Married and friendly thread?
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I feel like this says one thing but means something else
Maybe I’ve just been here too long5 -
You're new here aren't you?
You know... I started this thread with good intentions like "Oh man some people here clearly consider this a dating app but there's also so many good 'pals' here are that clearly just looking for support and friendship like me"
And as I was writing the post I realize oh man! this thread could be trouble lol that's why I posted it in the form of a question.
While I do have a big sense of humor. I am also serious about connecting with other fun loving fitness oriented people married or not.7 -
Ikeeptrying2 wrote: »26.5 years of being an "A". 32 years if you add in the dating period.
Hey man congrats! I've been married for 12 years. Please share some of the keys to make this thing last2 -
You're new here aren't you?
You know... I started this thread with good intentions like "Oh man some people here clearly consider this a dating app but there's also so many good 'pals' here are that clearly just looking for support and friendship like me"
And as I was writing the post I realize oh man! this thread could be trouble lol that's why I posted it in the form of a question.
While I do have a big sense of humor. I am also serious about connecting with other fun loving fitness oriented people married or not.
The relative anonymity of a forum certainly does seem to give folks permission to behave outside how they would IRL situations. I’m sure there are studies on it and on how authentic community is or isn’t online. And I’m sure it’s similar in other types of forums.
I think approaching things like this with a bit of honesty, sensibility and a good sense of humour is probably the way to go. MFP was made for non-medical health support but doesn’t mean there can’t be some goofiness along the way! 🙃🙂4 -
The relative anonymity of a forum certainly does seem to give folks permission to behave outside how they would IRL situations. I’m sure there are studies on it and on how authentic community is or isn’t online. And I’m sure it’s similar in other types of forums.
I think approaching things like this with a bit of honesty, sensibility and a good sense of humour is probably the way to go. MFP was made for non-medical health support but doesn’t mean there can’t be some goofiness along the way! 🙃🙂
Honesty is definitely a big factor in making online friendships work. When you get in a fitness and wellness zone people irl get sick of talking about this stuff hence I think this is a great community to accomplish that.5 -
You're new here aren't you?
You know... I started this thread with good intentions like "Oh man some people here clearly consider this a dating app but there's also so many good 'pals' here are that clearly just looking for support and friendship like me"
And as I was writing the post I realize oh man! this thread could be trouble lol that's why I posted it in the form of a question.
While I do have a big sense of humor. I am also serious about connecting with other fun loving fitness oriented people married or not.
We are a troublesome group, but mostly harmless.4 -
You're new here aren't you?
You know... I started this thread with good intentions like "Oh man some people here clearly consider this a dating app but there's also so many good 'pals' here are that clearly just looking for support and friendship like me"
And as I was writing the post I realize oh man! this thread could be trouble lol that's why I posted it in the form of a question.
While I do have a big sense of humor. I am also serious about connecting with other fun loving fitness oriented people married or not.
I enjoy the humor and the want to be "friendly" and not end up with d*ck pics in your inbox from wanting to be friends with someone
Here's to being friendly about health and wellness!4 -
This is where all the simps are.2
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Ikeeptrying2 wrote: »26.5 years of being an "A". 32 years if you add in the dating period.
Hey man congrats! I've been married for 12 years. Please share some of the keys to make this thing last
Start and end each day with I.L.Y.
Don't cheat
Take an interest in her interests
Don't bogart the marital responsibilities, work as a team.
Support her endeavours
Find unique ways to compliment that don't sound "obligatory".
Those got me through 13, but wasn't enough for 14. Best I got bro.15 -
The relative anonymity of a forum certainly does seem to give folks permission to behave outside how they would IRL situations. I’m sure there are studies on it and on how authentic community is or isn’t online. And I’m sure it’s similar in other types of forums.
I think approaching things like this with a bit of honesty, sensibility and a good sense of humour is probably the way to go. MFP was made for non-medical health support but doesn’t mean there can’t be some goofiness along the way! 🙃🙂
Honesty is definitely a big factor in making online friendships work. When you get in a fitness and wellness zone people irl get sick of talking about this stuff hence I think this is a great community to accomplish that.
I legit love MFP. I just started looking at the forums and i found a random friend that inspires me to continue pushing!!! Add me so we can inspire eachother!!1 -
will_it_go_round_in_circles wrote: »Ikeeptrying2 wrote: »26.5 years of being an "A". 32 years if you add in the dating period.
Hey man congrats! I've been married for 12 years. Please share some of the keys to make this thing last
Start and end each day with I.L.Y.
Don't cheat
Take an interest in her interests
Don't bogart the marital responsibilities, work as a team.
Support her endeavours
Find unique ways to compliment that don't sound "obligatory".
Those got me through 13, but wasn't enough for 14. Best I got bro.
If some of the comments on this thread are any indication I'd say number 2 is biggest problem lol
Sorry to hear about your ending result. Are you doing OK now?0 -
Ikeeptrying2 wrote: »26.5 years of being an "A". 32 years if you add in the dating period.
Hey man congrats! I've been married for 12 years. Please share some of the keys to make this thing last
Off the cuff, for us...
No belief in the 50/50 rule... Just 100/100. Anything short of that is not giving it your all.
- Respect each other including the evolution of changes for both. Changes constantly come. Need to work through them all.
- Be willing to work at it. Both really need to WANT it.. More than anything else... Very easy to walk away.
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will_it_go_round_in_circles wrote: »Ikeeptrying2 wrote: »26.5 years of being an "A". 32 years if you add in the dating period.
Hey man congrats! I've been married for 12 years. Please share some of the keys to make this thing last
Start and end each day with I.L.Y.
Don't cheat
Take an interest in her interests
Don't bogart the marital responsibilities, work as a team.
Support her endeavours
Find unique ways to compliment that don't sound "obligatory".
Those got me through 13, but wasn't enough for 14. Best I got bro.
The whole cheat thing is a big one. I also think for addition .. the things that puts a smile on my face is when my husband thinks of me and picks something out. He puts effort to make sure I smile especially on the days of sad. Its very important. Rememver the small things and do not sweat the big stuff!! Work as a team resonate too0 -
I'm happily divorced for 3 years now and thoroughly enjoying my freedom to talk to people and be friendly without having my motives questioned8
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Versicolour wrote: »I'm happily divorced for 3 years now and thoroughly enjoying my freedom to talk to people and be friendly without having my motives questioned
Having been married for 6.5 years (I honestly can’t believe it’s been that long) I find the questioning of motives doesn’t come from my parter, but from other people! Even from other female friends. It’s like back off, if I talk to a dude my partner doesn’t lose his mind and I don’t care how many female friends he has. Our relationship better be stronger than that. I find the judging sometimes has impacted my ability to talk to cis-het guys. People need to be less judgey.8 -
Versicolour wrote: »I'm happily divorced for 3 years now and thoroughly enjoying my freedom to talk to people and be friendly without having my motives questioned
Having been married for 6.5 years (I honestly can’t believe it’s been that long) I find the questioning of motives doesn’t come from my parter, but from other people! Even from other female friends. It’s like back off, if I talk to a dude my partner doesn’t lose his mind and I don’t care how many female friends he has. Our relationship better be stronger than that. I find the judging sometimes has impacted my ability to talk to cis-het guys. People need to be less judgey.
Yep, this. My partner and I routinely get questioned by others about our motives "hanging out" with the opposite sex. He has female friends, I have mostly male friends. I don't question his intentions when he visits them anymore than he questions mine when I hang out with or visit male cohorts.
Questions run like:
"Aren't you afraid of..."
"You let him just..."
"Doesn't he think you're going to cheat?"
It was kind of bizarre. Like, why do these people care what my husband or I do when it doesn't involve them? Sure, he can go hang out with whoever he likes. Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Same for him, he'd let me hang out and play card games at the comic shop in the last place we lived until midnight. If I didn't come in before 3, then he'd call just to make sure I was okay.4 -
Any
a) happily married
b) just plain ol' married
c) disgruntledly married
d) married but separated but remained roommates
e) married and fully separated
f) married but I got served or I served him/her
people who are also friendly, the type that talks to strangers on the bus are welcome to participate here.
"I love my spouse" is a give in this thread...I guess at least for types a and b as listed above.
You hope nothing but 100% platonic banter. You wanna shoot the breeze and distract yourself from hunger spasms or you're just counting down to your next workout, please come in.
Groups d,e,f we know you're extra motivated to shape up but you can't quite participate in the singles thread yet, this is the thread for you
Let's talk about anything. Go!
What about those who could be any of the above depending on your spouses mood that day? I haven’t been served or served him but we both have papers in our inbox that could be printed and signed anytime. Lol living on the edge of insanity. Today I’m more of a B.
Two weeks ago on a Monday he moved out took the RV to the town he works in an hour away. Tuesday he came home and said let’s buy a pool. Wednesday he sold the RV “to pay for the pool.” I ended up paying for the pool. Last Wednesday he spent two hours yelling at me about why I wore a dress to go get my stress test done at the hospital I work at. Apparently I look damn good in that dress. Lol Friday and Saturday were great. Sunday mmm ok. This week he is buying a bigger RV only in his name. And going to start staying in the town he is working in during the week. “So he doesn’t put a bunch of miles on his truck” I’m just along for the ride. 🤷🏻♀️
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Versicolour wrote: »I'm happily divorced for 3 years now and thoroughly enjoying my freedom to talk to people and be friendly without having my motives questioned
Having been married for 6.5 years (I honestly can’t believe it’s been that long) I find the questioning of motives doesn’t come from my parter, but from other people! Even from other female friends. It’s like back off, if I talk to a dude my partner doesn’t lose his mind and I don’t care how many female friends he has. Our relationship better be stronger than that. I find the judging sometimes has impacted my ability to talk to cis-het guys. People need to be less judgey.
A lot of that trust or rather confidence also comes from treating your partner right, right? If you're the jealous suspicious and abusive kind, yeah your mind ain't playing when it tells you she/he may find someone better. Your comment actually reflects good on you because you know your worth and you know that if he finds a cheap replacement (which he won't) you'll be better for it.3 -
Any
a) happily married
b) just plain ol' married
c) disgruntledly married
d) married but separated but remained roommates
e) married and fully separated
f) married but I got served or I served him/her
people who are also friendly, the type that talks to strangers on the bus are welcome to participate here.
"I love my spouse" is a give in this thread...I guess at least for types a and b as listed above.
You hope nothing but 100% platonic banter. You wanna shoot the breeze and distract yourself from hunger spasms or you're just counting down to your next workout, please come in.
Groups d,e,f we know you're extra motivated to shape up but you can't quite participate in the singles thread yet, this is the thread for you
Let's talk about anything. Go!
What about those who could be any of the above depending on your spouses mood that day? I haven’t been served or served him but we both have papers in our inbox that could be printed and signed anytime. Lol living on the edge of insanity. Today I’m more of a B.
Two weeks ago on a Monday he moved out took the RV to the town he works in an hour away. Tuesday he came home and said let’s buy a pool. Wednesday he sold the RV “to pay for the pool.” I ended up paying for the pool. Last Wednesday he spent two hours yelling at me about why I wore a dress to go get my stress test done at the hospital I work at. Apparently I look damn good in that dress. Lol Friday and Saturday were great. Sunday mmm ok. This week he is buying a bigger RV only in his name. And going to start staying in the town he is working in during the week. “So he doesn’t put a bunch of miles on his truck” I’m just along for the ride. 🤷🏻♀️
You sound like a good sport. Here's a meme for you lol
But seriously, are you serious? Did you know he was gonna be like this before marrying him?
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