What makes you bond with someone?

CacoEther
CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
edited 12:23AM in Chit-Chat
There are some people with whom you click immediately and others with whom you have a warming up period. Still others that you never grow close with at all. What are the little things that make you feel closer to someone, or make it more likely that you’ll bond with them?
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  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    An example for me here is when someone expands on a joke you tell by taking it across threads

    @kindalikevelma is a pro at this
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    Did i mention these things would be little? 😅
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    trauma bonding is usually what does it for me.

    Like if you’re in a car accident together?
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    maybe bond is a strong word. I mean more like what endears you to people?
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  • Yoshiboobs
    Yoshiboobs Posts: 1,090 Member
    I was typing some things and I realized that I'm *kitten* up. So nvm I don't know how in the first place and it's just me and the animals. We bond because they're soft and cute and when they judge me it's also cute.
  • toriann319
    toriann319 Posts: 994 Member
    Banter. If you come at me with some witty/sarcastic remark, it's game on.
  • CacoEther
    CacoEther Posts: 2,465 Member
    I love a well-played insult. I’m way more drawn in by people who read me well enough to know that giving me a hard time about something will make me laugh
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    People who are real. Tell me about your flaws and failures as well as your victories, no matter how small; and appreciate mine
  • ermengarde22
    ermengarde22 Posts: 2,116 Member
    hrichts wrote: »
    maybe bond is a strong word. I mean more like what endears you to people?

    still the cult thing
  • toriann319
    toriann319 Posts: 994 Member
    hrichts wrote: »
    I love a well-played insult. I’m way more drawn in by people who read me well enough to know that giving me a hard time about something will make me laugh

    Yesss! I have thick skin and a hellacious sense of humor. Can be dark sometimes. It happens. My day isn't complete without a well-played insult or even a complete roasting session.
  • _sw33tp3a_11
    _sw33tp3a_11 Posts: 4,692 Member
    Consistency and effort is what builds a bond with me and someone else.
  • J_NY_Z
    J_NY_Z Posts: 2,540 Member
    Music.
  • steph6556
    steph6556 Posts: 575 Member
    I know how this sounds but I bond immediately with folks who are cynical, a touch grouchy and who can make me laugh about how stupid it all is.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    hrichts wrote: »
    trauma bonding is usually what does it for me.

    Like if you’re in a car accident together?

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  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,286 Member
    iMago wrote: »
    i generally get along with most folks

    don't care for overt political talk, don't care for gossip, don't care for judgemental behavior when it comes to how others live their lives.

    long as they can avoid that and can make me laugh when im in the sunken place then odds are we'll be cool together

    All I retained was "sunken place..." ARE YOU GOOD?!

    There's a whole movie about this so I feel compelled to assist immediately 😩
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    hrichts wrote: »
    There are some people with whom you click immediately and others with whom you have a warming up period. Still others that you never grow close with at all. What are the little things that make you feel closer to someone, or make it more likely that you’ll bond with them?

    good question

    let's see.... values über alles

    also, a good (yet slightly dark) sense of humor.

    and, it's critical that they don't take themselves too seriously
  • Reckoner69_lmao
    Reckoner69_lmao Posts: 1,000 Member
    When I feel a connection I chase it til it works or it doesn’t
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    iMago wrote: »
    i generally get along with most folks

    don't care for overt political talk, don't care for gossip, don't care for judgemental behavior when it comes to how others live their lives.

    long as they can avoid that and can make me laugh when im in the sunken place then odds are we'll be cool together

    All I retained was "sunken place..." ARE YOU GOOD?!

    There's a whole movie about this so I feel compelled to assist immediately 😩

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  • happimess01
    happimess01 Posts: 9,074 Member
    when I open up to them the first time and their response is empathetic and insightful with a touch of humor *swoon*
  • Thetwitchisback
    Thetwitchisback Posts: 462 Member
    Shared suffering = strong bonds

    Endearment? Idk. I like funny people who are clever with words. And nudes.
  • kinetixtrainer2
    kinetixtrainer2 Posts: 9,286 Member
    trauma bonding is usually what does it for me.

    This, I can relate to.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Shared suffering = strong bonds

    Endearment? Idk. I like funny people who are clever with words. And nudes.

    It also helps if she has a secret & dedicated FedEx account number specifically and exclusively for trading underwear cross country or overseas.
  • Thetwitchisback
    Thetwitchisback Posts: 462 Member
    edited August 2020
    Oh! I also like grumpy and/or introverted people who try really hard not to like me but who eventually give in because I am relentless.
  • MaltedTea
    MaltedTea Posts: 6,286 Member
    Oh! I also like grumpy and/or introverted people who try really hard not to like me but who eventually give in because I am relentless.

    Every introvert needs that one friend who is like this. But, like, just the ONE is enough 🤗
  • Thetwitchisback
    Thetwitchisback Posts: 462 Member
    MaltedTea wrote: »
    Oh! I also like grumpy and/or introverted people who try really hard not to like me but who eventually give in because I am relentless.

    Every introvert needs that one friend who is like this. But, like, just the ONE is enough 🤗

    Truly IRL they are the people I like best. If you give them a chance speak they have the most insightful things to say and are really hilarious when they tell me to calm the *kitten* down. 😂💕
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