saggy breasts and only 21
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My boobs were saggy as a sack after breastfeeding and weightloss. Bench press has made them look perkier I think. I’m afraid I can’t show you pics to prove it tho.....4
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When I was your age I had the same issue. I’m 40 now and haven’t had kids and still have the breasts that resemble “two grapefruits in tube socks.” I’ve gone through my entire life being obese for the most part, with some moments of weight loss peppered in between.
All I can tell you from similar experience and frustration is this: even if you had the money and/or the desire to get surgery, you’ll always find something else later on to want to change about your appearance. If it’s not your breasts, it will be your cellulite. If it’s not your cellulite, it will be hair. If it’s not your hair, it will be the shape of your nose, and so on and so forth.
Can breast surgery help a woman regain her confidence? Absolutely. But I’m just saying it won’t be a permanent cure for happiness, that’s all.
It’s a difficult lesson to learn at any age, let alone your 20’s; a time where you’re supposed to be at your peak and enjoying your youth. But I think it’s helpful to know that you are not alone. Many of us have lived a life with saggy breasts and still fell in love and had good sex and ended up loving ourselves.
One strange coping mechanism that has helped me over time is to look at pictures of “normal” naked female bodies. Not porn, per se, but just scour the web to find pictures of regular women who are not actresses or models and see their bodies naked. You’ll be surprised to see just how normal it is for most women— even women in their 20’s— to have breasts that aren’t so perky. And after awhile you’ll also begin to think, “Hey, my breasts aren’t so bad looking after all. My breasts are normal. It’s the media and constant bombardment of the sex and beauty industry that is making me feel like my breasts aren’t normal. I’m beautiful just the way I am.”
So go out and treat yourself to a nice bra and feel beautiful in it. Love yourself the way you are right now, and don’t be like so many of us who wasted our youths feeling as if we had to hate our bodies because we weren’t blessed in the very rare supermodel genetic lottery. You’re in good company. Love yourself.12 -
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Love the meme! I hate zombie threads! Lol2 -
cupcakesandproteinshakes wrote: »My boobs were saggy as a sack after breastfeeding and weightloss. Bench press has made them look perkier I think. I’m afraid I can’t show you pics to prove it tho.....
Why not? lol
I could personally care less if someone's "breast" sag or not. Stretch marks? Nope, still don't care.5 -
Nony_Mouse wrote: »
Nope, mix of breast tissue and fat. Those with a greater tissue to fat ratio are more likely to retain their shape with weight loss, those with greater fat are more likely to deflate.
Yep, And those that just happen to have poor tissue are likely to get saggy breasts early on in life. I know all about it, having had old peoples'veins and very stretchy skin since ever.5 -
cupcakesandproteinshakes wrote: »My boobs were saggy as a sack after breastfeeding and weightloss. Bench press has made them look perkier I think. I’m afraid I can’t show you pics to prove it tho.....
Yes, another vote for bench press (and chest flys) which anecdotally make mine perkier as well. And even if a particular woman's breasts don't respond to this, there are other benefits.4 -
So we determined this is a zombie thread, it doesn't matter, I am sure others feel the same way.
I will go against the norm response here and say, let them babies breathe.
A couple years ago I lost between 40-50 pounds during a broken shoulder issue. I was not able to fasten my bra, so I went almost 6 months just wearing an extra tank top and no bra. I found my breast were actually in better shape then wearing a bra, they were becoming "perky" again and I have 4 kids and was in my mid 40s at that time.
Loosing weight, that is the first place weight disappears for me. So instead of a firmer bra I say... let them breathe more and work on your posture.4 -
ScorpioGirl70 wrote: »So we determined this is a zombie thread, it doesn't matter, I am sure others feel the same way.
I just noticed the year of the original post.
I was wondering what the zombie kitten meme meant that was posted before my reply. 2 -
ScorpioGirl70 wrote: »So we determined this is a zombie thread, it doesn't matter, I am sure others feel the same way.
I will go against the norm response here and say, let them babies breathe.
A couple years ago I lost between 40-50 pounds during a broken shoulder issue. I was not able to fasten my bra, so I went almost 6 months just wearing an extra tank top and no bra. I found my breast were actually in better shape then wearing a bra, they were becoming "perky" again and I have 4 kids and was in my mid 40s at that time.
Loosing weight, that is the first place weight disappears for me. So instead of a firmer bra I say... let them breathe more and work on your posture.
Mileage may vary. I think if you are a smaller size that may work for you. I started this in an F/G cup, and am now down to a DDD, and I still need a bra if I'm going to be active for any length of time because I get neck and upper shoulder pain without support.1 -
I remember feeling this way my boobs sagged at a young age too 19. Lost weight and boobs looked like pancakes, at that time we had water bras which I’m sure they don’t make anymore. I guess you just have to learn to accept your boobs like I did eventually or have surgery. But I definitely recommend against surgery bc there’s complications and there’s people getting sick from implants for many years. I always thought it’d be awesome to suck the fat out from the areas we don’t need it and put it in the boobs! But I’m sure you still can’t do that either. I’d say my best advice is find you some pretty bras that support you and give a full look that make you feel confident. And you can build muscle there with weights and push ups.3
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I spend way to much time wording about it.
I never had perky breasts even when I weighed more, but now that I lose weight they look terrible. They have not shrunk much still fit the same cup different band size, but they look deflated and empty.
I'm only 21 is there a way for them to get better?
I still have 20ish pounds to lose.
My biggest insecurity are my breasts, I'm young and have the breasts of a 40 year old woman that had like five kids.
The best way to handle this is, matter how bad it gets, don't degrade yourself; especially in front of others. Don't let them see you sweat! We all have insecurities but when we air them that's when people take advantage. Stand up with pride! Buy the best bra, do chest exercises, eat right and be the best you. After that, if you still don't like what you see, you could get small implants or a lift. BTW I am 56 and when I was in my 40s my boobs didn't sag. It wasn't until the has few years that them puppies started going south. Genetics has a lot to do with it, as well as how you treat yourself. Weight training helps lift the muscle which makes your boobises appear firmer. 😊😊😊🤪🤪🤪❤❤❤0 -
ScorpioGirl70 wrote: »So we determined this is a zombie thread, it doesn't matter, I am sure others feel the same way.
I will go against the norm response here and say, let them babies breathe.
A couple years ago I lost between 40-50 pounds during a broken shoulder issue. I was not able to fasten my bra, so I went almost 6 months just wearing an extra tank top and no bra. I found my breast were actually in better shape then wearing a bra, they were becoming "perky" again and I have 4 kids and was in my mid 40s at that time.
Loosing weight, that is the first place weight disappears for me. So instead of a firmer bra I say... let them breathe more and work on your posture.
There have been studies done that have shown regular bra use can weaken the supporting ligaments and muscles, while not wearing one makes your body do the work of supporting your breasts, which can help with sagging and back pain.
I don't have any of that info handy, but anecdotally it seems true in my personal experience and comparing notes with other women. It doesn't make any difference for whatever our genetics hand us or personal aesthetics; I'd consider it just another reason to work on strengthening exercises, and maybe forgo the bra at home.0 -
ScorpioGirl70 wrote: »So we determined this is a zombie thread, it doesn't matter, I am sure others feel the same way.
I will go against the norm response here and say, let them babies breathe.
A couple years ago I lost between 40-50 pounds during a broken shoulder issue. I was not able to fasten my bra, so I went almost 6 months just wearing an extra tank top and no bra. I found my breast were actually in better shape then wearing a bra, they were becoming "perky" again and I have 4 kids and was in my mid 40s at that time.
Loosing weight, that is the first place weight disappears for me. So instead of a firmer bra I say... let them breathe more and work on your posture.
There have been studies done that have shown regular bra use can weaken the supporting ligaments and muscles, while not wearing one makes your body do the work of supporting your breasts, which can help with sagging and back pain.
I don't have any of that info handy, but anecdotally it seems true in my personal experience and comparing notes with other women. It doesn't make any difference for whatever our genetics hand us or personal aesthetics; I'd consider it just another reason to work on strengthening exercises, and maybe forgo the bra at home.
trust me, when I was in a DD cup, no amount of natural lift was going keep those puppies up and perky. And I went with and without the bra and I'll take with the bra any day for support to alleviate the back pain caused by going without any support at all.
Now I'm down to a C cup and while they might look deflated, I don't really care - I'm thrilled to see and feel that weight gone! Without the bra now doesn't cause any back pain now that they are smaller, but I still prefer with the bra just to keep them out of the way.......
I just figured it was life - most of the women in my mom's family were very fully chested so sagging breasts were what was normal to me and I didn't think twice about it. Course, other than my doctor on occasion, I'm the only one who sees 'em these days lol1 -
ScorpioGirl70 wrote: »So we determined this is a zombie thread, it doesn't matter, I am sure others feel the same way.
I will go against the norm response here and say, let them babies breathe.
A couple years ago I lost between 40-50 pounds during a broken shoulder issue. I was not able to fasten my bra, so I went almost 6 months just wearing an extra tank top and no bra. I found my breast were actually in better shape then wearing a bra, they were becoming "perky" again and I have 4 kids and was in my mid 40s at that time.
Loosing weight, that is the first place weight disappears for me. So instead of a firmer bra I say... let them breathe more and work on your posture.
There have been studies done that have shown regular bra use can weaken the supporting ligaments and muscles, while not wearing one makes your body do the work of supporting your breasts, which can help with sagging and back pain.
I don't have any of that info handy, but anecdotally it seems true in my personal experience and comparing notes with other women. It doesn't make any difference for whatever our genetics hand us or personal aesthetics; I'd consider it just another reason to work on strengthening exercises, and maybe forgo the bra at home.
Probably why older women in cultures where toplessness is/was a cultural norm, and hard muscular work common, are/were as perky as teenagers, eh?
Except, if National Geographic and equivalent are to be believed, they weren't.
Call me skeptical.
And as bmeadows said, size is relevant. Before the surgeon stole mine for cause, I was mostly a A cup, even when obese (it's hard to find a 42A, so sometimes wore B, because I'm cheap - no sense in spending the big bucks when coverage for work and such was more the issue than good support). I didn't sag, wasn't likely ever to sag. Not enough gravitational challenge.
Certainly, though, strong underlying tissue can be helpful to some, to some extent, in certain ways.
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Probably why older women in cultures where toplessness is/was a cultural norm, and hard muscular work common, are/were as perky as teenagers, eh?
Except, if National Geographic and equivalent are to be believed, they weren't.
Call me skeptical.
And as bmeadows said, size is relevant. Before the surgeon stole mine for cause, I was mostly a A cup, even when obese (it's hard to find a 42A, so sometimes wore B, because I'm cheap - no sense in spending the big bucks when coverage for work and such was more the issue than good support). I didn't sag, wasn't likely ever to sag. Not enough gravitational challenge.
Certainly, though, strong underlying tissue can be helpful to some, to some extent, in certain ways.
Oh I'm certainly taking the info with a grain of salt, especially since I don't have the studies handy, but comparing notes to other women about this is interesting. We all have different genetics, muscle mass, breast shape, etc. so speculating is just that.
My breasts are large enough (yay G cup, and sadly "growing" in cup size as I lose fat) that I do run into quite a few people who expect me to have back pain because THEY have back pain with the same cup size or smaller (or know someone who does), and they complain about sagging, and are always always ALWAYS wearing a bra if they're awake and not showering.
I'm in my mid-30s, don't have back pain at all and have shockingly little sagging. I also only wear a bra if I'm going out in public, and have decent upper body strength, particularly compared to the women I've previously compared notes with.
I could easily believe it's just the luck of genetics. Wouldn't surprise me at all. I haven't changed my bra habits, and don't intend to, but it's interesting to wonder how much it does make a difference.1
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