Less Alcohol- June 2018- One Day at a Time

trishfit2014 wrote: »

I have been reading a new blog, unpickled. It is her journey of going AF. I am really enjoying it and can relate to her a lot. She talks about needing a community to go AF. She keeps her giving up wine a secret for a while. I have not really told anyone except this thread. I have told a few people I was giving up alcohol to lose weight. I think it is bigger than that for me though. On the losing weight front I am almost 10lbs down at 49 days AF.

i just checked that blog out and am saving it to my favorites. going AF this weekend. aside from right now *4 am and have been up since 3* i sleep so well when i'm not drinking *yes i'm a broken record!* during the day i feel very clear, andi have to say i don't get so agitated about the little things too. although traffic always agitates me and i was stuck in it yesterday after a day of personal appointments. i thought damn i should just pop into the store and pick up something. but i had hair color all along my hairline and my hair was a mess, so vanity won over booze LOL!! i got in the house and was pretty *hangry* (didn't bring enough food with me for the driving around) so i had icecream instead. i'm managing to maintain my weight (5'7 and 132) so i'm not too worried about it.

happy weekend all!

JenT304 wrote: »

I have neither abstained nor moderated. The Chardonnay wolf in the woods got me yesterday. Unfortunately I am still associating drinking with stress relief which I have been in mighty need of. Once we finally move into our new home (next Friday) and get through Memorial service of my mother in law, I will be able to refocus my attention on my physical and mental health. I will try to be AF today. One day at a time. Happy Father's day to the dads out there.

You are going through so much, try not to be too hard on yourself. You will get back on track. Hugs!

Weekends are the hardest. Not that I've had to fight any specific cravings, or am having a weekend full of functions to attend, but there is just a vibe to the weekend that automatically makes me think of chilling on my deck with a bottle of wine & munchies. More than a "craving" for that, is the "missing" that.

The thing I do NOT miss is the next day if I had one too many & how I felt physically; tired, sluggish, unmotivated & emotionally drained, disappointed in myself. Always regretting not stopping one glass sooner & the whole conscience being bugged because I wasn't moderate. OR betraying my well-intentioned plan in the morn to not drink that day & then allowing my "evil twin" Lurleen talk me into having "just one" drink later that day. Spending alot of my day vacillating between thoughts of drinking & not drinking. Blah, blah, blah & once I've wasted part of my day with all THOSE negative thoughts, I would feel like crap in more ways than one. I feel SO much better everyday I am AF!!! That alone is incentive to keep working at it.

snoo61 wrote: »

Busy day pacing, waiting for test results. No news. Good news is I got a lot of steps, LOL. Haven't gone over my drink limit but went over calories. I'm ok with it. Its just so hard not knowing.

Waiting is the worst part. Been thinking good thoughts about you *hugs*
I haven’t brought it up here but my wife had a biopsy this week as well. She is handling the waiting way better than I am ...

lorrainequiche59 wrote: »

Weekends are the hardest. Not that I've had to fight any specific cravings, or am having a weekend full of functions to attend, but there is just a vibe to the weekend that automatically makes me think of chilling on my deck with a bottle of wine & munchies. More than a "craving" for that, is the "missing" that.

The thing I do NOT miss is the next day if I had one too many & how I felt physically; tired, sluggish, unmotivated & emotionally drained, disappointed in myself. Always regretting not stopping one glass sooner & the whole conscience being bugged because I wasn't moderate. OR betraying my well-intentioned plan in the morn to not drink that day & then allowing my "evil twin" Lurleen talk me into having "just one" drink later that day. Spending alot of my day vacillating between thoughts of drinking & not drinking. Blah, blah, blah & once I've wasted part of my day with all THOSE negative thoughts, I would feel like crap in more ways than one. I feel SO much better everyday I am AF!!! That alone is incentive to keep working at it.

You have Lurleen, mine is Lolita. She use to embarrass me saying immature things and being green with jealously. I had to learn to love her as she runs with the wolves and dances in the rain. She has settled down and is fairly quiet lately. I'd like to think that I have taught her something and she has taught me some things too. We've learned to co-exist, but she is with me always.

kittybenn wrote: »

Yep, I was one of those people out drinking with friends. The good news is I had one glass of wine at this big dinner with colleagues last night. The sorta bad news is I'm having a glass of wine nearly every day lately, so not exactly back to square one, but I thought daily drinking was a thing of the past with me. I'm just kinda puzzled, because my daily "glass" of wine has been a measured-out 4-6 oz with dinner. But with that goes a little undercurrent of concern, like where is this leading ? . . .

That’s how I feel when I get back into the daily drinking groove - worried it’s taking me back to those days where I question if I can stop or if I should be more concerned. What I’ve been trying to focus on is that I’ve probably had more AF days first half of the year than I had ALL of last year or maybe even the last 2 years. So I can restrict, and not really have to white knuckle it. But it’s easy to get back in the daily habit that’s for sure!

Hi everyone! Going to do some things in memory of Dad. First Dad's day without him. 5 years ago is the last Father's Day that I saw him alive. We would talk on the phone every couple of months since then. We did fight more than I would have liked. He refused to talk with me for 5 years once. I did have to apologize first at times---errr. I was pretty bad as a young adult and he was patient. In my favor,I did tell him I loved him out loud out of the two of us, first, that I remember. None of it really matters anymore. I sure do miss him. Some time really did get wasted. Until I see you in heaven Dad.....We knew we were going and often spoke of it.....As of May 17th, he is now there with my two late sons, Mom and God knows who else.....

I wish those in any situation that is strained, the best today on this Father's Day and Happy Father's Day to all Dads out there.

My third father's day without my dad. I miss him tons. He was a great dad. My ex has my kids and I am not so happy with his parenting right now...but kids are good. Enjoying a quiet weekend.