Obligatory "what do you look for in a spouse/partner" thread

SoldierDad
SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
edited October 2 in Chit-Chat
Well no one has posted "what do you look for in a spouse?" thread today so I figured what the heck. I am single dad with full custody of two lil angels and if/when I start dating this is what I am looking for (in no particular order)...



1. A Christian
2. Loves and adores kids
3. Has kids and/or wants more kids (doesn't matter how, adoption, whatever)
4. Is a cowgirl (or at least has a country heart)
5. DDF
6. Loves cowboys
7. At least likes country music
8. Goofy sense of humor
9. Likes to be active and not sit at home
10. Super affectionate and passionate
11. Honest & faithful
12. Compassionate & kind
13. Positive
14. Can, um, keep up with me

See I also have a philosophy when it comes to marriage (prob get blasted for it but it's how I think/feel): A woman should be spoiled like a princess, made co-president of the house, and given all the affection and physical intimacy she can handle. So a woman I married would have to be able to roll with that.

Lol, I may be asking to much.

What's on your list?????
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  • No gag reflex.
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    youre gonna get lots of marriage proposals in your inbox in 3, 2, 1.....
  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    1. Tall
    2. Great sense of humor
    3. Intelligent
    4. Smile
    5. Is open to new music, art or other things.
    6. A massage once in awhile.. come on!! ugh.
    7. Less *kitten* grabbing
    8. Nose
    9. Will work the grill.
    10. Everything else I forgot.

    That's all.
  • mommymovingmountains
    mommymovingmountains Posts: 192 Member
    I think making a list is such a great idea because I found (in the past) that I would often follow my heart but not my head and end up looking past a lot of things that were so important to me. I have goofy sense of humor too!!!! I think that was number 3 LOL
  • savlyon
    savlyon Posts: 474 Member
    lol...No gag reflex...haha...

    What is DDF?
  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    youre gonna get lots of marriage proposals in your inbox in 3, 2, 1.....

    Will you marry me?!
  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    lol...No gag reflex...haha...

    What is DDF?

    I also was going to ask that! hah.
  • adrian_indy
    adrian_indy Posts: 1,444 Member
    No gag reflex.

    Yup.
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    No gag reflex.

    Thats a short list! lol
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    lol...No gag reflex...haha...

    What is DDF?

    Drug & Disease free
  • foremant86
    foremant86 Posts: 1,115 Member
    someone i can hold a conversation with
    loves animals
    has their life together or at least has a goal in mind, not just drifting through life..
    Has a big heart
    Taller than me(lol not a huge deal but i love tall men)
    Loves the outdoors and doesn't just want to sit inside all damn day
    Loving, likes giving and receiving lots of affection
    country man, god i love a man in a cowboy hat and some nice fitting jeans.
  • That's me! Sorry, I'm already taken. :-)
  • superdrood
    superdrood Posts: 129 Member
    No gag reflex.

    Win.
  • VeryKerri
    VeryKerri Posts: 359 Member
    Has a job/car
    has a penis
    Has a pulse
    That about covers it and you'd think it would be easy to find....huh not so much!

    I kid of course, but the list really isn't that long.
    someone that loves me unconditionally and wants lots of love back!
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    youre gonna get lots of marriage proposals in your inbox in 3, 2, 1.....

    Will you marry me?!

    Your hubby got mad last time we went too!
  • ddf means Drug, Disease Free
  • I would add to the "has kids/wants kids"...has to love my kids as their own. My kiddos happines is first and foremost
  • GTOgirl1969
    GTOgirl1969 Posts: 2,527 Member
    "See I also have a philosophy when it comes to marriage (prob get blasted for it but it's how I think/feel): A woman should be spoiled like a princess, made co-president of the house, and given all the affection and physical intimacy she can handle. So a woman I married would have to be able to roll with that."

    You just summed up everything I'd need in a future husband. Whoever ends up with you is a very lucky woman indeed!
  • hush7hush
    hush7hush Posts: 2,273 Member
    Must love hockey.

    Must be willing to go to the gym with me.

    Must eat healthy.

    Must not be a total tool.

    Must be able to handle my wit.

    Must have a sense of humour. (Must love Paul Rudd.)

    Edit: Must be employed & have a clean criminal record.
  • adrian_indy
    adrian_indy Posts: 1,444 Member
    Actually.....just some one willing to stick it out. My wife and I couldn't be more different on EVERYTHING. But some how it works. But not without work. If there is one thing I know about human beings, very few of us actually know what we want. So lists are great and all, but don't disqaulify what could be the love of your life just because she's not into country music or cowboys.
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
    1. Loves and accepts me for my strengths & weaknesses
    2. Laughs and enjoys life
    3. Has kids and/or wants more kids
    4. Is optimistic
    5. DDF
    6. Has ambition and the ability to keep trying
    7. Understands the idea of reciprocation
    8. An ability to cook
    9. Suppotive of my healthy lifestyle & willing to participate in exercise
    10. Super affectionate and passionate
    11. Honest & faithful
    12. Compassionate, emotionally generous, attentive & kind
    13. Works toward building a future
    14. Can be romantic and sensual
  • Ireshgurl
    Ireshgurl Posts: 559
    Definately not what i found in my hubby, but i love his silly *kitten* anyways.
  • MelissaE27
    MelissaE27 Posts: 682 Member
    1. Love kids
    2. Funny makes me laugh
    3. Sarcastic quick wit
    4. A kind Heart
    5. Tall
    6. Romantic and affectionate
    7. who views a household as 50/50
    8. Family is important to him (treats his mother well)
    9. Hardworking
    10. A protector

    my list has a lot more to it but these are the main things I want....
  • ccarpe
    ccarpe Posts: 118
    What is DDF?

    Daisy duke figure???
  • ccarpe
    ccarpe Posts: 118
    What is DDF?

    Daisy duke figure???
  • SparkleShine
    SparkleShine Posts: 2,001 Member
    Well I've been married for almost 22 years! Wow! Anyway, here are some of the things that I find desirable/attractive

    1. good sense of humor
    2. like to be goofy..at times!
    3. Values family
    4. loves kids
    5. good work ethic
    6. likes to keep active but also enjoys quiet time
    7. good snuggler
    8. can give a compliment every once in awhile
    9. has good communication
    10. strong hands...I like a massage every once in awhile. I also like to give them!
    11. honest and caring
    12. trustworthy
  • sarahsmom1
    sarahsmom1 Posts: 1,501 Member
    Laughter from the bottom of your feet not the held in kind, if you absolutely had to fart you would be comfortable
  • Malloryrae1211
    Malloryrae1211 Posts: 60 Member
    There's nothing wrong with treating a woman like the Princess she is! :flowerforyou:
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    1. must like kids
    2. must treat me n ma kids rite
    3. must like videogames lol
    4. must give me space to do my reading
    5. must not be boring
    6. NO WHINEY GUYS
    7. not and illegal perferably lol
    8. no hitting
    9. christian perferably
    10. sweet kind caring and affectionate
    thats about enuff for now lol
  • No gag reflex.

    really?

    :tongue:
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