How do handle when your SO doesn't believe in you?
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@IHaveMyActTogether ...he is in love with the new me. He is much sweeter and much more attentive. I cant imagine how he will be when this last 20 pounds comes off lol.5
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Fitdiva, I can't hit that inspiring button enough times. Very well done.4
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@IHaveMyActTogether ...thank you again ๐๐๐0
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Thank you so much for posting this update - I didn't see the dates when I started reading, so your update picture was a lovely shock. So much power here! Thanks for the inspiration!3
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fitdiva1day wrote: ยปHe's believing in me now!
That is fantastic. I am so happy for you!!1 -
My SO has been totally unsupportive of me in my journey. She even tries to sabotage the effort by bringing home donuts and all the crap I shouldn't eat. That stuff I throw away, to keep it away from my boys. I can control myself around it, they can't ....as a result, they are overweight now. Needless to say I try to talk to her about it, but it does no good. I ignore it...throw away the crap she brings home, and do my own thing. I also drink a lot....that helps8
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Prove him wrong! (I just read further, and you did!)1
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So, what is it, exactly, you'd like him to change in order to demonstrate he is supportive of your goals?0
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fitdiva1day wrote: ยป...he is in love with the new me. He is much sweeter and much more attentive. I cant imagine how he will be when this last 20 pounds comes off lol.
I've just read through from 2017 when you'd initially posted. ๐๐๐ Heartwarming to read your update @fitdiva1day
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Don't do it for them. Their opinion of you and your abilities and your "why" is completely irrelevant. Do it for YOU.0
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Congrats, lady!1
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Most of the above are correct but they should be considered in total: Don't rely on outside validation but in any relationship, you should be supported unless it's a bad goal i.e. you want to run 10 miles a day and have already gotten to 6% body fat and are getting sick (I had a friend that nearly ran herself to death). I listen to motivation "tapes" by Fearless Motivation and one of the most important tracks confirms a well known concept - if you get better, others may resent you because they like the status quo. My post high school friends wanted to go drinking and I wanted to go to school. Current friends who say they are "into sports" mean they want to sit and drink beer and watch TV. if you don't think support and believing in your goals is important in the relationship (kinda sad) or everything else is SO GREAT, you'll tolerate it, try another support group. I don't know where you are but I run some groups through Meetup.com and you do a profile, your interests and location and they suggest groups in your area. We probably have 20 various fitness groups around Madison. Usually no cost, great way to find like minded support and friends.4
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*kitten* em! Bin them off and find someone that does.1
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If my SO didn't believe in me I'd dump them, I have no room in my life for people who aren't going to be positive.0
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Come here for support and inspiration.. keep your health changes to yourself if your partner is not supportive. They will just sabatoge you..and you don' t have the time or energy to deal with that. You need to focus on yourself.
Your problem is not unheard of.. it happens to many of us, and there are many reasons perfectly otherwise good people do this unsupportive thing.
So, Focus on you.. .come here for advice and support..and quietly lose your weight and regain your health.0
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