Let Me Down Easy..

124»

Replies

  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    xFunctionalStrengthx wrote: »
    mustacheU2Lift wrote: »
    denny_mac wrote: »
    Here's the thing. Letting someone down easy does not do THEM any favors. It leaves room for misinterpretation, and gives people false hope. When you let someone down easy, that's for YOU. Because you can't handle delivering the honest message about what you're not feeling.

    The whole question about letting someone down easy isn't even framed properly. This isn't about the dump-ee, it's ACTUALLY about the dump-er. And if you're going to dump someone, please have the stones to make it clear what's going on. It's better for everyone.

    To be the dumpee or dumper wouldn't a "relationship" have to be vocalized and agreed upon to some degree. You cant dumper if theres no real dumpee.

    Sorry, just wanted to say dumpee and dumper.

    While one would think so, there are those people who get easily confused regarding relationships. Therefore, they may feel like a slighted dumpee when in actuality nothing even close to a relationship existed.

    This happens A LOT here where someone is just having fun and the other one is falling in love. Sometimes, but not often, the one having fun is honest about their intentions or lack thereof. Quite often that person is also having fun with 12 others who also think they are the special one.

    ..... This is just a place to goof and clown, how someone can become infatuated with someone else on here is a mystery to me.

    But... :'(
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    rhenry2424 wrote: »
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    CoffeeAndContour wrote: »
    I've on had one legitimate "mfp crush", and I think that was enough to teach me how fake people can be on the internet and perhaps I should crush people more locally. But if I do happen to run into this problem again, then I would hope they would be honest as to not make it weird later.
    I promise to make it weird but like in a good way
    2VORNT2V wrote: »
    Wait, people hook up and send each other flirty messages on this place?

    Where do I get started!?

    Everyone knows we exchanged filthy images you can drop the act

    Who exchanges filthy images on here?

    check your PMs

    B)
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Depends on the situation. I don't hang out with all of them on a regular basis, but I don't hang out with anyone on a regular basis. I have hung out with ex boyfriends and current boyfriends at the same time on numerous occasions. I think you have to have a certain level of closure. The most recent ex hasn't come to terms with it yet so there is likely no friendship in the future.

    For today's selection of comment gifs I will go a little old school and do a MySpace sticker.

    qoo8haa5sxjy.gif
  • mustacheU2Lift
    mustacheU2Lift Posts: 5,844 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Depends on the situation. I don't hang out with all of them on a regular basis, but I don't hang out with anyone on a regular basis. I have hung out with ex boyfriends and current boyfriends at the same time on numerous occasions. I think you have to have a certain level of closure. The most recent ex hasn't come to terms with it yet so there is likely no friendship in the future.

    For today's selection of comment gifs I will go a little old school and do a MySpace sticker.

    qoo8haa5sxjy.gif

    Ha! Nice...now my goal today is to make a comment thst gets a myspace sticker! :)
  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Depends on the situation. I don't hang out with all of them on a regular basis, but I don't hang out with anyone on a regular basis. I have hung out with ex boyfriends and current boyfriends at the same time on numerous occasions. I think you have to have a certain level of closure. The most recent ex hasn't come to terms with it yet so there is likely no friendship in the future.

    For today's selection of comment gifs I will go a little old school and do a MySpace sticker.

    qoo8haa5sxjy.gif

    I probably had this on my Myspace page back in the day. I was so *kitten* cool
    :D

    Dang...I am sooo old I never even had a Myspace...hence no idea what you are talking about
  • ChaelAZ
    ChaelAZ Posts: 2,240 Member
    CaptainFantastic01 wrote: »
    I promise to make it weird but like in a good way.

    I just liked this because it is the story of my life.
    <3

  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    pudgy1977 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Depends on the situation. I don't hang out with all of them on a regular basis, but I don't hang out with anyone on a regular basis. I have hung out with ex boyfriends and current boyfriends at the same time on numerous occasions. I think you have to have a certain level of closure. The most recent ex hasn't come to terms with it yet so there is likely no friendship in the future.

    For today's selection of comment gifs I will go a little old school and do a MySpace sticker.

    qoo8haa5sxjy.gif

    I probably had this on my Myspace page back in the day. I was so *kitten* cool
    :D

    Dang...I am sooo old I never even had a Myspace...hence no idea what you are talking about

    MySpace was before Facebook and after AOL.
  • Keto_N_Iron
    Keto_N_Iron Posts: 5,385 Member
    rhenry2424 wrote: »
    KeepRunningFatboy wrote: »
    Be cautious and discerning. You get a very selective portion of a persons character online. In real life it’s much more difficult to hide warts.

    Hey, just because I know my good angles and how to use filters does not mean it is not really me. Just don't ever ask to see the right side of my face.

    :D:D:D:D right??
  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    pudgy1977 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    Depends on the situation. I don't hang out with all of them on a regular basis, but I don't hang out with anyone on a regular basis. I have hung out with ex boyfriends and current boyfriends at the same time on numerous occasions. I think you have to have a certain level of closure. The most recent ex hasn't come to terms with it yet so there is likely no friendship in the future.

    For today's selection of comment gifs I will go a little old school and do a MySpace sticker.

    qoo8haa5sxjy.gif

    I probably had this on my Myspace page back in the day. I was so *kitten* cool
    :D

    Dang...I am sooo old I never even had a Myspace...hence no idea what you are talking about

    What?? Can this be? I think I was in my early twenties when it was cool. Back when Facebook was only for connecting with people in colleges.

    I remember it being a thing, but I never had one. Was out of college, and really no use for computers. Facebook was my first social media
  • ashxtasticness
    ashxtasticness Posts: 160 Member
    I definitely want someone to be honest with me. Don't be mean and say hurtful things, just be straight up with me and tell me I'm no longer a diamond, just a rock.

  • Lift_Run_Eat
    Lift_Run_Eat Posts: 986 Member
    leut_underpants wrote: »
    KeepRunningFatboy wrote: »
    Be cautious and discerning. You get a very selective portion of a persons character online. In real life it’s much more difficult to hide warts.

    Heh. Hiding warts online isn't actually isn't that easy depending on the camera angle. :ohwell:

    Wait what? You could actually see it? :s
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    I hate liars. Just hit me with whats up and it makes getting over it easier. Just don't expect me to be your friend in any case.
  • ChaelAZ
    ChaelAZ Posts: 2,240 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    MySpace was before Facebook and after AOL.

    I was active at MySpace...and a particular site that asked lots of questions for compatibility and had great forums...back in 2004'ish.

  • orange_blossoms
    orange_blossoms Posts: 17 Member
    But I´d rather you be mean than love and lie, I´d rather hear the truth and have to say goodbye, I´d rather take a blow at least then I would know. But baby don´t you break my heart slow.... It´s von Vonda Shepard and there is no more to say or explain.
  • itwentthere
    itwentthere Posts: 404 Member
    I guess this explains what happened to me. The lost interest part I mean. I’m not over it and I doubt that I’ll ever be over it. People say time heels all wounds and such and such.
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    Honestly, where I'm at in life I'd rather someone just save the time and tell me F you. Straight to the point. No stringing me along.
    Buh-bye!
  • Renaissance_Turtle
    Renaissance_Turtle Posts: 960 Member
    Blunt is good. Painful sometimes, but good. Might as well hit the truth at a dead run.
  • pudgy1977
    pudgy1977 Posts: 13,499 Member
    81Katz wrote: »
    Honestly, where I'm at in life I'd rather someone just save the time and tell me F you. Straight to the point. No stringing me along.
    Buh-bye!

    So what if you are in a kind of relationship, and you like the person, kind of a lot, but just don't see it going where they do...or at least at the speed they do?
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    pudgy1977 wrote: »
    81Katz wrote: »
    Honestly, where I'm at in life I'd rather someone just save the time and tell me F you. Straight to the point. No stringing me along.
    Buh-bye!

    So what if you are in a kind of relationship, and you like the person, kind of a lot, but just don't see it going where they do...or at least at the speed they do?

    I guess I figure things take time but dragging things on and on with "I don't knows" or uncertainties, just give it to me straight or I'll give it to you straight.
  • starfighter65
    starfighter65 Posts: 413 Member
    I go old school I slip them a note on there car windshield .
  • barefootboatnik
    barefootboatnik Posts: 134 Member
    I'd rather someone just be upfront about it. It may feel like a difficult thing to do, but it's MUCH easier on both parties than letting drag on.

    Reminds me of a time when autocorrect did the job for me. I'd run into an old high school crush, 20 years later. Roles had reversed, she was interested in me, but I wasn't feeling it. Was more than happy with just her friendship. After a few days of awkward texts, I sent her a text that was MEANT to say "I think we're best off where we're at now."

    What did the autocorrect say, you might ask?

    "I think weenie best off where weenie at now."

    Same thing when it's all said and done, I reckon.

Categories