A question for men...girls can give opinion too! :D
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and i like curves myself..makes things more fun0
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there is someone for everyone! with that being said, not all guys like the same things. some like curvy, some like skinny, some like tall, some like short. you just have to find the right person who will love you for you
Very well put!! I couldn't agree more!!!
Keep your head up! 0 -
Skinny girls are the obvious eye catchers.
I call bullsh!t. A woman with a smile that makes eye contact will always catch a man's eye, no matter what her size.
True story. I'm not skinny, I'm not even all that hot, and I dress modestly, but I get hit on all the time.
You're pretty hot if you ask me. I'm hitting on you right now.0 -
My honest opinion
I prefer a woman to be curvy....I would prefer not to be able to check for a fractured bone without an x-ray, LOL.
that is funny lol
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Focus on you and getting where you feel you should go. I'll bet when you get there he'll be there, with a grin, and you know what he'll say, "I knew you'd come". He's waiting for you. You have so much to offer not to find someone. So follow your path in life and it will intersect with "the one". You know I'm a preacher and I believe this, "He who find a good wife find a good thing". He's looking for you, I promise he is. He'll find you and you'll be more than he ever thought he should deserve. That is how it was when i met my wife. I saw her in a field walking across a campground. The moment I saw her....I knew. I never doubted. I told her on our second date that I would marry her one day. 3 months later I proposed and 7 months later we married. That was 15 years ago. She was more than I ever thought I deserved....I still feel that way.
That is such a beautiful thing to say Gary. . And so true. . May you have many more years of happiness with your wife. . She is a lucky lady.0 -
Skinny girls are the obvious eye catchers.
I call bullsh!t. A woman with a smile that makes eye contact will always catch a man's eye, no matter what her size.
True story. I'm not skinny, I'm not even all that hot, and I dress modestly, but I get hit on all the time.
You're pretty hot if you ask me. I'm hitting on you right now.
Haha, thanks MissK!0 -
there is someone for everyone! with that being said, not all guys like the same things. some like curvy, some like skinny, some like tall, some like short. you just have to find the right person who will love you for you
Very well put!! I couldn't agree more!!!
Keep your head up!
This is on the money. We all have our own specific preferences. I have a friend that only likes Asian women, size doesn't matter to him. It's just individual tastes. Me personally, I prefer someone that was healthy. Curvy or thin doesn't matter, just someone who was into the things I am such as working out, ,running, comic cons, whatever. Beauty is from the inside.0 -
This is on the money. We all have our own specific preferences. I have a friend that only likes Asian women, size doesn't matter to him. It's just individual tastes. Me personally, I prefer someone that was healthy. Curvy or thin doesn't matter, just someone who was into the things I am such as working out, ,running, comic cons, whatever. Beauty is from the inside.
Who doesn't like a girl into Comic cons?!0 -
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there is someone for everyone! with that being said, not all guys like the same things. some like curvy, some like skinny, some like tall, some like short. you just have to find the right person who will love you for you
Very well put!! I couldn't agree more!!!
Keep your head up!
This is on the money. We all have our own specific preferences. I have a friend that only likes Asian women, size doesn't matter to him. It's just individual tastes. Me personally, I prefer someone that was healthy. Curvy or thin doesn't matter, just someone who was into the things I am such as working out, ,running, comic cons, whatever. Beauty is from the inside.
Does your ComicCon loving woman dress up? I really wanted to go to ComicCon this year, but my boyfriend was worried that pictures of me dressed as Sailor Moon would end up all over the internet, so we passed. I told him that maybe if I dressed as Wonder Woman I'd end up on fewer websites, but he's not convinced.0 -
I've always had curves, even when I was much smaller. Never had a problem with men. Get yourself together and stop looking, they will come. I always say, "You have to kiss a couple of frogs before you get to your prince." Good things come to those who wait. 0
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I've always had curves, even when I was much smaller. Never had a problem with men. Get yourself together and stop looking, they will come. I always say, "You have to kiss a couple of frogs before you get to your prince." Good things come to those who wait.
I say kiss as many frogs as possible. Just don't let any of them move in or anything crazy like that.0 -
Skinny girls do not always get the guy!!
I've been on both sides and either way sucks. I think I put off "normal" men cuz of my job...and I didn't want to date my customers (God that sounds bad) cuz I didn't want to get the badge bunny label. So I was pretty screwed either way. Plus I'm a bit eccentric....but that's another forum.
I'm glad I found my partner ( I hate the word "boyfriend"...eeewww), cuz he accepted me as how I am...eccentricities and all. Both thicker and in shape.
I think its mostly the confidence we radiate. No one likes anyone if they seem insecure or whatnot.0 -
Every man is different. I once went out with a guy who (afterwards) told me I was fat (I have never been bigger then a UK 12).
I also went out with a guy who said he would have preferred me to be bigger.
As tempting as it was in those scenarios to cater to what they wanted I want to be happy with my body myself. Sod everyone else, if they don't like it then they are not right for you! I know how hard the dating game is (there was a massive thread about it yesterday too, it was called 'dating in 2011, seriously!') Give it a read, you are not alone!
Be yourself and be the size that YOU want to be, not what others want. Some people make the mistake of believing if they look a certain way it will give them greater success in the dating game, it really doesn't!
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It's a bogus question because there are plenty of skinny nice girls and lots of bitter chubby girls out there. As far as looks are concerned, I know people lean one way or the other, but variety is nice. If you or anyone is looking for just a hook up, fine go for the looks. But if this is relationship talk, looks should take a back seat to both chemistry and personality.0
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This is such a peculiar topic. In my experience, I've found it to be very destructive for people to draw too many connections between their looks and their "success" in the dating scene. Moreover, it's very strange to me for someone to imply that thinner people have a proclivity toward being unpleasant air-heads and heavier people tend to be warmer or kinder.
I've heard from a great dealing of people that the dating scene is brutal and I'm so glad I'm off the market. But I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that one's attitude and expectations do more to set the stage for what kind of romantic relationship gets formed than does one's physique.
I consider myself to be quite thick. And although I need to lose a considerable amount of weight, I still turn heads and my husband thinks I'm the finest thing he's ever seen. Shoot, I'd get with me if I were someone else LOL. Thick or thin, I believe I bring something real to the table and I think others pick up on that more than anything.0 -
i was a size 18 (UK) when i met my partner, he himself was a 30 waist lol! i'm now a size 22ish and he is a 34 waist. after nearly 8 years and 2 kids together (plus i has a child already) we've both changed in our appearance. despite the weight gain i actually feel more attractive to him now than i did then. i think that is mainly due to him making me believe i was beautiful, to him at least! when i met him i may have been slimmer but my self esteem was a hell of alot lower, due to past relationships and my dad (who always put me down etc)
he doesn't really have a taste, though he does tend to go towards the curvier girls, though there are slim girls he likes (kylie for example lol)
i dont really have a taste either but tend to end up being with slim guys, so i may be the same but opposite if you now what i mean lol
you probably just haven't met the right man yet, i know plenty of guys who honestly do prefer a fuller figure, ok most of them dont prefer obese (though some do) but they dont prefer what women percieve as the 'perfect woman' in terms of size. dont forget it's how you meet guys too, on a night out isn't the best place imo, nights out are filled with people trying to look as good as they can and looking for flings (usually) not relationships x0 -
It could also be who you are going out with. I used to go out with my friend who was always wanting the center of attention and made me fade off in the background. It was really only until she got a guy that the other men started talking to me. Not that there is anything wrong with me but i am shy.0
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Does your ComicCon loving woman dress up? I really wanted to go to ComicCon this year, but my boyfriend was worried that pictures of me dressed as Sailor Moon would end up all over the internet, so we passed. I told him that maybe if I dressed as Wonder Woman I'd end up on fewer websites, but he's not convinced.
He would be correct. At SDCC this year, my husband was snapping pics of all the ones dressed as Wonder Woman. He did not snap one pic of a Sailor Moon girl. He also asked that when I get to a weight I'm comfortable at, I dress was Wonder Woman. Not sure that's gonna happen. :laugh:0 -
DIFFERENT STROKES... FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS!
I think there is someone out there for everyone...0 -
Looks do play a role in attraction, but it's not everything. I'm not saying you're like this, but a lot of women that I know who have a poor self image (attractive or not) end up comparing themselves to others. That puts a negative overtone on any interactions you may have with them. I dated a girl like that in college (well a few, but one in particular). I thought she was quite attractive myself, but she was VERY self-conscious. I often found myself exhausted just trying to convince her that she was decent looking, let alone beautiful. I know a lot of people, women in particular, who are like that. That attitude also often resulted in those folks hanging out with more negative or superficial people that only reinforced their behavior, it's a vicious cycle.
My advice to you is to stop worrying so much about what guys want, if it's some skinny model b**** or whatever. Just be yourself. Surround yourself with people that make you happy, do the things you like doing, and care about the things you care about. However, you still want to be open to other ideas, new things, and meeting different people. Basically: be the cool chick. In the long run that'll get you further than looks with the right people.
I'm not going to bash you about you beliefs regarding men liking a particular type of woman. There are plenty of very superficial people out there, and many are part of the dating scene (coincidence? I think not!) But not everyone is like that. I went through my goo-goo for anything with a nice pair of legs and a huge rack phase, but I grew out of it. My fiance is very beautiful, but she's nothing like the girls I used to hang out with in college. There are decent, mature, nice guys out there...you just have to find them. Dating can be brutal, if it weren't, everyone would already be tied down already!0 -
I've always had curves, even when I was much smaller. Never had a problem with men. Get yourself together and stop looking, they will come. I always say, "You have to kiss a couple of frogs before you get to your prince." Good things come to those who wait.
I say kiss as many frogs as possible. Just don't let any of them move in or anything crazy like that.
my mum used to say
"you gotta lay alot of *kitten* to get good roses"0 -
And, conversely, not all overweight women have curves. I have narrow hips, and they're narrow when I'm lean and when I'm fat. The only time I've ever felt remotely curvy was when was pregnant and looked like I had a giant, curvy beachball stuffed under my shirt!My honest opinion
I prefer a woman to be curvy....I would prefer not to be able to check for a fractured bone without an x-ray, LOL. But on the flip side, I prefer her to also be healthy so we can enjoy a healthy lifestyle together. After all, who else to enjoy a healthy lifestyle than your partner ??!!
Yes sir! You can still be healthy and at a normal body weight and still have curves!
No kidding! I seriously hate when people describe overweight as "curvy."
I'm an hourglass. No matter what I weigh, I have hips and boobs and am curvy -- at 200 pounds or 90 pounds, thank you very much. (Not that I'll ever be -- or want to be -- 90 pounds, but you get my point.)0 -
Does your ComicCon loving woman dress up? I really wanted to go to ComicCon this year, but my boyfriend was worried that pictures of me dressed as Sailor Moon would end up all over the internet, so we passed. I told him that maybe if I dressed as Wonder Woman I'd end up on fewer websites, but he's not convinced.
He would be correct. At SDCC this year, my husband was snapping pics of all the ones dressed as Wonder Woman. He did not snap one pic of a Sailor Moon girl. He also asked that when I get to a weight I'm comfortable at, I dress was Wonder Woman. Not sure that's gonna happen. :laugh:
lol - didn't realize anyone would pick up my comic con remark!
I think it's great to have things like this in common and no my ex never dressed up in public
@jensvens - You'll find that person soon enough. For me it's best when it happens naturally. Don't get a partner just to have one. I found a great friend first that eventually become a person I grew to love. (no longer together but still good friends and size obviously didn't matter to her because I have always been a hefty guy)0 -
i would not take it to heart maybe the "skinny girl" is giving him what he wants and you never really know what he is thinking so dont blame it on your weight, also he may not want a relationship or a woman who is divorced with kids, maybe he does not want that responsability, if he sees a skinny girl and likes her instead.... Does anyone really know why? no not really.
he might just want her for sex, a trophy, someone to buy him dinner, or give him a place to sleep, at any rate he will get what he asked for and that maybe the best thing that ever happened to YOU.
also keep in mind there is a big difference between GIRLS AND WOMEN, you are a woman for sure because you are not willing to settle for anyone less than a man you feel is worthy of you, so keep searching there a plenty of fish in the sea and you will find your man eventually.0 -
I've never been heavy but when I got close to my goal weight, my husband started stocking the fridge with all my favorite foods. He desires me as I am but I don't think he'd mind if I regained a little more of my curviness.
Even though I'm only about 14 pounds less, I also get hit on less-- which is ok with both the hubby and me. 0 -
curves ftw. Gimme healthy any day.0
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The amount of weight between the ears is what matters most...if you're self-centered, that b word, or simply a little vacant, well no one's going to want to stay around long. Any sane guy would take a curvy woman he can bond with over a *****y model wannabee. Someone else offered good advice. Be yourself...unless you're that person Henny Youngman was talking about: "You have a nice personality...but not for a human being."0
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Give me a 16/18 with the boobs to go with that, and I am in heaven. Give me a 16/18 with no boobs then nah just does not look right.
For me skinny girls do not appeal to me so much, their backsides do tend to look better in jeans though.
At the end of the day really it all comes down to personal taste, and also personality, so this is a 50/50 question to ask.0 -
You are so damn beautiful.....0
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