Is giving up strength training my best option?
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JanetReyna wrote: »6 years is a lot omggggg (
That's nothing; how long do you plan to live? And if you're not gonna be fit for the rest of it, what else are you gonna do? The other option is pretty grim, IMO.
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@manderson27 I'm in my late 40s. Was totally unfit and low in weight at 167cm and under 52 kg. Started a 'lean bulk' together with SC. Am now 57kg and actually have some muscles.
Just been diligent with SC and food intake. Nothing special really, still have my wine and other nice things.
Thanks. I am going to look into SC. I am 62 with some health issues but maybe I can make some changes. I am willing to try.9 -
JanetReyna wrote: »How long have you been lifting/doing strong curves? It literally takes years to build glutes (any muscle really) unless you are genetically blessed. The average I am seeing for women that have small glutes to really grow them is roughly 6 years. So if it is something you really want to do, then you need to be patient. Secondary to patience, what is your nutrition like? Are you eating at a calorie surplus with a high protein diet? You will need that too if you want to grow your glutes. It is a serious commitment to grow muscle and you will have to go through some fat gain as well to make it happen.
Maybe like 2 months with SC and I don’t count calories, I have a lot of stomach fat so I need to lose weight first. But I don’t want my small glutes to go away then I’ll be left with nothing 6 years is a lot omggggg (
It takes 4-6 years to get a degree. You're not going to get a degree in 2 months. If you can stick with something in order to get a decent level of education to prepare for the future, why couldn't you do the same to keep fit?20 -
By the time you maybe get the body you think you want, something else will be trendy instead. Just be the healthiest and the fittest that *you* can be.11
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Regardless of your visual/aesthetic results, strength training has so many benefits for bone density, retaining muscle mass (which maintains metabolism), and proper posture/body mechanics as you age that I'd never recommend giving it up. I agree with others that building muscle takes time and you may get the results you desire if you stay with it. You're beautiful--I don't think you should have surgery, but if you do, keep lifting for the other benefits.7
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feisty_bucket wrote: »JanetReyna wrote: »6 years is a lot omggggg (
That's nothing; how long do you plan to live? And if you're not gonna be fit for the rest of it, what else are you gonna do? The other option is pretty grim, IMO.
This. 6 years will pass whether you work out or not, which place would you rather being physically in 6 years?10 -
For what it's worth...
I can kinda relate. I know I'll never look the way I want to look. I just don't have the time/dedication to put in nor the patience it requires... and I'm not even sure I have the genetics to pull it off if I did. So I've thrown in the towel before.
Ultimately though, I'd rather be a better version of me even if I can't be the ideal me. As someone who struggles with all-or-nothing tendencies in most aspects of life, this is a hard idea for me to really embrace... and at times I still struggle with it. But for me, being engaged with my life and with my body is better than giving up on it.11 -
JanetReyna wrote: »jedoubleday wrote: »Looking at your pictures you are a very attractive woman. I don't think your glutes need to be bigger but that is only my thought. I can only say that sometimes the image we want is not something we can have. I want 6 pack abs but I will never get them. I base this off I tried like heck to get them in boot camp and if I could not get them there its not happening now. I guess my advice is maybe make the best of what you got because what you got looks pretty great. Or, maybe focus on something else and let it happen on its own. Either way I wish you the best. and good luck Janet. (friend and or message if you want)
Thank you. I really appreciate you! But still, I really want to better my body. I just thought with strength training it was possible to have big gluteus but I guess I was wrong. I don’t want small glutes anymore
Who told you it wasn't possible? And what do you consider big?2 -
JanetReyna wrote: »jedoubleday wrote: »Looking at your pictures you are a very attractive woman. I don't think your glutes need to be bigger but that is only my thought. I can only say that sometimes the image we want is not something we can have. I want 6 pack abs but I will never get them. I base this off I tried like heck to get them in boot camp and if I could not get them there its not happening now. I guess my advice is maybe make the best of what you got because what you got looks pretty great. Or, maybe focus on something else and let it happen on its own. Either way I wish you the best. and good luck Janet. (friend and or message if you want)
Thank you. I really appreciate you! But still, I really want to better my body. I just thought with strength training it was possible to have big gluteus but I guess I was wrong. I don’t want small glutes anymore
Who told you it wasn't possible? And what do you consider big?
Well it’s not really much the glutes it’s also my hips because I think they’re so narrowed and agh I just wish I had a little more volume and shape and because of me genetics it won’t happen. I know I can look sooo much better but that’s why sometimes I wonder if maybe a little lipo in the hips will help a bit so I can have that shape I want. I love lifting weights but sometimes you can only do so much.0 -
If your concern is wasting time and money, isn't it counterintuitive to pay for surgery and have all that healing time?
I know it's hard, love, but please please look at why you want what you want. You may be young, but strength training is about so much more than an Instagram butt. It is healthy and keeps you healthy and burning fat for years to come. That's so important as you age.
Try to see weight training as an investment in your health and mental wealth -- and a badass figure as an added perk.
Keep going.10 -
JanetReyna wrote: »JanetReyna wrote: »jedoubleday wrote: »Looking at your pictures you are a very attractive woman. I don't think your glutes need to be bigger but that is only my thought. I can only say that sometimes the image we want is not something we can have. I want 6 pack abs but I will never get them. I base this off I tried like heck to get them in boot camp and if I could not get them there its not happening now. I guess my advice is maybe make the best of what you got because what you got looks pretty great. Or, maybe focus on something else and let it happen on its own. Either way I wish you the best. and good luck Janet. (friend and or message if you want)
Thank you. I really appreciate you! But still, I really want to better my body. I just thought with strength training it was possible to have big gluteus but I guess I was wrong. I don’t want small glutes anymore
Who told you it wasn't possible? And what do you consider big?
Well it’s not really much the glutes it’s also my hips because I think they’re so narrowed and agh I just wish I had a little more volume and shape and because of me genetics it won’t happen. I know I can look sooo much better but that’s why sometimes I wonder if maybe a little lipo in the hips will help a bit so I can have that shape I want. I love lifting weights but sometimes you can only do so much.
Just to be clear...
Are you discouraged because you think the results you want aren't possible, or that they will take longer to achieve than you'd like?6 -
JanetReyna wrote: »How long have you been lifting/doing strong curves? It literally takes years to build glutes (any muscle really) unless you are genetically blessed. The average I am seeing for women that have small glutes to really grow them is roughly 6 years. So if it is something you really want to do, then you need to be patient. Secondary to patience, what is your nutrition like? Are you eating at a calorie surplus with a high protein diet? You will need that too if you want to grow your glutes. It is a serious commitment to grow muscle and you will have to go through some fat gain as well to make it happen.
Maybe like 2 months with SC and I don’t count calories, I have a lot of stomach fat so I need to lose weight first. But I don’t want my small glutes to go away then I’ll be left with nothing 6 years is a lot omggggg (
It takes 4-6 years to get a degree. You're not going to get a degree in 2 months. If you can stick with something in order to get a decent level of education to prepare for the future, why couldn't you do the same to keep fit?
This is such a great way to think of things!1 -
JanetReyna wrote: »jedoubleday wrote: »Looking at your pictures you are a very attractive woman. I don't think your glutes need to be bigger but that is only my thought. I can only say that sometimes the image we want is not something we can have. I want 6 pack abs but I will never get them. I base this off I tried like heck to get them in boot camp and if I could not get them there its not happening now. I guess my advice is maybe make the best of what you got because what you got looks pretty great. Or, maybe focus on something else and let it happen on its own. Either way I wish you the best. and good luck Janet. (friend and or message if you want)
Thank you. I really appreciate you! But still, I really want to better my body. I just thought with strength training it was possible to have big gluteus but I guess I was wrong. I don’t want small glutes anymore
I think you just have unrealistic expectations...the results that come with weight training don't happen overnight. People spend years working on their physiques.6 -
Hey there! Well honestly both, I have so many fat, my goal is looking somewhat slim thick. When I lose weight, my butt and legs will be even skinnier , resuslting in me not liking my shape. I wouldn’t really want to consider surgery an option but I feel it’s my only option. I have a thread of my full body picture so you have understand me better (:JanetReyna wrote: »JanetReyna wrote: »jedoubleday wrote: »Looking at your pictures you are a very attractive woman. I don't think your glutes need to be bigger but that is only my thought. I can only say that sometimes the image we want is not something we can have. I want 6 pack abs but I will never get them. I base this off I tried like heck to get them in boot camp and if I could not get them there its not happening now. I guess my advice is maybe make the best of what you got because what you got looks pretty great. Or, maybe focus on something else and let it happen on its own. Either way I wish you the best. and good luck Janet. (friend and or message if you want)
Thank you. I really appreciate you! But still, I really want to better my body. I just thought with strength training it was possible to have big gluteus but I guess I was wrong. I don’t want small glutes anymore
Who told you it wasn't possible? And what do you consider big?
Well it’s not really much the glutes it’s also my hips because I think they’re so narrowed and agh I just wish I had a little more volume and shape and because of me genetics it won’t happen. I know I can look sooo much better but that’s why sometimes I wonder if maybe a little lipo in the hips will help a bit so I can have that shape I want. I love lifting weights but sometimes you can only do so much.
Just to be clear...
Are you discouraged because you think the results you want aren't possible, or that they will take longer to achieve than you'd like?
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cwolfman13 wrote: »JanetReyna wrote: »jedoubleday wrote: »Looking at your pictures you are a very attractive woman. I don't think your glutes need to be bigger but that is only my thought. I can only say that sometimes the image we want is not something we can have. I want 6 pack abs but I will never get them. I base this off I tried like heck to get them in boot camp and if I could not get them there its not happening now. I guess my advice is maybe make the best of what you got because what you got looks pretty great. Or, maybe focus on something else and let it happen on its own. Either way I wish you the best. and good luck Janet. (friend and or message if you want)
Thank you. I really appreciate you! But still, I really want to better my body. I just thought with strength training it was possible to have big gluteus but I guess I was wrong. I don’t want small glutes anymore
I think you just have unrealistic expectations...the results that come with weight training don't happen overnight. People spend years working on their physiques.
The thing is I want rounder hips and bigger glutes and I don’t think those goals can happen with weights.4 -
cwolfman13 wrote: »JanetReyna wrote: »jedoubleday wrote: »Looking at your pictures you are a very attractive woman. I don't think your glutes need to be bigger but that is only my thought. I can only say that sometimes the image we want is not something we can have. I want 6 pack abs but I will never get them. I base this off I tried like heck to get them in boot camp and if I could not get them there its not happening now. I guess my advice is maybe make the best of what you got because what you got looks pretty great. Or, maybe focus on something else and let it happen on its own. Either way I wish you the best. and good luck Janet. (friend and or message if you want)
Thank you. I really appreciate you! But still, I really want to better my body. I just thought with strength training it was possible to have big gluteus but I guess I was wrong. I don’t want small glutes anymore
I think you just have unrealistic expectations...the results that come with weight training don't happen overnight. People spend years working on their physiques.
Not to sound harsh or anything, but this guy is right. Exactly how long have you been doing this program? How much effort were you putting into it? Don't expect muscles to grow just like that. They take time to develop and a lot of effort and the idea of weightlifting to better your body overall takes a lot of patience. You need to be patient. Setting unrealistic expectations will for sure set you up for big disappointments down the road.
You got this girl, you can do it! Keep trying, and believe you me, it'll be well worth it in the end.3 -
You also have no idea how your body is going to respond to any weight loss. For many people, women especially... the hips are one of the LAST places they lose from.
Taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture...
Do you think you're in a good place mentally for this? Perhaps your priorities should lie elsewhere...4 -
JanetReyna wrote: »cwolfman13 wrote: »JanetReyna wrote: »jedoubleday wrote: »Looking at your pictures you are a very attractive woman. I don't think your glutes need to be bigger but that is only my thought. I can only say that sometimes the image we want is not something we can have. I want 6 pack abs but I will never get them. I base this off I tried like heck to get them in boot camp and if I could not get them there its not happening now. I guess my advice is maybe make the best of what you got because what you got looks pretty great. Or, maybe focus on something else and let it happen on its own. Either way I wish you the best. and good luck Janet. (friend and or message if you want)
Thank you. I really appreciate you! But still, I really want to better my body. I just thought with strength training it was possible to have big gluteus but I guess I was wrong. I don’t want small glutes anymore
I think you just have unrealistic expectations...the results that come with weight training don't happen overnight. People spend years working on their physiques.
The thing is I want rounder hips and bigger glutes and I don’t think those goals can happen with weights.
Resistance training is pretty much the only way you will get bigger glutes. Bigger glutes = muscle, how do you build muscle? Resistance training, usually lifting heavy things A LOT for a long period of time.
Hips, here you are a tad more limited, hip shape is larger determined by the size of your pelvis. One way to make your hips seem more rounded is by balancing your shape with upper body training. So stronger shoulders, a tighter waist but again these things are achieved by weight training.
I can tell by your responses that you want round hips and big glutes in an unrealistically short period of time. I can also tell that you most likely wouldn't take any of our advice.
If you don't want to weight train and be patient or accept your body for the wonderful machine it is. Then feel free to open your wallet and head to the plastic surgeons because for what you want, in the time you want it, the answer is surgery.5 -
Keep going, keep working on that butt and it WILL pay off! I get your fear about losing weight and looking flat in those areas. In the past, when I lost weight through dieting alone, I looked thin but boring imo. I also have a non-round hip shape - little love handles, flat, then round again. But working at this (and shapewear!) has truly helped. Strength training will build your muscle, esp. with the right food! I honestly would have never even posted a reply had I not, just this morning, noticed for the first time that my bum is rounder - and lifted! From doing those squats, deadlifts, etc - building muscle is now my most important goal. I think you might have asked about this because you know in your heart that surgery isn’t a smart choice - and/or it feels to you like giving up, and that’s at odds with your character. You can improve your butt and reap the other rewards of strength training - just keep going.2
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I think until you lose the weight you can not tell what your butt and hips will be like. Because you are carrying most of your weight around your middle it is making your hips and butt look smaller. But once the weight has gone you may find you look more in proportion and your butt and hips are not as small as you think they will be.
Why give up now? What have you got to lose by continuing with the lifting?
Hope you dont mind I copied your picture over so the other contributors in this thread can have a better idea of the issue you are concerned about.
Dont give up you will only regret it in the future.
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