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I don’t care about previous people before me and I wouldn’t date someone, who asks all about my past partner(s). I’d be willing to take a STD test to show I’m clean and want to see their results. How about that 🤷🏻♀️4
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But I bet you had athletic fields and homecoming and things like that. 😊Emmapatterson1729 wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »Emmapatterson1729 wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
I was focusing on the fact that transmission pathways were clarified by 1983. If the general population was confused about it, it was for reasons other than science. 🙁Emmapatterson1729 wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »i’m sorry to continue to derail this thread but i think it’s an interesting and important digression.
here’s an AIDS timeline
https://www.avert.org/professionals/history-hiv-aids/overview
ETA: i think my awareness of it was heightened by my mother beating the drum. “You can’t get it from casual contact.” over and over to ignorant people
Yeah, having a mother "in the Know" and being in the city... You were definitely more informed than most of the general US population!
The link is interesting and shows the increase year by year. It explains why it wasn't common knowledge through the 80s to even early 90s, and why general population wasn't too scared at that time. 100,000 - 500,000 confirmed cases in those years sounds like a lot, but would have still made it seem rare in a world population of around 6,000,000,000. As shown in the link, in the mid 90s (when confirmed cases hit millions), I believe that is when people everywhere started taking notice and considering it a risk.
The link is very informative, shows the rapid increase and some of what the media focused on...
Thanks for sharing that, and It is an important topic! Safe sex can never be stressed enough!
I’m thinking now too that my friends and I must have been especially frank in our discussions as teenagers. I remember clearly having the talk about how lamb skin condoms don’t prevent transmission and how people sensitive to latex are SOL. I didn’t think anything of it at the time. I only found out years later that other people weren’t having these conversations.
LOL... You're right!!
And correct... Ignorance of the science was the issue. Sorry, making same point, different perspective. Because the knowledge source for me (and most people I knew) at that time was media (mainstream news) not based off science and facts!
LOL... Society in general wasn't as informed as today. The internet might have been invented, but it was a black DOS type of screen for chat rooms. Most didn't even have home computers, unless for playing Oregon Trail. 1995 was the first time I saw anything user friendly with Windows 1995. So, when the tv news on all "5" of our channels said beware of water fountains...we believed it!?!? lol
We’ve had really different experiences all around. 😂 Totally not contradicting you. It’s just really interesting to me. amazing really. I was on an Apple at work by around 1989 or 90. The screen was white and black but very visual and easy to use. It used icons that weren’t dissimilar to what we see today.
LMAO... You spoiled City people!!
Nah, seriously, those Apples back then, in my neck of the woods, were only in the "rich" families' homes and in a few schools. I remember them, but never used one. My high school still offered typing class on typewriters, no personal computing classes until after I was out.
When I typed that last cynical bit on previous comment, I was just thinking how ironic it is to be able to pull up more information now from an internet link on topics from 80s and early 90s than any information I would've ever been exposed to at that time.
My first home computer that had Windows 98 and AOL dial up was 1999. Didn't grow up with cable. 5 channels wasn't an exaggeration... It was 3 that actually played news (ABC, NBC, and CBS).
But, this was all fairly common where I grew up, so I didn't feel deprived... Until just now, 😂.
To keep to the thread. I don’t know my number. I had a list once but I threw it out when I married in 1997. I blocked most of that out because promiscuity didn’t satisfy me. It wasn’t quality sex. I didn’t know what I was looking for and didn’t know how to ask for what I wanted even when I did.
I am much better at asking for what I want now, mostly because I own my sexuality and don’t engage with people who make me feel judged.
I had a very LONG stretch of monogamy. And then a bit of a stretch of celibacy.
The confident grown men I talk to seem to know better than to ask the question. In fact, I’d venture to say it’s not even something they care much about. I will talk about it in the right context but asking is often a red flag.
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »i’m sorry to continue to derail this thread but i think it’s an interesting and important digression.
here’s an AIDS timeline
https://www.avert.org/professionals/history-hiv-aids/overview
ETA: i think my awareness of it was heightened by my mother beating the drum. “You can’t get it from casual contact.” over and over to ignorant people
Yes, and remember there was no internet then, so what we heard was limited to what mainstream media covered. And a health issue in NY would maybe get a paragraph on the international page of my local paper once in a while, depending on what other news in the world overshadowed it at the time. We didn't normally get coverage of alarmist stuff, it would usually wait for some official news from somewhere like CDC before it got picked up.2 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »i’m sorry to continue to derail this thread but i think it’s an interesting and important digression.
here’s an AIDS timeline
https://www.avert.org/professionals/history-hiv-aids/overview
ETA: i think my awareness of it was heightened by my mother beating the drum. “You can’t get it from casual contact.” over and over to ignorant people
Yes, and remember there was no internet then, so what we heard was limited to what mainstream media covered. And a health issue in NY would maybe get a paragraph on the international page of my local paper once in a while, depending on what other news in the world overshadowed it at the time. We didn't normally get coverage of alarmist stuff, it would usually wait for some official news from somewhere like CDC before it got picked up.
Yes, and I really do need to thank her because she educated not only me, but apparently all my friends through me as well. It’s giving me the warm fuzzies to think she may have saved more than just patients.2 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »i’m sorry to continue to derail this thread but i think it’s an interesting and important digression.
here’s an AIDS timeline
https://www.avert.org/professionals/history-hiv-aids/overview
ETA: i think my awareness of it was heightened by my mother beating the drum. “You can’t get it from casual contact.” over and over to ignorant people
Yes, and remember there was no internet then, so what we heard was limited to what mainstream media covered. And a health issue in NY would maybe get a paragraph on the international page of my local paper once in a while, depending on what other news in the world overshadowed it at the time. We didn't normally get coverage of alarmist stuff, it would usually wait for some official news from somewhere like CDC before it got picked up.
Yes, and I really do need to thank her because she educated not only me, but apparently all my friends through me as well. It’s giving me the warm fuzzies to think she may have saved more than just patients.
Definitely! You were lucky to get accurate information, probably well ahead of the general population, at a time when you all would have been making choices about sexual behaviour.
My generation, and preceding ones, had to pick up that knowledge on our own (if we did). Our sex ed consisted of syphilis, gonorrhea, and pregnancy prevention, not *kitten* that could kill you, or that you could carry around with you for life. Those of us who experienced relationship breakdown and ending up dating later in life were sometimes clueless.2 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »i’m sorry to continue to derail this thread but i think it’s an interesting and important digression.
here’s an AIDS timeline
https://www.avert.org/professionals/history-hiv-aids/overview
ETA: i think my awareness of it was heightened by my mother beating the drum. “You can’t get it from casual contact.” over and over to ignorant people
Yes, and remember there was no internet then, so what we heard was limited to what mainstream media covered. And a health issue in NY would maybe get a paragraph on the international page of my local paper once in a while, depending on what other news in the world overshadowed it at the time. We didn't normally get coverage of alarmist stuff, it would usually wait for some official news from somewhere like CDC before it got picked up.
Yes, and I really do need to thank her because she educated not only me, but apparently all my friends through me as well. It’s giving me the warm fuzzies to think she may have saved more than just patients.
Definitely! You were lucky to get accurate information, probably well ahead of the general population, at a time when you all would have been making choices about sexual behaviour.
My generation, and preceding ones, had to pick up that knowledge on our own (if we did). Our sex ed consisted of syphilis, gonorrhea, and pregnancy prevention, not *kitten* that could kill you, or that you could carry around with you for life. Those of us who experienced relationship breakdown and ending up dating later in life were sometimes clueless.
We didn't even get that...Our sex ed was going over the reproductive organs. The first sexually transmitted anything I'd heard of was crabs... Only because of the movie "The Last American Virgin."
On topic: The numbers question doesn't come up too often in real life... I've only had one guy ask since my husband had asked (years into our marriage). Although might not get asked numbers, because I like to play sweet and innocent sometimes. Just for fun!
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Emmapatterson1729 wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »your_future_ex_wife wrote: »i’m sorry to continue to derail this thread but i think it’s an interesting and important digression.
here’s an AIDS timeline
https://www.avert.org/professionals/history-hiv-aids/overview
ETA: i think my awareness of it was heightened by my mother beating the drum. “You can’t get it from casual contact.” over and over to ignorant people
Yes, and remember there was no internet then, so what we heard was limited to what mainstream media covered. And a health issue in NY would maybe get a paragraph on the international page of my local paper once in a while, depending on what other news in the world overshadowed it at the time. We didn't normally get coverage of alarmist stuff, it would usually wait for some official news from somewhere like CDC before it got picked up.
Yes, and I really do need to thank her because she educated not only me, but apparently all my friends through me as well. It’s giving me the warm fuzzies to think she may have saved more than just patients.
Definitely! You were lucky to get accurate information, probably well ahead of the general population, at a time when you all would have been making choices about sexual behaviour.
My generation, and preceding ones, had to pick up that knowledge on our own (if we did). Our sex ed consisted of syphilis, gonorrhea, and pregnancy prevention, not *kitten* that could kill you, or that you could carry around with you for life. Those of us who experienced relationship breakdown and ending up dating later in life were sometimes clueless.
We didn't even get that...Our sex ed was going over the reproductive organs. The first sexually transmitted anything I'd heard of was crabs... Only because of the movie "The Last American Virgin."
On topic: The numbers question doesn't come up too often in real life... I've only had one guy ask since my husband had asked (years into our marriage). Although might not get asked numbers, because I like to play sweet and innocent sometimes. Just for fun!
Thanks to this side trail, I inflicted more sex talk on my kids. I even showed them a condom.
Their questions were precious (ages, 10-14).
“So, how do you get babies without sex?” asked one.
“You don’t,” I answered. (Please, I can’t go into every exception in one conversation.)
“But, that means... You had sex?”
“Of course.”
“But why do people have sex?” he wanted to know.
“Because it feels good. And sometimes to make babies.”
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when's the last time y'all got tested though4
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your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
back in February i think. usually go at least once a year.5 -
I’d hug you twice for that if I could.your_future_ex_wife wrote: »
back in February i think. usually go at least once a year.
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I've never asked and never been asked. I don't care and none of my partners have either apparently. Now, I'm wondering why I've never heard that question 🤔1
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slimgirljo15 wrote: »I've never asked and never been asked. I don't care and none of my partners have either apparently. Now, I'm wondering why I've never heard that question 🤔
Cuz you date a better class of man?1 -
your_future_ex_wife wrote: »slimgirljo15 wrote: »I've never asked and never been asked. I don't care and none of my partners have either apparently. Now, I'm wondering why I've never heard that question 🤔
Cuz you date a better class of man?
Lol.. I wouldn't say they've all been classy😂 drunken nights happen 🤪
This question is just not something I'd ever ask. I guess I think of it as something that's none of my business nor do I think it's anyone's business about me. Possibly I've unconsciously give off that none of your business vibe and so they've not asked.. idk
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@slimgirljo15 wrote: »I've never asked and never been asked. I don't care and none of my partners have either apparently. Now, I'm wondering why I've never heard that question 🤔
Ahem....Check your pm😎1 -
Tinydancer106 wrote: »@slimgirljo15 wrote: »I've never asked and never been asked. I don't care and none of my partners have either apparently. Now, I'm wondering why I've never heard that question 🤔
Ahem....Check your pm😎
I did.. nothing there
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slimgirljo15 wrote: »Tinydancer106 wrote: »@slimgirljo15 wrote: »I've never asked and never been asked. I don't care and none of my partners have either apparently. Now, I'm wondering why I've never heard that question 🤔
Ahem....Check your pm😎
I did.. nothing there
Exactimundo! 😎🤘Your streak still lives on!.😉😍💗😘🤗1 -
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October 5, 2019 6:15PM
when's the last time y'all got tested though
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5 years ago, a few months after a long relationship ended. Then was celibate for over two years. Met next long term relationship which just ended about two-three weeks ago.
Usually tested a few months after relationship ends.
Always tested before sleeping with next relationship.
If after a few weeks to a couple of months of good dates and hitting it off with someone, I get tested before it goes there! I wouldn't want to unknowingly spread something.3
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