Introvert or extrovert???
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AliNouveau wrote: »Reckoner67 wrote: »AliNouveau wrote: »For the introverts...
is the anonymity of an online forum appealing?
what draws you to be social here when you'd rather not be in your every day life?
I'm quite extrovert and i'm a stay at home mom so i'm attracted to online forums because i like talking to people and being around people. i will have conversations with random people on the street. i also keep a very broad social network.
It's good for boundaries...real talk, addiction *is* a thing when it comes to internet and social media and that notwithstanding, part of the appeal for me is that I can simply take a break when I need one. I do that regularly with other social media outlets (Facebook, Twitter). It's not always easy or polite to tell people you want a break from them when you're hanging out, but taking a few days away from a forum or other social-media outlet rarely raises any eyebrows.
The anonymity is...somewhat appealing? But I'm good at being social when I need to be, it just wears me out, so my perspective is gonna be different than people who abhor social activities and things like that.
I love people, I love talking and listening and interacting with people--I just love it until I'm done, then I need my time
Online forums make it easy to take that time.
if you like interactions why do you feel you're an introvert? Because you need your downtime to regroup? you gain energy from being alone not from a group?
100% that. I view being social as a "skill", something that I've developed to help me get through life, but it's draining. The longer I'm in it, the more worn out I'm gonna get until Dr. Jekyll gives in to Mr. Hyde and I'm no longer much fun to be around.
It's different if I'm with people that I'm close to (I'd imagine it's that way with nearly anybody) but the thresholds just change. People that I'm close with, I can enjoy their company a lot longer (there's a reason I'm close with them) but even then, I'm going to need my time away eventually.0 -
AliNouveau wrote: »For the introverts...
is the anonymity of an online forum appealing?
what draws you to be social here when you'd rather not be in your every day life?
I'm quite extrovert and i'm a stay at home mom so i'm attracted to online forums because i like talking to people and being around people. i will have conversations with random people on the street. i also keep a very broad social network.
I'm definitely an introvert, and it's taken many years and personal pep talks to get me to actually interact with other humans outside my family. haha
Online forums are definitely appealing. Most of the people don't live anywhere near me. I will never meet them in person. I can say what I want and be myself. I don't feel like i have to censor myself for specific types of people, like I would IRL. I can just be me. Some people will like it and others won't. But it's ok. Because in my mind, it's just the internet. And really, why am I gonna get upset because someone said something mean on the internet? haha I wouldn't. IRL, however.... it would sting. And until someone REALLY gets to know me in person..... I tend to be a private, quiet, softie, who (according to my ex) is too emotional and "feels" too much.
But on the online forums, I can be my WHOLE self.... as weird as that sounds....
On a different note, I don't have much of a social life IRL. The way my life is structured, it takes a LOT of effort just to do something outside work, errands, and home. So my social life is almost non-existent. MFP and the online forums, give me that social aspect that I currently lack.2 -
debrakgoogins wrote: »I am an introverted extrovert. When I need to, I can turn it on. I am the life of the party with people I feel comfortable with. I can organize and put on fantastic parties. I have spoken in front of a crowd 1500. On the flip side, if I had my choice, I would just read a book in a quiet corner. I will also go to great lengths to avoid social situations unless I absolutely have to participate. It's complicated.
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AliNouveau wrote: »For the introverts...
is the anonymity of an online forum appealing?
what draws you to be social here when you'd rather not be in your every day life?
I'm quite extrovert and i'm a stay at home mom so i'm attracted to online forums because i like talking to people and being around people. i will have conversations with random people on the street. i also keep a very broad social network.
I'm definitely an introvert, and it's taken many years and personal pep talks to get me to actually interact with other humans outside my family. haha
Online forums are definitely appealing. Most of the people don't live anywhere near me. I will never meet them in person. I can say what I want and be myself. I don't feel like i have to censor myself for specific types of people, like I would IRL. I can just be me. Some people will like it and others won't. But it's ok. Because in my mind, it's just the internet. And really, why am I gonna get upset because someone said something mean on the internet? haha I wouldn't. IRL, however.... it would sting. And until someone REALLY gets to know me in person..... I tend to be a private, quiet, softie, who (according to my ex) is too emotional and "feels" too much.
But on the online forums, I can be my WHOLE self.... as weird as that sounds....
On a different note, I don't have much of a social life IRL. The way my life is structured, it takes a LOT of effort just to do something outside work, errands, and home. So my social life is almost non-existent. MFP and the online forums, give me that social aspect that I currently lack.
hmmm thanks that's really interesting
i often wonder what draws people to a place like this and you helped me understand.
i think you sound like a cool person feeling a lot is an ok trait. many accuse me of not feeling enough. i just tend to process feelings quickly and move on.
glad you found a place where you can be yourself and have some social activities1 -
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AliNouveau wrote: »AliNouveau wrote: »For the introverts...
is the anonymity of an online forum appealing?
what draws you to be social here when you'd rather not be in your every day life?
I'm quite extrovert and i'm a stay at home mom so i'm attracted to online forums because i like talking to people and being around people. i will have conversations with random people on the street. i also keep a very broad social network.
I'm definitely an introvert, and it's taken many years and personal pep talks to get me to actually interact with other humans outside my family. haha
Online forums are definitely appealing. Most of the people don't live anywhere near me. I will never meet them in person. I can say what I want and be myself. I don't feel like i have to censor myself for specific types of people, like I would IRL. I can just be me. Some people will like it and others won't. But it's ok. Because in my mind, it's just the internet. And really, why am I gonna get upset because someone said something mean on the internet? haha I wouldn't. IRL, however.... it would sting. And until someone REALLY gets to know me in person..... I tend to be a private, quiet, softie, who (according to my ex) is too emotional and "feels" too much.
But on the online forums, I can be my WHOLE self.... as weird as that sounds....
On a different note, I don't have much of a social life IRL. The way my life is structured, it takes a LOT of effort just to do something outside work, errands, and home. So my social life is almost non-existent. MFP and the online forums, give me that social aspect that I currently lack.
hmmm thanks that's really interesting
i often wonder what draws people to a place like this and you helped me understand.
i think you sound like a cool person feeling a lot is an ok trait. many accuse me of not feeling enough. i just tend to process feelings quickly and move on.
glad you found a place where you can be yourself and have some social activities
Thank you!
Yeah, it's nice to have a place you can be yourself. It's also nice to have a place where you can say things that you can't say to people who know you. You can confess your fears, your secrets, your loneliness, all the dark stuff, (as well as the not so dark stuff) to a bunch of random strangers because it's easier.
Throwing that info out there is sometimes easier than telling someone who knows you. You don't always want someone to fix your life, or tell you what you are doing wrong, which is often the case with people who know you.... Sometimes all you want is a virtual hug and someone to listen and say "I understand" or "I am going through the same". With some many people, it's nice to think that in your depths of loneliness someone is feeling the same as you. You feel less alone. I have seen some of that here and I find comfort in that.
With introverts.... we have a tendency to hide a lot. To keep a lot of ourselves hidden. So having an online forum, we can unleash parts of ourselves that very few people see (or no one at all!). Its freeing and makes this more of a guilty pleasure sometimes.
And we all love our guilty pleasures!!
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On those personality tests I always test as an extravert and it's true I can be extremely good at people situations, and being around people gives me energy even if I am not interacting with them. But at the same time I need that time to myself to recharge in a different way. The older I get the much more selective I am about which groups of people I will insert myself into. If it's not meaningful or interesting then I don't want to do it.0
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AliNouveau wrote: »AliNouveau wrote: »For the introverts...
is the anonymity of an online forum appealing?
what draws you to be social here when you'd rather not be in your every day life?
I'm quite extrovert and i'm a stay at home mom so i'm attracted to online forums because i like talking to people and being around people. i will have conversations with random people on the street. i also keep a very broad social network.
I'm definitely an introvert, and it's taken many years and personal pep talks to get me to actually interact with other humans outside my family. haha
Online forums are definitely appealing. Most of the people don't live anywhere near me. I will never meet them in person. I can say what I want and be myself. I don't feel like i have to censor myself for specific types of people, like I would IRL. I can just be me. Some people will like it and others won't. But it's ok. Because in my mind, it's just the internet. And really, why am I gonna get upset because someone said something mean on the internet? haha I wouldn't. IRL, however.... it would sting. And until someone REALLY gets to know me in person..... I tend to be a private, quiet, softie, who (according to my ex) is too emotional and "feels" too much.
But on the online forums, I can be my WHOLE self.... as weird as that sounds....
On a different note, I don't have much of a social life IRL. The way my life is structured, it takes a LOT of effort just to do something outside work, errands, and home. So my social life is almost non-existent. MFP and the online forums, give me that social aspect that I currently lack.
hmmm thanks that's really interesting
i often wonder what draws people to a place like this and you helped me understand.
i think you sound like a cool person feeling a lot is an ok trait. many accuse me of not feeling enough. i just tend to process feelings quickly and move on.
glad you found a place where you can be yourself and have some social activities
Thank you!
Yeah, it's nice to have a place you can be yourself. It's also nice to have a place where you can say things that you can't say to people who know you. You can confess your fears, your secrets, your loneliness, all the dark stuff, (as well as the not so dark stuff) to a bunch of random strangers because it's easier.
Throwing that info out there is sometimes easier than telling someone who knows you. You don't always want someone to fix your life, or tell you what you are doing wrong, which is often the case with people who know you.... Sometimes all you want is a virtual hug and someone to listen and say "I understand" or "I am going through the same". With some many people, it's nice to think that in your depths of loneliness someone is feeling the same as you. You feel less alone. I have seen some of that here and I find comfort in that.
With introverts.... we have a tendency to hide a lot. To keep a lot of ourselves hidden. So having an online forum, we can unleash parts of ourselves that very few people see (or no one at all!). Its freeing and makes this more of a guilty pleasure sometimes.
And we all love our guilty pleasures!!
Online is where I choose to unleash my inner kraken1 -
Ironlady70 wrote: »100 % Myers Briggs tested (mulitple times ) Intorvert
Yup!
http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp
I tested as ISFJ...0 -
Strong perfence for introversion, but I can turn it on when I have to. If you met me, you would think I was an extrovert. But I need a break from people as they suck the energy from me.
my MB is INTP.
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INTJ very introverted1
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Apparently I'm an estp. Which from reading about it I'd agree. I'm a little disturbed that Donald Trump and I share this label0
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Extrovert.. but occasionally need to be left alone
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Total introvert. I feel exhausted after interacting with others. I recharge when I am alone or in the company of very few people.2
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One way I have heard the introversion/extroversion compared is that being with people draws energy from introverts; extroverts draw energy from being with other people.2
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danavelling wrote: »INTJ very introverted
i flip beween this and INSJ...while doesn't really surprise me - when i did Kiersey Pierson which is imilar to myers biggs - it looks beyond the black/white to where you fall on the spectrum - for S/T - i was close to the middle of the spectrum0 -
I've done Kiersey too, and My T is off the charts as is my P. I think my N can become an S when idealingt with technical work issues.0
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deannalfisher wrote: »danavelling wrote: »INTJ very introverted
i flip beween this and INSJ...while doesn't really surprise me - when i did Kiersey Pierson which is imilar to myers biggs - it looks beyond the black/white to where you fall on the spectrum - for S/T - i was close to the middle of the spectrum
I’ll have to try that one1 -
Introvert. 100%0
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Ready for me to blow everybody's mind?
VERTOVERT.
I like to go to public places then be alone--while in helicopters, obviously.0 -
I'm extremely introverted. Sure, I can "turn it on" and be extroverted when needed but as soon as my mental state is compromised I completely retreat into myself and NEED some alone time.0
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Oh, I'm INFP.0
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Introvert here. INFP 0
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INFJ0
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Pretty good vert for an old head. But also - extrovert0
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I use to be an extrovert when I was younger but now that i'm older, I like my detachment from society.0
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I am a huge introvert. Being around so many people gives me horrible anxiety and just sucks the life out of me1
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Introvert all the way0
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Extrovert0
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iamjinfinite wrote: »Im a introvert until you get to know me
Same!0
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