What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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pyrusangeles wrote: »I so need this vent thread.
I hate that my husband is able to manage his hunger so easily while I am not. Hunger is actually painful for me sometimes (thanks gastritis!) so I have to chew on Tums, drink lots of water, and hope the pain subsides.
I hate that my RMR is so low. I had it tested and found out that I'm quite a bit lower than I should be for my height and age. All the strength training I've done has only raised it by about 20 kcal/day.
I hate that when I eat "intuitively" or "moderately" I gain weight, rapidly. For the first time in my life, my health is at risk, all because I tried to let go of monitoring my diet like a hawk. I'm not capable of letting it go and being ok. I think I will have to be strict for the rest of my life.
I hate that I get migraines when I lift weights. I hate that we're coming up on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I want to enjoy them to the fullest extent with decadent food and drink but can't. I hate that every single meeting and celebration at work involves highly caloric food and sweets. I hate that my favorite foods to cook from my childhood are so calorie dense.
The one thing I do like- four days into getting back on the wagon, I've dropped a bunch of water weight and am no longer bloated. Good feeling.
I got migraines when I tried lifting heavy. Exertion induced migraines are a thing.
You can still get benefits from progressive strength training by using moderate weights and doing more reps and sets.
I have pretty bad chronic migraines, but they're fine if I keep the weights moderate for me and lift this way.11 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I hate when I weigh food like potato chips & then my two-year-old niece will be like "chippies?" Of course I have to give her some of the chips to eat, because what kind of monster would I be? .
Hah, anyone attempting to swipe something I've meticulously weighed and accounted for risks losing a hand!
Probably best that I do not have any children because they'd have NO chance of swiping any!
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Packerjohn wrote: »Farfalla707 wrote: »I love that my parents visited me today, but I hate that they didn't eat the whole cake they brought and now I have two slices of cake laying around. I really don't want to eat them. It's not worth the calories (and it has egg in it and I don't eat eggs so that's even worse). However, I HATE HATE HAAAATE wasting food. Now I'm sitting here looking at the cake and want to throw it away so badly but also don't want to throw it away because food waste. Ahhhhhhhhh.
Quite a luxury problem, but I kinda like that I don't even want to eat it. Before I wouldn't have hesitated one second before munching both slices.
Just take it to work and put it in the break room. That's what I do with all of my unwanted food.
The 70% of the people who are overweight/obese don't really need/want it there to tempt them.
I disagree. The majority of the people I work with are actually not overweight/obese. And most of the people who eat the food in the break room are young men with high metabolisms who always seem to be hungry. But thanks for your two cents.10 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »When your food is carefully weighed and you drop some of it on the floor. Those calories you have accounted for and not eaten ... the pain is real!
Or your 14-year-old steals a big bite! Get away from my food, kid!!!4 -
seltzermint555 wrote: »I have a few friends who never seem to be hungry and have only the slightest interest in food. They're not skinny mind you, they are about my size (after a major weight loss), average. But I am jealous in that I am not a person who can skip lunch unintentionally or doesn't have a strong opinion about pasta sauce, fruit, etc. I have to count calories and watch myself in order to avoid gaining lots of weight and some people just have a natural self-control and lack of interest in food that makes it easier for them to maintain a healthy average weight. For me it's a struggle. I'm not claiming that some people are naturally fat/thin, I know that's a hot topic on these forums. I acknowledge that I tend to use food for celebration, consolation, etc, and all of that. I'm just a bit jealous of people who don't do that and have healthy or "don't care" attitudes about what they consume
Many of my friends are like that. They are barely interested in food and only think about it when they get hungry. I'm so jealous! I'm almost obsessed with food and think about it most of the time. It's depressing. If I could somehow find a way to not be so fixated on it! All the extra time and headspace I would get and spend it on hobbies and think that really interest me! Not to meantiin weight loss would be soooo much easier!7 -
My beef is myself. Not in a degrading hateful way. BUT I get so caught up in eating right and exercising and then I get bored or it isnt happening fast enough or life gets tough and I just quit. I just wish i could get over that hump without going straight back to unhealthy.13
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seltzermint555 wrote: »I have a few friends who never seem to be hungry and have only the slightest interest in food. They're not skinny mind you, they are about my size (after a major weight loss), average. But I am jealous in that I am not a person who can skip lunch unintentionally or doesn't have a strong opinion about pasta sauce, fruit, etc. I have to count calories and watch myself in order to avoid gaining lots of weight and some people just have a natural self-control and lack of interest in food that makes it easier for them to maintain a healthy average weight. For me it's a struggle. I'm not claiming that some people are naturally fat/thin, I know that's a hot topic on these forums. I acknowledge that I tend to use food for celebration, consolation, etc, and all of that. I'm just a bit jealous of people who don't do that and have healthy or "don't care" attitudes about what they consume
Many of my friends are like that. They are barely interested in food and only think about it when they get hungry. I'm so jealous! I'm almost obsessed with food and think about it most of the time. It's depressing. If I could somehow find a way to not be so fixated on it! All the extra time and headspace I would get and spend it on hobbies and think that really interest me! Not to meantiin weight loss would be soooo much easier!
Well... 3 reason this might happen. First, anytime you try to restrict something, most of us think about it more. Kinda like don't think about a white bear thing. Second, the brain drives us to eat after weight loss. Third, we are bombarded by food ques everywhere. Just watch any local TV network. Just smacked with food porn! You are not alone.7 -
GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »pyrusangeles wrote: »I so need this vent thread.
I hate that my husband is able to manage his hunger so easily while I am not. Hunger is actually painful for me sometimes (thanks gastritis!) so I have to chew on Tums, drink lots of water, and hope the pain subsides.
I hate that my RMR is so low. I had it tested and found out that I'm quite a bit lower than I should be for my height and age. All the strength training I've done has only raised it by about 20 kcal/day.
I hate that when I eat "intuitively" or "moderately" I gain weight, rapidly. For the first time in my life, my health is at risk, all because I tried to let go of monitoring my diet like a hawk. I'm not capable of letting it go and being ok. I think I will have to be strict for the rest of my life.
I hate that I get migraines when I lift weights. I hate that we're coming up on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I want to enjoy them to the fullest extent with decadent food and drink but can't. I hate that every single meeting and celebration at work involves highly caloric food and sweets. I hate that my favorite foods to cook from my childhood are so calorie dense.
The one thing I do like- four days into getting back on the wagon, I've dropped a bunch of water weight and am no longer bloated. Good feeling.
I got migraines when I tried lifting heavy. Exertion induced migraines are a thing.
You can still get benefits from progressive strength training by using moderate weights and doing more reps and sets.
I have pretty bad chronic migraines, but they're fine if I keep the weights moderate for me and lift this way.
That's great that they're manageable for you. I hoped they would be for me.
I've been working on different ways to strength train without triggering a migraine. I used to train 4-5 days a week for about a year and had migraines pretty much constantly. I'm on a preventative which helps with the instantaneous migraines I get when I don't warm up enough, but my trigger now seems to be any kind of muscle soreness.
I stopped lifting and have been pretty much running exclusively for a while which helps. I was astonished that the day after only one very mild yoga session last week, I got a migraine. My shoulders were barely sore. My neurologist told me to stop strength training altogether. Maybe I need a new neurologist.1 -
pyrusangeles wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »pyrusangeles wrote: »I so need this vent thread.
I hate that my husband is able to manage his hunger so easily while I am not. Hunger is actually painful for me sometimes (thanks gastritis!) so I have to chew on Tums, drink lots of water, and hope the pain subsides.
I hate that my RMR is so low. I had it tested and found out that I'm quite a bit lower than I should be for my height and age. All the strength training I've done has only raised it by about 20 kcal/day.
I hate that when I eat "intuitively" or "moderately" I gain weight, rapidly. For the first time in my life, my health is at risk, all because I tried to let go of monitoring my diet like a hawk. I'm not capable of letting it go and being ok. I think I will have to be strict for the rest of my life.
I hate that I get migraines when I lift weights. I hate that we're coming up on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I want to enjoy them to the fullest extent with decadent food and drink but can't. I hate that every single meeting and celebration at work involves highly caloric food and sweets. I hate that my favorite foods to cook from my childhood are so calorie dense.
The one thing I do like- four days into getting back on the wagon, I've dropped a bunch of water weight and am no longer bloated. Good feeling.
I got migraines when I tried lifting heavy. Exertion induced migraines are a thing.
You can still get benefits from progressive strength training by using moderate weights and doing more reps and sets.
I have pretty bad chronic migraines, but they're fine if I keep the weights moderate for me and lift this way.
That's great that they're manageable for you. I hoped they would be for me.
I've been working on different ways to strength train without triggering a migraine. I used to train 4-5 days a week for about a year and had migraines pretty much constantly. I'm on a preventative which helps with the instantaneous migraines I get when I don't warm up enough, but my trigger now seems to be any kind of muscle soreness.
I stopped lifting and have been pretty much running exclusively for a while which helps. I was astonished that the day after only one very mild yoga session last week, I got a migraine. My shoulders were barely sore. My neurologist told me to stop strength training altogether. Maybe I need a new neurologist.
That sounds just awful!
What kind of protocol are you on for your treatment? Maybe that makes a difference for me.
I'm going to be starting Aimovig and am currently getting botox. I'm also on an SSRI, topomax, and some supplements.0 -
All the fast food coupons they send in the mail 😤5
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Right now, kind of having a hard time with the weather becoming colder, winter approaching, holidays are upon us and everywhere I go l, there is some kind of high calorie sweet treat being offered to me. There’s just so much indulgence this time of year and I’m trying to resist the urges to overeat and hibernate haha3
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GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »pyrusangeles wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »pyrusangeles wrote: »I so need this vent thread.
I hate that my husband is able to manage his hunger so easily while I am not. Hunger is actually painful for me sometimes (thanks gastritis!) so I have to chew on Tums, drink lots of water, and hope the pain subsides.
I hate that my RMR is so low. I had it tested and found out that I'm quite a bit lower than I should be for my height and age. All the strength training I've done has only raised it by about 20 kcal/day.
I hate that when I eat "intuitively" or "moderately" I gain weight, rapidly. For the first time in my life, my health is at risk, all because I tried to let go of monitoring my diet like a hawk. I'm not capable of letting it go and being ok. I think I will have to be strict for the rest of my life.
I hate that I get migraines when I lift weights. I hate that we're coming up on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I want to enjoy them to the fullest extent with decadent food and drink but can't. I hate that every single meeting and celebration at work involves highly caloric food and sweets. I hate that my favorite foods to cook from my childhood are so calorie dense.
The one thing I do like- four days into getting back on the wagon, I've dropped a bunch of water weight and am no longer bloated. Good feeling.
I got migraines when I tried lifting heavy. Exertion induced migraines are a thing.
You can still get benefits from progressive strength training by using moderate weights and doing more reps and sets.
I have pretty bad chronic migraines, but they're fine if I keep the weights moderate for me and lift this way.
That's great that they're manageable for you. I hoped they would be for me.
I've been working on different ways to strength train without triggering a migraine. I used to train 4-5 days a week for about a year and had migraines pretty much constantly. I'm on a preventative which helps with the instantaneous migraines I get when I don't warm up enough, but my trigger now seems to be any kind of muscle soreness.
I stopped lifting and have been pretty much running exclusively for a while which helps. I was astonished that the day after only one very mild yoga session last week, I got a migraine. My shoulders were barely sore. My neurologist told me to stop strength training altogether. Maybe I need a new neurologist.
That sounds just awful!
What kind of protocol are you on for your treatment? Maybe that makes a difference for me.
I'm going to be starting Aimovig and am currently getting botox. I'm also on an SSRI, topomax, and some supplements.
Currently on Depakote for prevention and Maxalt as an abortive. I heard about Aimovig and really want to try it. Topamax had some odd side effects for me. (Blocked muscle memory- couldn't play the piano temporarily- scary!) I hear Botox works well but takes about a year of treatments to start to work. Is that true for you?0 -
ferrenmariec97 wrote: »My beef is myself. Not in a degrading hateful way. BUT I get so caught up in eating right and exercising and then I get bored or it isnt happening fast enough or life gets tough and I just quit. I just wish i could get over that hump without going straight back to unhealthy.
You're not alone. We've all felt that way. I can feel that attitude creeping up on me right now. My aim is to be "good" until Christmas but I don't think I'll last that long.
I'm on around 1400 calories a day plus 10,000 steps with means I'm actually between 1200-1300. (nobody @ me about how this is all wrong. I'm not asking to be corrected - it's working for me). When I get the grumps about the hard slog that is "being good" then I take a break and go up to 1500-1800 calories a day plus 10,000 steps. I usually find that allows me to eat a bit of what I want but still keep me on the right track. I don't lose a lot (if anything) but I don't gain. I stay around the same.
Sending you love x5 -
I hate that my family hadn't said a thing about my weight loss. I also hate that the MFP app and the Fitbit app never congratulated me for hitting the 50 lb lost mark. I hate that my period is making me want to cry about the fact that I can't even get an inanimate thing to care about how much weight I've lost.
(I know this is about me and my journey and I shouldn't be dependent on anyone else to lift me up because that's not how it is. And I know this sounds like I'm being back handed to find a way to cheer myself and have who. But *kitten*, this is hard work. It would be really nice if the people who spent the last twenty five years making me feel *kitten* about my weight at least would acknowledge the fact that I'm putting in the work to correct the thing that they put so much value on. Quick to point out I'm fat but not so quick to point out that I'm doing something good for myself. Ok, done feeling pissy. Thanks for the rant. Also, if someone British could explain the "Bob's your uncle" slang, I really want to use it and I felt like it fit but I don't want to screw it up.)18 -
Yes it's about you and your journey but, dammit, you're working hard and some appreciation for that fact wouldn't go amiss! You can't be expected to be "I am woman, hear me roar" 24/7/365. Some days you just need someone to say "You're looking skinny. You must have been working really hard. Way to go!" and give you a hug.
You have worked hard! 50lb is outstanding! You've obviously got a system that works for you. Keep it up!
As for Bob's your Uncle, it can mean "there you go". In context it could be used if something was broken and then you fixed it. "All I needed to do was change the lightbulb and Bob's your Uncle". It can be followed up with Fanny's your Aunt. Fanny being a girl's name that was quite prevelant about 150yrs ago.
Another variation is "All I needed to do was change the lightbulb and Robert is, very much, your mother's brother"9 -
I hate that my family hadn't said a thing about my weight loss. I also hate that the MFP app and the Fitbit app never congratulated me for hitting the 50 lb lost mark. I hate that my period is making me want to cry about the fact that I can't even get an inanimate thing to care about how much weight I've lost.
(I know this is about me and my journey and I shouldn't be dependent on anyone else to lift me up because that's not how it is. And I know this sounds like I'm being back handed to find a way to cheer myself and have who. But *kitten*, this is hard work. It would be really nice if the people who spent the last twenty five years making me feel *kitten* about my weight at least would acknowledge the fact that I'm putting in the work to correct the thing that they put so much value on. Quick to point out I'm fat but not so quick to point out that I'm doing something good for myself. Ok, done feeling pissy. Thanks for the rant. Also, if someone British could explain the "Bob's your uncle" slang, I really want to use it and I felt like it fit but I don't want to screw it up.)
The MFP app could really use some finessing. The angry red numbers when you go over and that stupid 5 week prediction are actively unhelpful. There are dozens of people here who will say why? It's just a tool. It's just science numbers, eat what you want in a deficit, it's so simple! Which while true, displays willful ignorance of the fact that simple is not easy, and people are not machines.
ALSO the longer I am here, the less patience I have for this "socratic method" people employ, whereby someone new posts a question that is common and predictable, and instead of answering with courtesy and care, the responses are in the form of didactic questions which I guess are meant to make the OP think critically about their issue but come across as more challenging and short of patience. I don't get why you'd answer pleas for help if you're grumpy about it.16 -
@Bobble11
Omg I died laughing. Thank you so much for the different variations bahaha3 -
ferrenmariec97 wrote: »My beef is myself. Not in a degrading hateful way. BUT I get so caught up in eating right and exercising and then I get bored or it isnt happening fast enough or life gets tough and I just quit. I just wish i could get over that hump without going straight back to unhealthy.
You're not alone. We've all felt that way. I can feel that attitude creeping up on me right now. My aim is to be "good" until Christmas but I don't think I'll last that long.
I'm on around 1400 calories a day plus 10,000 steps with means I'm actually between 1200-1300. (nobody @ me about how this is all wrong. I'm not asking to be corrected - it's working for me). When I get the grumps about the hard slog that is "being good" then I take a break and go up to 1500-1800 calories a day plus 10,000 steps. I usually find that allows me to eat a bit of what I want but still keep me on the right track. I don't lose a lot (if anything) but I don't gain. I stay around the same.
Sending you love x
As long as it's working for you keep it up .
Since my hours widely vary now for work anywhere from 7-12 start times & can end anywhere from 4-9 typically I have been trying to push my first meal back to around 11-2 & then eating the majority of my calories around 4-5 when I am on lunch.
On my days off I eat my first snack around 10-12 then it depends on how hungry I am when I eat my first meal.0 -
I hate that I am now one pound from officially getting to goal weight and the thought comes to me--if only there wasn't Thanksgiving in the way I would make it by Dec 1. I AM going to enjoy Thanksgiving but that thought did enter my head and I hate it.8
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It just never ends.
There is always more room for improvement.
On the plus side, the older I get the more my ranking on a 1-10 scale improves compared to others my age because the percentage of population my age that actually takes care of themselves seems to be dwindling.10
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