Just need someone to hold me accountable!!!!!
Shortfg
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Mother of two grown boys. I was laid off and had to take a job I hated and had to stay there till I found the job I have now 7 months. ( no excuse) I stress eat and I put on 30 lbs on top of the weight i already needed to lose. I just need some one to hold me accountable so I dont slide back. Day 5 without Pepsi.. ...uggghhh!
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I feel ya!!. It's very necessary for me to have someone in my corner to help support me and help keep me on track when I start to slip. Unfortunately my husband isn't always the most supportive because he's never known what it is like to struggle with food and weight. Like you, I'm hoping to find some support in this community.2
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You've got this sister! You're already winning the game by posting here. If you weren't serious, you wouldn't be here.
I'm just on my way to the gym, but I'll get back to you later tonight, and help in anyway that I can..2 -
the more the merrier! we can all cheer on each other!!! or give a kick in the pants
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Ir may not be for everyone, but having friends on MFP-even though they are perfect strangers in real life-is helping me at this point in my weight loss journey. Different things work for different people, and it helps to know there are other people going through what I am. I've had some recent weight gain from stress eating as well. I will add you!!4
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Ir may not be for everyone, but having friends on MFP-even though they are perfect strangers in real life-is helping me at this point in my weight loss journey. Different things work for different people, and it helps to know there are other people going through what I am. I've had some recent weight gain from stress eating as well. I will add you!!
Yes I totally agree, sometimes this is exactly what we need a total stranger who knows the struggle even though it might not be the same our end goal is always to be healthier. I too need a kick in the bootie! Feel free to add me
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No offense here, but how exactly do you propose someone else, particularly an internet stranger, hold you accountable for your choices? I know people use that phrase a lot around here, but in my several years of experience on MFP, I have discovered that my friends, while often encouraging & supportive, can't hold me accountable for anything. And even if they could, they likely are not going to be around in a year, 5 years, or whatever down the road. Start thinking about what kind of life & health you owe yourself and be accountable to that.
But MFP, and the support you can find here is an awesome resource, and I wish you well with it. Be sure to read the stickies at the top of the getting started & general diet & exercise forums, and consider this thread when you feel like you need a kick in the pants:
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/818701/the-myth-of-motivation-and-what-you-need-instead/p1
This is unlike me, however.....
I think when you start out a post with "No Offense", it's unlikely to be a worth while read.
I appreciate that it wasn't your intention to be condescending, but the initial tone of this post most certainly is."how exactly do you propose someone else, particularly an internet stranger, hold you accountable for your choices?"
I have neither the time, nor inclination to give a detailed explanation on the Psychology of motivation and the perception of how one interprets relationships. However, I can tell you with some certainty that for many people, the psychological, emotional and physiological responses to "internet" friends is just as real as having a physical relationship.
For many people, for a variety or reasons, "internet" friends are the friends some people have, and that's totally ok. Love when you can, where you can. Not because we have to, but because we get to. ♥
Personally, I think it's important that we are empathetic, if not sympathetic to what motivates ppl. What motivates me, may not motivate you. This isn't the Army, where one size fits all. If it was simple to keep oneself "accountable" this place would be a ghost town.
I appreciate where you're coming from, or at least I think I do. I too agree that's it's important to look at lifestyle changes and look at some long term goals. However, successful goal setting always starts with short, and small attainable goals, where one can build upon the success, and failures of previous goals.
Again; I appreciate what you were trying to say here. Cheers!
All that being said: TO the OP - Please add me as a friend, and I will help you in anyway that I can. I have been at this game for sometime and have learned a trick or two from years of mistakes...lol
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Hi there! Newbie here as well and the struggle is real I use the word accountability all the time and no, I don’t expect anyone, at the end of the day, to have the responsibility of keeping me on track. When I say accountability it’s multifaceted. It’s someone who is on or has been on this ride. Someone who understands what it’s like to want Pepsi ( coke for me , same but different) more than just about anything. Someone who gets what’s it’s like to go slightly over your calorie goal and be totally bummed out. Someone to cheer with, commiserate with, and just generally be supportive. So in my totally second grade way, let’s be friends.... 2
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Hi all, Looking for new Mfp friends as well to help support, encourage and motivate one another... mine is sweet tea that I crave lol. Feel free to add me ~Sherry2
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Hi All! I am also looking for encouragement and support. I had thyroid cancer and since I had my thyroid removed I've put on weight and have become depressed. I saw my endocrinologist today and she told me that I am pre diabetic...so I need to lose weight. My husband doesn't understand cause he has never be over weight. Feel free to add me and lets encourage and support each other.
Thanks!!2 -
Hi all, I've been doing this for a while and can offer support if needed as well as needing support myself! Feel free to add me
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Shortfg, I hear ya. I am a stay at home mom and fulltime student. I decided to start working on me this year and I am looking for support and friendship through this journey. Add me as a friend and let's do this!
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OK kids, what's everyone got for their Friday workout? Today is Back / Triceps and cardio for me.. Plus the usual fight the erge to stuff my face with yummy cookies.. Hardest part is always the kitchen for me... :-)2
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CoreyColwell wrote: »OK kids, what's everyone got for their Friday workout? Today is Back / Triceps and cardio for me.. Plus the usual fight the erge to stuff my face with yummy cookies.. Hardest part is always the kitchen for me... :-)
Sounds like a good workout! I want cookies too, but will settle for a sugar free watermelon slushie. Stay strong! :~)
I'm planning on a 1-2 hour, 3.0 - 3.5 mph hike. Might try to jog a bit if it feels alright; I'm recovering from an ankle injury. A good stretch of course. If I still have energy, food prep and cleaning with the intention of keeping my heart rate up. Dance breaks help.1 -
Please feel free to add me! I would love to help keep each other motivated and inspired throughout this fitness journey!0
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FickleFruitBat wrote: »CoreyColwell wrote: »OK kids, what's everyone got for their Friday workout? Today is Back / Triceps and cardio for me.. Plus the usual fight the erge to stuff my face with yummy cookies.. Hardest part is always the kitchen for me... :-)
Sounds like a good workout! I want cookies too, but will settle for a sugar free watermelon slushie. Stay strong! :~)
I'm planning on a 1-2 hour, 3.0 - 3.5 mph hike. Might try to jog a bit if it feels alright; I'm recovering from an ankle injury. A good stretch of course. If I still have energy, food prep and cleaning with the intention of keeping my heart rate up. Dance breaks help.
Good on ya.. that sounds like a good one..
Slow and steady wins the race..
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OK kids, what's everyone got lined up for today? Today is a non-gym day for me, so after doing a few projects for me wife, I'm to hike to the "flag pole" here where we live. Weekends are always my hardest time in regards to food. Out of my routine etc. But one day at a time right!
Have a great Saturday everyone!
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Happy Sunday everyone.. So ya, weekend was a write off for the diet. ha.... As soon as I catch that horse, I'm getting back on..
One day at a time...0 -
Happy Monday everyone. Today is a weight day for me (Chest and Biceps) + Cardio.
Let here what you all have planned for the day..
Struggles? Praise Reports?0 -
I think internet accountability can be really motivating for a lot of people, myself included. I enjoy commenting on other people’s posts and celebrating their success. I’m also the type of person where if I post “I’m going to work out today” then I WILL work out that day even if I don’t want to because I already told everyone I was going to.
Today I incorporated a 10 minute standing ab workout video from Fitness Blender into my cardio workout. It was my first time watching any of their videos and I really enjoyed it.1 -
I need to surround myself with people having struggles and successes and accountability. We are all in this together.0
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mylasttimetodiet wrote: »I need to surround myself with people having struggles and successes and accountability. We are all in this together.
I feel that I can say with some certainty that we all have our struggles and successes.
Personally for myself, I find the kitchen part (vs. working out) the hardest. I think the trick for most ppl isn't even the "dieting or working out part, it's the Lifestyle change that needs to occur, otherwise maintenance is going to be impossible.
You hear the stories all the time "lost weight, gained it all back" Hence the need for lifestyle change.
Many times I say to myself, "do I want this "snack" or do I want to look my best. Sometimes the snack wins, but more often then not my desire to look and feel my best wins out.ChelleTrell wrote: »I think internet accountability can be really motivating for a lot of people, myself included. I enjoy commenting on other people’s posts and celebrating their success. I’m also the type of person where if I post “I’m going to work out today” then I WILL work out that day even if I don’t want to because I already told everyone I was going to.
Today I incorporated a 10 minute standing ab workout video from Fitness Blender into my cardio workout. It was my first time watching any of their videos and I really enjoyed it.
Great job sister! I do core twice a week. I find it helps in so many other areas in my lifting.
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hi guys. I did good without over eating today but I ate to much today. So I will get back on the wagon tomorrow. I didn't want the food to go bad so I ate to much of my lunch1
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