Anyone Else “Vet” Friend Requests?

Yep, there are some creepy women out there too. But just like the creepy guys, we should all remember that we can draw the line in the sand wherever we want. If people are looking for support, humor, non fitness banter, whatever.... they can probably find the right fit if they keep looking.

And everyone should report the creepy stuff. If it happens enough most of them will get tired of making new user names to creep on people and move on. Those that had harmless intentions but crossed a line will ease up and be more cautious about how they communicate.


I still vet requests, but in hindsight some that I just accepted blindly ended up being good feed friends. Some that I thought were a better "fit" disappeared, or got weird, or just come and go. And I've been a slacker lately, so I'm surprised all of them didn't drop me.

So yeah..... I do vet them but really can't justify why!

lx1x wrote: »

JimDew wrote: »

I wanted to add, but forgot....

I’m sure it’s been discussed as I’ve not read every post here. I feel bad for the ladies, as I’m nearly certain they are the ones that get the weird and creepy requests.

Please accept my apology on behalf of decent men.

Please don't apologize for something you didn't do or for the pervs...

Just my 2¢
(Flame suit on)

only 2c? 😁


Whilst there are pervs thats true, they are more than made up for by the ton of genuine nice peeps.. of which you are one 🙂 genuine nice, not perv I meant 😂🤣

You know what's amazing to me is that this thread is only 2 months old but it seems like years ago. MFP time is warp speed, 5 days seems like weeks and weeks. A month or two seems like years, @springlering62. Best regards. Catch you back out there on the trail.

AliNouveau wrote: »

JimDew wrote: »

I wanted to add, but forgot....

I’m sure it’s been discussed as I’ve not read every post here. I feel bad for the ladies, as I’m nearly certain they are the ones that get the weird and creepy requests.

Please accept my apology on behalf of decent men.

That's very kind but you don't have to carry the blame for all pervy creeps. But it's a very kind gesture so thank you.

For the record they're everywhere and I'm sure there are creepy women too. I have gotten all sorts of messages on Instagram and even words with friends. The best on Instagram are the ones claiming to want to be your sugar daddy. 😂🤣 So many scams out there and I wonder how many fall for them

The only creepy requests/messages I've received on MFP is when a large group of us all set out profile photo to match that of another member to mess with folks on who was who in the feed for fun and games. I received some random requests then... and this was back when MFP still listed gender in the profile so the creepers didn't even bother to check that! It was only up for a day too.

And yeah, creepers are everywhere. Instagram, Facebook. Even on LinkedIn my fiance gets creepy random messages.

The_Enginerd wrote: »

AliNouveau wrote: »

JimDew wrote: »

I wanted to add, but forgot....

I’m sure it’s been discussed as I’ve not read every post here. I feel bad for the ladies, as I’m nearly certain they are the ones that get the weird and creepy requests.

Please accept my apology on behalf of decent men.

That's very kind but you don't have to carry the blame for all pervy creeps. But it's a very kind gesture so thank you.

For the record they're everywhere and I'm sure there are creepy women too. I have gotten all sorts of messages on Instagram and even words with friends. The best on Instagram are the ones claiming to want to be your sugar daddy. 😂🤣 So many scams out there and I wonder how many fall for them

The only creepy requests/messages I've received on MFP is when a large group of us all set out profile photo to match that of another member to mess with folks on who was who in the feed for fun and games. I received some random requests then... and this was back when MFP still listed gender in the profile so the creepers didn't even bother to check that! It was only up for a day too.

And yeah, creepers are everywhere. Instagram, Facebook. Even on LinkedIn my fiance gets creepy random messages.

Oh wow LinkedIn too??? I guess they'll try anywhere. On Instagram I've had people just send pictures and then ask what I think. These are usually just shirtless....not bottomless 😂🤣. I always end up blocking them but would be fun to mess and say well you could add some definition or lose 25lbs.

@JimDew This week, a vacationing friend was running on the beach and a man grabbed her early in the morning. She had her corgi but that dog didn't even bark. She was really scared. Generally speaking, I don't think men or women like attention that makes you uncomfortable. We all have our boundaries.

BahstenB10 wrote: »

AliNouveau wrote: »

The_Enginerd wrote: »

AliNouveau wrote: »

JimDew wrote: »

I wanted to add, but forgot....

I’m sure it’s been discussed as I’ve not read every post here. I feel bad for the ladies, as I’m nearly certain they are the ones that get the weird and creepy requests.

Please accept my apology on behalf of decent men.

That's very kind but you don't have to carry the blame for all pervy creeps. But it's a very kind gesture so thank you.

For the record they're everywhere and I'm sure there are creepy women too. I have gotten all sorts of messages on Instagram and even words with friends. The best on Instagram are the ones claiming to want to be your sugar daddy. 😂🤣 So many scams out there and I wonder how many fall for them

The only creepy requests/messages I've received on MFP is when a large group of us all set out profile photo to match that of another member to mess with folks on who was who in the feed for fun and games. I received some random requests then... and this was back when MFP still listed gender in the profile so the creepers didn't even bother to check that! It was only up for a day too.

And yeah, creepers are everywhere. Instagram, Facebook. Even on LinkedIn my fiance gets creepy random messages.

Oh wow LinkedIn too??? I guess they'll try anywhere. On Instagram I've had people just send pictures and then ask what I think. These are usually just shirtless....not bottomless 😂🤣. I always end up blocking them but would be fun to mess and say well you could add some definition or lose 25lbs.

Why are some dudes just so creepy? I have never quite been able to figure out the males these days even though I am one.

I suspect it's the power of being behind a screen and detached?
I'm real life men will stare and will make comments but not as gross as someone would send through messages online. I guess cause they'd be arrested in real life? It often makes me laugh when I notice someone craning their neck for a look so for those in real life ones thanks cause it makes me laugh

quote="gcminton;c-45349488"]Sadly, women aren't much better, we just don't hear about them as much for various reasons.

While I don't accept friends here, online creeps are still waaaaay better than in-person. If I never hear something like "hey pretty girl, you look like you need a hug" again, it'll be too soon. That "hug" I apparently needed turned into being grabbed with my arms pinned to my sides and then the dude kissing me before I had time to react. Yech.[/quote]

Women are probably just as randy.

Women IME often feel fear when there's an unwelcome sexual advance from a man. I'm not a man, so I don't know how they feel, but I'd bet fear is less common.

I don't vet, but I don't hesitate to delete and block if need be. I'm open that my life isn't an ordinary one, but just because I'm pansexual and kinky and living in a triad doesn't mean that I'm going to do anything for the creepers. If someone messages me and says, "How do the three of you make it work?" or "How do the three of you handle the holidays?" I can talk about that, but that's not the sort of thing creepers want to know. And I'm always open to "Hey, that baked chicken you mentioned on the forums sounds amazing, what's the recipe?"