WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER

Barbie,
I also look at Sept. as a new beginning each year, so I am just getting started with myfitnesspal and looking forward to sharing support back and forth with, especially, older women.
I am 63 and want to get fit and healthy. I'm a religion writer and spend a good portion of my day at the computer, getting little exercise except when I stop to take the dogs outside to play. I need to get back on my elliptical, but need to take some weight off so my knees will cooperate.
Thanks to all the ladies here for your inspirational comments, and especially Melva:flowerforyou: for inviting me to this forum!
Darcey

Bump!! :flowerforyou:

Hi everyone! :flowerforyou:

Thanks Barbie for the September Welcome!

I don't write a lot on the post but I read everything. Very inspirationnal. I can say that like many of you I gained a little weight recently. Not much. Just 1,2 pounds but how I don't like it. I don't know if I'm going to try to maintain or if I go back on track to lose. I haven't made my mind.

With September, all my leisure activities will come back. I already had bowling last Monday and my dance lessons will beguin the 13.

To those of you with healt issues I wish everything will be well.

Take care everyone !

Niki

Good Evening,
It was great reading your words tonight. Michele....I can relate to the situation you have to deal with. There are times that I need to remind my husband that I am serious about doing this change. There are some times when I have no problem with "his goodies" and there are other times that I don't want to see them around because they call to me. He knows that somedays I just throw things in the garbage (betther there than in my mouth). I know that in all of this, it is great to have the support of your partner...but if you don't we have to know that we are doing it for ourselves. I really wanted my husband to come to the gym with me and after a year of trying to get him to consistently come...I stopped waiting and just got myself to the gym.

Today was a better day. I felt more on track that I have this past week between the hurricane and a sinus infection. I even got to our strength training class.

Have a good night!

:flowerforyou: Michelle

I remember being on the other side. I was like Vince when I was still married to my ex. He loved to exercise, I hated it. He cooked healthy and tried to get me too also. I at that time preferred comfort food or the easiest and quickest thing to prepare. I had no control of anything in my life and it showed in how I took care of myself physically and mentally. I did eat whatever he cooked though, because it was usually good, but I simply was too exhausted to go through the trouble for myself. I also did tease him about eating like he did. Why? Because I was jealous that he could do it, and because I was afraid I woulld lose him if he started looking good to other women. It was purely selfish. But honestly, at that time in my life I was not mentally prepared to accept my condition (obesity) or the way I felt about myself in general. You know that saying, "When you're ready to do it, you have to do it for yourself and no one else." Well I wasn't there yet. And I resented my ex for being there already.

Fortunately, he understood that, and didn't hold it against me. But we did end up splitting up, but for entirely different reasons.

Maybe Vince isn't there yet. It took me 50 years to finally do it for myself. Both physically and mentally. Maybe, like my mom, he will never change. It's like she doesn't look enough into the future or realize there are other alternatives. Either way you can't force them (not that you were), but at the same time he shouldn't be making you feel bad either. Maybe he would just like you to eat something with him once in awhile to remember a time when you both did the same thing as a couple. Remember food can be a comfort thing and sometimes it's nice when you have a buddy along with you enjoying the same thing and making yummy sounds together:laugh: . I know this sounds lame and it is, but it's also true. It's kind of like that saying, "MIsery loves company". Well so do people who eat comfort food. Please don't get me wrong, I totally support how and what you do! I'm just saying maybe he misses sharing this with you and would like once in awhile to have you eat something he is eating at the same time. Maybe once in awhile it would be okay for you to do. Once in a great while that is. Or maybe you can suggest to him if you have what he is eating one night then he has to eat what you are eating on another night. Kind of getting him involved in it slowly. Maybe you two can cook together. That can be fun and kind of sexy too. Nothing like making out and kissing things that you taste off of each others faces or lips.:blushing:

At any rate Michelle, I agree with you and your rant. No one should put you down for what you are doing. You are doing something great and healthy and you are a wonderful and strong woman. You are a great inspiration to us all. Keep up the good work!:drinker:

Chiclet:flowerforyou:

Hello everyone and in particular, Michelle,

My husband does not support me in my goals nor does he support our children. Mostly, everything is about him and up until a few years ago, we all lived in a very unhappy house.

When I turned 55 my DD printed and gave me an article on how deadly certain things become for women over 55. That is the year I joined MFP.

After that I got lectured by my son's therapist about how my hubby's poor attitude was effecting both kids and everyone else in the house. Now, I do what I need to to for me and the kids. I keep the door open by inviting him, but if he doesn't want to do something and the kids and I do, we go without him. Same thing for food. I try to cook for everyone, but if he doesn't like what I cook, he's old enough to fix something else to suppliment what I cook.

It may sound harse, but it has brought peace and happiness to our house more than trying to keep him happy on everything.

Jeannie

Had a skype call today from my daughter. I got to see the baby bump. It really sunk in that she is pregnant and that I am really going to be a grandma. I start my new plan tomorrow. healthy food, two hours of activity, lots of water and no alcohol during the week. i can get back on track. I know I can.

Hello Everyone,

That is a great list of behaviors, Barbie..Thank you.

Today was the first day of my husband's vacation. We drove about an hour away and took my cousin to lunch. I made good choices (grilled chicken, baked potato and broccoli). Tomorrow I have blood work (checking cholesterol and Vit D)...hopefully I will see improvement. Tomorrow night I begin a new Weight Loss Challenge...it is really nice that this program runs in 8 or 12 week cycles. It definitely feels like a new beginning.

Hope all is well with everyone.

Hey, Alice. Welcome, welcome, welcome.

Sally - Vince is the samew way about the gym. I remember when I worked at the Y, one night he had to pick me up. I didn't want to leave until the last member left, so I told him he can just sit in the lobby. Do you know that he wouldn't even do that much? He sat in the car! Good lunch you had there.

I've been trying to get in more veggies. Tonight I had a big salad with okra, butternut squash, radishes, crookneck squash, an egg white, a piece of chicken. I've found myself lately going food shopping and looking to see what veggies are on sale. That's a good sign, at least for me.

I roasted some chickpeas tonight. Someone on another board told me about it. I did put some red pepper on them, next time I think I'll just leave them be.

chicklet - I don't know if I gave you the wrong impression. I don't eat EVERY meal differently from Vince. I may give him a dinner roll while I have a sweet potato. Yes, there are times when I do have a different meal from him. Like tonight, I had my salad (boy, am I stuffed, good time to make the dip that I'll take to Mexican Train dominoes tomorrow night) while he had a frozen dinner. Truthfully, this was the first time in a lllllooonnnnggg time that I totally forgot to preplan the meal which is why I resorted to a quick dinner for him. I hear ya, he might like me having the same thing he's having. But on the other hand, there are times when I'd like him to have the same thing I'm having, and that doesn't happen. I like things with flavor (a bit of spices), Vince won't touch anything that even remotely has flavor (spices). He won't touch tofu (talk about bland!).

Rebel - love your new motto

I did a Jari Love Ripped to the Core DVD today. Tomorrow, I'll go to the Y and use the stairmaster, then go to a taichi class.

Just made a spinach and crab dip to take with me tomorrow night. Pretty tasty, I must say.

Here's hoping everyone has a great evening.

Michele

I feel like today is the official "Changing of the Guards" in terms of Seasons. :flowerforyou: Something about after the Labor Day weekend, here in the states, that routines, temperatures, clothing, activities and projects ....take on a new look.

I am a little discouraged today because, although I've been with MFP since Aug 14, 2009, I still have some bad eating habits and am over my calories for the last 4 days.

This journey we are on is nothing less than an ONGOING journey and we keep learning and growing even (or should I say.....ESPECIALLY) when we are struggling.

Losing the weight is pretty much why we all started with MFP but the longer you are working out your day to day choices, you realize that there are ALWAYS new things to learn and areas grow in. NO ONE EVER GRADUATES FROM THIS PROGRAM.....WE JUST KEEP SUPPORTING AND HELPING EACH OTHER IN THIS LIFE LONG JOURNEY.

I have made many good choice but there is one area that I struggle in. I started having a glass of wine with hubby everynight instead of getting into ice cream and cookies. It turned into a lovely habit of spending quality time with him. HOWEVER, I now have 2 or 3 glasses....sometimes more each evening and I know this is too much.:noway: (And that's the main reason why my calories are over most days.) I don't want to totally cut out alcohol social reasons, but I definitely need to cut way....way back.:ohwell: I don't care about drinking during the day, but evenings have become a little too consumed with drinking. I need to find some replacements for drinking so much wine. I tried diet soda but that makes me gassy. I hate tea and can't drink coffee after breakfast. I have trouble sleeping and the wine has helped me relax, so I sleep better.....which makes cutting it out even harder. Besides water, tea, coffee and diet soda....are there any other non-caloric....or low calorie choices. Just looking for advice.

BirdieM:flowerforyou: