Guys/Girls: What is your real opinion on..
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Motorsheen wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
Profiles are there to be searched for. If none of us ever did it, fb and ig would be abysmal failures. So with regards to profiles made public by the person, I see absolutely nothing wrong with looking at them.
Having said that, There is a direct correlation between scouring someone’s profile and feeling angsty. I distinctly remember multiple occasions where I went through old posts on a guy’s fb account and what he said/did 5 years prior suddenly felt fresh to me. I was young and naive then and even confronted him about some of it, horror of horrors. He was pretty sure I was bat *kitten* crazy and honestly, so was I.
Soooo my curiosity has subsequently waned. I feel similarly to others.. I just lack the urge to go looking things up anymore. Ignorance truly is bliss
If I’m guilty of anything, it’s searching obits. But in my defense, I have lost five online friends very suddenly and in unbelievably tragic circumstances. One to an aneurysm just weeks after her baby was born. Two in a car crash that their two children survived, and two more in a plane crash their two children did not. Since 5 feels statistically significant, I search up the odd obit every now and then.
This is pretty heavy.
I've had a couple of college friends die unexpectedly and a former roommate die when he was trapped in a burning vehicle on the freeway (not the best way to go).
kinda makes you think, if I wanna do something, why wait? amiright?
Fine i’ll go out with you
Sorry i get weird when things are heavy
understandable
it's a pretty darn good defense mechanism
it also keeps most people at arm's reach0 -
Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?3 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
Profiles are there to be searched for. If none of us ever did it, fb and ig would be abysmal failures. So with regards to profiles made public by the person, I see absolutely nothing wrong with looking at them.
Having said that, There is a direct correlation between scouring someone’s profile and feeling angsty. I distinctly remember multiple occasions where I went through old posts on a guy’s fb account and what he said/did 5 years prior suddenly felt fresh to me. I was young and naive then and even confronted him about some of it, horror of horrors. He was pretty sure I was bat *kitten* crazy and honestly, so was I.
Soooo my curiosity has subsequently waned. I feel similarly to others.. I just lack the urge to go looking things up anymore. Ignorance truly is bliss
If I’m guilty of anything, it’s searching obits. But in my defense, I have lost five online friends very suddenly and in unbelievably tragic circumstances. One to an aneurysm just weeks after her baby was born. Two in a car crash that their two children survived, and two more in a plane crash their two children did not. Since 5 feels statistically significant, I search up the odd obit every now and then.
This is pretty heavy.
I've had a couple of college friends die unexpectedly and a former roommate die when he was trapped in a burning vehicle on the freeway (not the best way to go).
kinda makes you think, if I wanna do something, why wait? amiright?
Fine i’ll go out with you
Sorry i get weird when things are heavy
understandable
it's a pretty darn good defense mechanism
it also keeps most people at arm's reach
Not the right people ❤️1 -
but if you just mean like someone for a date? then imo you prob shouldn't be on the date to begin with if the trust issues are so bad. not saying they're a good person or you're a bad one for it- but even if they pass muster on whatever data you're seeking, who's to say they're just not hiding it really well. i mean everybody's got demons you know? and what would they say if they looked into your life? when does it stop? when would you be able to say "okay i trust this person" if you start out from a place of distrust?
I'm hoping that anyone that is considering dating my recent ex will search him on the court's online site and see the no contact order I had to get... if they can even figure out his real name to find it.
That's the only internet sleuthing that I am really comfortable with. Everything else is whatever a person chooses to put out as a representation of themselves and may, or may not, be accurate.
i totally understand that, for women or men. world's crazy. and full of crazies.
my concern is that looking into someone like that can become a snowball effect of self inflicted trauma at a certain point.
say that person A looks up person B, and finds out they're a crazy person who had no contact orders and has multiple reports of dv then they need to be avoided and its a good thing to have found out beforehand.
but now person A is going to be worried about that for the future, with this little horrific pearl growing inside their mind. and then they meet person C, who is a good person with maybe like a drunk & disorderly from a football game when they were 21 years old on their record.
and person A is paranoid now, they find out that info about person C, and then cut them off entirely.
but maybe person C would have just told them all about it if asked too, and how that one event helped change their life for the better and put them on the straight and narrow.
hard to say where to draw the line on such a thing imo. everybody's gotta make that decision for themselves.
I agree with that but I think there's a reasonable threshold. If a drunk disorderly/assault (not dv)/dui was 20 years ago, whatever. If it was in the last 3 years, I'll be a bit more wary. I do have the benefit of time because I'm in my 40s and only date men that are older. I probably wouldn't look in my 20s.1 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
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sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
I’m guessing she meant the info they put out themselves on profiles and such..2 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Ladies....
What should we call them, boobs, breast, melons, jugs, fun bags, tits, knockers? Or there very own pet name?
What's your preference... 🤷🏽♂️, is it a regional thing?
Seriously having this conversation rn with coworkers 😂
Here’s my rundown:
Boobs- funny word. It’s my default choice but I can’t really say it with a straight face
Breasts- to my doc
Melons- implies very large size
Jugs- implies very large size AND belonging to a woman perceived as promiscuous
Fun bags- suggests they are there to be swatted at
Tits- size is not implied which suggests the person is indifferent to size. This is probably the one i use the most meself but not in casual conversation
Knockers- again.. implies very large size
Pet names- no. Nope. Can’t do it
We shall call this the Boobictionary... 🤷🏽♂️3 -
Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Ladies....
What should we call them, boobs, breast, melons, jugs, fun bags, tits, knockers? Or there very own pet name?
What's your preference... 🤷🏽♂️, is it a regional thing?
Seriously having this conversation rn with coworkers 😂
Here’s my rundown:
Boobs- funny word. It’s my default choice but I can’t really say it with a straight face
Breasts- to my doc
Melons- implies very large size
Jugs- implies very large size AND belonging to a woman perceived as promiscuous
Fun bags- suggests they are there to be swatted at
Tits- size is not implied which suggests the person is indifferent to size. This is probably the one i use the most meself but not in casual conversation
Knockers- again.. implies very large size
Pet names- no. Nope. Can’t do it
We shall call this the Boobictionary... 🤷🏽♂️
I forgot boobies
Because it’s a dumb word1 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
hmmm. Let me think on that.
When I search properties in my area I think I’ve only seen most recent selling price, property taxes, and a description of the property. Also, I have to search the property itself and not the name of a person. But I might be misremembering.
Maybe that stuff shouldn’t be public unless a person opts in. I grew up when the white pages were still a thing so maybe that colors my ideas. Though even back then people could opt out of being “listed.”
I was thinking mostly of sex offender lists and profiles people make public themselves.
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sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
I’m guessing she meant the info they put out themselves on profiles and such..
Pretty much. Plus sex offenders0 -
eatpolerepeat wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Ladies....
What should we call them, boobs, breast, melons, jugs, fun bags, tits, knockers? Or there very own pet name?
What's your preference... 🤷🏽♂️, is it a regional thing?
Seriously having this conversation rn with coworkers 😂
Ha! What kind work do you do?
With my girlfriends (I’m cis-het btw) I’d say “boobs” with my guy friends...I feel like they say “tits” but I’d be fine with “boobs/chest/breast” as long as they’re not being gross.
Now I‘m off to think of some Knick-knocker names.
I work on a pirate ship here little miss Maty... 😏
Why are you looking for work? 🤷🏽♂️... I feel like "knick knockers" makes you totally hire material 😂
I feel like Boobs was the general consensus amongst the gallery, and it feels like a very non abrasive way to reference them 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally I prefer Tits because I like to push the edge and leave people slightly uncomfortable 🤷🏽♂️...
I kinda like the name puppies for mine 🤷♀️😂
That's the winner actually 😂...
This reminds me of a friend who had two cats named cuddles and puppy...1 -
Thetwitchisback wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
I’m guessing she meant the info they put out themselves on profiles and such..
Pretty much. Plus sex offenders
...... one of the few things to never, never clown about.
I hear "Hate is Wrong.".
No it's not, I hate sex offenders and anyone who harms a child.
My hate is well placed.
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Ladies....
What should we call them, boobs, breast, melons, jugs, fun bags, tits, knockers? Or there very own pet name?
What's your preference... 🤷🏽♂️, is it a regional thing?
Seriously having this conversation rn with coworkers 😂
Ha! What kind work do you do?
With my girlfriends (I’m cis-het btw) I’d say “boobs” with my guy friends...I feel like they say “tits” but I’d be fine with “boobs/chest/breast” as long as they’re not being gross.
Now I‘m off to think of some Knick-knocker names.
I work on a pirate ship here little miss Maty... 😏
Why are you looking for work? 🤷🏽♂️... I feel like "knick knockers" makes you totally hire material 😂
I feel like Boobs was the general consensus amongst the gallery, and it feels like a very non abrasive way to reference them 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally I prefer Tits because I like to push the edge and leave people slightly uncomfortable 🤷🏽♂️...
Yarr, I’m just a land lubber - But I’ll try my hand at swabbing the deck and lifting heavy jugs. 😂
Not really related but this reminds me that I know someone who had a “Ta-Ta Titties Party” before her breast reduction surgery. We all signed her boobs and did shots of them. She had it at Hooters.
Perfect... You can swab the deck and be the official party planner and theme coordinator 😂...
Your hired! We need more women in the workforce... 💕0 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
I’m guessing she meant the info they put out themselves on profiles and such..
Pretty much. Plus sex offenders
...... one of the few things to never, never clown about.
I hear "Hate is Wrong.".
No it's not, I hate sex offenders and anyone who harms a child.
My hate is well placed.
I like your serious posts2 -
Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
True, I agree... But in a workplace setting where people are just looking to Google you and spread gossip, it's probably not best practice...
Like if anyone from my job found my mfp account 🙈😂... It could be a bad day!3 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
I’m guessing she meant the info they put out themselves on profiles and such..
Pretty much. Plus sex offenders
...... one of the few things to never, never clown about.
I hear "Hate is Wrong.".
No it's not, I hate sex offenders and anyone who harms a child.
My hate is well placed.
I like your serious posts
Thanks
......they happen from time to time
some things are just hot buttons for me
I hold in great contempt, anyone who preys on the young, the elderly or the weak.5 -
eatpolerepeat wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »eatpolerepeat wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Ladies....
What should we call them, boobs, breast, melons, jugs, fun bags, tits, knockers? Or there very own pet name?
What's your preference... 🤷🏽♂️, is it a regional thing?
Seriously having this conversation rn with coworkers 😂
Ha! What kind work do you do?
With my girlfriends (I’m cis-het btw) I’d say “boobs” with my guy friends...I feel like they say “tits” but I’d be fine with “boobs/chest/breast” as long as they’re not being gross.
Now I‘m off to think of some Knick-knocker names.
I work on a pirate ship here little miss Maty... 😏
Why are you looking for work? 🤷🏽♂️... I feel like "knick knockers" makes you totally hire material 😂
I feel like Boobs was the general consensus amongst the gallery, and it feels like a very non abrasive way to reference them 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally I prefer Tits because I like to push the edge and leave people slightly uncomfortable 🤷🏽♂️...
I kinda like the name puppies for mine 🤷♀️😂
That's the winner actually 😂...
This reminds me of a friend who had two cats named cuddles and puppy...
Oh, I'd never call my cat puppy.
What do I win? 😁
You're in luck 😁...
I just so happen to have puppies and puppy prizes in my van 🤷🏽♂️...
We can compare and see what's the best fit 😂...
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Thetwitchisback wrote: »I hate when a failed relationship ruins a good song for me. Along those lines...
Can love songs be recycled? If it was your song can it be your song with someone else? Is that like buying used condoms?
No. Never. That's why I always resisted the idea of associating a song with a relationship or person. It's tainted forever.2 -
Thetwitchisback wrote: »I hate when a failed relationship ruins a good song for me. Along those lines...
Can love songs be recycled? If it was your song can it be your song with someone else? Is that like buying used condoms?
No. Never. That's why I always resisted the idea of associating a song with a relationship or person. It's tainted forever.
I feel the same.0 -
Thetwitchisback wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
hmmm. Let me think on that.
When I search properties in my area I think I’ve only seen most recent selling price, property taxes, and a description of the property. Also, I have to search the property itself and not the name of a person. But I might be misremembering.
Maybe that stuff shouldn’t be public unless a person opts in. I grew up when the white pages were still a thing so maybe that colors my ideas. Though even back then people could opt out of being “listed.”
I was thinking mostly of sex offender lists and profiles people make public themselves.
i get that ♥️ idk really what u are talking about so i was just answering the question from my experience
like you can search a person’s last name in their county and get their address
also, if someone posts a pic on a site like this, and in the background there is a small sign saying the name of the place, that person might use that to look up where u live.
and then also someone can reverse image search so even if u got no selfies here if u post on social media the same pic of your lunch that u posted here, they now got your name and anything else they can glean from that.
so anyways all those things happened to me at different times on mfp. it sucked and made me feel super insecure. technically it was all public information but i got social media accounts set up for work and i got to tell you, it messed me up
i’m getting the feeling u were talking about something totally different so no worries, but i know other people want to look up others out of curiousity or whatever but if it doesn’t affect them, then don’t. just like, have self-control4 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
This was a big thing at work recently... Only a general warning at this point but supposedly if you are caught Googling fellow employees, the punishment is swift and harsh...
It was mostly put in place for new hires... People here like to gossip and new hires are just fodder feed sometimes 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally, I don't care if anyone Googles me 🤷🏽♂️...
And when I Google others, I'm not looking for personal info, just to see if maybe they've posted any good recipes 🤷🏽♂️...
If they have public presence I’m not really sure why it’s an issue. Gossip is mean and bad and bad for morale but public information is public information
but peoples property records are public information, do you think it’s okay to search and find out where people live?
hmmm. Let me think on that.
When I search properties in my area I think I’ve only seen most recent selling price, property taxes, and a description of the property. Also, I have to search the property itself and not the name of a person. But I might be misremembering.
Maybe that stuff shouldn’t be public unless a person opts in. I grew up when the white pages were still a thing so maybe that colors my ideas. Though even back then people could opt out of being “listed.”
I was thinking mostly of sex offender lists and profiles people make public themselves.
i get that ♥️ idk really what u are talking about so i was just answering the question from my experience
like you can search a person’s last name in their county and get their address
also, if someone posts a pic on a site like this, and in the background there is a small sign saying the name of the place, that person might use that to look up where u live.
and then also someone can reverse image search so even if u got no selfies here if u post on social media the same pic of your lunch that u posted here, they now got your name and anything else they can glean from that.
so anyways all those things happened to me at different times on mfp. it sucked and made me feel super insecure. technically it was all public information but i got social media accounts set up for work and i got to tell you, it messed me up
i’m getting the feeling u were talking about something totally different so no worries, but i know other people want to look up others out of curiousity or whatever but if it doesn’t affect them, then don’t. just like, have self-control
All of that is *kitten* up and wrong, i’m sorry that happened to you. It would make me feel unsafe too2 -
Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
I've only ever looked up one person online (besides myself, I've tried looking me up).
I feel it was 'ethical'.
It was a dear friend I lost touch with, probably my fault, and I think of her and miss her.
No hardcore sleuthing, just googled her name and I think I found her on linkedin.
It's her name, living in the place she loved and went to every summer, doing the (hard to make a living at) job she always wanted to do - really pretty cool!
It made me happy to see.
I haven't reached out, yet anyways - partially because of the potential "creep factor"2 -
Thetwitchisback wrote: »Okokok i got one.
Under what circumstances is it ETHICAL to look someone up online?
Are there rules?
Have you ever been caught?
Have you ever admitted to a person that you’ve done your due diligence?
Being clear- I’m not talking about stalking, harassment, identity theft, or revealing personal information.
I've googled myself. Only thing I saw was a picture of me at a old job and a few years back a girl in my city stole my name and ripped off a bunch of people by selling them sick puppies and she had a puppy mill. It was in the news and everything! Some people sent me messages threatening me and everything. I live in a small town and most people know eachother so at least the people who knew me knew it wasn't true. It really sucked though!
As for searching for other people, I have in the past but it's not something I do now.1 -
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To piggyback onto @Thetwitchisback question.. is it wrong to join dating apps just to see which friends ,coworkers or neighbors are on there just to see what weird/kink things they are into?
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To piggyback onto @Thetwitchisback question.. is it wrong to join dating apps just to see which friends ,coworkers or neighbors are on there just to see what weird/kink things they are into?
Depends. Why you wanna know their kinks?
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »eatpolerepeat wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »eatpolerepeat wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »Ladies....
What should we call them, boobs, breast, melons, jugs, fun bags, tits, knockers? Or there very own pet name?
What's your preference... 🤷🏽♂️, is it a regional thing?
Seriously having this conversation rn with coworkers 😂
Ha! What kind work do you do?
With my girlfriends (I’m cis-het btw) I’d say “boobs” with my guy friends...I feel like they say “tits” but I’d be fine with “boobs/chest/breast” as long as they’re not being gross.
Now I‘m off to think of some Knick-knocker names.
I work on a pirate ship here little miss Maty... 😏
Why are you looking for work? 🤷🏽♂️... I feel like "knick knockers" makes you totally hire material 😂
I feel like Boobs was the general consensus amongst the gallery, and it feels like a very non abrasive way to reference them 🤷🏽♂️...
Personally I prefer Tits because I like to push the edge and leave people slightly uncomfortable 🤷🏽♂️...
I kinda like the name puppies for mine 🤷♀️😂
That's the winner actually 😂...
This reminds me of a friend who had two cats named cuddles and puppy...
Oh, I'd never call my cat puppy.
What do I win? 😁
You're in luck 😁...
I just so happen to have puppies and puppy prizes in my van 🤷🏽♂️...
We can compare and see what's the best fit 😂...
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the last 6 emojis you used determines your level of toxicity
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