please do not call me SKINNY...

Skinny is a compliment, try to take it as such.

Skinny isn't always a compliment, for me it was an unhealthy goal. I NEEDED to be skinny, and so I starved myself, being told I was skinny wasn't a compliment, it was feeding my ED. Tell people that they look fabulous, sexy as hell, but skinny isn't really the best word.

Bry, You're freaking smokin' hot. Taso is right, "lean and mean"

You look awesome!

I come from the other side of the track, and LOVE hearing how skinny I am! :laugh: (which I know I'm not, but some family members think that I am!)

I try to never comment on another's weight unless asked to. You never know what is the wrong thing to say, you know?

Me too I love to be called "skinny" but hate to be called fat

Skinny sounds so negative I think thin is a more appropriate term, because you can still be THIN and have curves

^^^^ I think Slim is a nicer term than both - skinny or thin doesn't sound like a compliment if you genuinely are skinny or thin but Slim sounds healthy

This is what I think of when I hear the word skinny (even though I am not)

http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRNW2Y7vbNAR1jwlwf95x7_1jGFHZH6fe8Vuk573V78MqE6Z6zq2A <--go there.

THAT is skinny. Bry, is fit. When I lose weight, I'd much rather be called thin or fit than skinny.

I completely understand.

It really bothers me when people call me skinny. It makes me feel like all the work I have put into my MUSCLES has no value. I may be smaller than I used to be, but I am not skinny.

right? You are gorgeous, by the way. :flowerforyou:

Thanks! You're pretty gorgeous yourself!

I'd rather hear fit, buff, lean, athletic, and a host of other adjectives over skinny, but I try to take peoples' comments as kindly as possible. I agree that to me, skinny means underweight with no curves or muscle, and I don't want to be that.

For the record, Bry, you have a rockin' hourglass figure. I'm 5'4", and striving to hit 130 and have your shape.

Coming from a cow, I'd LOVE to be skinny again. And if I say it to someone else, it's both a compliment and a decent measure of jealousy.

the way you put it makes sense, but not when I have been told I am going to be forcefed a sandwich, that is not a compliment or when I am told go eat the entire cake (first of all, gross, second, um, not healthy, third, that's just rude). I personally never want to get back to that point in my life. 100 pounds is scary and it wasn't that long ago.

That's pretty insulting & rude. In our case its like saying you don't need to eat or never mind if you're hungry because it doesn't show or its better if you get sick so you can lose weight. How many times I suffered from hearing these things for the majority of my life from adolescent to adult (except now). If they only knew how sickly I was before. If only people would be more educated & sensitive about weight issues.

So our prior experience in life affects how we hear and accept what is said.
A person who has been overweight for all or even a portion of their lives would usually take being called "skinny" as a compliment.
On the other hand, the person who has been underweight for all or a portion of their lives usually takes that as an insult.
Either way, it's personal.

The bigger and more relevant question is: How did the speaker intend for his/her words to be taken?
That too varies, right? If the speaker has prior knowledge of your efforts to gain (or lose) weight, he/she would likely be sensitive to how the hearer would react to the word "skinny", and not use (or use) the word.
If the speaker has little or no prior knowledge of you and your life, he/she may still use the word, likely intending it as a compliment (or insult), depending on the goal of the speaker.

That person may be somewhat flippant in the use of the word, but likely no malice was intended, unless the person is intending to make an insult, which is also pretty clear.

We benefit ourselves when we take into account the motives of the speaker, and not take it personally.

I'm not in any danger of being called either, but I've never thought that skinny or thin were very attractive words. I prefer slim, slender or just "in shape".

Thanks for spreading the wisdom and awareness!

So our prior experience in life affects how we hear and accept what is said.
A person who has been overweight for all or even a portion of their lives would usually take being called "skinny" as a compliment.
On the other hand, the person who has been underweight for all or a portion of their lives usually takes that as an insult.
Either way, it's personal.

The bigger and more relevant question is: How did the speaker intend for his/her words to be taken?
That too varies, right? If the speaker has prior knowledge of your efforts to gain (or lose) weight, he/she would likely be sensitive to how the hearer would react to the word "skinny", and not use (or use) the word.
If the speaker has little or no prior knowledge of you and your life, he/she may still use the word, likely intending it as a compliment (or insult), depending on the goal of the speaker.

That person may be somewhat flippant in the use of the word, but likely no malice was intended, unless the person is intending to make an insult, which is also pretty clear.

We benefit ourselves when we take into account the motives of the speaker, and not take it personally.

I am going to take a stab in the dark and say that I appear ill and need to have a sandwich shoved down my throat. How would you take that?

That's pretty clearly an insult. What was that person's motive for insulting you?

Oh, stop whining you skinny b*tch

:flowerforyou: I love you more than I love lamp :smooched: