of the single population. Here's a clue. Those men have the women they want. Those men represent less than 1% of the male population. So be very careful with how you define "quality men". Women were once very angry about having to live up to a "Barbie standard" (and rightfully so to be angry...thats unrealistic)...but we need to start having some realistic expectations and conversations about what makes a quality man.
The end.
Well to be fair I was speaking for myself, someone who isn’t married and has no children has a career takes care of herself. I think I deserve and won’t settle for less. So yes there are not enough quality men in the world! Not saying there isn’t but just less and less.
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Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.2
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i_squat_for_pizza wrote: »I rather have sex before I rush into dating
always test drive the car a few times before you buy it2 -
I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
Buffalo nickel says you get a half dozen DMs just from posting that little tidbit of info right there.0 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
Buffalo nickel says you get a half dozen DMs just from posting that little tidbit of info right there.
Haha was just gonna say that
Maybe he wanted that0 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »I_Pedal_4_Pleasure1 wrote: »Dating in 2018 is really complex, I've been divorced going on 6 years. I am in my 50's and certainly don't look or feel it. My issue is that there isn't a lot of women my age that I would date. I am established, I own my house and vehicles, have a job and have multiple incomes. Most women I meet are looking for a security blanket and to be 100% honest, if you weren't here to help me earn and achieve it then why in the hell would I want you around, especially if you aren't going to contribute to it or be exactly what I want in a woman.
Buffalo nickel says you get a half dozen DMs just from posting that little tidbit of info right there.
Actually nope not a single one. I didn't post that to get DMs, I was being honest and sharing my point of view.
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Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????0
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Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
Nope but then again maybe if you pay for one it will be better?0 -
This threat is hilarious!1
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TravisJHunt wrote: »This threat is hilarious!
We aim to please on MFP.0 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
Define good experience!.
I met a few cool people, and a few not, been ghosted. I find the biggest issue is that one or both parties are just uninterested in the other romantically. it has been a few years since I was truly interested in anyone I met online.
As for successes, I met a woman who is probably now one of my best friends on a dating app. went on 2 dates, but ended up just being friends, go out to concerts together, go to her place to catch UFC, etc. been good friends for 4+ years now. I hang out with her and her common-law BF now and then.3 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
Define good experience!.
I met a few cool people, and a few not, been ghosted. I find the biggest issue is that one or both parties are just uninterested in the other romantically. it has been a few years since I was truly interested in anyone I met online.
As for successes, I met a woman who is probably now one of my best friends on a dating app. went on 2 dates, but ended up just being friends, go out to concerts together, go to her place to catch UFC, etc. been good friends for 4+ years now. I hang out with her and her common-law BF now and then.
I qualify that as a good experience. I guess everyone might see it differently.
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Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
Only 1, I put that my favorite movie; was TMNT & a man sent me a message asking me which 1, which began a conversation concerning the entire movie/show history; including a show that I'd forgotten about!1 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
Somebody sent me a winky face emoji once.
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Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.3 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
Only 1, I put that my favorite movie; was TMNT & a man sent me a message asking me which 1, which began a conversation concerning the entire movie/show history; including a show that I'd forgotten about!
Fav turtle?
Raffy.1 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
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Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
Only 1, I put that my favorite movie; was TMNT & a man sent me a message asking me which 1, which began a conversation concerning the entire movie/show history; including a show that I'd forgotten about!
Fav turtle?
Raffy.
He's my favorite also!1 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol1 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
The opposite side, of my door!0 -
Carillon_Campanello wrote: »Has anyone had a good experience with a dating app??????
THIS isn't a dating app?
I knew I was in the wrong place.
It can be, lol. I did actually date someone from here (long-distance) for about 5 or so months, first person I dated after my separation.
define long distance? lol
Lets see, just outside of Columbus Ohio to Halifax NS (about 2,200 km/1400 miles). We only managed to see each other in person 3-4 times,4-7 days at a time0
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