How to approach girls in the gym???

I'm going to add to my previous comment ... after seeing how many people are telling you not to do it. (I find that kinda depressing actually).

Life is way too short. Take risks and take chances. Talk to the girl with resting *kitten* face if you really want to, because hey, maybe she's wishing you would. Maybe she's had her eye on you for the past month. On the other hand...maybe she hasn't, and she'll laugh in your face...but who the hell cares? You won't know unless you try...you don't get anywhere in life unless you try. I think most people on these forums are well aware of that.

The amount of people saying you should never try to pick anyone up at a gym makes me sad. I mean, I'm happily engaged, but I'd be flattered if somebody thought I looked good enough at the gym to pursue me further. Unless you get propositioned literally everywhere you go, relax a little! It's fine to say no if someone asks for your number.
Honestly I hope I never have to deal with the current dating scene because I'd die alone, it seems like the only appropriate place to talk to strangers is online now?

To the OP: Go for it, but don't be creepy. Start with a head nod and smile, maybe say hi as you walk past them. It;'s pretty easy to tell if someone is up for chatting or wants to be left alone.

I make myself real wide, flare my lats our like a cobra. Then I raise my hands up so they think I’m taller. Then I approach. Then I yell real loud so they know I’m in their territory ..... oh wait I’m just describing what happens if you come across a bear in the woods. Whatever. Prolly works the same.

If you see someone you like, don't approach them. Just catch their eye and nod and smile ever so slightly and go about your business... and ignore her after that at the gym that day. Do that consistently unless she smiles at you and she blushes. Then, stay where you are and just say something like, have a great day, workout, or whatever. Than ignore her and go about your business. You can still wave hello or something, but, don't approach her. Let her approach you after that. If she's interested, she will. If not, all you have done is practiced "charm" - keep doing that where ever you go and you'll soon notice that women are more relaxed around you and will start approaching you. It's about having healthy boundaries, respecting their space, and letting them know that you respect them and are comfortable enough in your own skin to just let them be.

newmeadow wrote: »

Just stare at me on and off but then mostly on. I'll look back at you and you hold eye contact on me without looking away and then smile slightly.

I'll come up to you and say "Why are you staring at me? And are you laughing at me?"

And then you say, like, "I just think you're pretty. I wasn't, like, laughing at you."

And then I'll say, "Oh. Okay. I thought you were laughing at me but I guess you were just smiling. Do you like my outfit?"

Then, you should say, "Yes, it's beautiful. And why are you even here? You don't need a gym."

And I'll be like "Oh sure Rico Suave. Don't act like you don't notice that I have over 100 pounds to loose!"

And they you should go "Hey, nothing wrong with that Anna Nicole. I like 'em phat and fluffy all the way."

Then me and you can just skip the workout, skip the shower, and we'll just, like, walk out hand in hand and go get some ice cream or something.

Very specific. I don't understand romance, but I would love to botch this sometime. "Hey Anna Nicole, you don't belong here. Let's eat ice cream."