Hilarious Gym Jerk
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She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
And if you had been one of the innocent bystanders he screamed at? What would your reaction have been to that?8 -
SunnyBunBun79 wrote: »She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
I think she was just concerned since the OP mentioned the guy was making throwing up noises since he was working himself really hard. It might have been out of concern for him.
If she was concerned, she could have alerted staff but it wasn't her "job" to "express concern." Lovely if you believe that, but I don't. I would never interrupt anyone the way she did, never. Concern, no that wasn't concern...that was sheer disrespect.1 -
She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret it and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
From your comments, are you somehow related to the gym member.
Just think what a circus you would have created with your confrontation and everyone else laughing at you
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SunnyBunBun79 wrote: »She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
I think she was just concerned since the OP mentioned the guy was making throwing up noises since he was working himself really hard. It might have been out of concern for him.
If she was concerned, she could have alerted staff but it wasn't her "job" to "express concern." Lovely if you believe that, but I don't. I would never interrupt anyone the way she did, never. Concern, no that wasn't concern...that was sheer disrespect.
The usual comment these days are:
Mental health issues; or
You are/were being disrespectful to me8 -
Let's not forget about the people out there who aren't neurotypical. We only know OP's description, but it wouldn't be unusual if this is how he reacted to being approached by a stranger.5
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She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret it and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
From your comments, are you somehow related to the gym member.
Just think what a circus you would have created with your confrontation and everyone else laughing at you
I do not know anyone involved. I wouldn't be concerned about anyone laughing at me, I promise you. Laugh all you want.3 -
SunnyBunBun79 wrote: »She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
I think she was just concerned since the OP mentioned the guy was making throwing up noises since he was working himself really hard. It might have been out of concern for him.
If she was concerned, she could have alerted staff but it wasn't her "job" to "express concern." Lovely if you believe that, but I don't. I would never interrupt anyone the way she did, never. Concern, no that wasn't concern...that was sheer disrespect.
i don't know where you're from but I'm from the south and married to a Canadian and we both express concern for strangers if they seem to be having some sort of issue. its called manners and being a decent person. All he had to do was say ' I'm fine thanks' and no one would have thought much of it.16 -
SunnyBunBun79 wrote: »She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
I think she was just concerned since the OP mentioned the guy was making throwing up noises since he was working himself really hard. It might have been out of concern for him.
If she was concerned, she could have alerted staff but it wasn't her "job" to "express concern." Lovely if you believe that, but I don't. I would never interrupt anyone the way she did, never. Concern, no that wasn't concern...that was sheer disrespect.
Disrespect for me would be the guy making so much noise grunting/making vomiting noises in a public gym that other people felt the need to intervene. It's so disruptive when guys in gyms (yes, usually guys, sorry fellas) are making a big, noisy show out of their workouts. Makes the place so unpleasant. Just don't.11 -
A good friend spent his career in law enforcement with the police and family protective services. He also spend many volunteer hours on the county mental health board.
His take was you don't *kitten* with crazy in a situation like this.4 -
🍿 There are so many interesting thread conversations today. However, I'm truly fascinated by the extreme polarization this one has caused. I can see all sides and POVs...now...but would not have if not for all this back and forth.
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The reason why I started hating the gym...
I got a gym membership at Anytime and went there almost daily. There was this couple that would be there at the same time as me. I know, relationship goals! But I think they broke up because after a few months I didn't see her much. One day I decided to try my hand at the machines they have, instead of my usual tread/row and hand weights, and dude was there doing his normal routine.. I carried cleaner with me and some paper towel so I could wipe down the machines before and after (you never know if people clean those unless you see it firsthand) and the first time my paper towel got too soaked, I'd go to get more but return to the dude being on the machine I was on. I told him I didn't clean it but he ignored me. I carried on. Second time I went for paper towel, he did it again. Mind you he wasn't following me, but I started noticing him glancing after that. Third time I went for more, I turn to go back to that machine and I caught him licking the spot where my *kitten* was and then sit down... I do not know if he did that the first two times but I left after I saw that. Reported it to the club manager the next day and never saw him again.12 -
WE ARE NOT THE SAME at best is a *very* surprising result and, at worst, an absolutely terrifying one. I'm fat, but I'm also a 5'4" woman with anxiety and... let's call it history. If I had been in that room and he'd yelled that at me I'd have never set foot in the gym again from pure terror I'd run into him and have to deal with his overly aggressive, unpredictable, self again. I would not be run off by people shock laughing at him after he'd gone and the tension broke, that's normal human behavior. Aggressive dude pointing and yelling at people? Not normal behavior.
**Who** is driving people away from fitness again?
(And it does not matter at that rate if neurotypical or not. I have an autistic son. He might do this, not going to lie, in just the right (wrong) circumstance - including vomiting noises when doing a thing because, well, scripting and stimming. I would still not blame people from being scared by it - he's a grown 6' tall man - or for relief laughing after he was gone -- or even removing his membership/privileges because he had scared people by AGGRESSIVELY YELLING AT THEM AS AN ADULT SIZED MAN. Mocking him? Sure, I'd be mad, but that isn't what this scenario is).15 -
This thread was very entertaining. And that last post I didn't expect to end like that. 🤢🤮😂5
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She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret it and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
From your comments, are you somehow related to the gym member.
Just think what a circus you would have created with your confrontation and everyone else laughing at you
I'd also like to elaborate that I can express myself without creating a "circus."2 -
its_elle_tee wrote: »She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
And if you had been one of the innocent bystanders he screamed at? What would your reaction have been to that?
I've simplified for you in a post below.0 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »SunnyBunBun79 wrote: »She had no right to suggest that he take a break, none! He's an adult, knows his limitations and if she was perturbed by his grunting then she could have walked away. For you to laugh in the first place shows an idiot mentality so if the shoe appears to fit, wear it. If she had interrupted me, she'd been lucky if I would have just said "We are all different." She'd have gotten an earful and would have regretted even confronting me to begin with. If you want to publicly embarrass me, I promise you'd regret and be more embarrassed by what I would say to you after you try. As far as I'm concerned, he was kind.
I think she was just concerned since the OP mentioned the guy was making throwing up noises since he was working himself really hard. It might have been out of concern for him.
If she was concerned, she could have alerted staff but it wasn't her "job" to "express concern." Lovely if you believe that, but I don't. I would never interrupt anyone the way she did, never. Concern, no that wasn't concern...that was sheer disrespect.
i don't know where you're from but I'm from the south and married to a Canadian and we both express concern for strangers if they seem to be having some sort of issue. its called manners and being a decent person. All he had to do was say ' I'm fine thanks' and no one would have thought much of it.
For your compassion, kindness, and genuine concern, you and your husband deserve a medal.2 -
I would be embarrassed by making vomiting noises in public and would immediately run to the bathroom if I felt ill. Plus I haven't owned a gym membership in several years so this particular scenario would not happen to me. However whatever situation I may ever encounter, I would not make a scene. I can express myself verbally without making a spectacle of myself, although, I know not everyone is capable of it.
I definitely would have expressed my thoughts to "concerned" gym member that the compassionate and respectful thing to do in her situation would have been to ever so quietly say it to the gym guy if she was genuinely concerned, and not in front of other people. The fact that she said that in front of others instead of seeking out staff also tells me that she was just as much attention seeking as he was!!! If she was genuinely concerned, she would have quietly asked "are you okay" instead of suggesting that he "take a break." Regardless, gym guy's response to her comment was ridiculous and unnecessary.
I spent five years in college studying human behavior. I work with physically aggressive children and they're not afraid to say anything regarding what they think of you or what they'd like to do to you. Before that, I worked with people who suffered from Alzheimer's Disease and many times they were very physically aggressive and I've heard it all, all the threats, all the names, all the conspiracy theories about how I'm trying to kill them or how I'm a secret agent sent in by spies and whatever else their mind concocted that day because they couldn't remember me from one day to the next.
I could tell a child "please put your backpack up and have a seat" upon arrival to school and the next thing you know I'm being called every derogatory name in the book and dodging a chair that's being thrown across the room at me.
I've been slapped, punched, scratched, bitten, had my hair pulled, had feces, chairs, an iPad and pencils thrown at me. I've had a chipped tooth, black eyes, a swollen face, nasty scratches all over my body, had a patch of my hair pulled out, had a girl break skin on my arm with a bite that penetrated two layers of thick clothing and it curled my toes in a way you probably could not even imagine, so bad that it almost put me down to the ground and I never even saw it coming. I've been called every derogatory name you could think of and I've heard multitudes of threats. I've had many, many people say "I couldn't do what you do..." and I know it to be true. Being sensitive doesn't work, always... To hear "we are all different" would not even phase me, not one single bit.
I have a dear friend who works for the department of corrections and ten of his fifteen years were spent working with death row inmates. He's heard everything unimaginable and received death threats from those who've done it. He's been called every derogatory name under the sun and now works with women prisoners in a nonviolent offender unit but he said they're still often wicked and even nastier than some of the violent prisoners. He's received numerous threats and been called names thousands of times. So if someone said to him "we're all different," he'd probably say "we sure are..."
Unphased and desensitized...
So what makes OP different is that despite claiming to have worked five years in a gym as a CPT, he's never seen anything like this before. So most likely it's that he's having trouble processing the behavior and currently finds it laughable, which is sad, but it's probably also a coping mechanism.
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I have all sorts of stories, from crazy exercisers doing the weirdest things, to people singing and dancing in the weight room and my favorite, catching a guy drinking liquor while doing bench press.
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I work out at a small competitive gym. A handful of former Olympic competitors and one or two hopefuls, NCAA ranked lifters and throwers, some pro ball players, a pro wrestler, a many times world powerlifting champion, it’s an interesting mix of patrons.
It would be an unusual day in our gym for someone not to sing or dance.
It’s a very happy family.
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All these people all so in control of themselves that they can say with absolute certainty how they'd have reacted and having such clarity about a situation they weren't in.
Fascinating.11 -
I would be embarrassed by making vomiting noises in public and would immediately run to the bathroom if I felt ill. Plus I haven't owned a gym membership in several years so this particular scenario would not happen to me. However whatever situation I may ever encounter, I would not make a scene. I can express myself verbally without making a spectacle of myself, although, I know not everyone is capable of it.
I definitely would have expressed my thoughts to "concerned" gym member that the compassionate and respectful thing to do in her situation would have been to ever so quietly say it to the gym guy if she was genuinely concerned, and not in front of other people. The fact that she said that in front of others instead of seeking out staff also tells me that she was just as much attention seeking as he was!!! If she was genuinely concerned, she would have quietly asked "are you okay" instead of suggesting that he "take a break." Regardless, gym guy's response to her comment was ridiculous and unnecessary.
I spent five years in college studying human behavior. I work with physically aggressive children and they're not afraid to say anything regarding what they think of you or what they'd like to do to you. Before that, I worked with people who suffered from Alzheimer's Disease and many times they were very physically aggressive and I've heard it all, all the threats, all the names, all the conspiracy theories about how I'm trying to kill them or how I'm a secret agent sent in by spies and whatever else their mind concocted that day because they couldn't remember me from one day to the next.
I could tell a child "please put your backpack up and have a seat" upon arrival to school and the next thing you know I'm being called every derogatory name in the book and dodging a chair that's being thrown across the room at me.
I've been slapped, punched, scratched, bitten, had my hair pulled, had feces, chairs, an iPad and pencils thrown at me. I've had a chipped tooth, black eyes, a swollen face, nasty scratches all over my body, had a patch of my hair pulled out, had a girl break skin on my arm with a bite that penetrated two layers of thick clothing and it curled my toes in a way you probably could not even imagine, so bad that it almost put me down to the ground and I never even saw it coming. I've been called every derogatory name you could think of and I've heard multitudes of threats. I've had many, many people say "I couldn't do what you do..." and I know it to be true. Being sensitive doesn't work, always... To hear "we are all different" would not even phase me, not one single bit.
I have a dear friend who works for the department of corrections and ten of his fifteen years were spent working with death row inmates. He's heard everything unimaginable and received death threats from those who've done it. He's been called every derogatory name under the sun and now works with women prisoners in a nonviolent offender unit but he said they're still often wicked and even nastier than some of the violent prisoners. He's received numerous threats and been called names thousands of times. So if someone said to him "we're all different," he'd probably say "we sure are..."
Unphased and desensitized...
So what makes OP different is that despite claiming to have worked five years in a gym as a CPT, he's never seen anything like this before. So most likely it's that he's having trouble processing the behavior and currently finds it laughable, which is sad, but it's probably also a coping mechanism.
Didn't expect such intensity from what I thought was going to be a fun gym thread. Are you ok?
I was at the gym and using the stationary bike. The young man on the bike next to me has Down Syndrome, he is a regular at the gym and was there with his carer.
Young man looks across at me, checks out my speed and resistance gauges and says in a very loud voice "You need to work a lot harder if you are going to lose that fat"
Gym went kind of quiet. He wasn't wrong, I was coasting.
I promised him I would try harder next time.
He looked at me huffed and said "Yeah right" and rolled his eyes.
He knew a slacker when he saw one.
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