Has MFP caused problems ...with ur partners/spouse ?

Nope. Sometime I read the really insane posts to him and we laugh.

Nope hubby fully supports me on this and encourages me. Many times he is exercising with me and gets the food choices that I need to make.

I have had no problems either..has your spouse ever bn on ur account?? If so.. look @ ur friends list does it give him reason to b jealous ??

No need for that ... I am merely asking the question here ! It's ignorant to judge someone you don't know ... However thx for your reply !

Umm...rawrrrr. That was a little snippy. I don't think the poster was being judgmental...just exploring options as to why your s/o might be acting that way. You said it yourself...trust is the issue. So...does he give you the benefit of the doubt to behave yourself regardless of your friends list? And yes...it is safe to say that if an insecure man sees attractive men in your friends list, that may give cause to his irrational behavior.

2001cobra...I don't think the OP was flirting with anyone, or that anyone was flirting with her. I think her concern is (and don't flame me, OP, because I ain't being judgmental...just taking a safe assumption) how her s/o is behaving in regards to her MFP account and the time she spends on it. With the wave of social media and the fingers pointed towards it for "ruining relationships", very seldom is the blame placed in the right place....the people using it. Therefore, if your s/o all of a sudden sees you spending hours and hours on the laptop, communicating with others, laughing/smiling randomly while reading posts, if they are insecure, this could definitely cause some friction.

Im with most on the fact that you shouldn't be logging on behind his back. If you are in a position to have to hide or lie by omission, perhaps it is time for counseling. Like you said, there are definite trust issues. I speak from a position of experience, and I empathize with you, so do not take this the wrong way.

Yes i have had this problem

not that she does not support but thinks i am on here way to much

I have had no problems either..has your spouse ever bn on ur account?? If so.. look @ ur friends list does it give him reason to b jealous ??

No need for that ... I am merely asking the question here ! It's ignorant to judge someone you don't know ... However thx for your reply !

What in the world...lol...how was that judging you?

No problems, my wife is on here too.

Yes, hubby is getting very jealous of this, but I think I convinced him last night that this makes me happy and it's helping me. He just wants me to make time for him as much as I make time for MFP. There aren't 48 hours in a day! Don't know how I'm going to do it, but I guess I need to find a way.

You're screwed

My husband hardly pays attention to me so it doesn't matter....LOL!

same

Here are the thoughts of one single guy...

A person should not flirt with anyone who is married or involved with someone period!! I have only been on here for one week and I just discovered the friend thing today. I have noticed that most profiles do not make mention of their relationship status. If a man, or woman for that matter, see a profile picture and they are attracted to that person, the chances are they may send a flirtatious message, not knowing they are married. Some people just like to flirt!

I guess it should be quite obvious that if you are married or involved and someone sends you a flirty message, you must nip it in the bud right away and tell them your married / involved. That should end it right there. If the person continues, they are a jerk, and you should delete them and report them to MFP. If your married / involved and accepting flirtatious messages, there is a problem with your relationship that needs to be addressed.

This site has real health value and I am happy to see that for the most part there are no relationship problems created here.

Just my 2 cents...

Pete

Agreed! Granted, I do have a wedding pic for my profile, it reminds me that I need to update my profile to say that I'm married...

In response to the question i wouldn't say it's caused problems but if my hubby notices a guy on my profile he always asks who it is. Generally I don't private message with guys unless I need some kind of nutritional information though there are times that I send a little PM to send a congrats or just get get a brief update on their life. Anyway, I try to keep my going ons with men public so that hubby doesn't get jealous, he still does sometimes but he realizes it's not because of anything I'm doing.

My fiance has no problems with me being on this site. I dont spend any lengthy amount of time on it. I do not flirt nor do I do anything out of line. I dont talk about things in sexual nature etc... I am on here for a purpose and that purpose is to connect with those with the same goals as my own, and to gather useful resources to help me be successful in my weight loss efforts. My fiance trusts me 110% and knows, that I will not do anything to him, that I would not like done to me.

therefore, if you arent doing anything wrong, or anything to feel guilty about...then you should be able to do MFP with him sitting right next to you watching you. If he is curious what its all about, show him.

No problems here. I only log on to add my food and encourage my friends and I only browse the forums while he is at work. Not because he doesn't like it, but because I'd rather spend the time with him while he's home. I also don't accept male friend requests out of respect for him. I've had some awkward messages from guys so I found not friending them makes it alot easier to be more comfortable on here.

I'm single now but I've always posted on forums A LOT (that's how I spend most of my downtime) and my ex fiance was fine with it. He is a gamer so like someone else said, we each did our geeky thing. I'm allowed to have my own hobbies...

No, he doesn't care, but I've played on forums for years. Actually I'm trying to convince him to start using it because he's training for an endurance mountain bike race and I'm pretty sure he still doesn't eat enough.

Wait a minute, Katya. Pump your brakes. I just read each and every one of your VISIBLE posts. I see why the man is angry/insecure. You give GOOD REASON for him to be....and I'm a woman with no need to trust you. But when you post things about hooking up on MFP, yet you get defensive because someone asks for you to give him access to your account (which alerted me to some guilt), no one is being judgmental. Maya Angelou always said....if a person shows you who they are, then you should believe them. Well, it ain't looking good for you, sister. IJS. You don't have to like me or be my friend, but just being blunt, you should probably tone it down a bit, sweetie. It seems to me that MFP is not causing problems with your spouse. You are. And it could be that he is still insecure, but what you are doing is not helping.

For the record, my husband has full access to my account. I'm an open book. Yet, I have nothing to hide.