How many guys are on here Looking to hook up?
fannrod1974
Posts: 10 Member
Wow really I've been on here just about a week and I've gotten several messages with guys hitting on me. One I got last night was wanting me to do sexual pics. Like really? Wow. Just blows my mind. I don't maybe it doesn't bother other people but it really bothers me. I.am not on here for that. This isn't Tender or whatever. I'm on here to keep track of my calories not to look for a hook up. I've been with the same man for 12 year's and I'm happy. Would that bother anyone else? Or am I just taking it to serious??
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You are not taking it too seriously at all, it is incredibly gross and something of a known issue. Report the messages and block them seems to be the only solution.
It is truly pathetic behavior.12 -
Im here for fitness period.8
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Don't blame you..how inappropriate. I'm here just for advice and support.3
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Happens all the time.. block and move on6
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It's kinda ridiculous. Just don't understand some people. There is all kinds of app's and websites for that kinda thing. This is not one of them. So I find it super creepy and sometimes like the message I got yesterday perverted too.3
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its times like this i'm glad i get mistaken for a bloke!4
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TavistockToad wrote: »its times like this i'm glad i get mistaken for a bloke!
Ahh I thought you were a boy too:)0 -
daniellewhiteliving wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »its times like this i'm glad i get mistaken for a bloke!
Ahh I thought you were a boy too:)
and everyone thinks my name is Travis too...3 -
I have the same problem but it's women hitting on me. I think it must be my incredible good looks.15
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TavistockToad wrote: »daniellewhiteliving wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »its times like this i'm glad i get mistaken for a bloke!
Ahh I thought you were a boy too:)
and everyone thinks my name is Travis too...
I've seen you clarify at least one other time, and I still forget and assume you're male. And that your name is Travis
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WorkerDrone83 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »daniellewhiteliving wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »its times like this i'm glad i get mistaken for a bloke!
Ahh I thought you were a boy too:)
and everyone thinks my name is Travis too...
I've seen you clarify at least one other time, and I still forget and assume you're male. And that your name is Travis
when I'm eventually banned from the forums, i'll come back with a feminine name and bikini shot as my profile pic so there's no mistaking me!!8 -
I've been on here two years and didn't even realize this was happening. I've never done it to anyone, nor has anyone done it to me.3
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I've been on here two years and didn't even realize this was happening. I've never done it to anyone, nor has anyone done it to me.
Well Tony your profile pic is just a chess piece which doesn't scream "I need attention". Though i am curious as I have been on MFP a very long time and have never seen a single one of your 4980 posts perhaps i have just been visiting the wrong area's.
To OP - yes it is a known issue unfortunately. Just block and delete and avoid posting in the Chit chat or fun and games forum as if people can't see your avatar they don't know you exist.
There are two reasons it happens on MFP ; person who wants to get flirty see people who are insecure about their weight as someone who would like attention and are an easy mark or if you are on the other end of the spectrum and are fit and looking good, well you obviously did it to attract attention and fit people tend to have elevated testosterone levels so are open to this kind of behaviour. Not saying that either of these scenarios are valid, but that is the mindset behind pervy PM's.6 -
Absolutely. I've just deleted people and have not responded to some. Then I got the totally unappropriate message asking for sexual pics and it really just lit my fire. I can only put up with so much and sending a message like that was just crossing the line. I felt really disrespected. I don't flirt with anybody on here or message guys asking for dick pics. It just really upset me.4
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TavistockToad wrote: »its times like this i'm glad i get mistaken for a bloke!
Doh! Not that it matters, but I don't think I had twigged to the fact that you weren't a bloke.
LOL!
Back to the subject at hand, I knew it was going on, but I didn't know it wasn't consensual. One of the reasons I block F&G and C-C. I'm here for good fitness discussion and to have my ideas challenged and my thinking improved.1 -
TiisTitanium wrote: »fit people tend to have elevated testosterone levels so are open to this kind of behaviour.
I'm sorry, what? Increased testosterone can increase sex drive but it doesn't chemically remove all sense of social boundaries.
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I've noticed when people complain about it, it happens to people who have a profile pic of themselves. One of the reasons I won't post a profile pic.2
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Nope. I just seeking motivation, inspiration, ideas on healthy living and to share the same. I'm transforming my reality and not living in fantasy.3
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Well, this did not turn out as I had planned. (deletes nudes and pre-written pm's)4
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I'm not here for that...but unfortunately, this is still the internet and their are all types on pretty much any internet forum.2
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just had someone hit me up yesterday. Don't like that stuff, I'm only here for one reason, support in my journey to health. I stick to the women as friends, mostly. Men will slap your *kitten*, women will save your *kitten*. No I'm not man hating I know lots of good guys.1
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Happily married man here with 2 kids. There are some creepers on here im sure. Im just getting friends and chatting with people cause im an IT guy in a server room with no social skills outside of the computer.7
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Happily married man here with 2 kids. There are some creepers on here im sure. Im just getting friends and chatting with people cause im an IT guy in a server room with no social skills outside of the computer.
Ha! I have been in IT for 21 years and feel like a fish out of water. None of my colleagues want to ever talk about anything except POV and FPG and whatever all that stuff is. It will be okay. You can learn social skills. The next time you see two or three dudes standing around, just go up and start talking to them. Practice makes perfect, right?
And, you are indeed correct.....lots and lots of "lonely, needy men" in here.0 -
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OP, it happens to persons who let slip online that they are alive.
Actually, it happens more to women than men.
It does not happen from me.
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iv literally never had this. lol2
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This is my third time activating mfp. I enjoy the social aspect of this website. But it can get way out of hand. I'm sure it has destroyed partnerships. I don't even feel comfortable posting progress pictures. But that's the internet for you..a little bit of anonymity and people turn into freaks.0
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