Things people say when you lose weight

Nothing. Not a peep, good or bad after losing 35-40 pounds. I'm pretty sure there was a noticeable difference between my weight of 185 and my weight of 145!

Too many people said to me: "You look great! Are you sick?" I must have looked fantastic

motivatedmartha wrote: »

My favourite is 'You're looking really well!'

Yeah I get this at times too but interestingly I had this the most when I first gained weight at university, when I came home to visit I got a lot of “you look well”, so when I hear it now I think it means I gained weight, guess my brain not caught up with body changes, and I’m used to assuming a negative body comment than a compliment. It’s a nice thing to say to someone, unless they’re an over thinker lol

My favorite was yesterday. Yoga studio manager asked if she could hug me, and whispered in my ear, “You have transformed your body. I am so proud of you.”

I sincerely appreciated her not blurting it out and making it a topic of discussion as others at the studio have done. Although I get it that they’re all happy for me, it’s weird for a group of casual acquaintances to be even more casually discussing my body as they saddle up to get out the door after a class.

Also, twice a week, is the very very enthusiastic gym owner who took me on as a pet project to train, and whom I dearly love even though she is barking nuts.

This is a very small, hardcore neighborhood barbell gym and this wonderful woman is like hyper on steroids. Her thing is to scream “Look at those guns!” and then drag random heavy lifter guys over to admire them, whether they deserve it or not. She also asked permission to post pictures of me on the gym’s Facebook, and then totally killed the ego boost by referring to me there as “one of my seniors”, which just busted me up.

I was horrified at first, but realized it’s part of her motivation technique, and now she just makes me giggle. Albeit awkwardly. The guys love this woman to death and will do anything for her, including complimenting me upon command. We all roll eyes and grin behind her back and hug her when we leave. It’s such a great place to work out, and it’s like having a playmate cheering you on.

Most comments have been positive ones from ppl at work:
"Hey, hope I don't offend you, but I've noticed you've lost a lot of weight. You are looking good!"
"You're slimming down!"
"Omgosh, you look really good!"
"Look at you all beautiful just after having 2 babies!"
"Have you lost weight?? I've noticed over the last couple weeks."

Weirdest comment, but still nice I guess lol
*As I'm pushing a heavy piece of equipment*
Coworker: "Be careful, that thing is heavier than you!"
*It's heavy, but obviously not heavier than me*
Me: "Uhhhhh, I doubt that *laughing*"
Coworker: "Well, I was just trying to be nice!" *also laughing*

My sis in law repeatedly tells me “you’re too skinny momma you need to stop losing”
Or another fave “you’re a mom now you don’t need to be a size 4” (or whatever small size)
So you know, the ole non-compliments
(I’m 5’5” and a buck forty ish and not trying to lose really just lifting weights)
Annoyed can you tell lol

kstar_lee wrote: »

My sis in law repeatedly tells me “you’re too skinny momma you need to stop losing”
Or another fave “you’re a mom now you don’t need to be a size 4” (or whatever small size)
So you know, the ole non-compliments
(I’m 5’5” and a buck forty ish and not trying to lose really just lifting weights)
Annoyed can you tell lol

I had a similar bolded comment during my first weightloss journey after I had my firstborn. My mother's actual comment was "You don't need to be a size 8 (Australian) anymore - you bagged the guy AND had his baby!". WTF?!?!? That comment actually derailed that journey.

Just because I am a married woman AND a mother doesn't mean I cannot feel and look my best!

I’ve lost 80lbs and I have 40lbs to get to my goal weight which will put me right in the middle of a healthy BMI. I am going to get there.
I’ve had enough people say “you don’t need to lose 40lbs” or “40 more is too much” that when asked how much further I plan to go I’ve started saying “20lbs”
It’s weird because I literally just got to an overweight BMI

Worst: In laws. Every time I see them they make backhanded compliments and say they can't understand why I would want to lose weight (the whole be healthy thing doesn't register as a reason to them). I've lost 95 pounds in about a year. This past week mother-in-law asked, what do you weigh now? I finally had enough and retorted, if I were gaining weight instead of losing would you ask me my weight? Shut her up fast, but still very annoying.

Best: You look healthier (co-worker I rarely see in person, a few months into my journey).