38 yr old divorced single mom- AMA

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  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    let's say, you're seeing a guy, who y'know, brings his A-game in the bedroom, and you're actually pretty happy with the way things are going with him.

    but then he also asks to borrow your car occasionally.
    and let's also say that he ends up keeping it longer than he originally said, like maybe just an hour or two.
    and then he also doesn't top the tank off for you when he brings it back.

    how would you feel about that?
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    let's say, you're seeing a guy, who y'know, brings his A-game in the bedroom, and you're actually pretty happy with the way things are going with him.

    but then he also asks to borrow your car occasionally.
    and let's also say that he ends up keeping it longer than he originally said, like maybe just an hour or two.
    and then he also doesn't top the tank off for you when he brings it back.

    how would you feel about that?

    Are you talking about regular or premium unleaded?

    if it's diesel fuel, well..... that's probably an entire new thread.
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    let's say, you're seeing a guy, who y'know, brings his A-game in the bedroom, and you're actually pretty happy with the way things are going with him.

    but then he also asks to borrow your car occasionally.
    and let's also say that he ends up keeping it longer than he originally said, like maybe just an hour or two.
    and then he also doesn't top the tank off for you when he brings it back.

    how would you feel about that?

    Just how big is said A Game?
  • What is the most difficult thing about being a single parent at our age?

    Juggling EVERYTHING and never enough time or sleep or money. The to do list is 8 miles long.

    Also, I dont think age matters at all. It's tough no matter what.
    But we just do it.

    Without being too invasive, was it any different before you were single? Did you have the time or the sleep or the money?

  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    What is the most difficult thing about being a single parent at our age?

    Juggling EVERYTHING and never enough time or sleep or money. The to do list is 8 miles long.

    Also, I dont think age matters at all. It's tough no matter what.
    But we just do it.

    Without being too invasive, was it any different before you were single? Did you have the time or the sleep or the money?

    Totally different. My ex made good money, and of course my income was mostly supplemental. So cut the income by about 2/3, I don't have the extra help with household chores, yard work, make sure bills are paid, groceries stocked, household maintenance, child care, car maintenance, laundry, laundry, laundry, etc. So because all this is on me with no help, I get less sleep because my time is spread so thin.

    And people wonder why I don't date much.
    Who has time or energy?
  • jhilkene
    jhilkene Posts: 104 Member
    What is the most difficult thing about being a single parent at our age?

    Juggling EVERYTHING and never enough time or sleep or money. The to do list is 8 miles long.

    Also, I dont think age matters at all. It's tough no matter what.
    But we just do it.

    Without being too invasive, was it any different before you were single? Did you have the time or the sleep or the money?

    Totally different. My ex made good money, and of course my income was mostly supplemental. So cut the income by about 2/3, I don't have the extra help with household chores, yard work, make sure bills are paid, groceries stocked, household maintenance, child care, car maintenance, laundry, laundry, laundry, etc. So because all this is on me with no help, I get less sleep because my time is spread so thin.

    And people wonder why I don't date much.
    Who has time or energy?

    Exactly Avocado!
    All those difficulties aside,
    I'm actually, for the first time, content with being single! (perhaps because I have no time or energy?!) ;):D
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    What Is The Perfect Amount Of Criticism?
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    Which Puppy Is The Cutest?

  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    Which Puppy Is The Cutest?

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  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    jhilkene wrote: »
    What is the most difficult thing about being a single parent at our age?

    Juggling EVERYTHING and never enough time or sleep or money. The to do list is 8 miles long.

    Also, I dont think age matters at all. It's tough no matter what.
    But we just do it.

    Without being too invasive, was it any different before you were single? Did you have the time or the sleep or the money?

    Totally different. My ex made good money, and of course my income was mostly supplemental. So cut the income by about 2/3, I don't have the extra help with household chores, yard work, make sure bills are paid, groceries stocked, household maintenance, child care, car maintenance, laundry, laundry, laundry, etc. So because all this is on me with no help, I get less sleep because my time is spread so thin.

    And people wonder why I don't date much.
    Who has time or energy?

    Exactly Avocado!
    All those difficulties aside,
    I'm actually, for the first time, content with being single! (perhaps because I have no time or energy?!) ;):D

    Took me a good 2 years to be truly ok with it. Now I enjoy it and I feel like it will have to take someone really special to make me want something different.
  • jhilkene
    jhilkene Posts: 104 Member
    jhilkene wrote: »
    What is the most difficult thing about being a single parent at our age?

    Juggling EVERYTHING and never enough time or sleep or money. The to do list is 8 miles long.

    Also, I dont think age matters at all. It's tough no matter what.
    But we just do it.

    Without being too invasive, was it any different before you were single? Did you have the time or the sleep or the money?

    Totally different. My ex made good money, and of course my income was mostly supplemental. So cut the income by about 2/3, I don't have the extra help with household chores, yard work, make sure bills are paid, groceries stocked, household maintenance, child care, car maintenance, laundry, laundry, laundry, etc. So because all this is on me with no help, I get less sleep because my time is spread so thin.

    And people wonder why I don't date much.
    Who has time or energy?

    Exactly Avocado!
    All those difficulties aside,
    I'm actually, for the first time, content with being single! (perhaps because I have no time or energy?!) ;):D

    Took me a good 2 years to be truly ok with it. Now I enjoy it and I feel like it will have to take someone really special to make me want something different.

    I couldn't agree more!
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    What Is The Perfect Amount Of Criticism?

    Well now, don't you think you might have phrased that differently?

    How is this germane to any discussion?

    What are you expecting her to say?

    ^ this much?
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    What Is The Perfect Amount Of Criticism?

    Well now, don't you think you might have phrased that differently?

    How is this germane to any discussion?

    What are you expecting her to say?

    ^ this much?

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  • Watching_The_Wheels
    Watching_The_Wheels Posts: 4,609 Member
    Although not mutually exclusive (except for #7), choose the better attribute to possess:

    1. Preparedness or Instinct?
    2. Honesty or Politeness?
    3. Loyalty or Independence?
    4. Creativity or Structure?
    5. Advanced Skill or Work Ethic?
    6. Physical Health or Mental Health?
    7. iPhone or Android?
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    Although not mutually exclusive (except for #7), choose the better attribute to possess:

    1. Preparedness or Instinct?
    2. Honesty or Politeness?
    3. Loyalty or Independence?
    4. Creativity or Structure?
    5. Advanced Skill or Work Ethic?
    6. Physical Health or Mental Health?
    7. iPhone or Android?

    1. instinct
    2. honesty
    3. once upon a time I would have said loyalty, now wisdom has taught me that independence is better
    4. creativity
    5. work ethic
    6. mental health
    7. android (I've never owned anything Apple)

    Also, thanks for reviving this one. I had forgotten about it. :smiley:
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    Every time I see this thread my first thought is

    “She is not 38, she’s lying”

    You look 28-30.

    38 and a half! I :heart: you.
  • Watching_The_Wheels
    Watching_The_Wheels Posts: 4,609 Member
    Although both of these 2 scenarios suck, which would be worse to you?

    1. You walk in on your spouse physically and passionately engaged in an affair...

    2. While cleaning your bedroom, you come across copies of love letters written by your spouse to someone expressing his love to her and that his current marriage to you is more of a convenience rather than love.
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    Although both of these 2 scenarios suck, which would be worse to you?

    1. You walk in on your spouse physically and passionately engaged in an affair...

    2. While cleaning your bedroom, you come across copies of love letters written by your spouse to someone expressing his love to her and that his current marriage to you is more of a convenience rather than love.

    #2.
    Unfortunately I already lived through a very similar situation.
  • Mean_Spice
    Mean_Spice Posts: 279 Member
    Although both of these 2 scenarios suck, which would be worse to you?

    1. You walk in on your spouse physically and passionately engaged in an affair...

    2. While cleaning your bedroom, you come across copies of love letters written by your spouse to someone expressing his love to her and that his current marriage to you is more of a convenience rather than love.

    This is so wrong at so many levels. Neither is appealing to me or most folks I know.

    Both would result in the same reactions.
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    Mean_Spice wrote: »
    Although both of these 2 scenarios suck, which would be worse to you?

    1. You walk in on your spouse physically and passionately engaged in an affair...

    2. While cleaning your bedroom, you come across copies of love letters written by your spouse to someone expressing his love to her and that his current marriage to you is more of a convenience rather than love.

    This is so wrong at so many levels. Neither is appealing to me or most folks I know.

    Both would result in the same reactions.

    I immediately had the thought that one of these happened to him.
  • Sunshine_And_Sand
    Sunshine_And_Sand Posts: 1,320 Member
    Cold weather or hot weather? (I hate cold)
    Bo or Luke Duke? (Bo all the way for me)
    Sofa or recliner? (Sofa for me)
    Granite or quartz? (Granite for me)

    You know all the important stuff...
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    If you were anonymously gifted $1,000 cash this week, what would you do with it?
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    sarjenki wrote: »
    Cold weather or hot weather? (I hate cold)
    Bo or Luke Duke? (Bo all the way for me)
    Sofa or recliner? (Sofa for me)
    Granite or quartz? (Granite for me)

    You know all the important stuff...

    Cool weather (not frigid).
    Daisy?
    Recliner. Hopefully with heat and massage.
    Quartz I guess. I'm more about the back splash tho.
  • Just_Mel_
    Just_Mel_ Posts: 3,992 Member
    If you were anonymously gifted $1,000 cash this week, what would you do with it?

    I guess have the surgery I'm supposed to have but have had to postpone until I have $500 upfront (instead of them billing me 😠). Get an oil change. Pay my credit card down some.
    I'm such a boring adult.
  • RomaineCalm
    RomaineCalm Posts: 3,972 Member
    If you were arrested with no explanation, what would your friends and family assume you had done?

    I love this question.
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  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    If you were anonymously gifted $1,000 cash this week, what would you do with it?

    I guess have the surgery I'm supposed to have but have had to postpone until I have $500 upfront (instead of them billing me 😠). Get an oil change. Pay my credit card down some.
    I'm such a boring adult.

    Same question but you aren't allowed to use the money on boring adult stuff. Pretend that's already been taken care of.

  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    If you can flip a switch that will wipe off any band from the face of the world, which band would it be?
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    If you could replace all of the grass in the world with something else, what would it be?
  • navdeeprana
    navdeeprana Posts: 473 Member
    A lot of things but to keep it short, curious about your display name...Avocado ...probably you love Avocado alot may be :)