Anyone Else “Vet” Friend Requests?

springlering62
springlering62 Posts: 8,657 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I’ve had to decline a few friend requests and had to delete some friends who made me uncomfortable.

So now I search the user name of the potential friend to make sure they are active - even if only a little bit - on the forums, and what type of posts they make, type of photos, negativity, etc

Anyone else doing this?
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  • Go_Deskercise
    Go_Deskercise Posts: 1,630 Member
    Yes!!
  • holly8312
    holly8312 Posts: 38 Member
    I didn't at first, but have started doing so recently. It would be nice if you could curate your feed a little more to avoid seeing similar posts many times over
  • LivingtheLeanDream
    LivingtheLeanDream Posts: 13,342 Member
    No, if they get weird or don't say much I end up deleting them.
  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    Have a list of fr.. some just random request.. I just leave it there. Have only handfull of friends .

    If interact with them on forum.. I might add...
  • JustSomeEm
    JustSomeEm Posts: 20,284 MFP Moderator
    whoami67 wrote: »
    I just decline them all. I'm not even sure of the purpose of friends on a message board.

    I like to see how others are doing - it helps keep me motivated, though I'm not sure why.

    I don't vet, really. But I don't accept friend requests unless they are accompanied by a message (and I tend to delete inactive friends). I think I have less than 30 'friends' here, and most of them I've had for quite a while.
  • holly8312
    holly8312 Posts: 38 Member
    whoami67 wrote: »
    I just decline them all. I'm not even sure of the purpose of friends on a message board.

    I like having a group of people to chat back and forth and compare notes with. I've actually found it more motivating than anything else so far!
  • sardelsa
    sardelsa Posts: 9,812 Member
    I usually will accept with a message or if I recognize them from the forums. If they have an ED and /or post dangerous things I will delete them since that is not constructive for my feed.

    Otherwise I leave it. I am terrible with letting them accumulate and forget to check them though, I have like 345 in my inbox.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    edited July 2020
    Honestly, it depends on my mood. I'm more likely to delete someone after the fact, for various reasons. Now on facebook I vet a lot more, lol

    I edited to add but then it disappeared. The long and short of it is I dont care about diaries or workouts, and I share a fair amount of pics of my dogs, in particular my great pyrenees.

    All my fun cool friends have left over time, so if you like dog pics.... come on by lol
  • Xiaolongbao
    Xiaolongbao Posts: 854 Member
    Lynnsgoals2020 wrote: »
    I will add folks when a request comes in, yet very picky on deciding who I keep around after about 2 weeks. If you aren't willing to share your diary and don't interact pretty much daily, then I will delete them. It's nothing personal, it's only I dont need folks around me who arent 200% into this. Sounds harsh, sorry.

    This (except I don’t care about the diary sharing). I try to keep my friend list to approximately one page but I accept everyone and actively seek out people who interest me. But I also regularly delete people. No hard feelings but if I’m not having positive interactions with you then I’m getting nothing out of having you as my “friend” so I clear out the space.

    thelastnightingale wrote: »
    Having done this before, I know I need to be 100% honest with my diary to myself, and I'm not going to do that if other people are looking. And if you don't share your diaries with your friends, I'm not sure what the point is.

    I couldn’t care less if strangers see what I ate but I’m pretty sure very very few people ever look at my diary. I certainly don’t usually bother to look at anyone else’s. I must admit when I enter things it never crosses my mind to wonder if other people will read it.

    But as someone else said a nice aspect of MFP is that you can use it however suits you.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    I would not accept a request without a message unless it is from someone with whom I am very familiar from the forums - and these people send messages anyway.

    I rarely look at my feed and note in my profile that I am a terrible "feed friend."
  • lemurcat2
    lemurcat2 Posts: 7,885 Member
    I ignore my feed, but occasionally I accept friends if I (1) recognize them and don't want to hurt their feelings (this is bad, I should tell them I just don't interact on the feed but would love to be supportive on the forum); and (2) want to exchange PMs with them, since it seems like PMs are not always delivered if those involved are not friends.

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