How to talk to guys!?

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  • Daisy374
    Daisy374 Posts: 539 Member
    You can say just about anything to a guy and have his attention.

    But that doesn't help my intense fear of talking to men D: I need like, a proven method or something otherwise I'll stand in the corner with my knee's knocking haha

    And these "men" that I'll be talking to are more like young adults, (18-23) so does that theory apply to them as well? lol :)

    a "proven method"?? :laugh: :laugh:
    Let me know if you find one! :bigsmile:
  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    Just be yourself, because it isn't worth trying to pretend to be someone you are not.
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    Conversation is not that important to most men.

    Yes, you have to be on a similar mental level so when he says things like "Can you believe Obama caved to Boehner?" or "fire good", you actually know and care what he is talking about.

    Other than that, don't dig for more, because its just not there.
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    my 2 cents...

    Im guessing that you probably are ok talking to them about mundane everyday things. But the moment you try to approach with "interest" you freak?

    you need ways to start conversations that can lead to additional conversation.

    for example...
    Have some business cards for interesting business in your area. Use the card as the focus object. you will feel more at ease if his attention is on something other then you. Ask him ...If he knows where this is or how to get there? ask him if he knows anything about it the business...art gallery, restaurant, etc.. Ask him open ended questions to get him to talk so that you can relax yourself and become comfortable talking with him. Pick business that can lead to things. Like coffee shops so you can finish the conversation with hey do you want to go grab a cup real quick "Im buying"
  • popupvideo
    popupvideo Posts: 50 Member
    I was engaged last summer, and when we broke up I found this article pretty useful. For me, it was not only the issue of how to talk to guys, but how I presented myself, and how I needed to be myself:

    "...So let's try to apply this Barbie-like behavior to a first date to see why it goes over like a lead balloon. Picture a woman trying to be that “perfect girl.” She walks into the room like she's on a catwalk. The handbag matches the shoe button. She giggles on cue. For dinner, she orders two olives with low-cal dressing (on the side). Without realizing it, this woman has already marked herself: temporary. In his mind? “Deposit and go.” He may have sex with her, but from there on it’s a downhill slide. Why?

    When she’s artificial, he becomes wary of who she really is and what her real motivations are. Usually, he figures she’s putting on a show to trap him. So it never goes to the next level. This is why some relationships never shift into second gear. By trying to be something she’s not, the woman automatically gets marked with the “insecure” stamp. “This one will need constant attention and nothing I give will ever be enough. She'll sap me of all my energy.” Before he’s spent any time with her, he is mentally on to the next.

    Not only this, but when a man thinks a woman is weak or insecure, he won’t feel the need to work at the relationship. It becomes “male entertainment” at that point. The relationship becomes a sideshow. He'll kick back, crack a beer, and think, “She's trying so hard, I'll never have to break a sweat in this relationship.”

    Article: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/13231665/ns/today-weddings/t/want-man-propose-be-b*tch/
    -replace the asterisk with the letter "i", the forum won't let me use that word :)
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