For the men who tell women to smile.....
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If they want to make me smile they should make me laugh and not just ask for a smile because when I humor them I’m giving them the fakest eat *kitten* smile and I don’t think that’s my most beautiful smile. 🤷🏻♀️2
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Every time this happens to me, I tell them to go eff themselves. I like to be left alone minding my business when out and about.1
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TwitchyMacGee wrote: »FeelinFooFoo wrote: »TwitchyMacGee wrote: »FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Woah. State an opinion on here, and all the disagrees can't have the balls to state thier case...ok then hahahaha.
Why am I not smiling right now?
I didn’t click disagree but i do.
What do you disagree with ?
If i am awake and clearheaded and up for that kind of conversation tomorrow I’ll discuss it with you.
I probably shouldn’t have said anything if I wasn’t up for the conversation but at the time I wanted you to know that not everyone who disagrees is a silent, angry sniper. We can see the same facts and still disagree and still respect other opinions.
So. I am still not up for this conversation. I. Am. Tired. I’m tired of arguing. Especially about things that don’t impact me directly. In hindsight I see I should have stayed out of this thread altogether so I apologize for getting involved.
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I hate when people do this. I can’t smile constantly.1
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Well I hope everyone is smiling today2
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It's kind of like 'Hi, how ya doin'. Most don't wait for the answer or not really interested. It's a catchphrase. Smile, though your heart is breaking. I'll never forget a few years back when a loved one of mine died from complications due to WLS, weight loss surgery, while I was at work. I waited until I was in my vehicle and started sobbing my eyes out. I had my windows down for fresh air and a man pulled up beside me and said surely things can't be that bad for me to be crying that hard. I told him it was bad, really bad and I kept bawling for all I was worth. It's a catchphrase and not always helpful.
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I have a natural resting b face. I’ve literally always been that way. It’s not that I’m angry, mad, unhappy etc. it’s just how my face is. So I often get those lovely unwanted comments from random men to “smile”. Why do you guys do this? Why can’t a woman just be herself and not expected to walk around with a fake smile on her face? Also do you tell other men to smile as well? If not, why? I’m bored and genuinely curious 🧐
I don't ask someone to smile. But, if they do smile, I will compliment them for it. Depending on who it is, I might say something similar to "You have a great smile. It's a rare treat to see." But, that's not so much for randoms as it would be for someone closer to me.1 -
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A power frown timed right is everything. Totally underrated.1
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I got this all through HS. People telling me to smile more, or "why aren't you smiling", even had a teacher tell my parents I had a 'smug' look on my face. Just because I'm not smiling doesn't mean I'm not happy. 🙄0
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This reminds me of a Bill Hicks bit...
"It takes more energy to frown!"
well...
"It takes more energy to point that out to leave me the *kitten* alone"...
I also have one of those faces in which people ask me "what's wrong"...nothing!!! Its just my neutral face ffs.3 -
I got this from someone here...and I thought well damn, I do have nice teeth, AND I spent a lot of money making em that way.
I personally feel we get easily offended by the simplest thing. Smile or dont. No one is coming at you cause they said smile more.
Smiling more is good for your health.
Smile people😁1 -
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Itsthatdood wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »I got this from someone here...and I thought well damn, I do have nice teeth, AND I spent a lot of money making em that way.
I personally feel we get easily offended by the simplest thing. Smile or dont. No one is coming at you cause they said smile more.
Smiling more is good for your health.
Smile people😁
Lets see... To the selfie thread!
Wait till the quarantine is over.0 -
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I get this all the time, too. I tell them, "When I see someone worth smiling at, I'll smile". That usually shuts them up while they slink off with a pout.
Occasionally someone will persist anyway, at which point I will say loud enough for everyone around to hear, "I told you I'm not interested, you're so boring!" They leave me alone after that.0 -
Itsthatdood wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »Itsthatdood wrote: »PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »I got this from someone here...and I thought well damn, I do have nice teeth, AND I spent a lot of money making em that way.
I personally feel we get easily offended by the simplest thing. Smile or dont. No one is coming at you cause they said smile more.
Smiling more is good for your health.
Smile people😁
Lets see... To the selfie thread!
Wait till the quarantine is over.
Lol what quarantine?
The one I've subjected myself to as a form of self love.0 -
This is incredibly annoying and a turn off. My natural face is serious. I can’t constantly smile. I think this is a horrible pick up line because it assumes something is wrong with the person not smiling.0
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I think I have the opposite problem. I get people asking me what I’m smiling about when I don’t even realize I am. 🤷♀️0
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For the most part men, especially men of my generation, were raised by women, taught by women, and cared for by women. Since we were babies we have sought the approval of women for our safety and our self worth. It’s a subconscious drive to gain approval that has persisted into adulthood. A smile is a sign of approval and thats why it’s inverse makes men so uncomfortable. I think for the most part this is where the request comes from. Not a need to control or dominate but the need for approval and to abate discomfort. Is that women’s problem? Of course not. Is it pathetic? A little.
Has anyone ever tried responding to a smile request by saying “it’s gonna be alright little guy”. 😀. That might help some men feel better and do some growing up.1 -
For the most part men, especially men of my generation, were raised by women, taught by women, and cared for by women. Since we were babies we have sought the approval of women for our safety and our self worth. It’s a subconscious drive to gain approval that has persisted into adulthood. A smile is a sign of approval and thats why it’s inverse makes men so uncomfortable. I think for the most part this is where the request comes from. Not a need to control or dominate but the need for approval and to abate discomfort. Is that women’s problem? Of course not. Is it pathetic? A little.
Has anyone ever tried responding to a smile request by saying “it’s gonna be alright little guy”. 😀. That might help some men feel better and do some growing up.
it'll be alright little guy
Like that?
Haha...good points.0 -
PlentyofProtein00 wrote: »For the most part men, especially men of my generation, were raised by women, taught by women, and cared for by women. Since we were babies we have sought the approval of women for our safety and our self worth. It’s a subconscious drive to gain approval that has persisted into adulthood. A smile is a sign of approval and thats why it’s inverse makes men so uncomfortable. I think for the most part this is where the request comes from. Not a need to control or dominate but the need for approval and to abate discomfort. Is that women’s problem? Of course not. Is it pathetic? A little.
Has anyone ever tried responding to a smile request by saying “it’s gonna be alright little guy”. 😀. That might help some men feel better and do some growing up. it'll be alright little guy
Like that?
Haha...good points.
Perfect. I feel better already 😁0
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