What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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seltzermint555 wrote: »MonkeyMel21 wrote: »
Pretty much!MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Sick of looking at numbers.
Can’t wait to hit maintenance so I won’t have to be so strict.
Spoiler alert, maintenance is almost just as hard, lol.
Way to rain on my parade 😅😊
Frankly I think maintenance is the hardest part - when I relax a bit I gain my weight back and have to start all over again
I'm like this too, with my "last 15". I relax a little and it comes back almost instantly. I honestly have a new view on people who aren't obese and struggle with their weight because of this. I used to think, really, you're "average" so why do you care if you gain 5 lb?! Now I get it. 5 lb on a small person is like a very large person gaining 30 lb.
For me the 100+ getting out of large plus sizes was relatively easy to lose and isn't too hard to maintain. It's that 15 lb between a tight size 8 and a comfy size 12 that is difficult to manage and I'm afraid if I let it go I'll gradually slide back up where I don't ever want to be.
I feel like a lot of people don't understand it.
On me, 5 pounds is a clothing size. It's 5 percent of my weight. That's not a small figure.8 -
That_Hiker_Chick wrote: »Oh my gosh, SO much to vent about! Haha, but I'll keep it short!
Mainly, I hate that being healthy is culturally unacceptable. The norm is to be sleep deprived and jacked up on coffee, eating junk food all day then binging on Netflix after work before repeating. The moment you present something different, you're seen as weird, too controlling, or Miss Perfect.
I feel like it's a very American thing. In my country (Panama), people are actually pretty supportive of others watching what they eat and trying to lose weight. We have an obesity problem too here (a normal meal is accompanied by a million cups of rice), but everyone in their mind is on a diet, even if they are ordering Krispy Kremes everyday. So they tend to be pretty supportive of others who are doing it. I've generally gotten positive comments from friends, and not much peer pressure to try to misbehave.
Sorry you have to go through that though. It makes it much tougher.
I think this is also influenced by what part of the US someone is in. My experience where I live is 100% different from my experience when I go to where my mother lives (1400 miles apart). Here, healthy is very trendy, and I have a huge variety of healthy places to eat where calorie counts are mandated almost everywhere. When I'm at my mom's, though, the type of food is much different, and the calorie count is a mystery in most places, though it's getting better. Not to say I can't eat healthy/healthier where my mom lives, but it's different. The expectation is different, the presentation is different, the attitude is different when it comes to the way food is approached.
ETA: Healthy is trendy, I should add, but healthy does not weight management make when healthy foods are consumed in volume. That is a hurdle that is similar in both places.11 -
I remember the first time I realized that 5 lbs on 5'9", not-very-overweight-at-185 me was a completely different story than 5 lbs on my 5'0", 110 lb. friend. It felt little bit shocking at the time, but now I wonder where I thought she was going to put it (...what, a knapsack, maybe?seltzermint555 wrote: »MonkeyMel21 wrote: »
Pretty much!MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Sick of looking at numbers.
Can’t wait to hit maintenance so I won’t have to be so strict.
Spoiler alert, maintenance is almost just as hard, lol.
Way to rain on my parade 😅😊
Frankly I think maintenance is the hardest part - when I relax a bit I gain my weight back and have to start all over again
I'm like this too, with my "last 15". I relax a little and it comes back almost instantly. I honestly have a new view on people who aren't obese and struggle with their weight because of this. I used to think, really, you're "average" so why do you care if you gain 5 lb?! Now I get it. 5 lb on a small person is like a very large person gaining 30 lb.
For me the 100+ getting out of large plus sizes was relatively easy to lose and isn't too hard to maintain. It's that 15 lb between a tight size 8 and a comfy size 12 that is difficult to manage and I'm afraid if I let it go I'll gradually slide back up where I don't ever want to be.
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I'm still at the other end of that 100-lb + journey. As of this week I've lost 21 pounds (104 left to go), but it don't trust it. I feel like all that weight is still lurking somewhere nearby, just waiting to jump back on my body.
This doesn't bug me all the time - I'm not up late nights worrying about it - but it's hard to shake the feeling that the weight's like a paddle ball and I'm just hoping that its elastic string has 104 lbs more stretch in it. And that, whenever it starts snapping back again, I can catch that ball before it gets very far. Because I know that little stretchy string is never going to break.
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collectingblues wrote: »seltzermint555 wrote: »MonkeyMel21 wrote: »
Pretty much!MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Sick of looking at numbers.
Can’t wait to hit maintenance so I won’t have to be so strict.
Spoiler alert, maintenance is almost just as hard, lol.
Way to rain on my parade 😅😊
Frankly I think maintenance is the hardest part - when I relax a bit I gain my weight back and have to start all over again
I'm like this too, with my "last 15". I relax a little and it comes back almost instantly. I honestly have a new view on people who aren't obese and struggle with their weight because of this. I used to think, really, you're "average" so why do you care if you gain 5 lb?! Now I get it. 5 lb on a small person is like a very large person gaining 30 lb.
For me the 100+ getting out of large plus sizes was relatively easy to lose and isn't too hard to maintain. It's that 15 lb between a tight size 8 and a comfy size 12 that is difficult to manage and I'm afraid if I let it go I'll gradually slide back up where I don't ever want to be.
I feel like a lot of people don't understand it.
On me, 5 pounds is a clothing size. It's 5 percent of my weight. That's not a small figure.
Exactly. I used to be annoyed when my coworker would complain that she'd put on 10 lb during the holidays. She was 5'2" and maybe around 120 lb. I thought she was nuts because at the time I weighed in the neighborhood of 260 and would probably not even notice it in my clothing if I was at 270 after the holidays. Now that I am smaller even though I am tall and curvy with more room to "carry" extra weight, I understand. When I am up by 5 lb, I feel larger and less comfortable in my skin and clothes don't fit as well.8 -
zwerchfell wrote: »I hate free food. For some reason I have a super hard time resisting. At my last job about half of the year we worked over time and got free dinner. In addition they always ordered Pizza. Oh I hate eating so much delicious free Pizza. I don’t want to talk about the weight gain during that period.
I noticed this recently! I can't turn it down - I avoid the break room a lot now, if there is a cookie or candy I will grab it even though I wasn't even going to have a snack, it's like a reflex. But getting better8 -
zwerchfell wrote: »I hate free food. For some reason I have a super hard time resisting. At my last job about half of the year we worked over time and got free dinner. In addition they always ordered Pizza. Oh I hate eating so much delicious free Pizza. I don’t want to talk about the weight gain during that period.
I'm guilty of doing this for my employees. When we get free food, it's almost always pizza and/or wings. It's because healthy food is expensive to buy for a group
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psychod787 wrote: »etherealanwar wrote: »-Having to plan ahead of time whenever you decide to go out to a restaurant
-Avoiding certain restaurants because none of their options can fit into your daily calorie limit
-Having to limit yourself to one meal for the day when eating out
-No more boredom snacking allowed (this used to be my go to when bored, its no wonder I ballooned up)
-Avoiding eating at other peoples places because you cannot track it
-Thinking way too often about food and what your next meal will be
Fours years later and my whole life revolves around eating and thinking about when I'm going to be able to eat again.
yup... nice delts btw
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is jealous!
Thanks! This picture is about 2 years old I think. I really should update my stuff on here.
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jdubois5351 wrote: »jdubois5351 wrote: »
I'm 27 and love to go out to bars and watch football with my friends. Sue me!
So do I (only I go to watch rugby instead of football). I guess I'm lucky that my friends in general don't drink (a beer or a cocktail, sure, but rarely more). I never understood the need to get drunk to have fun.
Who said I needed alcohol to have fun? I love to drink. Can I have fun without it? Of course. My social life still takes a hit because my friends hang out in bars often. If I'm not drinking, I don't want to be hanging out in bars. Maybe you should start drinking more so you can be less uptight 8 -
I hate it when there’s a social gathering and I’m nervously eyeing all the food thinking what can I eat, what to avoid, how much to eat. Then theres the guilt if I have 1 drink or something not so healthy and the fear that the scale will tell the next day and I’ll be working very hard for the next 2-3 days to undo the bad. I have yet to figure out how NOT to put on weight the night after a meal of eating out. I realize its water weight mostly but it still takes 2-3 days to get it back to where it was. What do ppl do to manage this cycle? Pl share what works.5
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I hate it when there’s a social gathering and I’m nervously eyeing all the food thinking what can I eat, what to avoid, how much to eat. Then theres the guilt if I have 1 drink or something not so healthy and the fear that the scale will tell the next day and I’ll be working very hard for the next 2-3 days to undo the bad. I have yet to figure out how NOT to put on weight the night after a meal of eating out. I realize its water weight mostly but it still takes 2-3 days to get it back to where it was. What do ppl do to manage this cycle? Pl share what works.
They wait 2-3 days to shed the water weight. It’s your body doing what it’s supposed to do.
Do you use a weight trending app like Happy Scale or Libra? It evens out the daily fluctuations so you can see the overall trend.7 -
I only use MFP and weigh daily, first thing in the morng. It really helps keep me on track. But I do find myself going through this cycle of up and down trying to get back to my old weight from a week back if I ate out even 1 night in a week. This is tough betwen Oct-Dec with the holidays and all the so ial gatherings! I will usually fast for 16 hrs thr day after eating out and drink tons of water etc to get my wt bck to original level.
Is there anythg else I could do to balance the 1 night of eating out0 -
I only use MFP and weigh daily, first thing in the morng. It really helps keep me on track. But I do find myself going through this cycle of up and down trying to get back to my old weight from a week back if I ate out even 1 night in a week. This is tough betwen Oct-Dec with the holidays and all the so ial gatherings! I will usually fast for 16 hrs thr day after eating out and drink tons of water etc to get my wt bck to original level.
Is there anythg else I could do to balance the 1 night of eating out
Stop punishing yourself. When you go out try to eat within your calories as you can best guess. Unless you eat 3500 calories above your maintenance you aren't gaining actual weight; you are most likely retaining water, or weighing partially digested food that's still in your system if you ate later in the evening than normal. Sometimes water weight takes a day or two to go away.
Continually punishing yourself leads to giving up.17 -
I hate it when there’s a social gathering and I’m nervously eyeing all the food thinking what can I eat, what to avoid, how much to eat. Then theres the guilt if I have 1 drink or something not so healthy and the fear that the scale will tell the next day and I’ll be working very hard for the next 2-3 days to undo the bad. I have yet to figure out how NOT to put on weight the night after a meal of eating out. I realize its water weight mostly but it still takes 2-3 days to get it back to where it was. What do ppl do to manage this cycle? Pl share what works.
You don't need to work very hard to undo water weight, it just balances itself on its own within a few days. What works for me is to have my social gathering then just continue as if nothing happened. Weighing myself daily for years has desensitized me to fluctuations.11 -
It seems like no matter what's going on some people just have to be Judgey McJudgepants, or hijack a thread with side discussions instead of starting a new thread or sending messages.
That being said,
Cheese. I miss being able to eat as much cheese as I want without worrying about the calories.
The same with nuts. The days of just tossing back handfuls of nuts are over.
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I only use MFP and weigh daily, first thing in the morng. It really helps keep me on track. But I do find myself going through this cycle of up and down trying to get back to my old weight from a week back if I ate out even 1 night in a week. This is tough betwen Oct-Dec with the holidays and all the so ial gatherings! I will usually fast for 16 hrs thr day after eating out and drink tons of water etc to get my wt bck to original level.
Is there anythg else I could do to balance the 1 night of eating out
Use a weight trending app. It helps calm the emotional impact of the highs and lows.
Happyscale for iOs
Libra for Android
Trendweight (and one other I never remember) on the web.4 -
zwerchfell wrote: »I hate free food. For some reason I have a super hard time resisting. At my last job about half of the year we worked over time and got free dinner. In addition they always ordered Pizza. Oh I hate eating so much delicious free Pizza. I don’t want to talk about the weight gain during that period.
I'm guilty of doing this for my employees. When we get free food, it's almost always pizza and/or wings. It's because healthy food is expensive to buy for a group
Then just skip it or do it occasioanlly when you can afford it.
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So this just popped up for me today...
I hate when you tell someone you're trying to lose weight and they immediately jump on you with their "advice" on what you're doing right and what you're doing wrong and why you should be doing this or that.
I get that they're trying to be helpful I guess? But I wish more people would recognise that different things work for different people. I've found something that is healthy and sustainable that works for me, so just let me get on with it without your judgement jeeeeeez.6 -
My thoughts - I hate that although I'm loving gaining weight and making myself more confident in my appearance, that i have to spend 90% of my life in the kitchen cooking to do so lmao.5
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The bag of leftover home made Halloween cookies from the weekend, downstairs in the kitchen, quietly calling me.12
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MelanieCN77 wrote: »The bag of leftover home made Halloween cookies from the weekend, downstairs in the kitchen, quietly calling me.
Pretend whatever language they're calling you in, is one that you don't speak?
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