Just need someone to hold me accountable!!!!!

try2again wrote: »

No offense here, but how exactly do you propose someone else, particularly an internet stranger, hold you accountable for your choices? I know people use that phrase a lot around here, but in my several years of experience on MFP, I have discovered that my friends, while often encouraging & supportive, can't hold me accountable for anything. And even if they could, they likely are not going to be around in a year, 5 years, or whatever down the road. Start thinking about what kind of life & health you owe yourself and be accountable to that.

But MFP, and the support you can find here is an awesome resource, and I wish you well with it. Be sure to read the stickies at the top of the getting started & general diet & exercise forums, and consider this thread when you feel like you need a kick in the pants:

https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/818701/the-myth-of-motivation-and-what-you-need-instead/p1

This is unlike me, however.....

I think when you start out a post with "No Offense", it's unlikely to be a worth while read.

I appreciate that it wasn't your intention to be condescending, but the initial tone of this post most certainly is.

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"how exactly do you propose someone else, particularly an internet stranger, hold you accountable for your choices?"

I have neither the time, nor inclination to give a detailed explanation on the Psychology of motivation and the perception of how one interprets relationships. However, I can tell you with some certainty that for many people, the psychological, emotional and physiological responses to "internet" friends is just as real as having a physical relationship.

For many people, for a variety or reasons, "internet" friends are the friends some people have, and that's totally ok. Love when you can, where you can. Not because we have to, but because we get to. ♥

Personally, I think it's important that we are empathetic, if not sympathetic to what motivates ppl. What motivates me, may not motivate you. This isn't the Army, where one size fits all. If it was simple to keep oneself "accountable" this place would be a ghost town.

I appreciate where you're coming from, or at least I think I do. I too agree that's it's important to look at lifestyle changes and look at some long term goals. However, successful goal setting always starts with short, and small attainable goals, where one can build upon the success, and failures of previous goals.

Again; I appreciate what you were trying to say here. Cheers!

All that being said: TO the OP - Please add me as a friend, and I will help you in anyway that I can. I have been at this game for sometime and have learned a trick or two from years of mistakes...lol

Blessings