Relationships/CHEATERS
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Tell me, so I can leave them
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Tell me so I can kick his sorry *kitten* to the curb.0
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Tell me, so I can leave them
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Alright, here is a tough question for all of you.
Would you rather your significant other tell you they cheated on you or just have them keep it a secret and you never find out?
Whenever someone tells their partner that they have/are cheating or if they DON'T...It is ALWAYS about THEM! Cheating is a SELFISH ACT, just like suicide. The person who is Cheated On feelings are SECONDARY...Trust Me. BUT it is Important to KNOW because HIV/AIDS/STD's are HIGH among married women. You need to protect yourself, for LIFE! My Sister learned this first hand, her DEAD EX-HUSBAND died from AIDS, and he TRIED to RAPE her when ONLY HE KNEW he had it!
Please research HIV/AIDS/STD data before you spout off crap like that. Not true, at all. Married people are at a FAR lower risk than anyone else, and tend to have far fewer partners.
yea, I'd like to know how I am more at risk to get HIV/AIDS/STD's being in a committed marriage, especially knowing we both came into this clean...0 -
It depends how the relationship was and how long ago it was and how long you've been together. There are some secrets I think that if it's too long in the past (such as cheating 6 months or more ago) that you should just not tell me about if the relationship is really good at the moment.
But if they did tell me I'd have to definitely love the guy to stay with him, they used a condom, promised not to do it again, and make it up to me with endless Starbucks (yes this would make me happy!) I mean, I would rather NOT know but IF the relationship was serious and it didn't mean anything...well, you can't change what already happened...0 -
If it was a one off mistake kind of thing I'd rather not ever know. If it was something more and likely to happen again I'd want to know and move on.....with him out of my life.
Once is all it takes to DIE!
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Tell me so I don't keep on giving him my best, tell me so I can get the hell outta there. Tell me because if you keep it a secret you are a coward..0
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If it was a one off mistake kind of thing I'd rather not ever know. If it was something more and likely to happen again I'd want to know and move on.....with him out of my life.
Once is all it takes to DIE!
This is why people go to prison for a long time. NO ONE, and I mean NO ONE, is worth killing over cheating. Then you ruin your life. Phuck that, get over it.
Crazy women just.... excite me
Oops, I meant scare me.0 -
one off deal, used a condom, regrets it and would never do it again... I'd rather not know. Serial cheater, didn't use a condom, tempted to do it more than once... I need to know and we need counseling if we're going to stay together.
Agreed, but will add that if he has / had feelings for her, that might be a deal breaker, it just depends. Like JulieBo, there would definitely need to be counseling involved....0 -
Alright, here is a tough question for all of you.
Would you rather your significant other tell you they cheated on you or just have them keep it a secret and you never find out?
Whenever someone tells their partner that they have/are cheating or if they DON'T...It is ALWAYS about THEM! Cheating is a SELFISH ACT, just like suicide. The person who is Cheated On feelings are SECONDARY...Trust Me. BUT it is Important to KNOW because HIV/AIDS/STD's are HIGH among married women. You need to protect yourself, for LIFE! My Sister learned this first hand, her DEAD EX-HUSBAND died from AIDS, and he TRIED to RAPE her when ONLY HE KNEW he had it!
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Tell me. If they are upfront and tells me and says he's sorry and honestly wants to work it out he would get one chance. Ever find out that he cheated again...he's gone in a split second.0
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I’m actually surprised most people would want to know. My husband and I had this conversation about 16years ago when we had friends trying to work though an affair. I told my husband then…if he wanted to stay in our marriage, I would have to never find out…I stood by my friend as all the responsibility of his affair fell to her…he was sorry (and he truly was) but then she had to work though how to forgive and move on.0
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BTW…I trust him!0
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Tell me before, so I can join in the fun! 0
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Hitting home today. My husband left me in April. He swore he didn't have a gf. In fact still does. I found out today for at least 18 months he has been in love with a woman he met on the internet. I dont know if he had ever had any physical contact with her, but he has professed his love numerous times. She is the only woman he had ever been so physically attracted to (why he asked me to marry him I don't know!). She is the only woman who has ever made him feel this way. They exchange love letters and porno emails and suggestive photos. I want to vomit. I thought there was a chance we could work it out. We have 4 kids. I wish I knew sooner. I would have spent less time blaming myself and more time blaming him! Well at least I have my whole life to make up for that! I lost all respect for him. We were together 25 years. I might not have been easy to deal with, but he was no picnic. Lying is just as bad as cheating. Thanks I needed to tell someone. Now at least I told many!0
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love it!Tell me before, so I can join in the fun!0 -
Tell me so I'm not stuck looking like an idiot when you find out and they have no remorse.0
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Tell me, so I can leave him and not have to deal with missing him all the time anymore.0
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Some STD's do not have symptoms. And they can kill you. If you cheat, you need to tell the other person so he/she can get tested.0
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cklbrown.......really sorry to hear that......its not your fault. He made a choice and in the end lost his family.......
Hope you get on in life and can make it without him. Your children need you, good luck ..........Lloyd0 -
I'd want to know so I can leave him. Cheating is unforgivable. I wouldn't want to know why he did it because regardless of the bull**** he would then spew out of his mouth it isn't about me it's about him. It drives me crazy how many people tear apart their relationship and then blame it on the other person. You don't love someone if your willing to crush them. I can't understand why so many men/women would be willing to repair there relationship. The repairing should have happened before the cheating not after. I would be absolutely heart broken, the thought alone bothers me. What ever happened to if your not happy fix it.0
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I would want to know, because I would leave, I don't care if was once or not, once is one time to many. This may sound old school, but there is still a thing such as honor and commitment. I think that gets lost in today's world.0
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I deserve the choice. Give me the choice of deciding for myself whether I'm staying or leaving. So tell me.0
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Thanks Lloyd. I am having a hard time not having a bad attitude towards him because of my kids. Regardless of what happened between us, he is their father and I want him in their life for them. So I suck it up and say "Dad's a great guy!" I just leave off the lying, cheating *kitten* part!cklbrown.......really sorry to hear that......its not your fault. He made a choice and in the end lost his family.......
Hope you get on in life and can make it without him. Your children need you, good luck ..........Lloyd0 -
My opinion is based on our overall life. We have everything together. We have talked about it extensively. If it happened and was a one time occurrence, and only sex, no emotions, etc. neither of us want to know. Both of our reasoning is because of our kids and our feelings. No reason for either of us to get hurt when we plan on sticking it out to the end. If it was on ongoing affair or with different people on different occasions, we would tell each other, be devastated, and still try to work it out for the sake of ourselves, families, and children. That's not to say I wouldn't auction all his **** off, or sell it in a garage sale or donate it to charity, but we'd still try to work on it. I don't really agree with divorces, and second marriages, but obviously people should be faithful.0
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Tell me before, so I can join in the fun!
this!
I dont think affairs happen in a happy, respectful, trusting relationship. They are often a symptom or reaction of the opposite. So Id prefer to know so we can move on.0 -
Tell me! no matter what!0
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After being cheated on, I want to know!0
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i don't think there's ever a time when i wouldn't want to know.
but i'm not a jealous person. in every dating/marriage relationship i've had, i've always had the mentality that if they felt the desire to seek "relations" outside of our "relations" i care about honesty first and foremost.
if you lie about it, i'm done. then and there. if you are honest and up front about it, i can deal with it. hell, i might not even have an issue with it at all... so just try me. don't just assume i will fly into a rage... or i will fly into a rage because you made assumptions about me.0 -
Yep! Whats worse is seeing it with your own eyes! Devastating!After being cheated on, I want to know!0
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