What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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The strange phenomenon of people who would never have dreamed of commenting on my weight pre diet, who now feel they can comment on things I eat which are within my calorie allowance but may not fit their idea of what you can eat and lose weight
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My people! This is the thread I need! I'm sat here reading all of your posts and thinking that I've felt exactly the same way as most of you have felt at some point during my weight loss journey. I've been "dieting" for so long that my friends and family aren't interested in knowing how I'm getting on with it. The most I get is "oh yeah? Well done". They don't understand the choices I make every time I decide to eat something.
I am a textbook pear shape but it's starting to take the mickey. You can see my clavicle and my ribs on my top half but my backside, thighs and upper arms are fat and flabby. But you can't target weight loss! I don't understand how my upper arms are retaining so much fat when the rest of my upper body is feeling skeletal!
I've read all the advice and I've spoken to PTs. I've just got to keep on keeping on and I'll get there eventually. I just needed somewhere to shout it out!11 -
My people! This is the thread I need! I'm sat here reading all of your posts and thinking that I've felt exactly the same way as most of you have felt at some point during my weight loss journey. I've been "dieting" for so long that my friends and family aren't interested in knowing how I'm getting on with it. The most I get is "oh yeah? Well done". They don't understand the choices I make every time I decide to eat something.
I am a textbook pear shape but it's starting to take the mickey. You can see my clavicle and my ribs on my top half but my backside, thighs and upper arms are fat and flabby. But you can't target weight loss! I don't understand how my upper arms are retaining so much fat when the rest of my upper body is feeling skeletal!
I've read all the advice and I've spoken to PTs. I've just got to keep on keeping on and I'll get there eventually. I just needed somewhere to shout it out!
This is totally my *kitten*, too. I'm different at this weight than I would have been had I not gotten so heavy and then lost so much. And I expected that regarding being saggier and looser than my preference. What I didn't realize was that, unlike when I was last this weight, my body was going to keep ALL the extra fat in ONE PLACE. So, I don't really even get the choice to chill out chubby should I wish to - I'm all bony up top and my waistline is back, but unless I want disproportionate HUGE upper legs, I have to ruthlessly cut body fat %.
Oh well. It's going to make weightlifting harder, but I guess I'm going for skinny
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What I hate is also kind of what I love... 7 years ago I started running again after running on and off throughout high school, and I have been running almost everyday since (barring sickness and pregnancy). I prefer to run in the morning before work so I don't have to worry about having enough time or energy after work, but sometimes I just want to sleep in the morning and something in the back of my mind tells me to get up and go run for 5 miles instead. I know I'll feel good if I get up and run, but is it better than I would feel if I had slept for another 2 hours? I know that it's better than I would feel if I had waited to run in the afternoon. Except for planned rest days and the occasional sick day I feel like I HAVE to run everyday, and sometimes I feel like it borderlines on obsessive even though I love the way it makes me feel (and look). I guess I just wish I didn't always feel like health and fitness is such a priority for me, like the other "normal" people who are just skinny because of their intrinsic/natural lifestyle.
But I guess I know that I'm healthier because of the choices I make, rather than just being "genetically lucky" and eating whatever I want with minimal purposeful exercise.1 -
Farfalla707 wrote: »I love that my parents visited me today, but I hate that they didn't eat the whole cake they brought and now I have two slices of cake laying around. I really don't want to eat them. It's not worth the calories (and it has egg in it and I don't eat eggs so that's even worse). However, I HATE HATE HAAAATE wasting food. Now I'm sitting here looking at the cake and want to throw it away so badly but also don't want to throw it away because food waste. Ahhhhhhhhh.
Quite a luxury problem, but I kinda like that I don't even want to eat it. Before I wouldn't have hesitated one second before munching both slices.
I can relate - my grandparents on both sides were Depression Era kids and therefore fanatics about wasting food, there was absolutely zero tolerance. So of course, my parents were also very strict about it. I honestly think that this played a large part into the obesity and death of a lot of my uncles and cousins.
An effort should always be made to avoid waste, but stuffing it in your mouth when you don't need/want it is no better than throwing it away. We are not garbage disposals! Toss things you don't want, walk away, and forget about it -society will forgive you and your body will thank you.10 -
Bry_Fitness70 wrote: »Farfalla707 wrote: »I love that my parents visited me today, but I hate that they didn't eat the whole cake they brought and now I have two slices of cake laying around. I really don't want to eat them. It's not worth the calories (and it has egg in it and I don't eat eggs so that's even worse). However, I HATE HATE HAAAATE wasting food. Now I'm sitting here looking at the cake and want to throw it away so badly but also don't want to throw it away because food waste. Ahhhhhhhhh.
Quite a luxury problem, but I kinda like that I don't even want to eat it. Before I wouldn't have hesitated one second before munching both slices.
I can relate - my grandparents on both sides were Depression Era kids and therefore fanatics about wasting food, there was absolutely zero tolerance. So of course, my parents were also very strict about it. I honestly think that this played a large part into the obesity and death of a lot of my uncles and cousins.
An effort should always be made to avoid waste, but stuffing it in your mouth when you don't need/want it is no better than throwing it away. We are not garbage disposals! Toss things you don't want, walk away, and forget about it -society will forgive you and your body will thank you.
Growing up, I was also forced to be a member of the clean-plate club. I never forced my kids to clean their plates or stuff themselves with more food than they desired. If they barely touched their meal, we just wrapped it up and served it again at the next mealtime. They all seem to have grown into intuitive eaters, and I honestly don't foresee any of them having lifelong food issues and battling their weight like we do. I see this as a parenting victory, and I'm so happy for them to have such healthy relationships with food!9 -
I so need this vent thread.
I hate that my husband is able to manage his hunger so easily while I am not. Hunger is actually painful for me sometimes (thanks gastritis!) so I have to chew on Tums, drink lots of water, and hope the pain subsides.
I hate that my RMR is so low. I had it tested and found out that I'm quite a bit lower than I should be for my height and age. All the strength training I've done has only raised it by about 20 kcal/day.
I hate that when I eat "intuitively" or "moderately" I gain weight, rapidly. For the first time in my life, my health is at risk, all because I tried to let go of monitoring my diet like a hawk. I'm not capable of letting it go and being ok. I think I will have to be strict for the rest of my life.
I hate that I get migraines when I lift weights. I hate that we're coming up on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I want to enjoy them to the fullest extent with decadent food and drink but can't. I hate that every single meeting and celebration at work involves highly caloric food and sweets. I hate that my favorite foods to cook from my childhood are so calorie dense.
The one thing I do like- four days into getting back on the wagon, I've dropped a bunch of water weight and am no longer bloated. Good feeling.13 -
I miss enjoying eating out. Yes, I know there are ways to do it but right now I am a little obsessive about knowing what's in my food. My adult son lives a few blocks away and(long story) is careful about what he eats so I will go with him now and again but have stopped going on my own when I am home.
I really dislike doing dishes which is an offshoot of eating home more.1 -
@Bobble11 I get what you said , but you can target specific areas of your body with exercise ... also know that our bodies store fat at certain ages 😉in the thighs, arms and stomach areas ..
I hate that I don’t really enjoy food like I used too and looking at my family I’ll have to watch my weight my whole stinkin life !!!7 -
When your food is carefully weighed and you drop some of it on the floor. Those calories you have accounted for and not eaten ... the pain is real!18
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The food scale is my friend, but also my enemy. I hate feeling so judged by everyone around me when I pull it out. It's to the point to where I try to have everything pre-weighed and made into portions that way I can just do a quick reheat and eat. Otherwise I wait till after everyone in my family is done eating and then I will go and make my plate, weigh things, and at the same time clean up and put everything away.
I'm still fairly new at this. I've done it in the past without issue. I'm hoping that over time the judgement will pass and the support will start instead.7 -
The food scale is my friend, but also my enemy. I hate feeling so judged by everyone around me when I pull it out. It's to the point to where I try to have everything pre-weighed and made into portions that way I can just do a quick reheat and eat. Otherwise I wait till after everyone in my family is done eating and then I will go and make my plate, weigh things, and at the same time clean up and put everything away.
I'm still fairly new at this. I've done it in the past without issue. I'm hoping that over time the judgement will pass and the support will start instead.
Honestly, after a while you just stop giving a *kitten*. And once the results start showing, the judgers tend to fade away. But I try to make my weighing a non-event. At home? Sure! Scoot over, hubby, I need room on the counter for my food scale! But I'm not busting it out at the restaurant table with friends or anything
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Lillymoo01 wrote: »When your food is carefully weighed and you drop some of it on the floor. Those calories you have accounted for and not eaten ... the pain is real!
..or when you have to smack your poor SO's hand away with "I just weighed that" when they try to grab a bite.14 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »When your food is carefully weighed and you drop some of it on the floor. Those calories you have accounted for and not eaten ... the pain is real!
I hate when I weigh food like potato chips & then my two-year-old niece will be like "chippies?" Of course I have to give her some of the chips to eat, because what kind of monster would I be?. 3 -
The food scale is my friend, but also my enemy. I hate feeling so judged by everyone around me when I pull it out. It's to the point to where I try to have everything pre-weighed and made into portions that way I can just do a quick reheat and eat. Otherwise I wait till after everyone in my family is done eating and then I will go and make my plate, weigh things, and at the same time clean up and put everything away.
I'm still fairly new at this. I've done it in the past without issue. I'm hoping that over time the judgement will pass and the support will start instead.
The only time I had judgment was using my food scale at work, but most of them understood once I explained why I was using it.
My manager as a joke asked if it was my drug scale.6 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »When your food is carefully weighed and you drop some of it on the floor. Those calories you have accounted for and not eaten ... the pain is real!
Ha ha, I did this just a few minutes ago! But I can't convince myself that the spillage amounts to a serving of Haagen Dazs. (I decided to treat myself to a gin and tonic instead of ice cream tonight. Alas, the choice stands -- I can't fit both.)
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »My manager as a joke asked if it was my drug scale.
Yes. Carbs are my drug of choice.
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Farfalla707 wrote: »I love that my parents visited me today, but I hate that they didn't eat the whole cake they brought and now I have two slices of cake laying around. I really don't want to eat them. It's not worth the calories (and it has egg in it and I don't eat eggs so that's even worse). However, I HATE HATE HAAAATE wasting food. Now I'm sitting here looking at the cake and want to throw it away so badly but also don't want to throw it away because food waste. Ahhhhhhhhh.
Quite a luxury problem, but I kinda like that I don't even want to eat it. Before I wouldn't have hesitated one second before munching both slices.
Just take it to work and put it in the break room. That's what I do with all of my unwanted food.
The 70% of the people who are overweight/obese don't really need/want it there to tempt them.9 -
i'm going out tonight for drinks after work, so have just been looking at the food menu and trying to find something tasty for under 900 cals... made me think of this thread as i thought 'one ginormous dirty burger wont really hurt even if it does wipe out this weeks deficit!'8
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Phoebe5164 wrote: »@Bobble11 I get what you said , but you can target specific areas of your body with exercise ... also know that our bodies store fat at certain ages 😉in the thighs, arms and stomach areas ..
I hate that I don’t really enjoy food like I used too and looking at my family I’ll have to watch my weight my whole stinkin life !!!
Eating in a calorie surplus causes one to store fat, not a certain age.7 -
pyrusangeles wrote: »I so need this vent thread.
I hate that my husband is able to manage his hunger so easily while I am not. Hunger is actually painful for me sometimes (thanks gastritis!) so I have to chew on Tums, drink lots of water, and hope the pain subsides.
I hate that my RMR is so low. I had it tested and found out that I'm quite a bit lower than I should be for my height and age. All the strength training I've done has only raised it by about 20 kcal/day.
I hate that when I eat "intuitively" or "moderately" I gain weight, rapidly. For the first time in my life, my health is at risk, all because I tried to let go of monitoring my diet like a hawk. I'm not capable of letting it go and being ok. I think I will have to be strict for the rest of my life.
I hate that I get migraines when I lift weights. I hate that we're coming up on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I want to enjoy them to the fullest extent with decadent food and drink but can't. I hate that every single meeting and celebration at work involves highly caloric food and sweets. I hate that my favorite foods to cook from my childhood are so calorie dense.
The one thing I do like- four days into getting back on the wagon, I've dropped a bunch of water weight and am no longer bloated. Good feeling.
I got migraines when I tried lifting heavy. Exertion induced migraines are a thing.
You can still get benefits from progressive strength training by using moderate weights and doing more reps and sets.
I have pretty bad chronic migraines, but they're fine if I keep the weights moderate for me and lift this way.11 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I hate when I weigh food like potato chips & then my two-year-old niece will be like "chippies?" Of course I have to give her some of the chips to eat, because what kind of monster would I be?.
Hah, anyone attempting to swipe something I've meticulously weighed and accounted for risks losing a hand!
Probably best that I do not have any children because they'd have NO chance of swiping any!
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Packerjohn wrote: »Farfalla707 wrote: »I love that my parents visited me today, but I hate that they didn't eat the whole cake they brought and now I have two slices of cake laying around. I really don't want to eat them. It's not worth the calories (and it has egg in it and I don't eat eggs so that's even worse). However, I HATE HATE HAAAATE wasting food. Now I'm sitting here looking at the cake and want to throw it away so badly but also don't want to throw it away because food waste. Ahhhhhhhhh.
Quite a luxury problem, but I kinda like that I don't even want to eat it. Before I wouldn't have hesitated one second before munching both slices.
Just take it to work and put it in the break room. That's what I do with all of my unwanted food.
The 70% of the people who are overweight/obese don't really need/want it there to tempt them.
I disagree. The majority of the people I work with are actually not overweight/obese. And most of the people who eat the food in the break room are young men with high metabolisms who always seem to be hungry. But thanks for your two cents.10 -
Lillymoo01 wrote: »When your food is carefully weighed and you drop some of it on the floor. Those calories you have accounted for and not eaten ... the pain is real!
Or your 14-year-old steals a big bite! Get away from my food, kid!!!4 -
seltzermint555 wrote: »I have a few friends who never seem to be hungry and have only the slightest interest in food. They're not skinny mind you, they are about my size (after a major weight loss), average. But I am jealous in that I am not a person who can skip lunch unintentionally or doesn't have a strong opinion about pasta sauce, fruit, etc. I have to count calories and watch myself in order to avoid gaining lots of weight and some people just have a natural self-control and lack of interest in food that makes it easier for them to maintain a healthy average weight. For me it's a struggle. I'm not claiming that some people are naturally fat/thin, I know that's a hot topic on these forums. I acknowledge that I tend to use food for celebration, consolation, etc, and all of that. I'm just a bit jealous of people who don't do that and have healthy or "don't care" attitudes about what they consume
Many of my friends are like that. They are barely interested in food and only think about it when they get hungry. I'm so jealous! I'm almost obsessed with food and think about it most of the time. It's depressing. If I could somehow find a way to not be so fixated on it! All the extra time and headspace I would get and spend it on hobbies and think that really interest me! Not to meantiin weight loss would be soooo much easier!7 -
My beef is myself. Not in a degrading hateful way. BUT I get so caught up in eating right and exercising and then I get bored or it isnt happening fast enough or life gets tough and I just quit. I just wish i could get over that hump without going straight back to unhealthy.13
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seltzermint555 wrote: »I have a few friends who never seem to be hungry and have only the slightest interest in food. They're not skinny mind you, they are about my size (after a major weight loss), average. But I am jealous in that I am not a person who can skip lunch unintentionally or doesn't have a strong opinion about pasta sauce, fruit, etc. I have to count calories and watch myself in order to avoid gaining lots of weight and some people just have a natural self-control and lack of interest in food that makes it easier for them to maintain a healthy average weight. For me it's a struggle. I'm not claiming that some people are naturally fat/thin, I know that's a hot topic on these forums. I acknowledge that I tend to use food for celebration, consolation, etc, and all of that. I'm just a bit jealous of people who don't do that and have healthy or "don't care" attitudes about what they consume
Many of my friends are like that. They are barely interested in food and only think about it when they get hungry. I'm so jealous! I'm almost obsessed with food and think about it most of the time. It's depressing. If I could somehow find a way to not be so fixated on it! All the extra time and headspace I would get and spend it on hobbies and think that really interest me! Not to meantiin weight loss would be soooo much easier!
Well... 3 reason this might happen. First, anytime you try to restrict something, most of us think about it more. Kinda like don't think about a white bear thing. Second, the brain drives us to eat after weight loss. Third, we are bombarded by food ques everywhere. Just watch any local TV network. Just smacked with food porn! You are not alone.7 -
GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »pyrusangeles wrote: »I so need this vent thread.
I hate that my husband is able to manage his hunger so easily while I am not. Hunger is actually painful for me sometimes (thanks gastritis!) so I have to chew on Tums, drink lots of water, and hope the pain subsides.
I hate that my RMR is so low. I had it tested and found out that I'm quite a bit lower than I should be for my height and age. All the strength training I've done has only raised it by about 20 kcal/day.
I hate that when I eat "intuitively" or "moderately" I gain weight, rapidly. For the first time in my life, my health is at risk, all because I tried to let go of monitoring my diet like a hawk. I'm not capable of letting it go and being ok. I think I will have to be strict for the rest of my life.
I hate that I get migraines when I lift weights. I hate that we're coming up on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I want to enjoy them to the fullest extent with decadent food and drink but can't. I hate that every single meeting and celebration at work involves highly caloric food and sweets. I hate that my favorite foods to cook from my childhood are so calorie dense.
The one thing I do like- four days into getting back on the wagon, I've dropped a bunch of water weight and am no longer bloated. Good feeling.
I got migraines when I tried lifting heavy. Exertion induced migraines are a thing.
You can still get benefits from progressive strength training by using moderate weights and doing more reps and sets.
I have pretty bad chronic migraines, but they're fine if I keep the weights moderate for me and lift this way.
That's great that they're manageable for you. I hoped they would be for me.
I've been working on different ways to strength train without triggering a migraine. I used to train 4-5 days a week for about a year and had migraines pretty much constantly. I'm on a preventative which helps with the instantaneous migraines I get when I don't warm up enough, but my trigger now seems to be any kind of muscle soreness.
I stopped lifting and have been pretty much running exclusively for a while which helps. I was astonished that the day after only one very mild yoga session last week, I got a migraine. My shoulders were barely sore. My neurologist told me to stop strength training altogether. Maybe I need a new neurologist.1 -
pyrusangeles wrote: »GottaBurnEmAll wrote: »pyrusangeles wrote: »I so need this vent thread.
I hate that my husband is able to manage his hunger so easily while I am not. Hunger is actually painful for me sometimes (thanks gastritis!) so I have to chew on Tums, drink lots of water, and hope the pain subsides.
I hate that my RMR is so low. I had it tested and found out that I'm quite a bit lower than I should be for my height and age. All the strength training I've done has only raised it by about 20 kcal/day.
I hate that when I eat "intuitively" or "moderately" I gain weight, rapidly. For the first time in my life, my health is at risk, all because I tried to let go of monitoring my diet like a hawk. I'm not capable of letting it go and being ok. I think I will have to be strict for the rest of my life.
I hate that I get migraines when I lift weights. I hate that we're coming up on Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I want to enjoy them to the fullest extent with decadent food and drink but can't. I hate that every single meeting and celebration at work involves highly caloric food and sweets. I hate that my favorite foods to cook from my childhood are so calorie dense.
The one thing I do like- four days into getting back on the wagon, I've dropped a bunch of water weight and am no longer bloated. Good feeling.
I got migraines when I tried lifting heavy. Exertion induced migraines are a thing.
You can still get benefits from progressive strength training by using moderate weights and doing more reps and sets.
I have pretty bad chronic migraines, but they're fine if I keep the weights moderate for me and lift this way.
That's great that they're manageable for you. I hoped they would be for me.
I've been working on different ways to strength train without triggering a migraine. I used to train 4-5 days a week for about a year and had migraines pretty much constantly. I'm on a preventative which helps with the instantaneous migraines I get when I don't warm up enough, but my trigger now seems to be any kind of muscle soreness.
I stopped lifting and have been pretty much running exclusively for a while which helps. I was astonished that the day after only one very mild yoga session last week, I got a migraine. My shoulders were barely sore. My neurologist told me to stop strength training altogether. Maybe I need a new neurologist.
That sounds just awful!
What kind of protocol are you on for your treatment? Maybe that makes a difference for me.
I'm going to be starting Aimovig and am currently getting botox. I'm also on an SSRI, topomax, and some supplements.0 -
All the fast food coupons they send in the mail 😤5
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