How do you date in 2018?

124»

Replies

  • dwrightlaw
    dwrightlaw Posts: 804 Member
    siddbucks wrote: »
    I am opting out of dating altogether in 2018. I am working on my PhD and I really don’t have time for anyone. Whatever little time I get I just go to the gym or play soccer. I love myself.

    I respect this...very healthy attitude
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    I am not sure if I should give up or just change my MO. Between the children, karate and church; there is no time left for going out anywhere where I might find someone to date. There is no one in those areas so I'm pretty much doomed to being single until something changes
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    I would never want to date in 2018. It seems (some) people aren't looking for a connection or commitment. That's not my style. So, whew I'm glad for that.
  • now of days its all about either hooking up or just online dating and through apps. no one really truly dates anymore its sad. i mean look at tinder, and other apps like that.
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    edited February 2018
    I guess I'm just too gullible to be in a mutually trusting and caring relationship
  • This content has been removed.
  • mybfisred
    mybfisred Posts: 1,388 Member
    It's possible to find a connection. Breakfast in bed, dinners out, lots of laughs...but for me nothing's ever 100% things in life can change in a heartbeat...so learning to enjoy good friendships, relationships, and alone time has been successful
  • xFunctionalStrengthx
    xFunctionalStrengthx Posts: 4,928 Member
    mybfisred wrote: »
    It's possible to find a connection. Breakfast in bed, dinners out, lots of laughs...but for me nothing's ever 100% things in life can change in a heartbeat...so learning to enjoy good friendships, relationships, and alone time has been successful

    Well said. :)
  • buggsby83
    buggsby83 Posts: 52 Member
    Please please please don't feel pressured to sleep with people you feel no connection with. There's absolutely nothing wrong with casual hook ups (in my opinion) but for them to work both people need to be super into it and okay with it. A lot of times someone might go along with having sex with someone cuz they think it's what they "should" be doing and believe me: It's not! Even though the social norms have changed you do NOT need to hook up with people right off the bat just to meet a decent person and have a relationship.

    Dating is vastly different nowadays but also the same. It's just a bunch of people looking around for someone they click with. You'll find someone you click with too, don't worry. <3
  • UltraVegAthlete
    UltraVegAthlete Posts: 667 Member
    Start out as friends, tell them really weird and random stuff, and if they are still around ask them out and then soon it’s a white wedding with Vegan, gluten free cake, surrounded by all your friends you stopped talking to five years ago, inside a large estate in wine country but there’s no wine because your stepmom is a recovering alcoholic and it turns out your pregnant, too
  • mybfisred
    mybfisred Posts: 1,388 Member
    Start out as friends, tell them really weird and random stuff, and if they are still around ask them out and then soon it’s a white wedding with Vegan, gluten free cake, surrounded by all your friends you stopped talking to five years ago, inside a large estate in wine country but there’s no wine because your stepmom is a recovering alcoholic and it turns out your pregnant, too

    So you were at my shot gun wedding :/
  • AdamAthletic
    AdamAthletic Posts: 2,985 Member
    I genuinely have zero clue!
  • TorontoDiane
    TorontoDiane Posts: 1,413 Member
    I have no idea lol.. leave it to chance and have it feel authentic and real... but I have friends who have had great success on dating sites..
  • W8WarI
    W8WarI Posts: 567 Member
    I have no idea lol.. leave it to chance and have it feel authentic and real... but I have friends who have had great success on dating sites..

    Actually you've an idea!
  • bbell1985
    bbell1985 Posts: 4,571 Member
    Online.

    I've dated guys I've hooked up with. I've hooked up with men I've never seen again. But for the most part, I use apps for dating.

    Also, in reference to him saying it seemed like you were interviewing him. There's a way to converse and ask questions. I've had to tell men to stop interrogating me. Asking a question, then taking a moment to relate to the answer or ask another question about it is cool. Question after question. No. Especially if it's small talk. Gross.
  • chellycakes
    chellycakes Posts: 347 Member
    I did a little online dating, it sucks. I’m moving overseas for two years in a couple months so I give up for now. Long distance is a waste of my time.