Why are we overweight?

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  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    WOW, I'm sorta speechless here....can't quite believe they worded it that way...we all have thoughts that float through our heads, it's a whole different thing speaking them outloud, yea especially someone that you would think is supportive.

    Hm, very sorry that happened to you..did they find the body yet?:huh:

    For real you have a keychain like my AV? Oh where'd you get it?:blushing: I'd love to order one, just Googled and didn't see one, then I found a site and they said no longer available. This is from Davey & Goliath? Ohhh I loved Davy & Goliath and hm, what the dogs name? Oh too funny I can hear the dog say "Davvvvvvvvvvyyyyy?!" in my head right now! :laugh:

    Ploppin myself in this very spot waiting for keychain info Girlie:tongue: It's all about you now, and helping me find that KEYCHAIN!:laugh:

    FC:heart:

    http://www.davidandgoliathtees.com/index.php?mode=SRCH&term=key chains&page=1&

    Here's the keychain page, and you're right, it is an old one - like it was purchased about 6 years ago, and I haven't seen another one since.....

    My new favorite David and Goliath saying is this one

    "If life hands you lemons............................................................... squeeze the juice in people's eyes."

    :laugh: :laugh:

    I hope that MFPer sees my post too......:ohwell:
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  • Fitness_Chick
    Fitness_Chick Posts: 6,648 Member
    WOW, I'm sorta speechless here....can't quite believe they worded it that way...we all have thoughts that float through our heads, it's a whole different thing speaking them outloud, yea especially someone that you would think is supportive.

    Hm, very sorry that happened to you..did they find the body yet?:huh:

    For real you have a keychain like my AV? Oh where'd you get it?:blushing: I'd love to order one, just Googled and didn't see one, then I found a site and they said no longer available. This is from Davey & Goliath? Ohhh I loved Davy & Goliath and hm, what the dogs name? Oh too funny I can hear the dog say "Davvvvvvvvvvyyyyy?!" in my head right now! :laugh:

    Ploppin myself in this very spot waiting for keychain info Girlie:tongue: It's all about you now, and helping me find that KEYCHAIN!:laugh:

    FC:heart:

    http://www.davidandgoliathtees.com/index.php?mode=SRCH&term=key chains&page=1&

    Here's the keychain page, and you're right, it is an old one - like it was purchased about 6 years ago, and I haven't seen another one since.....

    My new favorite David and Goliath saying is this one

    "If life hands you lemons............................................................... squeeze the juice in people's eyes."

    :laugh: :laugh:

    I hope that MFPer sees my post too......:ohwell:
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    How about beginning a thread and saying I MET SOMEONE ON MFP! then in the first post put a mean face!! LOL

    Oh noooooooooooo say it ain't so joe, say it ain't so!:sad: no more of these keychains? I wouldn't even know what to call it on ebay. :grumble: :noway: But I want one!:sad:

    sorry I really didn't mean to hurt your feelings when I said that...:blushing: :noway:
    Thanks for the link Missy:flowerforyou: :wink:
    FC:heart:
  • Fitness_Chick
    Fitness_Chick Posts: 6,648 Member
    86436706_IlP1xRR9_chocrabbit.gif:blushing: why we're overweight:bigsmile:
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    why we're overweight.
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  • Fitness_Chick
    Fitness_Chick Posts: 6,648 Member
    why we're overweight.
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    Dare I even POST this next picture? I was gonna use it as an AV one but decided I would probably not be liked very much.:blushing: :laugh: LOL You'll see what I mean in a moment, gotta find it.....

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    :blushing: mms.jpg

    Ok, I'll even it out abit...

    Why we are NOT overweight!:drinker: FruitsAndVeggies.jpg
    YUM-O this bottom picture looks the best of all!:love:

    Sorry on the highjack gang!:flowerforyou:
  • lenece
    lenece Posts: 389 Member
    I've read alot of these post and can relate to alot of them...I'm overweight due to the fact that I always have been..I ate all sorts of bad food growing up..Got teased everyday almost killed myself due to some of the things kids said to me in highschool..I had it all planned out..Thank GOD I didnt..
    I've been overweight for so long I dont know what a skinny me would do..I have lost alot of weight in 2 yrs but I have been through alot of hell and pain to make myself lose that weight..I also have thyroid issuses that is no help..I too have also had someone tell me everyday how fat nasty ugly n disgusting I was..That does not help ones self esteem...I have isusses at times that I feel like food is my only friend who doesnt talk back, tell you lies or talk behind ur back...I still struggle with food today,I know we all do..But its like the food calls me saying "I will make you feel better" I know I'm crazy I know..I do good all day not eating over or anything bad then when the sun goes down its like my body wants to do nothing but eat...This probably isnt really anything to do with this post that was started but I have to get this out...I feel like I've meet alot of good ppl here but yet feel somewhat ignored at times..Maybe its me I've always felt like I"m always lonely..I dont have friends that I can go out with, no one I really trust...I feel like I'm always judged and I have noticed that some of the moms dont talk to me (at my childerns school) cuz I am big and they are all small..Weight is such a big facter in our lifes. I'm sorry for ruining your thread but it just started to pour out of me I had to let it out..Sorry DANA
  • staceyw37
    staceyw37 Posts: 2,094 Member
    i'm overweight b/c i really love food and i don't want to not eat all (all the amount) that i want. and i can still find some clothes that fit. and hubby doesn't care that much and he's gained weight.
    and i get bored--look to food to comfort me in the quiet when my kids are sleeping.
    the shame/motivation comes in when i see people who knew me before, who knew me as regular (not overweight). then i see me thru their eyes and i'm disappointed in myself. and all the excuses i've created are meaningless.
    so that is why i'm here. b/c i'm done with being overweight for good!

    kristi--your tips from the addicts was very helpful. it applies equally well to this process. so thanks for sharing!:flowerforyou:
  • specialsong77
    specialsong77 Posts: 78 Member
    I've read alot of these post and can relate to alot of them...I'm overweight due to the fact that I always have been..I ate all sorts of bad food growing up..Got teased everyday almost killed myself due to some of the things kids said to me in highschool..I had it all planned out..Thank GOD I didnt..
    I've been overweight for so long I dont know what a skinny me would do..I have lost alot of weight in 2 yrs but I have been through alot of hell and pain to make myself lose that weight..I also have thyroid issuses that is no help..I too have also had someone tell me everyday how fat nasty ugly n disgusting I was..That does not help ones self esteem...I have isusses at times that I feel like food is my only friend who doesnt talk back, tell you lies or talk behind ur back...I still struggle with food today,I know we all do..But its like the food calls me saying "I will make you feel better" I know I'm crazy I know..I do good all day not eating over or anything bad then when the sun goes down its like my body wants to do nothing but eat...This probably isnt really anything to do with this post that was started but I have to get this out...I feel like I've meet alot of good ppl here but yet feel somewhat ignored at times..Maybe its me I've always felt like I"m always lonely..I dont have friends that I can go out with, no one I really trust...I feel like I'm always judged and I have noticed that some of the moms dont talk to me (at my childerns school) cuz I am big and they are all small..Weight is such a big facter in our lifes. I'm sorry for ruining your thread but it just started to pour out of me I had to let it out..Sorry DANA

    I have felt like you too... Being suicidal about my weight when I was younger... being teased unmercifully... Feeling like you don't fit in with the gals in your daily environments. I hear you there. (Especially when I perform in public or around other bands or singers who either are themselves or their significant other is in fabulous shape and can eat like crazy and drink like fishes and not gain an ounce.) I feel blessed to have a really great home support system through my husband and really great friends and family to go to when I need a pep talk or just to vent... Do you have any kind of home or family/friend support you can lean on? This site I think is a great resource for you to find support too, but if you don't have that flesh and blood support it might be good to check into counseling... Find someone who might be able to help you heal a little bit inside so you can attack the weight beastie on the outside.... Good luck and keep posting! We all understand to some degree and are here for eachother... :bigsmile:
  • marisol7649
    marisol7649 Posts: 484 Member
    I've read alot of these post and can relate to alot of them...I'm overweight due to the fact that I always have been..I ate all sorts of bad food growing up..Got teased everyday almost killed myself due to some of the things kids said to me in highschool..I had it all planned out..Thank GOD I didnt..
    I've been overweight for so long I dont know what a skinny me would do..I have lost alot of weight in 2 yrs but I have been through alot of hell and pain to make myself lose that weight..I also have thyroid issuses that is no help..I too have also had someone tell me everyday how fat nasty ugly n disgusting I was..That does not help ones self esteem...I have isusses at times that I feel like food is my only friend who doesnt talk back, tell you lies or talk behind ur back...I still struggle with food today,I know we all do..But its like the food calls me saying "I will make you feel better" I know I'm crazy I know..I do good all day not eating over or anything bad then when the sun goes down its like my body wants to do nothing but eat...This probably isnt really anything to do with this post that was started but I have to get this out...I feel like I've meet alot of good ppl here but yet feel somewhat ignored at times..Maybe its me I've always felt like I"m always lonely..I dont have friends that I can go out with, no one I really trust...I feel like I'm always judged and I have noticed that some of the moms dont talk to me (at my childerns school) cuz I am big and they are all small..Weight is such a big facter in our lifes. I'm sorry for ruining your thread but it just started to pour out of me I had to let it out..Sorry DANA

    Lenece
    I am so sorry that happened to you , but I am glad that you loved yourself even more and let that nasty person out of your life. The reason I posted this was because I got upset about the no exuses thing and being firmer with the people about losing weight. All the wonderful people that have posted being overweight is not bad habits but a bad state of mind, emotionally or being made fun of.
    About the other mothers baby they see as a shy? I don't think it is due to your weight, I was at the book store earlier and read a quote about Abrham Lincoln the same way but " When you see people give them your best smile like it comes from the bottom of your heart"
    Once we conquer the why's we will be able to lose weight.:laugh:
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    I've read alot of these post and can relate to alot of them...I'm overweight due to the fact that I always have been..I ate all sorts of bad food growing up..Got teased everyday almost killed myself due to some of the things kids said to me in highschool..I had it all planned out..Thank GOD I didnt..
    I've been overweight for so long I dont know what a skinny me would do..I have lost alot of weight in 2 yrs but I have been through alot of hell and pain to make myself lose that weight..I also have thyroid issuses that is no help..I too have also had someone tell me everyday how fat nasty ugly n disgusting I was..That does not help ones self esteem...I have isusses at times that I feel like food is my only friend who doesnt talk back, tell you lies or talk behind ur back...I still struggle with food today,I know we all do..But its like the food calls me saying "I will make you feel better" I know I'm crazy I know..I do good all day not eating over or anything bad then when the sun goes down its like my body wants to do nothing but eat...This probably isnt really anything to do with this post that was started but I have to get this out...I feel like I've meet alot of good ppl here but yet feel somewhat ignored at times..Maybe its me I've always felt like I"m always lonely..I dont have friends that I can go out with, no one I really trust...I feel like I'm always judged and I have noticed that some of the moms dont talk to me (at my childerns school) cuz I am big and they are all small..Weight is such a big facter in our lifes. I'm sorry for ruining your thread but it just started to pour out of me I had to let it out..Sorry DANA

    Dana,

    This thread was started for YOU. For all of us who have struggled with the "why" of being overweight. You have had some bad experiences, and I think you are ready to move past them. Even skinny, beautiful people have trouble finding good friends, and are insecure. Even Halle Berry was cheated on. That is the Human Condition.

    To have a friend you have to be a friend. I found volunteering to be a great way to meet people who were just as lonely as I was. We all have that inner voice we have to learn to squelch. We all feel lonely and unloved at times. Food will not make you un-lonely. Building relationships will. As I think Richard Simmons said "A moment on the lips, forever on the hips."

    Eat to live, don't live to eat.

    Keep coming here and keep posting. :flowerforyou:

    Could you buy some books on emotional eating, or check them out from the library?
  • ivykivy
    ivykivy Posts: 2,970 Member
    I really appreciate all the comments. The Nelson Mandela thought really stuck with me. Sometimes I don't think people know the pain they cause by thoughtless comments. Sometimes it is hard for people to muster compassion for fear they may have to recognize the emotional devastation they have caused others. We all need to hear that we are loved and accepted. If we keep this in mind we will never make thoughtless comments like you're ugly and you are fat or you don't look like a ten.

    Here's to unpacking our emotional baggage.:drinker:
  • lenece
    lenece Posts: 389 Member
    I have alot of emtional baggage that wont ever leave me, ever....I am sittin here typing this I am once eating again..I do great all day long then night comes n its like when the sun goes down I"m like an eating monster...I dont know I know this is crazy talk..I know alot of you may think I should go talk to someone but u know u need insurance and money to do that...

    I have applied for Indiana medicaid and also HIP...I have 3 kids a single mom...I get SSI and I cant afford to do anything..Before anyone says anything bout cutting cost in life I have already done that..A single mom finds ways real quick to cut things out of life...Like right now I need a LEEP procedure to burn away pre cancer cells in my cervix..Cant do nothing about it..All the doors have been slammed in my face due to the fact that they want $1000 up front to do anything...I've trying to find a doctor who will take payments and I may have...Its been a hell of a struggle in the last year of my life...My childern n I lost our house, we moved 6 days b4 christmas 2007,april 2008 my ex husband walked out on us only leaving us $15, may 2008 filed for divorce,august 2008 my divorce was final, september 2008 my step father of 26 years passed away, Jan 2009 I found out I may have cervical cancer,February 2009 still could get cervical cancer if I dont get ths procedure......

    I have alot of baggage in my life always have always will....The only thing I am worried about at this point in time is getting this procedure done..I cant leave my kids....I'm so SICK of hearing cervical cancer or the pre cancer is no big deal..Well in MY case it is..If not taken care of will turn into cervical cancer n yes you CAN die from cervical cancer...As far as going to a counselor for all this well you need money which I DO NOT have...Sorry to bring anyone down...Thank you for your kind words everyone...Dana
  • marisol7649
    marisol7649 Posts: 484 Member
    I have alot of emtional baggage that wont ever leave me, ever....I am sittin here typing this I am once eating again..I do great all day long then night comes n its like when the sun goes down I"m like an eating monster...I dont know I know this is crazy talk..I know alot of you may think I should go talk to someone but u know u need insurance and money to do that...

    I have applied for Indiana medicaid and also HIP...I have 3 kids a single mom...I get SSI and I cant afford to do anything..Before anyone says anything bout cutting cost in life I have already done that..A single mom finds ways real quick to cut things out of life...Like right now I need a LEEP procedure to burn away pre cancer cells in my cervix..Cant do nothing about it..All the doors have been slammed in my face due to the fact that they want $1000 up front to do anything...I've trying to find a doctor who will take payments and I may have...Its been a hell of a struggle in the last year of my life...My childern n I lost our house, we moved 6 days b4 christmas 2007,april 2008 my ex husband walked out on us only leaving us $15, may 2008 filed for divorce,august 2008 my divorce was final, september 2008 my step father of 26 years passed away, Jan 2009 I found out I may have cervical cancer,February 2009 still could get cervical cancer if I dont get ths procedure......

    I have alot of baggage in my life always have always will....The only thing I am worried about at this point in time is getting this procedure done..I cant leave my kids....I'm so SICK of hearing cervical cancer or the pre cancer is no big deal..Well in MY case it is..If not taken care of will turn into cervical cancer n yes you CAN die from cervical cancer...As far as going to a counselor for all this well you need money which I DO NOT have...Sorry to bring anyone down...Thank you for your kind words everyone...Dana

    We will be your support group.When you are feeling down write down your thoughts and viola you have free therapy. I am an insurance lady, and I have found ways to help people w/o insurance get help.
  • aprilf
    aprilf Posts: 34 Member
    Dana,
    I've felt that way too. Like the only fat girl in the class (though in reality I was only 2nd or 3rd). Growing up, I never felt like I had friends, had a few birthday parties that were just me and one other person my mom and I invited. V-day never has been a favorite holiday as I always felt I got sympathy cards in my box. I think to balance the lack of friends, my mom made sure my brother and I had after school snacks of slushies and candy bars. But as I grew older, I got more friends. More support. Though, I did have a guy in high school ask when my baby was due. My family still picks on my and each other's weight. I dropped 20 lbs in graduate school while finishing my degree, because I knew writing all the time would cause me to balloon and that I was worth the effort. I'd established good friendships that balanced my family not being near by. But I think the most important thing that has helped me is friends who are ok with me not eating everything in front of me. We rejoiced in leftovers after meals, as it meant a cheap lunch the next day. Finding support amongst friends who understand can balance out all the years of not having them around.
  • lenece
    lenece Posts: 389 Member
    I'm really sorry,,I didnt mean to come onto this thread n make it about me or for me..I was just vocing my opinon..I have alot of reasons why I'm fat...Its not just from not having a thyroid...I'm carryin around alot of baggage that I just cant let go...I wish I could..I've tried, even been to a counselor at one time..I wish I could go to one again..There are days I feel like I'm losing my mind and other days I'm happy as a lark...I dont like being labeled but thats how its goes..I'm the fat mom, the bi*ch thats fat, mouthy and worthless...All I can say is that I'm a good mom n my kids are why I breathe everyday...Sorry all I just have to get this out....
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,458 Member
    I'm really sorry,,I didnt mean to come onto this thread n make it about me or for me..I was just vocing my opinon..I have alot of reasons why I'm fat...Its not just from not having a thyroid...I'm carryin around alot of baggage that I just cant let go...I wish I could..I've tried, even been to a counselor at one time..I wish I could go to one again..There are days I feel like I'm losing my mind and other days I'm happy as a lark...I dont like being labeled but thats how its goes..I'm the fat mom, the bi*ch thats fat, mouthy and worthless...All I can say is that I'm a good mom n my kids are why I breathe everyday...Sorry all I just have to get this out....

    Dana, please feel you are WORTH our caring about you. Because you ARE. Thyroid problems (I'm on life-long thyroid replacement) can cause depression as well as weight issues. If you can just get treated effectively for that, you will feel better. Thyroid blood tests are very cheap even without insurance, and replacement therapy is about 7 dollars a month.

    And this IS counseling. We are not professionals, but counseling is mostly you talk and talk and talk until you figure out your own answers. Unless there is some biochemical imbalance - and obviously only your doctor can help you there. Eating nutrtious food and exercise were the first things I was told to do when I was having a lot of drama in my life, and I needed help. So, nutrition, exercise and thyroid replacement - all inexpensive - may improve your mental outlook tremendously. You have to do something.

    YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS! We are all beyotchy at times, and we've all been fat. So?? You are in good company here. You are safe.
  • stillkristi
    stillkristi Posts: 1,135 Member
    Hi, everyone, I am just checking in for the first time this evening. I wanted to add my 2 cents. Dana, I have to echo cmr - and I am a therapist, but one thing I know is I don't have any magic to work. There is no wizard of oz. In fact, when therapy works, it is just as cmr said, YOU talk and then you talk more, and eventually, you discover the answers inside yourself. A therapist can give you some tools to use on your journey of discovery, that's all.

    One thing I do know, and I've worked a lot with women who have lived through horriffic abuse - you are stronger than you know. You've lived through being ostracized in school, and divorce, and losing 92 lbs, and I know a lot more. Don't give your power up any more. Be the kind of friend you want to have. Ghandi said, "be the change you want to see in the world." You said the baggage will never leave you. Well, then you leave it. After all, it isn't you - its just baggage, and it sounds like unnecessary baggage. DUMP IT! Have a big old baggage dumping party! :mad: Write those things down and then take the pages outside and set them on fire :explode: You can do this.
  • 1Corinthians13
    1Corinthians13 Posts: 5,296 Member
    I have alot of emtional baggage that wont ever leave me, ever....I am sittin here typing this I am once eating again..I do great all day long then night comes n its like when the sun goes down I"m like an eating monster...I dont know I know this is crazy talk..I know alot of you may think I should go talk to someone but u know u need insurance and money to do that...

    I have applied for Indiana medicaid and also HIP...I have 3 kids a single mom...I get SSI and I cant afford to do anything..Before anyone says anything bout cutting cost in life I have already done that..A single mom finds ways real quick to cut things out of life...Like right now I need a LEEP procedure to burn away pre cancer cells in my cervix..Cant do nothing about it..All the doors have been slammed in my face due to the fact that they want $1000 up front to do anything...I've trying to find a doctor who will take payments and I may have...Its been a hell of a struggle in the last year of my life...My childern n I lost our house, we moved 6 days b4 christmas 2007,april 2008 my ex husband walked out on us only leaving us $15, may 2008 filed for divorce,august 2008 my divorce was final, september 2008 my step father of 26 years passed away, Jan 2009 I found out I may have cervical cancer,February 2009 still could get cervical cancer if I dont get ths procedure......

    I have alot of baggage in my life always have always will....The only thing I am worried about at this point in time is getting this procedure done..I cant leave my kids....I'm so SICK of hearing cervical cancer or the pre cancer is no big deal..Well in MY case it is..If not taken care of will turn into cervical cancer n yes you CAN die from cervical cancer...As far as going to a counselor for all this well you need money which I DO NOT have...Sorry to bring anyone down...Thank you for your kind words everyone...Dana

    Wow. Cancer is ALWAYS a big deal. Just because the procedures become more "routine" does not mean that it's not a big deal for the person who has it. I'm so sorry for everything you've been through, Dana. I wish I knew what to say, but there are a lot of uplifting comments on this site, as I know you've seen. Just know that you're in my thoughts and in my prayers. Not just for you but for the doctors performing the procedure, that God will give them the proper knowledge and abilities to help you.
  • 1Corinthians13
    1Corinthians13 Posts: 5,296 Member
    I have been considering telling everyone my REAL WHOLE story. I've been nervous because I haven't told anyone else, ever.

    Do I need to lose weight? No, I don't. I grew up eating healthy thanks to my mom who made us drink 2 glasses of milk a day, who always gave us fruit with lunch and filled half our plate at dinner with vegetables. As I got older and did my own research, I learned about the right carbs and the right fats, and I've always eaten...for the most part...fairly healthily.

    But I've also been borderline...right on the edge of having an eating disorder. Growing up, I danced, and I was always comparing my body to the other girls in my class. As soon as I hit puberty, I bloated up, and I didn't lost that extra 15 pounds for years. I don't think it made me overweight, but I hated the way I looked in my leotard, especially standing next to some of the other girls who seemed to me to be perfect even though I was just as good a dancer as them. I obsessed over my weight, and as I got older, it only got worse.

    when I met my husband, he made me feel so good about myself. He constantly for the entire time we were together told me how beautiful I am, inside and out. I felt like the only woman in the entire world, and for the most part, my obsession waned.

    But then last...June, I think I started sensing something was wrong even before he told me, like your pets seem to know when you're unhappy. Nothing changed until the end of June, but at the beginning, I started obsessing again. When he was away on travel (which was most of the time), I'd scarf down all of anything that was in the pantry...and then I'd either work out like a maniac or hang my head over the toilet. Then, at the end of June, he came home and told me how bored he was and how he felt like he was living a lie, and I had that gut feeling that he'd been with someone else though he denied it fiercly.

    Then I stopped eating for the most part. Not because of any disorder but because I lost my appetite. While my husband and I went back and forth, while I worried about him believing that he wasn't seeing anyone else and believing that he was going through some sort of early mid-life crisis. But when he was away, I'd buy my comfort food - a bag of sour cream and onion chips or bacon pizza (don't ask me why). And I'd eat the whole thing. And fall back into the pattern I developed back in June. I also started running...and dropped 20 pounds really quickly. I gained some of it back over Thanksgiving, but then over Christmas I found out about the affair and lost another few pounds - too much. But I have to tell you that it's addicting. You see the numbers on that scale go down, and go down some more, and more...and suddenly you're not satisfied with the 5 pounds you initially wanted to lose. Suddenly, you're greedy and want more.

    My point of all this is that even people that are not overweight have problems. The reason I joined MFP was to work on those problems and force myself to eat right...and not get rid of it after I ate it. Since I've joined, I've gained back some of the weight. I'm not healed yet. I'm still struggling. And my mother gives me a hard time about the weight I've lost and for counting calories. I'm not doing it to lose much weight, really, though I won't mind if I lose a few (I gained a few too many since joining ;-)). I'm doing it to make sure I eat...and eat properly. To hold myself accountable.

    I haven't shared this with anyone, and I'm nervous to post it here. But the people at MFP have been wonderful, and we all share the same basic issues.
  • chrissyh
    chrissyh Posts: 8,235 Member
    I have alot of emtional baggage that wont ever leave me, ever....I am sittin here typing this I am once eating again..I do great all day long then night comes n its like when the sun goes down I"m like an eating monster...I dont know I know this is crazy talk..I know alot of you may think I should go talk to someone but u know u need insurance and money to do that...

    I have applied for Indiana medicaid and also HIP...I have 3 kids a single mom...I get SSI and I cant afford to do anything..Before anyone says anything bout cutting cost in life I have already done that..A single mom finds ways real quick to cut things out of life...Like right now I need a LEEP procedure to burn away pre cancer cells in my cervix..Cant do nothing about it..All the doors have been slammed in my face due to the fact that they want $1000 up front to do anything...I've trying to find a doctor who will take payments and I may have...Its been a hell of a struggle in the last year of my life...My childern n I lost our house, we moved 6 days b4 christmas 2007,april 2008 my ex husband walked out on us only leaving us $15, may 2008 filed for divorce,august 2008 my divorce was final, september 2008 my step father of 26 years passed away, Jan 2009 I found out I may have cervical cancer,February 2009 still could get cervical cancer if I dont get ths procedure......

    I have alot of baggage in my life always have always will....The only thing I am worried about at this point in time is getting this procedure done..I cant leave my kids....I'm so SICK of hearing cervical cancer or the pre cancer is no big deal..Well in MY case it is..If not taken care of will turn into cervical cancer n yes you CAN die from cervical cancer...As far as going to a counselor for all this well you need money which I DO NOT have...Sorry to bring anyone down...Thank you for your kind words everyone...Dana

    Dana - you have alot going on and a lot to be proud of....you are standing up and taking care of your kids, you've made healthier choices and lost a ton of weight, you are strong and you will prevail!

    As far as the cancer-I am praying that you get the assistance that you need. I assume you've checked on government assistance. I know our county has programs for uninsured cancer patients. A friend from my church was diagnosed 3 weeks after me with breast cancer and she was able to get all of her treatments/surgeries paid for. Check with your local health dept.


    Everyone - we all have our story with lots of baggage - whether it's verbal abuse, sexual abuse, depression, eating out of joy, stress, there's unlimited amounts of stories on here but we are all here with a common bond to work towards our futures....so here's to all of us working hard and making the right choices for our health....:drinker:
  • aprilf
    aprilf Posts: 34 Member
    I don't think this thread is about anyone particular, I think its about realizing your not alone. Your not alone in the way you view life, in the way you've experienced life, and the way you have to embrace what life has to throw at you. People on here are here to listen (read) and to help one another through life's hard spots.
  • Jelybe
    Jelybe Posts: 266 Member
    I have been considering telling everyone my REAL WHOLE story. I've been nervous because I haven't told anyone else, ever.

    Do I need to lose weight? No, I don't. I grew up eating healthy thanks to my mom who made us drink 2 glasses of milk a day, who always gave us fruit with lunch and filled half our plate at dinner with vegetables. As I got older and did my own research, I learned about the right carbs and the right fats, and I've always eaten...for the most part...fairly healthily.

    But I've also been borderline...right on the edge of having an eating disorder. Growing up, I danced, and I was always comparing my body to the other girls in my class. As soon as I hit puberty, I bloated up, and I didn't lost that extra 15 pounds for years. I don't think it made me overweight, but I hated the way I looked in my leotard, especially standing next to some of the other girls who seemed to me to be perfect even though I was just as good a dancer as them. I obsessed over my weight, and as I got older, it only got worse.

    when I met my husband, he made me feel so good about myself. He constantly for the entire time we were together told me how beautiful I am, inside and out. I felt like the only woman in the entire world, and for the most part, my obsession waned.

    But then last...June, I think I started sensing something was wrong even before he told me, like your pets seem to know when you're unhappy. Nothing changed until the end of June, but at the beginning, I started obsessing again. When he was away on travel (which was most of the time), I'd scarf down all of anything that was in the pantry...and then I'd either work out like a maniac or hang my head over the toilet. Then, at the end of June, he came home and told me how bored he was and how he felt like he was living a lie, and I had that gut feeling that he'd been with someone else though he denied it fiercly.

    Then I stopped eating for the most part. Not because of any disorder but because I lost my appetite. While my husband and I went back and forth, while I worried about him believing that he wasn't seeing anyone else and believing that he was going through some sort of early mid-life crisis. But when he was away, I'd buy my comfort food - a bag of sour cream and onion chips or bacon pizza (don't ask me why). And I'd eat the whole thing. And fall back into the pattern I developed back in June. I also started running...and dropped 20 pounds really quickly. I gained some of it back over Thanksgiving, but then over Christmas I found out about the affair and lost another few pounds - too much. But I have to tell you that it's addicting. You see the numbers on that scale go down, and go down some more, and more...and suddenly you're not satisfied with the 5 pounds you initially wanted to lose. Suddenly, you're greedy and want more.

    My point of all this is that even people that are not overweight have problems. The reason I joined MFP was to work on those problems and force myself to eat right...and not get rid of it after I ate it. Since I've joined, I've gained back some of the weight. I'm not healed yet. I'm still struggling. And my mother gives me a hard time about the weight I've lost and for counting calories. I'm not doing it to lose much weight, really, though I won't mind if I lose a few (I gained a few too many since joining ;-)). I'm doing it to make sure I eat...and eat properly. To hold myself accountable.

    I haven't shared this with anyone, and I'm nervous to post it here. But the people at MFP have been wonderful, and we all share the same basic issues.

    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • lenece
    lenece Posts: 389 Member
    I just wanted to let everyone know that I"m still kickin...I went n seen my childerns counselor today..My boys are seeing one with all the stuff that has been goin on in our lifes..I also found out both my boys have a lil bit o ADD not ADHD..They both will be starting medication sometime next week...This truely broke my heart but if this is what I have to do then so be it....I also talked to him a lil bit about me even though the appt was not for me..He told me of a drug that I can ask my dr about n is fairly cheap and will help the depression n axenity..So tomorrow I will be callin my dr and see when I can get in..I appericate all the kind words of all of you...Although this is not a drs form of thearpy this is helpin me to let things out here...If this is the only escape I have then so be it...I"m off to go to church have to get the kids ready,,I'll check in later..Dana
  • heal4444
    heal4444 Posts: 709
    I don't think this thread is about anyone particular, I think its about realizing your not alone. Your not alone in the way you view life, in the way you've experienced life, and the way you have to embrace what life has to throw at you. People on here are here to listen (read) and to help one another through life's hard spots.

    Aprilf,

    Wow! Immensely well said and well put. Hits it right on the target of what we are all trying do here on MFP. Tks Aprilf.
  • ivykivy
    ivykivy Posts: 2,970 Member
    :drinker: :drinker:
    I don't think this thread is about anyone particular, I think its about realizing your not alone. Your not alone in the way you view life, in the way you've experienced life, and the way you have to embrace what life has to throw at you. People on here are here to listen (read) and to help one another through life's hard spots.

    Aprilf,

    Wow! Immensely well said and well put. Hits it right on the target of what we are all trying do here on MFP. Tks Aprilf.
  • donice
    donice Posts: 17
    I agree with you, I think its more about our state of mind and what we are told or more importantly what we tell ourselves. Just being here, ready and trying to "Be Healthier" should be the goal. I don't think I was ever a size 6....maybe 6T as a toddler. :laugh: I want to lose weight but I think more important should be changing to a healthier life style and feeling better. So hang in girl!!! You are here now and trying and that is what matters!!
  • Fitness_Chick
    Fitness_Chick Posts: 6,648 Member
    I agree with you, I think its more about our state of mind and what we are told or more importantly what we tell ourselves. Just being here, ready and trying to "Be Healthier" should be the goal. I don't think I was ever a size 6....maybe 6T as a toddler. :laugh: I want to lose weight but I think more important should be changing to a healthier life style and feeling better. So hang in girl!!! You are here now and trying and that is what matters!!
    :drinker: :wink:
  • marisol7649
    marisol7649 Posts: 484 Member
    I have been considering telling everyone my REAL WHOLE story. I've been nervous because I haven't told anyone else, ever.

    Do I need to lose weight? No, I don't. I grew up eating healthy thanks to my mom who made us drink 2 glasses of milk a day, who always gave us fruit with lunch and filled half our plate at dinner with vegetables. As I got older and did my own research, I learned about the right carbs and the right fats, and I've always eaten...for the most part...fairly healthily.

    But I've also been borderline...right on the edge of having an eating disorder. Growing up, I danced, and I was always comparing my body to the other girls in my class. As soon as I hit puberty, I bloated up, and I didn't lost that extra 15 pounds for years. I don't think it made me overweight, but I hated the way I looked in my leotard, especially standing next to some of the other girls who seemed to me to be perfect even though I was just as good a dancer as them. I obsessed over my weight, and as I got older, it only got worse.

    when I met my husband, he made me feel so good about myself. He constantly for the entire time we were together told me how beautiful I am, inside and out. I felt like the only woman in the entire world, and for the most part, my obsession waned.

    But then last...June, I think I started sensing something was wrong even before he told me, like your pets seem to know when you're unhappy. Nothing changed until the end of June, but at the beginning, I started obsessing again. When he was away on travel (which was most of the time), I'd scarf down all of anything that was in the pantry...and then I'd either work out like a maniac or hang my head over the toilet. Then, at the end of June, he came home and told me how bored he was and how he felt like he was living a lie, and I had that gut feeling that he'd been with someone else though he denied it fiercly.

    Then I stopped eating for the most part. Not because of any disorder but because I lost my appetite. While my husband and I went back and forth, while I worried about him believing that he wasn't seeing anyone else and believing that he was going through some sort of early mid-life crisis. But when he was away, I'd buy my comfort food - a bag of sour cream and onion chips or bacon pizza (don't ask me why). And I'd eat the whole thing. And fall back into the pattern I developed back in June. I also started running...and dropped 20 pounds really quickly. I gained some of it back over Thanksgiving, but then over Christmas I found out about the affair and lost another few pounds - too much. But I have to tell you that it's addicting. You see the numbers on that scale go down, and go down some more, and more...and suddenly you're not satisfied with the 5 pounds you initially wanted to lose. Suddenly, you're greedy and want more.

    My point of all this is that even people that are not overweight have problems. The reason I joined MFP was to work on those problems and force myself to eat right...and not get rid of it after I ate it. Since I've joined, I've gained back some of the weight. I'm not healed yet. I'm still struggling. And my mother gives me a hard time about the weight I've lost and for counting calories. I'm not doing it to lose much weight, really, though I won't mind if I lose a few (I gained a few too many since joining ;-)). I'm doing it to make sure I eat...and eat properly. To hold myself accountable.

    I haven't shared this with anyone, and I'm nervous to post it here. But the people at MFP have been wonderful, and we all share the same basic issues.

    I admire your courage for being so honest. :happy:
  • heal4444
    heal4444 Posts: 709
    1Corianthians13,

    Thanks for your act of courage.

    :heart: Love yourself no matter what.:heart:
  • stillkristi
    stillkristi Posts: 1,135 Member
    :heart: Its an honor to just share in the stories everyone has to share. You are all strong, powerful women. :heart: I agree with heal4444 - I think we start healing when we learn to accept and then love ourselves for who we are.
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