Sisterhood HCP Week 4

I picked my goal weight of 150 because it's in between where I was before I got pregnant the first time, 125, and where I was in between pregnancies 1 and 2, 150. I lost the first 2 babies so by the time I got preggo with my oldest I was 170. It was ok but I'd really like to be 150 again. Like you Thompsons, I'll never be at the "weight I should be" of 130ish. It just doesn't work after having babies!!

By the way, WAY TO GO THOMPSONS AND SISTER MISTER!! You guys are my inspiration!! I have almost given up, the scale isn't going down!! But if y'all can do it, surely I can too!

I picked my goal weight cuz that's what I was (approximately, cuz I never really stepped on a scale) around the time I met my hubby. I know I weighed a little less in high school, but I'm not looking for a fountain of youth, just for some of my favorite clothes to fit again.
Thompsons-- in my very unprofessional opinion, go with what makes you feel happy. Just because it's been a while since you've seen those numbers on the scale, doesn't mean they are bad, or will make you look bad. I've always been "curvey" ie, boobs and hips, but I'm only 5'2". So I know that once I shed some of those pounds, it's going to be surprising to me at how my body will change. Even at my smallest I still had curves, so when you talk about being broad shouldered etc, you might just have to "wait and see" how your body reacts. We all have our own body structure and so I think you are wise to be careful not to just go for a number, but to do what is right for your body. Just try not to pigeon hole yourself, maybe once you get to 170, you realize you could go more and still be healthy looking, maybe not. You'll know, because only you know YOU. Hope that made some sense? If not, sorry.:ohwell:

Pepamint, if you're sore, you should try to rest your muscles a bit. I know you're on a high and I totally love that you are go go go when it comes to your workouts, but what do you think Jillian would say? I say, go for your walks and do what you can, but don't go hardcore. You don't want to injure your muscles so you can't work out for a long time! Besides, when your muscles are sore is when they're rebuilding - they're working right now exactly like they're supposed to! Don't mess with nature! :flowerforyou: Just be careful - I care about you!

Anyway, hope everyone is having a great Friday - I'm all alone this weekend the boys are out ice fishing(Valentines Day and all :sad: :brokenheart: ) but my sweetie hid a card inside my laptop - what a nice surprise... I feel a bit better! :smooched:

Oh, and how I picked my goal weight. The history of the Mez. (real name Jen) ...

Was always 125-130 in my teens and twenties (pic of me on my profile in bikini was taken around 28 yrs old - I'm now 36). Was in a very very harsh relationship with my ex-fiance who had 3 different mental illnesses. Won't get into all the gory details but let's just say living with him was hazardous to my mental, physical, emotional and spiritual health. In one year I "somehow" (later had an aha moment about why exactly that happened) gained 50 lbs shooting up to 180 something (I stopped looking at the scale after I hit that number). After I was able to break free of that relationship and recover, I naturally and effortlessly lost about half of that weight. This was in 2002/03; I was 30/31. I plateaued at 165ish for the next 3-4 years no matter what I tried to do (mind you, I was still suffering - dealing with the death of my dad and other changes in my life). Finally, last year around this time something clicked (could it be reconnecting with the love of my life after 15 years? - Sappy love story another time perhaps) and I dropped down to 151 with barely any effort at all. I felt great! Then, in June last year I moved here to Winnipeg from my beautiful home in Kelowna BC to be with my one true love and everything was tickedy boo! However, turning into an instant "wife and mom" had a side effect that I should have seen coming. I started cooking FANTASTIC meals (I never cooked for just me when I was single) and eating just like they did! It's a common tale I know. Anyway, here I was stepping on the scale just after Christmas when I decided to really do something about this weight gain before it got out of hand, and low and behold, I am back up to 165! SOOOOOO! (*big breath*) I chose as my first goal, 152. It's one pound heavier than what I weighed when I got here last summer. Not sure why I chose that extra pound. Maybe I wanted to be a little easier on myself! My long term goal however, is going to be 140. I know I will never (and probably should never) be 125-130 again. I think your body changes as you get older and 130 just wouldn't look right on me anymore I don't think. I will be happy just to see the scale say 14-something really. I'll be thrilled to see 151 again! Hell, I'm thrilled to see 160 this week! And (knock on wood) it's not as hard as I always thought it was going to be. What the heck was my problem all this time anyway? Oh ya, I didn't have MFP!

Thanks for listening to my ramble. Or reading my ramble I suppose. Now you know a little more about me. Happy Day!

Hello Everyone,

I haven't posted in a while - I kind of melted down. I have suffered with post-partum depression with all of my kids and thought that maybe I had escaped it with my son (who is now 5mths). However, it became very clear a couple of weeks ago that I have not. Rather than doing what I know I can do to help myself feel better (working out, spending more time outside, taking extra vitamins, etc.), I really just collapsed and sunk into it. I wallowed in it. It was a very yucky week. The last few days I have done better, so here I am.

Someone asked how we picked our goal weight and I realize that I may need to reevaluate mine. I am 5’5 and after my 3rd daughter was born I worked out very hard and got down to 125 – I was in the best shape of my adult (post kids) life. I didn’t stay at 125 for long, as I found that 130 was a lot easier for me to maintain. But then I had daughter #4 and my son in September. I set my goal weight back at 125 because I wanted to be in the best shape that I can be in before my brother-in-law’s wedding in April. I am realizing that it may not be realistic since I still have to lose 19 lbs and there are only in 8 weeks to go!! This realization definitely didn’t help with my depression. But I have decided that I would rather work as hard as I can, and lose what I can in the next 8 weeks. Whatever I lose, I will look better than I will if I just give-up!!

You're not alone MissResa. My vals day was good except for the cupcakes I made then ate too many of. And then ate more today. I haven't exercised in several days because "life" keeps interfering. As do these dang conversation hearts my sweet hubby got me! Anywho, I've got to buckle down and get busy. abullock and I have the same time goal but she is alot closer then I am! I would love to be at my goal weight of 150 by April but it's just not realistic. So I need help......I'm slightly over 200 right now, what would be a good and realistic goal weight for mid April??? I've lost around 9lbs in the past month, is it realistic to say another 9lbs from now till mid March then another 9 from mid March to mid April?

Hi all!! Hope everyone had a great day yesterday.
Thompsons -- good for you for looking food in the face and saying, I can control what (and in my case how much) goes into my mouth and being realistic and not depriving yourself.
Abullock -- I'm so glad you're back. Keep in touch with us, most of us are mommies too, so we feel your pain, and understand sometimes you just need a shoulder. I think you're right about your goals, don't beat yourself up if you don't get there. (Of course I'm just jealous, cuz if I was 145 after 5 kids I'd probably be having another on the way due to a horney hubby:laugh: ) You're one hot momma!
Pepamint -- maybe you should alternate days. Go walking one day, and do the shred the next. That way you're not doubling up on the cardio. I've been trying to change it up every couple days and it seems to be working (after a couple weeks of nothing). Just a thought

I'm almost positive I went over on cals yesterday, but I did work out and saved a bunch for dinner. I had veggies, salad, baked potatoe and yummy prime rib. The only thing I could have done better on, and just didn't want to, was fried zuccini. I passed on dessert though. (really isn't a sacrifice for me, I'm not much for sweets anyway -- but shhh, it sounds better if I don't admit that ) It was so freakin yummy -- was going into beef withdrawls:laugh: . Oh well, not the end of the world! Well I have a busy day ahead, so I should get to it!