Let it GO! Decluttering (simplifying) your life of (people, places or things) success stories?
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I am a hoarder but have got better.
I got rid of all my fat clothes few years back as didnt want to fit in them again and my style has changed since i now have more choices. They all went to cancer research charity shop
I had to move earlier this year and had british heart foundation charity make two trips to pick up toys, clothes, books and dvds. The video cassettes were binned as i doubt anyone uses them anymore.
It does feel satisfying and once done you actually dont miss the stuff at all.
What i am interested in is how you guys deal with toxic pity party type people. Dont want help with a solution just want to moan. This is what i want to deal with this year. I am someone who can listen and listen until my ears are chewed off and this makes it worst. This is not someone i can ignore.5 -
Decluttering can be part of cleaning. Today when doing the dishes, I also cleaned the area where our cooking oils and spreads stand.
I also found and recycled a large empty box in one of the kitchen cupboards. Yay, some more space!
You're right. Since I found this thread, I've become more aware of what I look at while cleaning. The things I have become aware of surprise me because I've looked at them for years.
Yes!
Today I'm in the process of washing curtains that I don't think have been washed in 25 years.
Threw out (recycled bottles) dozens of long-expired spices from the kitchen cupboard too.
Some tins of spice were even going rusty!
Girrrrrrlllllllll, you got me both cracking up AND provoking me to think once again. WOW--I just appreciate you so much. "Haven't washed the curtain in maybe 25 years--ya say?!!???? There you go again, helping me to "see" somethings/some areas I've ignored and/or NEVER thought of. PLUS your sharing give me and MANY others such hope and encouragement that we are so not alone in this struggle/battle. I LOVE that!!!!
I'm sitting here typing looking at some curtains that I too have NEVER washed these curtains since I purchased them some years ago too--duh and wow. I don't have many curtains around here, but the ones I have, have NEVER been taken down and washed/cleaned. THANK YOU BELOVED FOR always helping me (and MANY others reading but not commenting) "discover" new areas of "attack & conquer" in this wonderful deal of decluttering. You've proven once again that this business of decluttering is NEVER a "I got this or all done", nope. Plus I'm going to wash these curtains and have FUN with the N.E.A.T. exercising of ironing them and dancing while I do.
{{{{{{ Super HUGS }}}}}}}}NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »[...] decluttering is very much akin to "maintenance" in weight blastification. It's a life long deal and a GREAT one at that.
I LOVE that!!!!
Me too girlfriend, me too!
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NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »On the LET IT GO and DON'T LOOK BACK weight blastification front:
Wow....just WOW! No major blastification on the scale, but the inches loss--YES-YES-YES!!!!!!!
Neck down-.5 inches
Hips down-.5 inches
Chest down-.5 inches
Butt down -1 inch
Arms down -.5 inches
Thighs down-.5 inches
Shoulders down -2 inches
That's a 5.5 inch blastification and HUGE inches off of my entire body. The biggest news is my shoulders! The other day, I put on a top (a new-ish top--size large) that was just way too big in the shoulders, and was actually drooping weirdly off of my shoulders. I just chalked it up to another one bites the dust from my clothes/wardrobe (being too big and that I must get rid of), but when I was measured today and saw the big ole inch loss from all over, but especially my shoulders I thought A-HA, that's why that top looked so, ummm, big/weird on my shoulders. I'm thrilled, so very humbled and THRILLED at the same time.
All those inches gone! Yay you! Its truly amazing the difference, even when the scale doesn't move much. I'm celebrating your joy!
You are such a major darling Snoo. ALWAYS being such an encouragement to me and so many others, Thank you beloved! Also I LOVE when you say "I'm celebrating your joy"...I just LOVE that term and way of thinking so much.Decluttering can be part of cleaning. Today when doing the dishes, I also cleaned the area where our cooking oils and spreads stand.
I also found and recycled a large empty box in one of the kitchen cupboards. Yay, some more space!
You're right. Since I found this thread, I've become more aware of what I look at while cleaning. The things I have become aware of surprise me because I've looked at them for years.
Yes!
Today I'm in the process of washing curtains that I don't think have been washed in 25 years.
Threw out (recycled bottles) dozens of long-expired spices from the kitchen cupboard too.
Some tins of spice were even going rusty!
This summer I moved my spices from a cupboard to a drawer. I threw out so many spices! I'm trying to remember to mark the year of purchase on the bottoms, when I buy new. That way maybe I won't still have them in 10 years.
I love how you cleaned and replaced the storage space for your spices from the cabinet to the drawers--how cool.
Sometime ago, earlier this year, I thoroughly cleaned inside of my cabinets and tossed out so many old spices, and old cabinet goods it aint even funny. My spices are now in cute boxes, organized and labeled to/with the ones I use most frequently to the ones I use less often. Totally organized, neat and clean and CUTE honey. I super mega ULTRA love your marking the year on the ones that don't have expiration dates (or even the ones that do), to know when to trash them or begin using them more frequently before they go bad. By the grace of God, our children have caught the "decluttering bug" and they all regularly "sanitize (that's what we call it)" the cabinets and the fridge/stove now without being asked. Nothing short of a miracle it is.
That's another HUGE benefit to decluttering for yourself...it's contagious and sooner or maybe much later, your loved ones WILL catch on--it will just take time and with absolutely positively NO NAGGING, NO SAD-SACKING, NO FUSSING OR NO STANK "ATTITUDES" from you/us as we do our decluttering thing. It may take a long time (if ever--for our loved ones to join the decluttering thang), but as we "DO IT Y/OURSELF and WITH A BIG OLE GENUINE SMILE on your mug as we do it, WITHOUT AN OUNCE OF BITTERNESS NOR SELF-PITY, NOR ANY OF THAT YUCK AND UGH MESS from us.--good things will begin to happen in and thru us, our homes and in/thru/to our loved ones as well, because we're doing this for us/ourselves mainly, and because we can (and some of us are doing it for the Glory & Honor of God--giving Him ALL the credit/praise because we KNOW it's really Him who is working in and thru us, and as a form of humility/self-discipline and gratitude/thankfulness for what we've been blessed with/given by taking good care/keeping things neat and orderly of all the "stuff" we have ) and for the real/deep love (of/for ourselves, our environment and them/our loved ones we live with) and to just ALWAYS be a blessing to ourselves and them as well, even if they NEVER help, that's their loss, not ours--FOR REAL. I'm telling you, I'm speaking from personal experience. It's NOT hard as we think...what makes it hard is "how" we think about it (loved ones not helping us in decluttering). I'm not talking about necessarily cleaning up their mess or decluttering their stuff. That's up to them and if they never join/get on the decluttering bandwagon, we are to count it ALL JOY anyway and be glad that they are not helping us, because of their NOT helping us, we get to/are learning patience, humility, real love and MERCY to/for them--them NOT helping us is teaching us "lessons" we could/would never learn otherwise. Look how long it took/takes us to "get-it".
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »Wow. There are some impressive stories on here! I love the decluttering of inches too! I never thought of it that way.
I started decluttering a little over a year ago and feel a need for clutter-free space in my house now. But I have to respect my husband and his things too. It's a struggle finding a happy medium sometimes. So, I am starting with my things and the things I can control, like my closet, makeup drawer, dresser, sewing room, etc. The next step is going to be the basement which has a lot of 'our' stuff. So that will be a little harder...more give and take. But that will be a huge accomplishment if I can get it where I would like it. We will gain about 900 sq ft of livable space if we can clean it up down there. The other half of the basement has his tool bench and other "man cave" things that I don't care about.
I also have it in my head to do a digital declutter....photos, emails, documents, etc. That one feels pretty overwhelming so we'll see when I start that one.
Thanks for sharing your stories and ideas. Very inspiring!
{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}}} Thank you too Packer, for contributing so tremendously to this thread--YAY YOU and US too!
Girl...that "digital decluttering" is so real and good for you and thank you for mentioning it. What I do is weekly "declutter my digital stuff", because if I didn't---ummmmm, UGH, emails, and digital "stuff" gets wayyyyy over my head. If I don't go thru my digital stuff at least weekly, if I wait for say a month...it's close to terrifying how much "stuff" collects. It's also WONDERFUL seeing everything in files/folders and easily accessible. I want to emphasize, I'm so NOT naturally organized, I've LEARNED to live/be this way...if I/we can and are doing this, anyone can--FOR REAL! It just takes time and practice and practice makes BETTER not necessarily perfect.
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Therealobi1 wrote: »I am a hoarder but have got better.
I got rid of all my fat clothes few years back as didnt want to fit in them again and my style has changed since i now have more choices. They all went to cancer research charity shop
I had to move earlier this year and had british heart foundation charity make two trips to pick up toys, clothes, books and dvds. The video cassettes were binned as i doubt anyone uses them anymore.
It does feel satisfying and once done you actually dont miss the stuff at all.
What i am interested in is how you guys deal with toxic pity party type people. Dont want help with a solution just want to moan. This is what i want to deal with this year. I am someone who can listen and listen until my ears are chewed off and this makes it worst. This is not someone i can ignore.
First and foremost, THANK YOU ever so much for contributing to this thread and {{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}
IF you use three big ole "guns" in killing this matter, I know it will not only work, but help this person (and YOU) big time too. What are these "guns/weapons" I speak of?????!!!!?????
1.) FEARLESSNESS
Ya know, fear and fearlfulness are big ole deceptive cowardly lions (lie-ons). Fear to do the "right thing", because it's embarrassing, scary/intimidating, everyone else does it this way and if I don't I'll be rejected or laughed at, etc., fear is the YUCK that holds us back from so much good---ugh, just a big ole LIE/deception. Of course, we need "fear" to keep us from doing foolish stuff (like walking down a dark/dangerous alley alone, or putting our hands in fire and other dangerous stuff, of course fear is there to protect us...but in these cases, it's really NOT fear keeping us from doing self-destructive and/or putting ourselves in harms way--that's WISDOM, disquised as/looking like fear.
You must utterly forsake fear in dealing with this person, period.
2.) HONESTY
Honestly is ALWAYS the best policy (for me it is for sure). When you give the death-blow to fear, you MUST deal with this person with honesty. Example: Hey boo, you know I love you right? Do you love me? If so, you will not only listen/hear me on what I'm about to share with you, but you MUST begin to stop taking advantage of me, because your constant complaining/murmuring/gossiping/ and over all constant negativity is literally wearing me out. Also, it's no longer fun hanging out and communicating with you because your negatively is adversely affecting me and it's contagious and I no longer want us to have this type of relationship and communication. I love you, this is why I'm telling you this. I love you and I love me too, and it may take some time, but this way of communication must stop, period. I say that you're taking advantage of me and a lot of this is my fault for being fearful to let you know how I really feel. IF you love me, you will make a real hard effort to stop this verbal vomiting on/with me, period.
Because I've allowed this for so long, it may take some time to change/stop. So, from this day forth, when/as you begin to share the toxic and downer stuff with me, I'm going to stop you immediately and re-direct the conversation. If you choose not to, and choose to continue this type of negatively with me, it's going to destroy our realationship. Stuff like that.
3.) LOVE
We've been taught/programmed/brain-washed/mind-controlled/trained all of our lives (from cradle to grave) via Hollywood, TV, music, social programming and the media in general, the news, education to call good evil and evil good and define FOR us what "love" is. Real LOVE is not going along to get along, real love NOT a feeling--it's a tough minded, no nonsense, protection of what right vs. what's wrong and a whole lot more. Real love is ALWAYS honest, humble and fearless. Real love does not and will not call good evil and evil good-ever. Real love takes the chance that being honest and true/real may cause one to literally lose everything and it's ready, willing and able to do just that, no matter what the majority thinks and says about it. Real love truly cares so much that again, it's willing to LOSE in order to really win.
That's just some of my thought, I'm so interested and hope others will chime in on this important matter too!
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NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »Therealobi1 wrote: »I am a hoarder but have got better.
I got rid of all my fat clothes few years back as didnt want to fit in them again and my style has changed since i now have more choices. They all went to cancer research charity shop
I had to move earlier this year and had british heart foundation charity make two trips to pick up toys, clothes, books and dvds. The video cassettes were binned as i doubt anyone uses them anymore.
It does feel satisfying and once done you actually dont miss the stuff at all.
What i am interested in is how you guys deal with toxic pity party type people. Dont want help with a solution just want to moan. This is what i want to deal with this year. I am someone who can listen and listen until my ears are chewed off and this makes it worst. This is not someone i can ignore.
First and foremost, THANK YOU ever so much for contributing to this thread and {{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}
IF you use three big ole "guns" in killing this matter, I know it will not only work, but help this person (and YOU) big time too. What are these "guns/weapons" I speak of?????!!!!?????
1.) FEARLESSNESS
Ya know, fear and fearlessness are big ole deceptive cowards lions (lie-ons). Fear to do the "right thing", because it's embarrassing, scary/intimidating, everyone else does it this way and if I don't I'll be rejected or laughed at, etc., fear is the YUCK that holds us back from so much good---ugh, just a big ole LIE/deception. Of course, we need "fear" to keep us from doing foolish stuff (like walking down a dark/dangerous alley alone, or putting our hands in fire and other dangerous stuff, of course fear is there to protect us...but in these cases, it's really NOT fear keeping us from doing self-destructive and/or putting ourselves in harms way--that's WISDOM, disquised as/looking like fear.
You must utterly forsake fear in dealing with this person, period.
2.) HONESTY
Honestly is ALWAYS the best policy (for me it is for sure). When you give the death-blow to fear, you MUST deal with this person with honesty. Example: Hey boo, you know I love you right? Do you love me? If so, you will not only listen/hear me on what I'm about to share with you, but you MUST begin to stop taking advantage of me, because your constant complaining/murmuring/gossiping/ and over all constant negativity is literally wearing me out. Also, it's no longer fun hanging out and communicating with you because your negatively is adversely affecting me and it's contagious and I no longer want us to have this type of relationship and communication. I love you, this is why I'm telling you this. I love you and I love me too, and it may take some time, but this way of communication must stop, period. I say that you're taking advantage of me and a lot of this is my fault for being fearful to let you know how I really feel. IF you love me, you will make a real hard effort to stop this verbal vomiting on/with me, period.
Because I've allowed this for so long, it may take some time to change/stop. So, from this day forth, when/as you begin to share the toxic and downer stuff with me, I'm going to stop you immediately and re-direct the conversation. If you choose not to, and choose to continue this type of negatively with me, it's going to destroy our realationship. Stuff like that.
3.) LOVE
We've been taught/programmed/brain-washed/mind-controlled/trained all of our lives (from cradle to grave) via Hollywood, TV, music, social programming and the media in general, the news, education to call good evil and evil good and define FOR us what "love" is. Real LOVE is not going along to get along, real love NOT a feeling--it's a tough minded, no nonsense, protection of what right vs. what's wrong and a whole lot more. Real love is ALWAYS honest, humble and fearless. Real love does not and will not call good evil and evil good-ever. Real love takes the chance that being honest and true/real may cause one to literally lose everything and it's ready, willing and able to do just that, no matter what the majority thinks and says about it. Real love truly cares so much that again, it's willing to LOSE in order to really win.
That's just some of my thought, I'm so interested and hope others will chime in on this important matter too!
Thank you so much for responding great ideas for me and hopefully others. I am definately going to reuse some of this. It has to be done as it is so draining. I need to be able to nip it in the bud much quicker until the message is heard.
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Adventures of/in taking one's time and doing it right/righteously front:
lost 0.8 lbs since last weighing in! Newlifestyle4me's lost 69.6 lbs so far.
Well--y'all's lil (literally ) ole friend over here is down 70lbs!!! Wellllll...it's technically down 69.6lbs, but good ole Mfp says 70lbs, so who am I to argue?!? Just wee ounces away from the 140's--YAY!!!!!! 10 -
Therealobi1 wrote: »NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »Therealobi1 wrote: »I am a hoarder but have got better.
I got rid of all my fat clothes few years back as didnt want to fit in them again and my style has changed since i now have more choices. They all went to cancer research charity shop
I had to move earlier this year and had british heart foundation charity make two trips to pick up toys, clothes, books and dvds. The video cassettes were binned as i doubt anyone uses them anymore.
It does feel satisfying and once done you actually dont miss the stuff at all.
What i am interested in is how you guys deal with toxic pity party type people. Dont want help with a solution just want to moan. This is what i want to deal with this year. I am someone who can listen and listen until my ears are chewed off and this makes it worst. This is not someone i can ignore.
First and foremost, THANK YOU ever so much for contributing to this thread and {{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}
IF you use three big ole "guns" in killing this matter, I know it will not only work, but help this person (and YOU) big time too. What are these "guns/weapons" I speak of?????!!!!?????
1.) FEARLESSNESS
Ya know, fear and fearlessness are big ole deceptive cowards lions (lie-ons). Fear to do the "right thing", because it's embarrassing, scary/intimidating, everyone else does it this way and if I don't I'll be rejected or laughed at, etc., fear is the YUCK that holds us back from so much good---ugh, just a big ole LIE/deception. Of course, we need "fear" to keep us from doing foolish stuff (like walking down a dark/dangerous alley alone, or putting our hands in fire and other dangerous stuff, of course fear is there to protect us...but in these cases, it's really NOT fear keeping us from doing self-destructive and/or putting ourselves in harms way--that's WISDOM, disquised as/looking like fear.
You must utterly forsake fear in dealing with this person, period.
2.) HONESTY
Honestly is ALWAYS the best policy (for me it is for sure). When you give the death-blow to fear, you MUST deal with this person with honesty. Example: Hey boo, you know I love you right? Do you love me? If so, you will not only listen/hear me on what I'm about to share with you, but you MUST begin to stop taking advantage of me, because your constant complaining/murmuring/gossiping/ and over all constant negativity is literally wearing me out. Also, it's no longer fun hanging out and communicating with you because your negatively is adversely affecting me and it's contagious and I no longer want us to have this type of relationship and communication. I love you, this is why I'm telling you this. I love you and I love me too, and it may take some time, but this way of communication must stop, period. I say that you're taking advantage of me and a lot of this is my fault for being fearful to let you know how I really feel. IF you love me, you will make a real hard effort to stop this verbal vomiting on/with me, period.
Because I've allowed this for so long, it may take some time to change/stop. So, from this day forth, when/as you begin to share the toxic and downer stuff with me, I'm going to stop you immediately and re-direct the conversation. If you choose not to, and choose to continue this type of negatively with me, it's going to destroy our realationship. Stuff like that.
3.) LOVE
We've been taught/programmed/brain-washed/mind-controlled/trained all of our lives (from cradle to grave) via Hollywood, TV, music, social programming and the media in general, the news, education to call good evil and evil good and define FOR us what "love" is. Real LOVE is not going along to get along, real love NOT a feeling--it's a tough minded, no nonsense, protection of what right vs. what's wrong and a whole lot more. Real love is ALWAYS honest, humble and fearless. Real love does not and will not call good evil and evil good-ever. Real love takes the chance that being honest and true/real may cause one to literally lose everything and it's ready, willing and able to do just that, no matter what the majority thinks and says about it. Real love truly cares so much that again, it's willing to LOSE in order to really win.
That's just some of my thought, I'm so interested and hope others will chime in on this important matter too!
Thank you so much for responding great ideas for me and hopefully others. I am definately going to reuse some of this. It has to be done as it is so draining. I need to be able to nip it in the bud much quicker until the message is heard.
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My pleasure and here's to cheering you on! Also, please KNOW that in doing this you will not only be helping yourself, but helping your loved one as well, for sure--it may not seem like it according to popular opinion, but with you doing this in utter fearlessness, complete and utter humble/meek honesty and REAL love--change will happen, it just may take a some time ("they" say, "times heals all wounds and wounds all heals")--but it may not take as much time as one thinks, it may work out for you sooner rather than later too, especially if you operate in a I mean business attitude/spirit!1 -
My mother is my inspiration. Her house is clutter free, and it always has been. She has the motto that you always put away what you use. So, when you open her “junk” drawer, there are some index cards, a roll of tape, scissors and a few pens. The negative thing is when I got married, my husband was so messy and likes piles, it was really hard on my psyche because it made me so nervous and uncomfortable to live with a mess. 23 years later, it still stinks to live like that, although I think he has gotten better. I think some people “like” to have a mess around them- just like we like neatness and order, some like mess and surplus. He covers the counters with stuff, and I clear them off or shove them aside in a huge pile. The only other issue I see is that my mom probably overdoes it. But I think that’s how her brain is wired to be extremely neat and clean. My children are a mix of both; neat and orderly but not too much or not obsessively. Just sayin’7
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What i am interested in is how you guys deal with toxic pity party type people. Dont want help with a solution just want to moan. This is what i want to deal with this year. I am someone who can listen and listen until my ears are chewed off and this makes it worst. This is not someone i can ignore. [/quote]
This is my husband. I am working on the following 1. I don't need to internalize or personalize whatever is being said. If he feels better by venting and feeling someone hears it, okay, but I will brush it off. 2. Reframing the issue as part of bigger picture and reflect it back. (Last 3 weeks he's been mad at a coworker but this is same person he aligns with at work and realized it yesterday so decided to make nice.) 3. Realize that over time every issue usually will resolve and keep voicing that belief.
My happy news: Have a couple shoeboxes full of old photos. So stuck a bunch in everyone's Christmas cards, which was fun to sort and figure who would enjoy.6 -
@NewLIFEstyle4ME You are amazing! Such an inspiration! I have learned so much from you and this thread. Thank you for always posting. I look forward to seeing your progress. Xo1
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I wish my sister could read these tips on FEAR, HONESTY and LOVE. She lets everything affect her; past grievances from years ago are stuck on a loop in her thinking. I took a screen shot of your wise words. Recently, I was bold and told my friend to “mind her own business.” She’s one of those feisty intimidating friends who speaks her mind and I just nod and listen. Well, she was raging about her inlaws and their choices (which none affect her directly). And I held up my hand like a stop sign!! And said, “ you know what? You have to let that go, mind your own business, it has nothing to do with you. “ I felt an inch taller after that.
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This is one of my favorite threads to peruse. Nothing personal to contribute at the moment, but I was re-reading a poetry anthology and one poem made me think of this thread:
let it go — the
smashed word broken
open vow or
the oath cracked length
wise — let it go it
was sworn to
go
let them go — the
truthful liars and
the false fair friends
and the boths and
neithers — you must let them go they
were born
to go
let all go — the
big small middling
tall bigger really
the biggest and all
things — let all go
dear
so comes love
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My wife always says, "don't let your stuff own you"!!!! It's true! I've slowly come to adapt that saying and it really does help.9
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What i am interested in is how you guys deal with toxic pity party type people. Dont want help with a solution just want to moan. This is what i want to deal with this year. I am someone who can listen and listen until my ears are chewed off and this makes it worst. This is not someone i can ignore.This is my husband. I am working on the following 1. I don't need to internalize or personalize whatever is being said. If he feels better by venting and feeling someone hears it, okay, but I will brush it off. 2. Reframing the issue as part of bigger picture and reflect it back. (Last 3 weeks he's been mad at a coworker but this is same person he aligns with at work and realized it yesterday so decided to make nice.) 3. Realize that over time every issue usually will resolve and keep voicing that belief.
My happy news: Have a couple shoeboxes full of old photos. So stuck a bunch in everyone's Christmas cards, which was fun to sort and figure who would enjoy.
Hi Cory and {{{ HUGS }}}} I really and truly appreciate your contributing to this thread so very much. What you've shared is so terrific--I just love it, every bit of what you've so wonderfully shared!!!! I REALLY love your happy news too--YAY YOU and
{{{{ Hugs again ]]]]]
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RubyRed427 wrote: »@NewLIFEstyle4ME You are amazing! Such an inspiration! I have learned so much from you and this thread. Thank you for always posting. I look forward to seeing your progress. Xo
How kind of you, and It takes one to know one, you are so a truly an amazing woman too. Your posts are so meaningful and you ALWAYS contribute such REAL issues that are not only thought provoking but VERY helpful too.
You also are super mega encouraging to me as well {{{{ Hugs }}}}RubyRed427 wrote: »I wish my sister could read these tips on FEAR, HONESTY and LOVE. She lets everything affect her; past grievances from years ago are stuck on a loop in her thinking. I took a screen shot of your wise words. Recently, I was bold and told my friend to “mind her own business.” She’s one of those feisty intimidating friends who speaks her mind and I just nod and listen. Well, she was raging about her inlaws and their choices (which none affect her directly). And I held up my hand like a stop sign!! And said, “ you know what? You have to let that go, mind your own business, it has nothing to do with you. “ I felt an inch taller after that.
Ruby, this post made me feel an inch taller--I just LOVE it! What's so utterly amazing is when we forsake fear, step up to the plate and let our loved ones and friends know in real LOVE and I mean business mode that we're not or no longer going to be their "stomping grounds/doormats...no longer will we be "going along to get along" especially with "those" type of folk, it does some tremendous things in/thus us and them too (our loves/friends who have those type of attitudes/spirits) towards and with us, it will either bring our loved ones and friends closer to us and us to them--as they will develop/see us in a more honorable "light" and way and they will begin to develop a greater respect/respectful way of talking and treating us--it's AMAZING!
Checking folk, not in a nasty or ugly way, in a "I love you, and I love me too" so those days are so OVER, me allowing you to "dump" on me--in total REAL love (for them and yourself) WOW...once you begin to do this on the regular, people respect and actually ADMIRE you more--I'm talking from experience. It's an absolutely tremendous way of living/thinking/loving this way!!! Again, without an ounce of YUCK, actually handling yourself in FEARLESS meekness and humility with them, I MEAN BUSINESS is not only for yoursake, but theirs too--it's truly not even necessary to "go there" just CHOOSING to give fake/lying FEAR the boot and putting on real love, in a just I mean business way. BOOM...here come either real fellowship or the peace of them booking up out of your life with the quickness.
No more... "I'm shy, I'm scared, I'm (fill in the blank with a reason we let people run over us), because you're doing it in REAL fearlessness, REAL honesty, and REAL love, and REAL "this people pleasing is a LIE" and I'm done with that foul business of trying to please and get people to (fill in the blank with the BOGUS reason we've been/are people pleasers)--cause IT (being a "man/people pleaser) DON'T WORK--NEVER has and NEVER will), period. If I can and DO do it, anyone can!
Tough/REAL Loving our, ummmmm, troublesome and/or pushy loved ones and friends and insisting that they "check themselves" when dealing/talking to us and no longer allowing/permitting/ignoring their "bad/negative habit" of running over us, no longer "allowing" them use us for their "dumping grounds" and/or our "FEARLESSLY/HONESTLY/LOVINGLY "checking them and checking them with the quickness" IMMEDIATELY AND CONSISTENTLY will cause them again, to either garner more respect for us or LEARN to take that "mess" somewhere else and will leave us alone--I LOVE THAT! It helps them and us too. Makes us wonder why we waited so long to say "no more". Love ya Boo!1 -
Copper_Boom wrote: »This is one of my favorite threads to peruse. Nothing personal to contribute at the moment, but I was re-reading a poetry anthology and one poem made me think of this thread:
let it go — the
smashed word broken
open vow or
the oath cracked length
wise — let it go it
was sworn to
go
let them go — the
truthful liars and
the false fair friends
and the boths and
neithers — you must let them go they
were born
to go
let all go — the
big small middling
tall bigger really
the biggest and all
things — let all go
dear
so comes love
-e.e. cummings
Hey Copper...poetry, Poetry, POETRY!!!!!! The answer is YES to poems/poetry and this one in particular. How fabulous and RARE it is that I see poems/poetry here, lovely beautiful, MEANINGFUL poems/poetry. I love it!!!
Thank you ever so very much for contributing to this thread--you ROCK! 2 -
JohnnytotheB wrote: »My wife always says, "don't let your stuff own you"!!!! It's true! I've slowly come to adapt that saying and it really does help.
Uhhhhhhhhhh...BOOM! to your wife and you--I super dig this "don't let your stuff own you"!!!! it so real, so powerful (FULL of power) right and righteous, cause "your stuff" WILL absolutely, positively unequivocally own you (if you allow/let it) FOR SURE--I love it! Thank you (and your wife) so much for contributing to this thread. 3 -
IMPORTANT/URGENT UPDATE to my reply to Ruby:
Ya know, I wanted to share that some people/a LOT of people reading this thread are in dangerous abusive relationships. What I shared with Ruby is NOT, I repeat NOT for people in dangerous abusive relationships, period. What I wrote to Ruby is for people in "messy"/NOT DANGEROUS relationship(s).
For people in dangerous relationships, y'all know me, I strongly and highly suggest crying out to God for Help in changing both your and the abuser's hearts and minds and for HELP/escape from this dangerous place and get His/The Lord's Protection/Wisdom/Deliverance from this danger. Also to get professional help as well, immediately if not sooner. For those that aren't interested in getting into a real and close/personal relationship with God...GET PROFESSIONAL HELP IMMEDIATELY IF NOT SOONER--please seek help as soon as possible if you are in an seriously abusive and/or dangerous abusive relationship--PLEASE DO IT, you are NOT alone, many, many women and men are in real dangerous abusive relationships. If you are in a dangerous abusive relationship here's some info that may help:
The Domestic Abuse Hotline
https://www.thehotline.org/
How to Help Someone Recover from Verbal Abuse
https://www.wikihow.com/Help-Someone-Recover-from-Verbal-Abuse
How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship - HelpGuide.org
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htm/
How to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship (with Pictures) - wikiHow
https://www.wikihow.com/Get-Out-of-an-Abusive-Relationship
7 Ways to Get Out of an Abusive Relationship
Follow these steps if your partner is hurting you.
https://www.beliefnet.com/love-family/relationships/7-ways-to-get-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.aspx?p=2
Am I Experiencing Abuse?
Resources to help answer this important question
https://www.domesticshelters.org/
{{{{{{ Love and Hugs }}}}}}}}}
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NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »Decluttering can be part of cleaning. Today when doing the dishes, I also cleaned the area where our cooking oils and spreads stand.
I also found and recycled a large empty box in one of the kitchen cupboards. Yay, some more space!
You're right. Since I found this thread, I've become more aware of what I look at while cleaning. The things I have become aware of surprise me because I've looked at them for years.
Yes!
Today I'm in the process of washing curtains that I don't think have been washed in 25 years.
Threw out (recycled bottles) dozens of long-expired spices from the kitchen cupboard too.
Some tins of spice were even going rusty!
Girrrrrrlllllllll, you got me both cracking up AND provoking me to think once again. WOW--I just appreciate you so much. "Haven't washed the curtain in maybe 25 years--ya say?!!???? There you go again, helping me to "see" somethings/some areas I've ignored and/or NEVER thought of. PLUS your sharing give me and MANY others such hope and encouragement that we are so not alone in this struggle/battle. I LOVE that!!!!
I'm sitting here typing looking at some curtains that I too have NEVER washed these curtains since I purchased them some years ago too--duh and wow. I don't have many curtains around here, but the ones I have, have NEVER been taken down and washed/cleaned. THANK YOU BELOVED FOR always helping me (and MANY others reading but not commenting) "discover" new areas of "attack & conquer" in this wonderful deal of decluttering. You've proven once again that this business of decluttering is NEVER a "I got this or all done", nope. Plus I'm going to wash these curtains and have FUN with the N.E.A.T. exercising of ironing them and dancing while I do.
{{{{{{ Super HUGS }}}}}}}}NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »[...] decluttering is very much akin to "maintenance" in weight blastification. It's a life long deal and a GREAT one at that.
I LOVE that!!!!
Me too girlfriend, me too!
Big, big, hugs!!! xoxo I love this thread sooooo much!!
Hahaha, I stuffed up the curtain-washing and used too much bleach... they were soooo clean, but the stripe pattern had gone blotchy.
I told my (amazing) mum, and she's made me some really lovely new curtains!!! Thanks, mum!!
She was really happy to see me doing a big spring(summer)-clean in the house this weekend. Like Ruby's mum, she's very tidy.
We have cupboard doors which had had paint come off around the handles - I repainted them and they look awesome!!!6 -
JohnnytotheB wrote: »My wife always says, "don't let your stuff own you"!!!! It's true! I've slowly come to adapt that saying and it really does help.
@JohnnytotheB Great saying!!
It's kind of like these objects that clutter up homes are like people wanting to hold on to memories.
I'll still have the memories if I get rid of the object.
Humans being what they are, memories usually have some sort of guilt, regret, or morbid feelings attached to them too.
I don't want things popping up in my vision to remind me of that any more than my neurons firing already do.
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I cleaned off my fake kitchen island this morning. I have things on the couch, from it, have to figure out where to put them. If they are still there this weekend, out they go. Happy New Year, we can do this!4
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Today, I begin the decluttering of my clothing, I have kept clothes in bins and even in my closet that in reality I will probably never wear again because I will probably not get to that size again for a few years and they won't be in style any longer anyway. I need to just LET GO. My goal is to try on every single item. If I don't love it or it doesn't fit, it gets donated or tossed. At the end of this declutter session, there should only be clothes in my closet and my dresser that I love and feel good in when I wear them.
This is most likely going to be pretty painful, but it's time to get honest with myself and get rid of the old and start over new.7 -
PackerFanInGB wrote: »Today, I begin the decluttering of my clothing, I have kept clothes in bins and even in my closet that in reality I will probably never wear again because I will probably not get to that size again for a few years and they won't be in style any longer anyway. I need to just LET GO. My goal is to try on every single item. If I don't love it or it doesn't fit, it gets donated or tossed. At the end of this declutter session, there should only be clothes in my closet and my dresser that I love and feel good in when I wear them.
This is most likely going to be pretty painful, but it's time to get honest with myself and get rid of the old and start over new.
Just keep in mind that when you get to that size, you'll deserve new clothes. 4 -
NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »Decluttering can be part of cleaning. Today when doing the dishes, I also cleaned the area where our cooking oils and spreads stand.
I also found and recycled a large empty box in one of the kitchen cupboards. Yay, some more space!
You're right. Since I found this thread, I've become more aware of what I look at while cleaning. The things I have become aware of surprise me because I've looked at them for years.
Yes!
Today I'm in the process of washing curtains that I don't think have been washed in 25 years.
Threw out (recycled bottles) dozens of long-expired spices from the kitchen cupboard too.
Some tins of spice were even going rusty!
Girrrrrrlllllllll, you got me both cracking up AND provoking me to think once again. WOW--I just appreciate you so much. "Haven't washed the curtain in maybe 25 years--ya say?!!???? There you go again, helping me to "see" somethings/some areas I've ignored and/or NEVER thought of. PLUS your sharing give me and MANY others such hope and encouragement that we are so not alone in this struggle/battle. I LOVE that!!!!
I'm sitting here typing looking at some curtains that I too have NEVER washed these curtains since I purchased them some years ago too--duh and wow. I don't have many curtains around here, but the ones I have, have NEVER been taken down and washed/cleaned. THANK YOU BELOVED FOR always helping me (and MANY others reading but not commenting) "discover" new areas of "attack & conquer" in this wonderful deal of decluttering. You've proven once again that this business of decluttering is NEVER a "I got this or all done", nope. Plus I'm going to wash these curtains and have FUN with the N.E.A.T. exercising of ironing them and dancing while I do.
{{{{{{ Super HUGS }}}}}}}}NewLIFEstyle4ME wrote: »[...] decluttering is very much akin to "maintenance" in weight blastification. It's a life long deal and a GREAT one at that.
I LOVE that!!!!
Me too girlfriend, me too!
Big, big, hugs!!! xoxo I love this thread sooooo much!!
Hahaha, I stuffed up the curtain-washing and used too much bleach... they were soooo clean, but the stripe pattern had gone blotchy.
I told my (amazing) mum, and she's made me some really lovely new curtains!!! Thanks, mum!!
She was really happy to see me doing a big spring(summer)-clean in the house this weekend. Like Ruby's mum, she's very tidy.
We have cupboard doors which had had paint come off around the handles - I repainted them and they look awesome!!
ruined. Oh well, se la vie and counting it ALL joy--big time. Time for a change (and I'm looking forward to getting some new CUTER ones too--this mistakes helps me stick to my rule of getting rid of something, BEFORE I buy something new) anyhoo and YAY for this (mine, not yours) accident/mistake. When I read about your adventure in curtain washing, made me smile from ear to ear, because what happened to a pair of mine.
You're super wise/inventive/practical, "painting around the handles your cupboards", I love it and bet the they look smashing and YAY YOU!
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »Today, I begin the decluttering of my clothing, I have kept clothes in bins and even in my closet that in reality I will probably never wear again because I will probably not get to that size again for a few years and they won't be in style any longer anyway. I need to just LET GO. My goal is to try on every single item. If I don't love it or it doesn't fit, it gets donated or tossed. At the end of this declutter session, there should only be clothes in my closet and my dresser that I love and feel good in when I wear them.
This is most likely going to be pretty painful, but it's time to get honest with myself and get rid of the old and start over new.
Just keep in mind that when you get to that size, you'll deserve new clothes.
Ohhh! Good way to think about it! Heck yeah! I will...
I have a feeling when I get done with this, I will have to go to the store and buy more now because I truly don't have much that fits me and is actually comfortable. I feel that I should have at least 5 outfits for work that I feel good in right now the way I am. But is that rewarding myself for gaining weight? IDK...I feel it has more to do with having some self-confidence. 2 -
I cleaned off my fake kitchen island this morning. I have things on the couch, from it, have to figure out where to put them. If they are still there this weekend, out they go. Happy New Year, we can do this!
Hahahahaha, Snoo you crack me up "fake kitchen island" I just love me some you YAY you and we can/WILL do this in our own sweet time-slowly but showly!
PackerFanInGB wrote: »Today, I begin the decluttering of my clothing, I have kept clothes in bins and even in my closet that in reality I will probably never wear again because I will probably not get to that size again for a few years and they won't be in style any longer anyway. I need to just LET GO. My goal is to try on every single item. If I don't love it or it doesn't fit, it gets donated or tossed. At the end of this declutter session, there should only be clothes in my closet and my dresser that I love and feel good in when I wear them.
This is most likely going to be pretty painful, but it's time to get honest with myself and get rid of the old and start over new.
Just keep in mind that when you get to that size, you'll deserve new clothes.
BOOM! That's the ticket.
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »Today, I begin the decluttering of my clothing, I have kept clothes in bins and even in my closet that in reality I will probably never wear again because I will probably not get to that size again for a few years and they won't be in style any longer anyway. I need to just LET GO. My goal is to try on every single item. If I don't love it or it doesn't fit, it gets donated or tossed. At the end of this declutter session, there should only be clothes in my closet and my dresser that I love and feel good in when I wear them.
This is most likely going to be pretty painful, but it's time to get honest with myself and get rid of the old and start over new.
Honey, seriously...there is something utterly FABULOUS walking into y/our closet that's all neat and organized and uncluttered with a bunch of old "stuff" that's been collecting dust. Walking into my closet makes me feel like a first class winner and all time champion. Helps getting ready to go oout and aboot easier/faster too. Super mega YAY YOU!!!!!!2 -
Hey gang!
Well, it's 2019 (ALREADY?!?) Seems like just yesterday it was, ummmm...1967 or 2003 or something. WOW, time flies fast. May this year bring us all the glorious and wonderful (full of wonder) CHANGE in every area of our lives. Be it good, bad or indifferent, may we embrace change and all it's trials, tribulations and great times as lessons we must not only learn but APPLY to our lives, daily.
Let the decluttering, weight blastification, LET IT GO and DON'T LOOK BACK adventures continue and/or begin, "bring it" cause we're ready, willing and able to CHOOSE to accomplish these changes in our lives, our thinking/mind-sets, doing and being.
Let us throw down the gauntlet of ugh-ish and yuck-ish people/places and things in our hearts and minds, from our environments and lives, that are hindering/defeating/holding us back from health and joy and REAL love and CHOOSE to get outta the self-imposed prisons/boxes we're/we've put(ting) ourselves in by taking our time and doing it (making these changes) right and righteously, because we can WILL, period! YAY US!!!! {{{{ Mega love and HUGS to us all }}}}}}
P.S. BOOM!
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PackerFanInGB wrote: »PackerFanInGB wrote: »Today, I begin the decluttering of my clothing, I have kept clothes in bins and even in my closet that in reality I will probably never wear again because I will probably not get to that size again for a few years and they won't be in style any longer anyway. I need to just LET GO. My goal is to try on every single item. If I don't love it or it doesn't fit, it gets donated or tossed. At the end of this declutter session, there should only be clothes in my closet and my dresser that I love and feel good in when I wear them.
This is most likely going to be pretty painful, but it's time to get honest with myself and get rid of the old and start over new.
Just keep in mind that when you get to that size, you'll deserve new clothes.
Ohhh! Good way to think about it! Heck yeah! I will...
I have a feeling when I get done with this, I will have to go to the store and buy more now because I truly don't have much that fits me and is actually comfortable. I feel that I should have at least 5 outfits for work that I feel good in right now the way I am. But is that rewarding myself for gaining weight? IDK...I feel it has more to do with having some self-confidence.
You are celebrating who you are at this moment. Its a great gift and does inspire confidence.2
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