Eating whatever you want?

You are not even close to being the only one. Many who are successful at losing and keeping it off are doing that.

lost 100+ pounds doing it that way. still losing.

You're on the right track. I make sure I get enough fat and protein in my diet, and I never feel hungry. For example, as one of my snacks, I've been having a toasted high-fiber English muffin with a slice of reduced fat cheese and an egg fried in a no-stick pan with Pam spray. 222 calories, 24g of fat, 8g fiber, 16g protein. I make choices to reduce calories without affecting my level or satisfaction with the taste of the food, so that I can save those calories for use elsewhere in my daily budget.

I think it's essential to recognize what got you into trouble in the first place (too many calories), and make choices accordingly. To make sure I'm getting proper nutrition, I monitor the nutrient counts in MFP and if I'm short on protein, fat, or fiber I'll make choices for the rest of the day to make up for the shortfall. I have ice cream or a candy bar or pastry occasionally, but it's not a daily thing and I'll go out for a treat rather than keeping a supply around the house. That's because I've come to understand myself and my weaknesses.

nickswife1196 wrote: »

Thank you so much everyone for your responses!! I can’t tell you how much better I feel knowing I’m not Alone with my thoughts

The dieting industry has really warped our (general) perceptions on food. Confusion keeps people scared, overwhelmed, and buying their products. Sounds like you've got things figured out.

Sure, lots of people eat the cupcake. They are moderators. Other people don't have the cupcake, as that will trigger them to overeat. They are abstainers. Either is an equally valid option.

I moderate some foods, like pizza, and abstain from others, like Oreos.

I'm struggling to moderate ice cream. I do ok with low fat or froyo or single serve items, but still have difficulty moderating pints of full fat Ben & Jerry's, so it's better for me to just not buy them.

https://gretchenrubin.com/2012/10/back-by-popular-demand-are-you-an-abstainer-or-a-moderator/

...When dealing with temptation, I often see the advice, “Be moderate. Don’t have ice cream every night, but if you try to deny yourself altogether, you’ll fall off the wagon. Allow yourself to have the occasional treat, it will help you stick to your plan.”

I’ve come to believe that this is good advice for some people: the “moderators.” They do better when they avoid absolutes and strict rules.

For a long time, I kept trying this strategy of moderation–and failing. Then I read a line from Samuel Johnson, who said, when someone offered him wine: “Abstinence is as easy to me as temperance would be difficult.”

Ah ha! Like Dr. Johnson, I’m an “abstainer.”

I find it far easier to give something up altogether than to indulge moderately. When I admitted to myself that I was eating my favorite frozen yogurt treat very often—two and even three times a day—I gave it up cold turkey. That was far easier for me to do than to eat it twice a week. If I try to be moderate, I exhaust myself debating, “Today, tomorrow?” “Does this time ‘count’?” "Don't I deserve this?" etc. If I never do something, it requires no self-control for me; if I do something sometimes, it requires enormous self-control.

There’s no right way or wrong way—it’s just a matter of knowing which strategy works better for you. If moderators try to abstain, they feel trapped and rebellious. If abstainers try to be moderate, they spend a lot of precious energy justifying why they should go ahead and indulge.