Some people just don't get it
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There are two primary factors at play here:
First is the massive amount of misinformation/disinformation out there marketing that metabolism is some fluid and adaptable process.
Second is the issue of personal responsibility which feeds the misinformation campaign. If CICO is true, then excuses are simply that and we are truly responsible for our outcome.
A responsible individual would hope that the problem lies with them...that way they can change the behavior and fix the problem.
Interesting, seemingly obvious observation that society as a whole appears to be shifting away from. Interest in self-improvement doesn't feel terribly widespread at this particular moment in time. Much easier to throw your hands up and say 'See, I told you it wasn't my fault!'
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My office ALWAYS has treats. My coworkers joke around that new employees gain the "Freshman 15."
I eat plant-based, and am new to counting calories, and it's INSANE how much flack I catch for it.
My favorite examples:
While I'm opening a can of low-sodium green beans for my lunch: "What is that you're eating? Dog food?"
"Wow, that's so healthyyyyy! I really admire people who eat like you!" In a very patronizing tone
Multiple jabs at my refusing little snacks (muffins, donuts, chocolates, popcorn) because it's some special occasion
"But you look fine! You don't need to be watching what you eat!" because I'm not as overweight as some others.
Sigh. 50 pounds to go.
Definitely a "misery loves company" situation going on. Ignore them and just keep doing your thing. Eventually they'll leave you alone and move on to someone else. Too bad in a work situation you have to be careful what you say. Otherwise I'm all for putting people in their place when making unasked for comments about what I do or don't do.4 -
There are two primary factors at play here:
First is the massive amount of misinformation/disinformation out there marketing that metabolism is some fluid and adaptable process.
Second is the issue of personal responsibility which feeds the misinformation campaign. If CICO is true, then excuses are simply that and we are truly responsible for our outcome.
A responsible individual would hope that the problem lies with them...that way they can change the behavior and fix the problem.
Interesting, seemingly obvious observation that society as a whole appears to be shifting away from. Interest in self-improvement doesn't feel terribly widespread at this particular moment in time. Much easier to throw your hands up and say 'See, I told you it wasn't my fault!'
It's amazing how much hate one can generate by making such a seemingly obvious statement.
A consequence of affluence it seems. Knowing that our problems are of our own making, but lacking the motivation to solve them. It is indeed much easier to blame others for our misery, but incredibly unhelpful and unfruitful.
I am amazed at the amount of time and energy people will expend to shift blame, when that same amount of time and energy could have been spent in self improvement, resulting in societal improvement.12 -
There are two primary factors at play here:
First is the massive amount of misinformation/disinformation out there marketing that metabolism is some fluid and adaptable process.
Second is the issue of personal responsibility which feeds the misinformation campaign. If CICO is true, then excuses are simply that and we are truly responsible for our outcome.
A responsible individual would hope that the problem lies with them...that way they can change the behavior and fix the problem.
So true. Spending my emotional energy on the things I can influence/control yields better outcomes, more sense of mastery/agency, and consistenly better (not always perfect) outcomes, compared to spending emotional energy railing about the obstacles.
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CarvedTones wrote: »On Fridays, there are generally pastries brought in to the office and today was no exception. A giant apple fritter looked really good. I got a knife, cut it it in half and then cut one of the halves in half and took 1/4; still a few bites, this thing was big. An overweight coworker rolled his eyes - "You don't need to do that. You're skinny." - then took the rest of the fritter. I opened my mouth to say something but words failed me and I just had to turn and walk away.
I got the opposite at a pot luck Christmas party. I was told “oh you’re a runner, you’re not going to eat anything huh?”...... this dude must have never seen me around food. I proceeded to inhale 4 helpings of baked Mac and cheese, ham, buns and a ton of desserts lol. 🙄 Some people have no idea what it takes.6 -
Comment: "You don't need to do that. You're skinny."
Reply: "And I want to stay that way."29 -
Have you ever seen a weight loss video or success story showing people eating apple fritters, chips, Mac and cheese? Nooo.
They always show people in exercise clothes chopping fruits or blending veggies. No wonder lots of people don't get it (OK they don't want to get it but still)7 -
CarvedTones wrote: »On Fridays, there are generally pastries brought in to the office and today was no exception. A giant apple fritter looked really good. I got a knife, cut it it in half and then cut one of the halves in half and took 1/4; still a few bites, this thing was big. An overweight coworker rolled his eyes - "You don't need to do that. You're skinny." - then took the rest of the fritter. I opened my mouth to say something but words failed me and I just had to turn and walk away.
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Have you ever seen a weight loss video or success story showing people eating apple fritters, chips, Mac and cheese? Nooo.
They always show people in exercise clothes chopping fruits or blending veggies. No wonder lots of people don't get it (OK they don't want to get it but still)
Wait... I had an apple fritter the other day.0 -
In my mind when some-one attempts to take a jab at my healthy weight then I am obliged to jab back. I keep my comments to myself but if you feel the need to lay it on me then be prepared to hear what I'm thinking... lol
Comment: "You don't need to do that. You're skinny."
Reply: "True & you obviously shouldn't eat any of it"...
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psychod787 wrote: »Have you ever seen a weight loss video or success story showing people eating apple fritters, chips, Mac and cheese? Nooo.
They always show people in exercise clothes chopping fruits or blending veggies. No wonder lots of people don't get it (OK they don't want to get it but still)
Wait... I had an apple fritter the other day.
😂 They'll cut out that segment when they make your success story video9 -
rcreynol3090 wrote: »elisa123gal wrote: »born_of_fire74 wrote: »When someone says something like that to me, I go into great detail about why I eat the way I do. I tell them all about it until their eyes glaze over and they walk away. It's better for me if they think ending the conversation was their idea rather than them thinking I gave them the brush off as I have this reputation at work of being unfriendly and difficult to approach. Generally, after a few times, people stop saying anything because they've figured out I will blather on and on for as long as they let me and it's just better if they don't even get me started. BTW, it's not that I'm not unfriendly or difficult to approach, it's that small talk is fake, dumb and boring.
lol..love this strategy...it is how I get rid of people all the time... start talking in detail about what they are annoying you with... boom. they go away.
Maybe that's why none of the overweight people at work ask me about weight loss anymore, because I use a similar tactic.
Or it could be simply that nobody likes talking to auditors, which I am... 🤔😂
I think we auditors are well suited to using logging as a way to manage our fitness goals. Objective evidence, KPIs, records....3 -
psychod787 wrote: »Have you ever seen a weight loss video or success story showing people eating apple fritters, chips, Mac and cheese? Nooo.
They always show people in exercise clothes chopping fruits or blending veggies. No wonder lots of people don't get it (OK they don't want to get it but still)
Wait... I had an apple fritter the other day.
😂 They'll cut out that segment when they make your success story video
Fair enough. . I am an example of what not to do! Lol😘1 -
I’ve lost 75lbs. Going from 15st 1 to 9 st 10.
My bmi is 21 and I’ve gone from a uk 20 to an 8. In 7 months
And I look and feel fantastic!!! Apart from the saggy skin. Sigh. But I’m 49 and can’t exercise due to disability. Clothes on nice. Off , not so much!! 😝
But I’m thoroughly sick to death of the number of people who feel free to comment. I’m too thin, skinny, need to eat cake etc. I smile and nod. And carry on with my Apple.
If these same people had ever told me I was too fat I’d take it. But they didn’t. Why is it ok to comment now?
I made myself a t shirt that said
My weight is not your business
But I haven’t been brave enough to wear it yet!!!15 -
Was at the local diner a few days ago. I had chicken and dumplings and carrots. I was commenting to the waitress that I ate all my carrots when the owner/cook asked if I ate all my dumplings. When I told her no, she called me Twiggy. I then invited her to run with me any time she wants to.
Point being, we do need to work at maintenance, but can splurge once in a while. I'm 60, lost 70ish lbs. and have kept them off for 3-1/2 years.15 -
LetsBurnThis wrote: »Reading this post sipping on my lemon water, taking my thyroid medication and hating you all... Its a thing... But I will give your side a try, I have been logging my food, and riding out on my elliptical like the second coming of something big... LOL Last month during my stabilization month science told me I needed to eat 833 less calories out of my average 1500 calories a day to stop the weight gain. I said quietly to myself "Oh hell no! Hommie don't play that" and cleaned up my gently used (OK never used) elliptical for the deficit! No one is messing with my sugar free roasted almonds snack... I am willing to take up arms to defends them... *flexes*
I don't quite understand this post. Are you seriously trying to claim that your TDEE was 667 before you broke out your elliptical? Because if so, then no, there is no way that is correct. And who is this "science" that told you this?3 -
That's why you're skinny, you manage your portions!
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If he had a quarter of a half of a half that means he had a sixteenth.0
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mister_blobby wrote: »If he had a quarter of a half of a half that means he had a sixteenth.
Poorly worded I guess. Half of a half was a quarter.0
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